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  • VlogBrothers: Human Sexuality is Complicated

    With Valentine coming we ask ourselves all these questions about love. And because internet is huge it is possible to find some answers to your questions. That's why in this channel we are posting some useful, funny, explanatory information about love that we stumbled upon. We hope you will enjoy it!

  • Vice: Love in Japan

    In anticipation of Valentine Day we decided to post videos about love from a variety of sources we consider note worthy. We hope you will enjoy them

  • Helen Fisher: Why we love, why we cheat

    In anticipation of Valentine Day we decided to post videos about love from a variety of sources we consider note worthy. We hope you will enjoy them.

  • Jess C Scott: On Sex and Writing

    Author/artist/non-conformist Jess C Scott talks about sex, writing, and writing about sex.

  • Erotica at jessINK

    An article on jessINK—the publishing company of author/artist/non-conformist, Jess C Scott.

  • Interview with Jamie Maclean at Erotic Review

    Interview with Jamie Maclean, editor and founder of Erotic Review: a website committed to giving sex a good name.

  • Define this: CBT

    CBT? Cat Bondage Time? Cool Body Temp? Cock and Ball Torture is more than high heels and winched faces. Power play and love go hand in hand.

  • Positive Versus Prohibitive: Why Sex Positive Spaces are Beginning to Experience Backlash

    The notion of "Sex Positivity" is one that we are all familiar with: it encourages an accepting, celebratory attitude toward sex and sexuality. There are times, however, when sex positive spaces can turn sour for their participants. Some feel pressured, while others feel ignored, and with these mounting concerns going largely unaddressed, there is a real need to band together, combat this "elephant in the room" and keep our spaces and ideals safe and welcoming for all.

  • Medicalizing Queer Identities

    How does the medicalized discourse surrounding queer identities shape the way that queer people are represented? Is this better or worse for the individual experience? Medicalizing a cultural notion, such a sexual identity, a construct that exists in only certain socio-political arenas, works to harm individuals more than empower them. Rather than embrace sexuality and trans*gender expression, our society's language is framing queerness as similar to a disease.

  • Anal Sex: How To Get Started

    Okay, so let’s say you and your husband are into anal play, and you want to take it a step further. You are both comfortable with the idea of anal sex, but you feel like you need some pointers to help you get started.

  • Myth Busters: "Females will always know when they are having an orgasm"

    In movies and magazines and on tv and websites, I've heard this idea of orgasms being the most obvious thing in the world. Sometimes they are so mind blowing that they are impossible to miss: my body seizes, pleasure surges through me blinding and deafening. Afterwards, I am so high off of oxytocin and endorphins that I am giddy and giggle, slightly drowsy. Then it is the most obvious thing in the world, but not all orgasms are alike, not for me and certainly not from one person to another.

  • Sex Signals

    Stop relying on horoscopes, bio-rhythms, or Facebook to figure out if someone likes you. Instead, turn to science!

  • The Virginity Paradox

    The term "virgin" is thrown around with a lot of confusion and legalism. What, technically speaking, constitutes a virgin? Does it matter?

  • The Feminist Submissive

    All too often on forums, social networking, and blogs, I hear the same question over and over again. "How can I be a feminist if I am a submissive?" Feminism and being a submissive are nor mutually exclusive. I am quite happily both things.

  • Something I Wish I’d Known: A Woman’s First Penetrative Sex Shouldn’t Be Painful

    I’m annoyed that I didn’t know about this before I had sex for the first time. I had no reason to be afraid.

  • Giving more the you receive. A man's perspective.

    So here I sit, the middle of the night after a long walk on a cold breezey night. Just a little too chilly to be out there in a pair of shorts with no shoes. I know right now many of you are asking yourselves why I would do this and why it is of importance. I assure you it is but we will get to that part shortly after I set the scene a bit more, but let me start a few hours before the walk.

  • How to handle conversations of sexuality: A Guide for the not so open girl

    Have you ever met someone that is SO comfortable with his/her sexuality that YOU feel uncomfortable? I have and I'd like to share my experience with you.

  • Life as a cam girl

    If any one ever had asked me if I thought I would ever be doing anything in life having to do with the sex industry I would have thought they were absurd. I was actually once a fairly shy person, however the lure of easy money can certainly help someone to overcome that. When I started talking and caming with people for money it was just a hobby. When I received my first bank deposit and realized how much I had received in spoils from my 'hobby,' that is when the game changed.

  • My first experiences at nudist resorts

    I've been to several different places that allowed nudity and it always ends up being sad to have to go back to wearing clothing after a while.

  • 10 ways to celebrate your sexiness

    We all deserve to feel sexy. But sometimes that can be tough in today's world. Here are 10 ways for you to keep yourself feeling sexy!

  • I'm Never Going to be White Girl Skinny, and I'm okay with That

    There are some battles you're going to win, and some you're going to lose. Learning to pick your battles and accept what you can change about yourself really is a key to happiness.

  • Making A Meal Of It

    How safe, or otherwise, is the average man's ejaculate?

  • Another How-To Guide for the Aspiring Deep Throater

    Lesson one: Throw away the how-to guides.

  • Our Path to a Plethora of Porn

    Porn has been with us a long time. Not as long as sex and masturbation, of course, because humans discovered that long before they got the hang of cave art. But once they started finding cozy homes in caves and stuff to draw with, we got our first collections of pornos and/or sex education manuals.

  • Sexual Education: Who is the teacher?

    Saying who is responsible for educating the youth about sex is not as simple as it seems. There isn't one right or wrong answer, but I feel the best course of action is a united front between the home and school.

  • You Always Remember The First Time

    There's a first time for everything, and it may not be the greatest. But it's always the time you remember the best....

  • Sex Education: Science, not BS, please.

    No matter what individual beliefs may be regarding sexual education, it is a public matter. Access should be easily available and the literature should be accurate.

  • It's All In The Mind

    Many of us love to fantasize about our favorite celebrities while making love with our real life partner. But is it okay if we remember past lovers in the same way?

  • Define This: The Frenulum Delta

    Finding the sweet spot that is a penis' neatest secret.

  • Blowjobs Aren't Sex, and I'm a Monkey's Auntie

    A fact of life or a cheater's charter? Some thoughts on an argument that I just don't understand.

  • The Joy of Journaling

    Have you ever thought of sitting down and recording your most intimate moments on paper? You should - you might be surprised at how much you discover.

  • Making Friends With Your Fancy-Man's Fleshlight

    Many guys enjoy watching their partner playing with her favorite toys. One woman reports on watching her partner playing with his.

  • The Rise of Modern Sextremism

    Although it has minimal presence in the US and the UK, FEMEN is one of the fastest growing feminist activist groups in the world. One whose activities, although even many feminists disagree with them, have raised the international movement’s profile to staggering new heights.

  • Define This: In Praise of Pre-Cum

    Yeah, that clear, sticky stuff that slimes up the sheets when you're messing around. But there's a lot more to it than that.

  • Marriage Equality

    Gay Marriage; it's such a hot topic today. However, have we forgotten the rights written in our own Constitution? have we forgotten that "all men are created equal," and the fact that we all have the right for our own pursuit of happiness?

  • Boy, Girl, or Both?...Part 2

    In my last article, the topic of intersexuality was broached with a brief description of the term and its various conditions. In this article, I will explore the issues intersexuals are facing today, along with the strides they have made in the past century. I will be exploring one man’s experiences growing up as intersexual, along with our medical, cultural, and religious views on the topic. Read on for more.

  • Healing Depression Through Sex

    Depression is a widespread mental illness that is often treated with chemical supplements such as antidepressants. What if medications don't work? What are you supposed to do when the depression just won't go away? Let me tell you how I found healing through love and sex.

  • Define This: Oral Compulsion

    Oral Compulsion is defined as the habitual insertion of foreign objects into the mouth for reasons other than feeding. Thumbs, toys, fingernails...and yes, other things as well. But let's look at the wider picture first, and if you ever bit the head off your Ken doll, then you'll probably know what I mean.

  • The Ups and Downs of Camming

    Being in the camming game isn't always the easiest. While I have great fans and good times, I have also have experiences that are less than desirable. In the honor of cliches, lets look at the good, bad and ugly.

  • Take your Sex Toys to Work Day

    It often has been the case that my non-vanilla-ness has lead to people looking at me in another light, and not in a good way. I thought this would be the case every time I brought it up in conversation, and had almost resigned myself to be considered a pervert every time. As luck would have it, though, things changed quite dramatically a few weeks back, when an unexpected conversation lead to my sex toys taking an unexpected trip to my workplace.

  • Early Labels Have Lasting Effects

    A comment to a young girl, whether a well-placed compliment or a spiteful insult, can have lasting effects on future personality and sexuality.

  • Boy, Girl, or Both?

    You're sitting in your ob-gyn's office holding your partner's hand. Your womb is full with your unborn child, and you're happy to finally get to see your baby on a monitor. It's your ultrasound, your doctor smiles and begins rubbing that cold sticky gel onto your stomach. Then they of course ask, "Are you hoping for a boy or a girl?" Like any good parent you reply, "So long as it's healthy." But is this really the truth? 1 in 1,500 people is born intersexual.

  • The Years of Living Dangerously

    We all did things in our youths that we are now slightly alarmed by (or, at least, I hope we all did!) And now, in adulthood, maybe we'd like to again. A look back at the years of "I just wasn't thinking," and how not thinking again could be the best thing you've done.

  • Share and Share Alike

    Or: if you're so convinced that I should swallow your cum, let's see you have a taste of it too.

  • Social media meets sexual misconduct and leaves chaos in its wake

    Most people will deal with sexual misconduct at some point in their lives. Some will even run into it in the work place, but one woman's way of handling it didn't turn out as quite as she planned... or did it?

  • Beautify Your Body: Nipple Piercings Q&A

    Ever wanted to be that bad and sexy girl or boy? Do you want to vamp up your style and become a more confidant you? Maybe you just want to add some extra excitement in bed or surprise your partner with something new? No matter your motivation, nipple piercing is for you. Here I answer some of the most common questions about these piercings to help you gain the confidence to take the jump.

  • When a Mommy and a Daddy Love Each Other Very Much...

    The talk. Birds and the bees. We've all heard of it one way or another. It once was the sole responsibility of a child's parents to educate their son or daughter on sex, and eventually schools picked it up into the curriculum. There have, however, been some recent protests by parents and schools alike on sex ed. So, here's the question: Who should be educating our kids on sex?

  • Define This: Capnolagnia

    Sex and cigarettes - the history and mystery of the smoking fetish.

  • What is Sexual Healing?

    Sexual healing encompasses three
    broad, interrelated categories of work.

  • To Whom Does The Responsibility Of Sexual Education Fall To?

    In this day and age, who should be responsible for sex ed? What should a sexual education program teach?

  • The Nice Girl's Guide to the One Night Stand - Part Three: He Gets It Up

    In the final part of the nice girl’s guide to getting laid by a stranger, we pick up at that magic moment where you’ve just let him know that you’re not a nun. Now, the fun really begins.

  • Erectile Dysfunction and the Infidelity Cure

    The pills don't work, nor does the therapy, or the lifestyle changes. He even gave up smoking. But, a quick kiss and cuddle with a comparative stranger.... What would you do next?

  • The Nice Girl's Guide To The One Night Stand - Part Two: The Hook-up

    We left our lovers on the dance floor, on the verge of their very first kiss. You’ve decided to go through with it... actually, you decided before the first dance even started, but now it’s time to let him know. Read on!

  • Great Expectations (part four)

    The final part of our look at the pros and cons of giving head.

  • Great Expectations (part three)

    In the third part of our series, we look at some of the reasons a nice girl might say "no."

  • Great Expectations (part two)

    In part one, we looked at how expectations about blowjobs differ between male and female participants, and who expects what from the experience. This time we look at the experience itself, and the preconceptions that naturally arise.

  • Great Expectations (part one)

    “The problem I have with blowjobs,” a friend once confided, “is that guys expect to get them.” But do they really? Or are girls just conditioned to expect them to expect them? This is the first of four articles looking at the role of fellatio in the modern relationship, from a variety of viewpoints... pro and con.

  • Clitoridectomy -- a Form of Female Genital Mutilation

    In this article, I discuss a form of female genital mutilation -- one that is still practiced today around the world -- clitoridectomy. I wanted to share things I learned while doing research, and what led me to learning about clitoridectomies. The details are horrific, but I keep it light here. After learning what I have about FGM and clitoridectomies, I felt strongly about bringing the topic up in order to share, and perhaps raise more awareness.

  • The Nice Girl's Guide To The One Night Stand - Part One: The Pick-up

    There’s a lot of literature out there telling guys how to pick up girls. In the first half of a two-part article, we talk about what the girl needs to do to while he’s actually doing the picking.

  • The Thoughtless Kind

    It is surprisingly easy to go through life without ever realizing that something is seriously out of alignment and relationships often top the bill. A cautionary tale for everyone who assumes that things are just perfect.

  • Why Would You Want To Do That?

    There are a lot of surveys out there asking for our thoughts and feelings about giving head. But what sort of answers do our interrogators expect?

  • The Face of Kink

    This is a view into the world of kinky women. We're not fetish models; we're real, and we have the stretch marks to prove it.

  • Battle of the 'Bators: Fleshlight vs. Tenga!

    When discussing male masturbators, two names consistently rise to the top: Tenga and Fleshlight. As both products can be expensive, one really needs to understand the pros and cons of each to make an educated purchase. This battle royale will hopefully help you in deciding which of these two fine products will make it to the top of your "Desert Island Masturbator" list!

  • Influential Women - Jenny Lawson / The Bloggess

    In honor of International Women's Day I'd like to share two women who have had a profound influence on me. I first wrote about Amanda Palmer. The second, yet equal in influence, is Jenny Lawson/The Bloggess. Her battle with depression and anxiety while being courageously true to herself has greatly influenced me.

  • Influential Women - Amanda Palmer

    In honor of International Women's Day I'd like to share two women who have had a profound influence on me. The first is Amanda Palmer whose blogs, tweets, music and overall philosophy have changed the way I look at myself in a profound way.

  • What the Bible Says About Contraceptives: From My Point of View

    There's a lot of confusion surrounding the use of contraceptives and whether or not it's a sin. In this article, I discuss, as a Christian female, my own understanding of what the bible says about the use of contraceptives. I've focused on the popular beliefs about birth control, and brought up a few points or "arguments" of my own.

  • BDSM 101 -- What is it?

    Many couples are looking to add something new to their sex lives and with the recent advent of BDSM becoming more mainstream, many look towards it as an activity, but are unsure where to start or what it is. Or you may have an interested partner, but do not really know what BDSM is about. So, in the following articles, I want to explain what it is, why someone would like that, and how to safely do it. Today's articles just understanding what it is.

  • The Last Dirty Little Secret

    The Man Who Won't Eat Pussy - Fact or Fiction?

  • Solo Sexuality

    When most people think of the term "Solo Sexuality", it probably has a negative connotation to them. I, on the other hand, have always found it fun, interesting, and often an exciting alternative to engaging in sex with someone else. Masturbation has always been one of my favorite pastimes.

  • Shame Free Sex and Spicing Things Up

    Introduce a little whimsy into your sexual encounters,and find out where your true passions lie. Come in, leave your worries and your cares. Exploring your sexuality is natural and healthy, so let's find out what suits you, from toys to partners. Be yourself; I won't judge...

  • A Tale of Many Mikva’ot

    For thousands of years this ritual act of Judaism has been passed down from mother to daughter. However, if you dare to ask a Jewish wife about her mikvah experience, she will often walk away. These moments are very private and never shared openly. Therefore, for the purpose of this article, names and some places have been changed to protect those I spoke to about their experience.

  • Forget Taste and Texture... Forget the Guy as well. Swallowing Cum is FUN FUN FUN

    Sex is not a duty, it should not be task. And a blowjob should not be hard work. Some thoughts on getting the most out of giving head, and getting even more from his orgasm.

  • Exploring Hentai

    There is so much porn, both on and off the internet. Why would anyone choose to look at drawings over real people? With a guilt free conscience, knowing that there are no reluctantly recruited actors, and no awkward feelings about watching strangers get down and dirty, many people choose hentai as an alternative. Plus, kinks and fetishes have no restrictions in hentai!

  • Feminists Don't Deserve Chivalry?

    In this article, I want to briefly discuss this particular idea that feminists don't deserve, or should not receive, chivalry from a male spouse or boyfriend. Many people have this idea, which basically originates from a few misconceptions about feminism and chivalry.

  • Fantasy and Reality

    Many of us fantasize about a certain person, sexual activity or anything that makes us get turned on. But is fantasy the same as reality?

  • So You Booked a Professional Boudoir Session: Tips from a Fellow Beginner

    Boudoir photos are a unique, sexy gift to give to your partner for a special occasion or for no occasion at all. Here are some tips for the boudoir beginner from a fellow novice on how to have a successful session.

  • The Wild Kink Alphabet O-Z

    The last of The Wild Kink Alphabet series, covering the letters O (for oviposition) through Z (for Zentai)! Have you ever heard of Zentai suits? Transformation? Vore? Kinks and fetishes go far beyond the well known BDSM spectrum, what's out there in the endless void of fetishism?

  • Economy Stimulation with Prostitution

    Just my humble opinion on legalizing prostitution.

  • The Wild Kink Alphabet G-N

    The second section in The Wild Kink Alphabet series, covering the letters G (for guro) though N (for necrophilia)! Have you ever heard of macros? Guro? Hypers? Kinks and fetishes go far beyond the well known BDSM spectrum, what's out there in the endless void of fetishism?

  • NAMBLA: Working the First Amendment

    The North American Man/Boy Love Association (NAMBLA) is a pedophile and pederasty advocacy organization in the United States that works to abolish age of consent laws criminalizing adult sexual involvement with minors, and for the release of all men who have been jailed for sexual contacts with minors that did not involve coercion.

  • Define This: Underwear Fetishism

    Enjoying the scent of a woman’s underwear – this is frequently portrayed as creepy or strange. But is it?

  • Let’s Not Make a Big Deal About This, OK?

    Nothing ventured, nothing gained. For big rewards, you have to be willing to take big risks. No one got ahead by playing it safe…

  • Benefits to being sexy: Pole dancing is good for your health.

    Pole dancing goes beyond sexy. It is good for your mind and body. On top of that it make you feel sexier than ever!

  • The Wild Kink Alphabet A-F

    The first section of The Wild Kink Alphabet, covering the letters A (for age play) through F (for furry)! Have you ever heard of erotic asphyxiation? What about cum inflation? Furry? Kinks and fetishes go far beyond the well known BDSM spectrum, what's out there in the endless void of fetishism?

  • Domestic Violence the same for the LGB community.

    A new report shows domestic violence occurs at the same rate for those in the LGB community in their lifetime as they do for heterosexuals.

  • Is Porn Ruining Men’s Sex Lives?

    Some people are starting to wonder if the instant gratification of high-speed, online pornography is warping men’s sexuality.

  • Top 25 Most Popular SexIs Articles in 2012

    The year 2012 was a year fraught with change for SexIs. We added a lot of new faces, and touched on a lot of new topics. We had articles all over the spectrum from people all over the world. And these are the most read, most popular, most commented...dare we say most loved? Catch up on what you missed!

  • Will Gay Marriage Become a Reality in the UK?

    Marriage Equality advocates in Britain are finally looking to make gay marriage legal – but will they succeed?

  • A Cultivation of Sexual Myths

    We've all heard our share of sex myths. The "you can't get pregnant the first time" myth, the "douching with Coke a Cola" myth, and the classic "you won't get pregnant with the girl on top" myth. But what about myths that go further? Myths that make you wonder if you're a bad person? Or if you really had sex? Myths that have been so pervasive in our cultures that they have lasted for literally centuries?

  • Top 25 Most Popular Articles in December 2012

    Naughty Christmas gifts, coming out kinky, and sexy fantasies were the topics of discussion in December on SexIs Social. Sadly, despite all the warmth and love, it was also a month of reflection and disgust when a bad situation surrounding one Ohio high school spun wildly out of control. Bundle up next to the heater vent and read the most read and shared stories on SexIs in December 2012.

  • The Forbidden Fruit

    Anal sex is one of those things that are considered a "taboo", but that is what makes it so interesting.

  • Control Yourself During Sex

    Many guys suffer from premature ejaculation. Here are a few tips and tricks I've picked up from my personal experiences with my boyfriend.

  • Your Cheatin’ Heart … Or Is It?

    Life is lived almost exclusively in the gray zone. Things are rarely completely black or white, right or wrong, good or bad. Yet despite the very obvious fact that almost nothing is absolute and “morality” is often very much in the eye of the beholder, there is a very strong tradition of looking askance at “extracurricular” sex by married folks or other heavily committed couples.

    Monogamy is considered the rule. The gold standard. The “right” way to go.

  • You don't have to be gay to enjoy anal play.

    This article is less of a "how-to" and more of a demonstration that the enjoyment of anal penetration or stimulation has no bearing on one's sexuality. It is a common misconception by many hetero females and males alike that any man who likes his ass penetrated is "gay" or at a minimum, bisexual. That is simply untrue.

  • Define This: Looning

    It comes in many colors. It's smooth and fun to play with. If you put your mouth on it and blow, it'll get big. What is it?

  • Pregnancy and Trans People

    When you say, "Should the father have a say in the pregnancy?" what do you mean by "father" and do you mean it cis-sexistly? What about trans* people?

  • Asexuality

    In a world full of sex (this site!), an unrecognized portion of the population identifies as asexual. In all ways, they are normal, well-adjusted people, yet profess no interest in sexual acts. All they want is to be understood.

  • Old-Fashioned Guide for Modern Lovers

    Is there a place for the quaint rules of old-fashioned courtship in the hook-up generation?

  • Cis People, Read This If You Plan on Dating Someone Who Is Trans* or Queer

    Are you cis and dating or considering dating a person who is trans* or queer and you're not sure how to handle the relationship? Even if you don't feel very sure, being in a relationship with someone who's trans* or queer can be a pretty complicated thing, because they may actively question things you otherwise don't. So read on, even if you're feeling confident that you can handle the relationship, because trust me, even if you think you know it all, you don't!

  • "Thinking-Off" (The Thought Induced Orgasm)

    Since the 1970s, the connection between thought and orgasms has been a hot topic (Masters & Johnson)...Mental orgasms, Energy Orgasms, Thinking Off, Thought-gasms, Thought-induced orgasms. I am sure many of you have seen the show “Strange Sex” on TLC, specifically the episode about Thinking Off, but has anyone really thought about it? In this article I highlight my own experiences with thought-gasms, that they are in fact real, and what exactly you might want to know about them.

  • The Hardships of Coming Out as Non-Vanilla

    Most people seem to associate coming out as an exclusively gay thing. Yet experience has shown me that there are several other aspects of our sexuality that most people keep to themselves, even when being open about almost everything else, not because what we do is a bad thing, but actually because we face countless hostilities whenever people find out. I’m talking about letting people know that we’re not vanilla, in or out of the bedroom.

  • Letters to myself

    When I was still a teen, I think around 14 or 15, I red a book series where the main character girl would write letters to her older self, to be opened and red ten years later. I liked the idea and decided to follow her suit and started writing for myself. Here I would like to share same excerpts with you that have any relevance to sexuality.

  • Feminish: Sex Pozzies

    Think feminists don't like sex? Think again. One feminist's discovery of sex positivism.

  • Everyone Is, In Fact, Sexy

    Social media tries to tell us how to define what is sexy, but of course, most of us do not conform. Each and every one of us has our own preferences on who we think is sexy. Each and every one of us has our own kink. Kinking it up is just one of our ways we rebel against sexual conformity. Everyone is sexy.

  • Top 25 Most Popular Articles on SexIs November 2012

    Needing a break from all the hustle and bustle of holiday shopping? We’ve got another amazing edition of the SexIs Top 25!

  • Sex in Triplicate

    Threesomes can be a controversial subject among couples, despite it being a very common fantasy. It’s not hard to see why bringing another person in could cause some serious friction in a relationship; after all, the point of many modern pairings is avoiding cheating or temptation to cheat on a partner. But is jealousy the only reason that the idea of a threesome can rub a couple the wrong way? Could there be some sort of disparity between what SORT of threesome the partners are looking for?

  • Sex Workers Speak Out: A day to be observed, December 17, 2012

    Every group in society has a leader. A person that everyone in the community looks to for empowerment and/or answers. When you look back in history, there are hundreds of people who have made a name for themselves for speaking out for what they believe in. For standing up for their beliefs and others who believe. For making others understand, even if they do not agree or believe that they need to live and let live.

  • Define This: Monogamish

    Sounds related to monogamous, and it is - but it's not the same thing.

  • Erotic Capital: Owning Our Sexuality

    The signs are unmistakable. Women are owning sexuality in powerful and disquieting ways. Is the world ready for the future of femininity and feminism?

  • Why Real Lesbians Can Love Sex Toys

    Let's get one thing straight: I'm not. In fact, I've never even slept with someone of the opposite sex. However, I love getting pounded when my girlfriend wears a strap-on. Does that mean that I'm not a real lesbian?

  • Define This: Watersports

    What's this piss about pissing? Learn about watersports, including the clinical term and definition!

  • It’s official: Homosexuality Isn’t Genetic, But It’s not a “Choice” Either

    “Gay gene” or external cues during gestation? Either way, it’s looking like Lady Gaga’s right, after all.

  • Define This: Pansexual

    It may not be what you think. Learn more here.

  • Top 25 Most Popular Articles in October 2012

    What else would be on our minds besides Halloween and Breast Cancer Awareness in October? Sex work, body positivity, and – of course – the election.

  • A Hairy Situation

    Every November, men allow their facial hair to run wild for cancer. So why exactly is the idea of women doing the same "just gross"?

  • The nail that sticks out

    The absolute extreme - being average. That's right - the most extreme thing is being average. I do not mean belonging to the mass of people who are similar in a way. No, I mean being halfway between groups of people.

  • Kinky Sex Club

    Harvard College approves a kinky sex club as a new student organization.

  • Sex Feed: Debunking Myths

    New research puts to bed myths about female porn stars

  • Five Things Bisexual Women are Tired of Hearing

    Okay, you’ve come out as bisexual. You’re definitely in love with cocks, and you’re definitely in love with vaginas. Sculpted chests and soft breasts are both appealing. So why should you have to choose? You can love both, because isn’t the LGBT*QIA movement all about loving who you want?

  • Sex workers speak out ~ The Words of a Stolen Life

    There are many different sectors of the sex industry. In those sectors there are many different faces. And each of those faces belong to a real person, with a real story. Here is one of them.

  • Sex Feed: New Proposed Law to Ban Bestiality in Germany

    Animal brothels tied to the decision to ban the practice.

  • The gender equality in sex

    Merely a hundred years ago, women were suppressed and they weren’t supposed to know about sex or enjoy it much. The world since then has come a long way. The age of sexual freedom changed a lot of things, and feminists today are fighting for our equal treatment. Should they? Should they not? What about male rights?

  • Introducing porn into a relationship!

    Are you trying to get your partner to watch porn but don't know how? Well read my article. I'm here to help you.

  • Dealing With My Kink

    How does a person figure out that they like sex differently from what is thought of as "typical"? The stories are as unique as the people who enjoy BDSM. Each person takes their own path. Some paths are scarred with abuse. Surviving an abusive relationship leaves many wounds. All too often, it affects many areas of life for years to come. One area that was difficult for me after leaving my ex, was intimacy. For me, it has taken years to accept my own kink; to let go and let myself enjoy it.

  • Homosexuality: The Nature vs Nurture Debate

    We've all heard of this debate. Were you born gay? Or did your environment nurture you to be gay? My answer to those who ask me is, "I chose to be gay the moment you chose to be straight." I've always known. The only choice I had was if or when I chose to "come out of the closet." This article is about sexual orientation and my opinion on whether or not sexual orientation is based on nature, nurture, or both.

  • Coming Out, Letting Out

    There are reasons to put things in bottles. Really, there are. But usually, we're talking about something to drink, or a message to send out on the waves and tides, or multicolored layers of sand to make a pretty decoration for a child's room.

  • Not Gay, Not Straight

    As a queer person who is not strictly lesbian, it can be difficult to fit into a gay community, and impossible to fit into a straight one.

  • Communicating about sex

    Do you think it's good to talk during sex or even about sex? Most people are too embarrassed to talk during sex. It helps you get to know what each other likes better, and can even help you in the long run.

  • Inspiration on a Personal Note: Why to Love Your Vagina

    As women, our vagina's can sometimes be a source of confusion, anger, or shame. The way we feel about our vagina's strongly suggests how we feel about ourselves as a whole. I would like to share some of the things that have helped me through my journey. These are things that have helped me love my vagina and therefore, love myself.

  • Thanksgiving Aphrodisiacs

    I am a foodie, a self-declared lover of languid meals cooked with intention and loads of flavor. An intuitive eater, I have for the most part chosen real, sometimes raw, mostly colorful cuisine, a testament to my European upbringing and preference for Mediterranean delicacies regardless of food fashion.

  • SexIs Subjective: Why is Everyone Obsessed with Policing My Sex Life?

    As a kinky lesbian poly woman, it seems like everyone wants a say in how I get it on. From the federal government to religious groups to well-meaning friends, apparently I'm just not doing it "right." Why does anyone even care?

  • Sexual Freedom and Old Man Smith

    Just when you think you've gotten your own sexuality figured out, you run into your nosy next door neighbor and come to the conclusion that not only is your own sexuality something that you could never share publicly, but God help anyone who is any different from him. Gossip and closed mindedness are the two worst killers of everything good. Despite how good his lawn looks, he can still be a total idiot.

  • Questions and Curiosity: Things NOT to ask transwomen and transmen!

    Many people have a lot of questions for transpeople. It's an interesting subject that doesn't come up too often in most people's lives. What questions are ok and what questions are offensive? It's fine to be curious, just don't be rude!

  • Confessions of a Stripper – The Champagne Room Unveiled: Part 2

    With an open credit card at the bar, the game begins. If she can skirt around his obvious desires while stringing him along, she can make a lot of money tonight. This game is not a one man show. It takes a team to pull off a successful champagne party. From the waitress, to the bartender, and even including another dancer, each is vital for a party to continue all night long.

  • Voters Support Gay Marriage in 4 States

    This election was a winning streak for same-sex marriage.

  • Passing under the Trans*-Dar: a definition of "Passing" and how it relates to those in the trans* community

    Passing is great for those trans* people who do, but for those who can't manage to look how society expects, people using the term "passing" can leave them feeling like Pinocchio-- wooden and fake and without a fairy to make them *real*.

  • So Barack Obama Won The Election: What Does That Mean for Sex-Positivity?

    Now that Barack Obama has secured a second term, what does that mean for the issues that affect us most?

  • SexIs Subjective: Open About Sex

    Nowadays people are allowed to be somewhat open about their sexual preference but not completely open. I think that should change and people should have more freedom about their sexual preferences.

  • Sex workers speak out ~ Fun with Steff (js250)

    There are many different sectors of the sex industry. In those sectors there are many different faces. And each of those faces belong to a real person, with a real story. Here is one of them.

  • Accepting My Kink

    How can submitting to a spanking possibly build confidence?

  • Sex Feed: Teenage abstinence might be related to happiness

    If you lost your virginity later in life, you may have a better shot at a successful relationship.

  • Confessions of a Stripper – The Champagne Room Unveiled Part 1

    Long before VIP rooms were added to virtually every adult club across America, the champagne flowed in the French Quarter and the ladies were hot and thirsty. What really happened in the dark corners of those clubs? Why did so many men try to pay for lunch and find that their credit card was maxed out? After years of keeping the stories from my days as a stripper on Bourbon Street a guarded secret, I’m sharing what really went on back then. Join me as I tear the veil back on the Champagne Room.

  • More Than Boys and Girls: C-boys, Dickgirls, Traps, Transvestites, and Transfolk

    You've heard terms like "dickgirl" and "trap" throughout the internet when referring to specialty porn, but who and what are these people, and what's the difference between them all? There's more than just the man-woman/boy-girl binary!

  • Daddy Doms: They're Not What You Think

    When you hear the words Daddy Dom, you probably internally (maybe even externally) cringe and think "Ew gross." What you probably don't know is that a Daddy Dom has nothing to do with incest or pedophilia. It has to do with wanting to take care of your partner like a Daddy does.

  • SexIs Subjective: Sexually Caged

    A person's sexuality should be as simple as a person preferring the color blue to pink. We all have preferences, we all have our likes and dislikes. Society doesn't mock me because I would rather drink water than juice; so how is it fair to ridicule someone that is drawn to the same gender they are? Or someone who's turned on by whips and gags? Who are we to look down on someone for any preference they have?

  • SexIs Subjective: Sexual Freedom and You

    Even just a few short years ago, a simple mention of the word "sex" made people cringe and quickly change the subject to something else. Times change and now we stand up proudly for our sexual freedoms.

  • Sex workers speak out ~ The Ivy Jones Saga

    There are many different sectors of the sex industry. In those sectors there are many different faces. And each of those faces belong to a real person, with a real story. Here is one of them.

  • Strange Sex?

    I know you're going to look at the title for this and wonder what the hell I'm going to be writing about. But this isn't about things I've done or seen people do. It's about a TV show called Strange Sex.

  • Talking About The First Time

    I think we all remember the first blowjob we ever gave. But do we remember why we gave it?

  • Female Genital Mutilation

    Imagine being held down by women you know. They remove your clothing, pry your legs apart, and without sterilization or anesthesia begin to cut into your genitals. All the while your mother sits beside you, telling you what an honor this is, and how it makes you clean and marriageable. Impossible, right? Not hardly. 140 million girls and women worldwide have endured this and thousands more are subjected every single day.

  • The “O” Isn’t Always All

    I’m a huge fan of orgasms. Huge. Hell, I’m a damn groupie. I’ll pursue orgasms like deadheads used to follow the Grateful Dead—and then Phish after Jerry Garcia died. You’d be hard-pressed to find someone who likes the “big O” more than me (though admittedly, you’ll find plenty of people who like them just as much as me).

  • We Are Not Part of a Circus Freak Show

    You see that I am different and you want to stop and stare? Have you no respect? Is it your goal to be as blunt and as rude as possible? I am not your personal side show. I am not something you can just gawk at, stare at and belittle. I am a person just like you: I have feelings, a heart, and a family. I may be different. I am a transman.

  • The weighing game

    Struggling with body issues is no laughing matter and can be a serious problem for many, but I may be able to help someone with overcoming the obstacle that is weight in the bedroom.

  • Sex workers speak out ~ Shayanne's Story

    There are many different sectors of the sex industry. In those sectors there are many different faces. And each of those faces belong to a real person, with a real story. Here is one of them.

  • My hero

    My best friend knew he was gay at the age of 12. What he went through was horrible but today he is one of the most amazing people that I have ever met.

  • Define This: Femme

    As a gay teenager I owned a t-shirt that boldly stated, "Nobody knows I'm a lesbian." Ten years later, the sentiment of that shirt couldn't be more true. Femme identity often fits neither into the expectations from heterosexual society nor queer communities. As I'm finally settling comfortably into my own skin, I've come to realize the importance of femme visibility.

  • Being Who You Are (The Lesbian In You)

    Being a "First timer" is harder that you would think. These are my thoughts and experiences in being who I am.

  • The Invasion of the Body Snatchers

    Close your eyes and imagine this: you are standing in front of the mirror expecting to see this perfect figure, but instead you see this strange figure standing in front of you. This person is the opposite of how you imagined yourself to look. Now if you open your eyes you see yourself. It must be nice to be the person you knew in your mind you were all along. Note that 3% of the world’s population is not that lucky.

  • Sex Feed: Virginity for Sale

    And the winner is...

  • Sex Feed: Shameful sexual abuse in schools

    Two tales of abuse that will get your blood boiling

  • Sex Feed: Detroit's police department left without a leader due to inappropriate relationship

    Detroit police chief's sex scandal revealed

  • Extremely Conservative Judge Backs Gay Equality

    Advocates of gay rights gained an unlikely ally today, as conservative Chief Judge Dennis Jacobs ruled against the discriminatory Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) in the federal appeals court.

  • SexFeed: Ban on Ex-Gay Therapy For Minors already under attack

    Ban on Ex-Gay therapy for minors is already under attack by two religious groups that plan on suing in federal court before it can go into effect on Jan 1.

  • SexIs Subjective: Let Your Fantasies Run Wild

    Maid? Nurse? Cop? Anything is possible on Halloween.

  • Sleeping With Transboys: A brief how-to on sex with transboys

    So you've got this new boyfriend, and he's a transman! Or maybe you've just always wanted to hook up with one? What do you do when it comes to sex without offending him? What's going on in his pants? Check this out before you jump in bed!

  • The Social Lover: Your Guide To Having More Communicative Sex

    Your partner spanked you for the first time the other night and you loved it, but now they ask you how far you want to take things— You struggle with your response.

  • SexIs Subjective: Why can't I be a Wookie, too?

    What if men went out dressed in themed boxer-briefs and capes for Halloween and it was women that wore scary and silly costumes? Why isn't it like that to begin with? After all, isn't the adult portion of Halloween about having fun more than anything else?

  • Define This: Fag Hag.

    What is the first thing that comes to mind when the term "Fag Hag" is used? No matter what comes to mind, the connotations are usually negative. Let's take a moment to explore this relationship and what it means.

  • Sex On The Brain

    Being a teen-aged male, sex is constantly on my mind. Being a teenage male virgin, however, does not go well with this, and has turned me into a masturbation expert.

  • Judge Not: Church Slut-Shames Inspirational Fitness Model

    A fitness model who is inspirational to many is shamed and disgraced by a Church who “disapproved” of her early modeling career.

  • Sex Feed: Former pageant princess who appeared on Wife Swap arrested

    It’s her third time dealing with the law, but the first time she’s arrested.

  • Sex Feed: One small step for transgender students in Toronto schools

    The Toronto District School Board has created new guidelines accommodating transgender students

  • Sex Feed: Nova Scotian teenager held against his will

    The 16-year-old boy was chained and sexually assaulted for up to two weeks.

  • Growing up Sexual: Puberty in the Internet Age

    The internet allows people of any age, gender, or sexuality in any location to connect instantly. The information highway is limitless and utterly incredible. But in a world where teenagers must be digitally connected to be "cool" and anonymity is key, what changes can we expect to see in our children? What can we do to help and better understand our children in this unpredictable and challenging cyber universe?

  • Experimentation vs. Appropriation

    My lifestyle and business have become a fad. One would think that I should be jumping for joy, but I am not. I feel disgust and shame. I don't want to be a Halloween costume. It's not a pleasant feeling.

  • Friendship is Magic, or This Brony thing, is a sex thing isn't it?

    I make custom BDSM, toys for a living, and My Little Pony ones are some of my highest requested items, True Story. I, like most people, assumed the whole Brony Culture was a sex thing, and my experiences pretty much prove me right. However, I've been on this whole internet deal a long time now so I know, maybe I'm just seeing the worst side of things, as is known to happen. Follow me on a journey as I discover how to be a Brony.

  • Make Me Want It

    I am never impressed by sheer brutality in BDSM. I AM impressed when someone can evoke a DESIRE for sheer brutality in BDSM.

  • Women = Vaginas. Men = Pigs.

    What limited sexual education communicates to our children.

  • Sometimes Adam, Sometimes Eve

    I'm married to a man...and a woman. No, I'm not a member of a religion that believes in multiple marriages. Nor am I in a polyamorous relationship. My spouse is bigender, both male and female in one body.

  • Continuing education – The benefits of classes and conferences.

    Expanding your knowledge about relationships and sexuality.

  • CatalystCon: More than just a sex education conference

    An overview of CatalystCon, a sex education and sexuality conference.

  • I will never be you. -Or- I don't understand white people.

    I was recently stuck in a situation with a bunch of members of the normal, which are the most important vote for any presidential candidate: white, upper class, Christian males. As I sat surrounded by these people with my mohawk and hole-filled jeans, I couldn't get over the fact I hated them, I hated every word that spilled from their mouths. Let me share my story about my time at a bachelor party, for my metamour.

  • Why Not Let Everyone Be Happy?

    I’m going to talk about the equality in the marriage field. I only have one question, Why not let everyone be happy? Nobody runs to a happily married straight family and says, “Hey please don’t kiss in front of me or my kids, it makes me uncomfortable.” So why do we feel the right to tell homosexual couples this exact sentence? I don’t think that is right in my opinion.

  • Do Men Fake It Too?

    When I think of faking orgasms I think of Meg Ryan in "When Harry Met Sally," not a man faking it.

  • How to court a poly person

    Pursuing a poly person is different from pursuing a single monogamous individual. There are more people involved than just the two of you that are going to impact whether you are successful or not. Here are some pointers about how to approach things.

  • Shrinking The Gender Gap One Taboo At A Time

    You’ve probably all seen it by now, the remarkable study that reveals how the more sexually aroused a woman becomes, the more willing she is to swallow her scruples. Well, in case no one had noticed, men are no different.

  • A society’s binary lens on bisexuality

    American, and more generally western, culture is a binary one, but certain people fall outside the binary. There are all types on non-binary people in human sexuality, but for this article let's discuss bisexuality and how it really isn't binary despite pop culture.

  • Look Ma! I'm Pansexual!

    Life, Love, and Pansexuality. What happens when you come out to your family? Will they accept you, or will they toss you out into the street?

  • My Dear Kira

    Back when I was in high school I got to a point where I said, "Screw boys, I'm batting for the other team!" That's when I met Kira, an absolutely gorgeous 18 year old girl who was into girls. Kira was the girl that got me to see other girls in a whole different way.

  • SexIs Subjective: The Separation of Church and State...When it suits us.

    At 14 years old, I thought the government was never going to let me marry another woman...At 21, I'm fighting a battle to allow myself, my friends, and my family to marry who they want--a battle of human rights that shouldn't even be an issue.

  • Kink: Convenient and Cost-Effective

    So we talked about household items that can stand in for kink toys. But what about the festishes you can't replace with a ping pong paddle?

  • Dealing with your childhood

    We do stuff as adults and say "Oh my god, I am just like my mom or dad." This can be good or bad. Dealing with these feeling can be overwhelming. How do we deal with the bad feelings?

  • Study Suggests “Horny” Trumps “Ick” in Most Women

    What can your arousal make you forget today?

  • Getting Comfortable With My Sexuality

    Finding out that you’re gay, bisexual or lesbian isn’t always easy. Finding your way to yourself takes a lot of going out the box and your comfort zone. I have been through it. Here's my story.

  • You know your boyfriend's been watching porn when...

    Kicking the cliche out of blowjobs

  • Life of a Virtual stripper: Get a real job

    We all love dancing around and being sexy, but is it hard to believe you can have your cake and eat it too?

  • Stepping Out Of Our Boxes To Live a Life Without Regret

    After a very rocky childhood with a mother that told me I was not pretty and that I wrecked her life, one controlling marriage, two marriages total, two kids, jobs, and oh wait, did I mention I almost died? A diagnosis that stopped it all, a life changing job, and one murder.

  • Cuffs, Paddles and Safewords, Oh My! Or Beginner BDSM!

    BDSM seems to be on everyone's lips these days since a certain book became so popular. It seems that even some of the most quiet of people I have spoken with seem infatuated with giving it a try. So I thought why not impart some of the basics that everyone should know.

  • I'm Not Easy, I'm a Slut

    Discussing a few implications, and why I strongly prefer one word to the other. Hint, a yellow balloon with the words: It's a Slut!

  • SexIs Subjective: Marriage Equality

    As a married woman, I find marriage to be about commitment and willingness to work together, regardless of how "traditional" your relationship is.

  • SexIs Subjective: On Marriage Equality

    Marriage equality is a sensitive subject. Should marriage stay true to the tradition many are trying to uphold? If you ask me, I think that some traditions should be broken so a new one can take its place.

  • Out of the Bi Label, Into the Pan Fire

    I always bristle at the word “confused,” used to describe a sexual orientation that’s not straight, not lesbian and not gay. I’m sexually attracted to men, and I’m sexually attracted to women. I know this from a rich variety of sexual experiences that were and are pleasurable, memorable, endearing, funny and occasionally tragic, but never confusing.

  • How Young Is Too Young?

    Following up on my last article I wanted to make a point that I do not believe that every raging hormone, sex crazed, young teenager should be having sex. The people I preached for were that of ages 20 or higher. But here is now an interesting point: how young is too young for teens to be sexually active?

  • SexIs Subjective: Marriage Equality

    Marriage equality is a big issue and I wonder, why wouldn't we allow people to get married, and why would it affect my marriage?

  • On Dominance and Drudgery

    When we think of words like “slavery” and “submission,” the immediate connotations are so often unpleasant. As a Black American, descended from human beings who were enslaved, bought and sold and dehumanized for generations, it took me years to come to terms with my own desire for submission, with my own capacity to eroticize submission to the will of another.

  • Why I Prefer Masturbation

    On most days given the option between masturbating and having sex, even with a previous partner that I've had lovely times with, I would pick masturbation.

  • All That’s Wickedly at Stake with Jessica Drake

    What does Jessica Drake do on her birthday? Why does she do what she does? How does she feel about her fans? Dave Gammon asks all that and more in this interview with “the wickedest girl” in porn.

  • Why I Like Anime Porn

    Alright. So, anime porn. I know this might not be a very popular subject but I'm not sure anything else I do is, so I will just smack the 'Remember, this is just what's in my head' sticker on the article and send it to market.

    Are you sitting comfortably? Well then let us begin.

  • To Make a (NSFW) Music Video

    I have made various music videos, and all from porn clips.

  • AAP ignores appeals from “Intactavists.” Declare with circumcision “benefits outweigh risks.”

    For months, the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) has been planning their latest official statement regarding the controversial practice of infant circumcision – and has been the subject of intense lobbying by groups that both support and oppose the procedure.

  • Vocalizing Pleasure: Is louder better?

    He was still a peachy-cheeked, lanky-limbed, soprano-voiced child who happened to be getting on the same elevator with us. Nothing about his appearance would have grabbed my attention except for the message on his shirt: ‘Sexual Expert, First Lesson Free.’

  • The T in LGBT

    What do transgender and transsexual mean? What are appropriate terms to use when talking to someone who identifies as trans?

  • Real Men Eat Pussy—and Kiss Ass

    I don't believe that all things must be equal in a sexual relationship—few things in life in general, much less in any kind of human relationship, are truly equal. We all have ways in which we intentionally or unintentionally get over on someone else or receive more than another person in the course of human dynamics.

  • What's In A Name?

    You are what you eat - reclaiming the word "cocksucker" for the people who really deserve it.

  • Sexy to the Undead

    As odd as this concept might be. I have actually seen some sexy looking zombies. One was in Return Of The Living Dead. This one girl with a punk hair coloring job got turned into a zombie and in one scene is walking fast through some fog and then attacks a homeless guy.

    Did I mention she is pretty much naked?

  • Thank You, EdenFantasys

    How has EdenFantasys changed my life? I would love to say that I have always been sex positive, open, free and knowledgeable but the truth is the person I am today is a direct result of the community at EdenFantasys.

  • Understanding Desire and Love in the Brain

    In Egyptian mythology, ib or heart portion of the soul was placed on a scale balanced against the Feather of Ma'at. The feather a symbolizing truth, in the judgment of the dead. All of our deeds, sins and contributes laid in the weight of the heart and if heavier then the feather the heart was gobbled by Ammit.

  • A cliff notes guide to LGBT terms

    Confused by terms like polyamory or genderqueer? Have no fear an easy guide to those terms and more is here!

  • Fantasy Land

    As the parent of a toddler, the greatest place on Earth right now for him seems to be the Magic Kingdom. While researching a trip to the so called “Happiest place on Earth” I started thinking about the name for one part within the theme park, Fantasy Land.

  • Bisexuality in My Own Words

    Why should it be that someone like me can have no fear when calling myself a lesbian, but upon discovering I like both women and men, be so hesitant to call myself bisexual? I hesitate because of all the popular misconceptions and negative connotations that are associated with the word.

  • The infamous “men-only” Augusta National Golf Club accepts two female members

    For the first time in eight decades, women can now tee-off at the famous Georgia golf establishment.

  • Female or Male ? That is the question.

    Haven't you ever wondered how it would be if you was in your spouse’s shoes, and you changed sex? Well I'm Jaylin and I was born a female but ever since I was younger, I always wondered how it would be if I was a male instead of a female. Don't get me wrong I love being a female but I just think men got it easier than females.

  • To wait, or not to wait, that is the question.

    The coverage of Olympic athletes and virginity makes me wonder about an important aspect of sex education. How do I advise my daughter when making the choice to lose her virginity?

  • The Poly Male, or Rational Polyamory

    How do two men share a woman without killing each other? It's much more about respect, and love, and less about animalistic furry and marking of territory. I want to explain how my friend and I share a woman without murdering each other.

  • Submission in a few of its forms.

    There are as many ways to submit as there are people in the world submitting, but there are a few different ways that these get lumped together.

  • What's the Content of your Intent?

    When I speak about BDSM practices, one of my core assertions about the difference between consensual kink and abuse is intent. The person who verbally humiliates their partner to gain control and erode the self-esteem of the other, or the spouse who beats and harms their significant other, using violence as a means to destroy, is different from the kinkster, pervert or Leatherperson in one central, pivotal way. And that is intent.

  • Avoiding the Fire

    Oftentimes people will refer to their love or sex life as being “on fire”. I’ve used this same saying when describing an out of control fight.

  • A Peak Behind the Female Dominated Future or, My Time as a Man in the Eden Forums.

    For the first time in recorded history, women out number men. Roughly about 51 to 49 percent. Current trends suggest this number will actually continue to grow over time expecting to reach about 60/40 in 2060. As an amateur sociologist I'm curious to study the land scape of the future and the Eden Forums seem to have let me do that. These are my journeys.

  • Why fetishes are a good thing

    In today's society, fetishes have a very negative connotation. On a very special episode of "rants by Mine Fujiko," we discuss why fetishes can actually benefit people.

  • Intro to Rough Sex

    Ever wonder why the phrase "fuck me like you hate me" is so popular? Recently, rough sex and bondage have been explored by many couples and for good reasons.

  • How to pick and clean your toys!

    Whether you're an expert or a novice, you always want to make an informed decision before buying a product. Keeping your toys clean is always recommended, but there's a lot more to it.

  • What exactly is Hentai?

    If you've spent a decent amount of time on the internet, you've probably heard this word thrown around a bit, along with "AIYEE" and "Onii-chan." What does it all mean though? The answer lies within the heart of the cards.

  • What has EdenFantasys done for me?

    Okay so a little history.... I was the type of kid that knew she liked males AND females from a very young age.  At 5, I ran around my neighbourhood with a condom, explaining to everyone, child or adult, what a condom was for and how to use it.   I was obsessed with sex years before I ever experienced it.   Burying my nose in penthouse forum and literally drooling over the stories as  I read them.

  • Spicing Up Our Sex Life

    July 19th 2012 is my husband and I ninth wedding anniversary and thirteenth year we have been together. In this time we have experienced many different things together. We have found jobs and quit them to do something different, had two children, went back to school, I became a stay at home parent, lost family members, but through it all we have stuck by each other and helped each other through whatever we may be experiencing at the time.

  • Feeling Beautiful After Hate

    Have you ever had something happen to make you feel lesser? Many things can lead to this: rape, an abusive relationship, or even just a friend who likes to put you down. Feeling beautiful after that can be a long hard road; it was for me.

  • Forget “All Men Are Potential Rapists.” How about “Child Molesters?”

    Qantas, consistent with many airlines, has a standing policy to move any male passengers to prevent them sitting next to unaccompanied minors. But what message does this send?

  • There’s Nothing Plain About Vanilla

    The first time I heard sex described as vanilla, condemnation dripping from the tongue, I might have felt my private life was wanting were it not for my sense of play. My inner child has always loved vanilla, especially the rich, creamy French version. Mystifyingly delicious in every food or beverage and heady as a scent, there was nothing plain about it.

  • Guide to Sex Toys for Men

    This is a really basic article covering how to get started using male masturbators. It's all based off personal experience however I feel it will be accurate information for all.

  • Anal For Beginners

    Feel like experimenting with anal, but not exactly sure where to start? It's not as complicated as it may seem, check it out!

  • An Understanding and Introduction to Porn

    Porn is very hit-or-miss for a lot of people. If you'd like to find out some ways you could engage in it more (and like reading rants), read on!

  • No Porn for Minors

    A point of view of one who remembers "breaking the rules" to look up pornography, and the negative side this presents.

  • My story about my first love affair.

    Ever fall in love with both a female and a male? Well Julissa did and now she doesn't know what to do.

  • Stay Cool, Man

    Who doesn’t love summer? When you were a kid you got out of school and had nothing to worry about except when the pool opened and whether or not the girl down the street thought you were cute. Now that we’re adults there are a few more things on your mind during the day, but summer is still awesome.

  • Embracing Kink

    How do you find a partner who's into kinky sex? You may already have the answer!

  • How Not to Win Friends and Influence People. Or Get a Date Via the Internet.

    Everyone's had them: rude, ignorant, or downright offensive emails. Usually, I just ignore them. This time, I got mad.

  • The Game of Life: An unexpected teaching moment

    A new game night selection prompts an unexpected discussion about marriage equality and freedom of choice.

  • Cyber Sex Part Two

    Do your fingers freeze up at the keyboard trying to figure out what to say during cybersex? Can you think of anything besides mmmmmmmm....or oh yeah baby. Unable to find anything on the internet I have gathered some examples that I would like to share with you.

  • 'Fun'damentals of BDSM

    Topping and Domming, submitting and bottoming. All four terms are closely related in the BDSM world, but what on earth do they all mean, and what exactly is the difference? What is a Top? What is a Dominant? And what are sub- and Dom-space?

  • How To Have Amazing Sex

    I was fortunate enough to attend a course that was in part taught by leading sex therapist and sex researcher, Dr. Peggy Kleinplatz. One of the things she discussed was a study her and her fellow colleagues conducted to learn about what components tend to be involved in reaching “optimal” sexuality.

  • Food and Sex: Sexy, Yummy, Edible Stuff

    Food? In the bedroom? Really?

    Really. PuddlePuppy's here to tell you all about it.

  • Why does Gender matter?

    A three part examination of Gender Identity in the 21st Century. Or as I like to think of it, I'm going to take your concept of normal and toss it out the window.

  • Why I Hate the Term BBW

    For me, the term BBW is offensive and I'd rather it not be used. There are better ways to talk about ourselves!

  • Equality in Competition: Should We End “Male” and “Female” Categories in Sports?

    Last week, one female Olympic athlete outperformed the men – so perhaps it’s time to ask the ultimate sex-positive sporting question: If we seek a world in which men and women are treated equally, why do we still segregate their sporting competitions?

  • From Another Perspective

    Living through sexual abuse is extremely difficult, but what if you're not abused in the way others would think? What happens if that person lives with you and is close to you?

  • Playing with (Human) Dolls - Dollification

    "Will you let me dress you up and play with you?" she asked. It was a question that no one had ever asked me before, but which started my exploration into the world of human dolls, a fetish known as "dollification." Playing with dolls isn't just Ken and Barbie anymore.

  • Playing with Fire

    Submissives are just as culpable when it comes to repairing a dynamic after a scene doesn't work right. By relinquishing that responsibility one denies their own power as a person and adult.

  • Everybody Kinks

    Whether you like it bent over the bed and spanked or missionary with the lights out, everyone has something that gets them going. Just remember, at the end of the day we are all doing it to get off.

  • A Chicken Sandwich Vs. Marriage

    I'm sure you've heard about the recent furor over the comments made by the president of Chick-Fil-A regarding gay marriage. I think his comments may be wrong, but it's not going to stop me from enjoying their chicken sandwiches.

  • On Collars & Closure & Why Submission Is Not a Gift

    I don’t mind tropes. Sometimes, phrases that are often used are that way because they withstand the test of time. I don’t even have to finish the following sentences and you know the balance…

  • Going From Prude To Edenite

    This is my story of how I changed from a Southern-raised Catholic-Baptist prude to a sex toy loving mature woman, mostly thanks to Edenfantasys.

  • The Making of a Kinkster

    I remember walking into the local toy store when I was freshly 18. I was with a couple of my friends, and we were giggling the whole time. We were there to buy a gag gift for a friend.

  • Confessions of a Stripper

    When you see her on the stage, she appears to be a sexual animal. She is the nameless face that you desire to make all your dreams come true. She knows how it is done and you are ready for her to teach you. Or can she? Do the girls who make their living by teasing men, making them believe they have all the sexual answers, really know what they like in the bed?

  • How to Come Into Yourself

    I discovered EdenFantasys just about a year ago. I was reading a blog that I follow and someone had posted a link to where they purchased their latest sex toy. I clicked on the link, and I won’t say that my life was transformed from that moment on, but my sex life has definitely never been the same. Between the selection of toys, the ways I interact in the community and the writing that I do here on SexIs I’ve been able to really come into my own sexually.

  • Guys, Gays, and Dildos (Not as gay as it sounds)

    For about as long as sex toys have existed, there's always been the assumption (by the ignorant majority) that straight guys can't own a toy, specifically a dildo. If you're in the mood to read a rant, read on!

  • The 5 Hallmarks of Feminist Porn

    For decades, pornography has been the domain of men - it was made by and for horny guys, with no regard for what women might like and what might be upsetting to them. But in recent years, there has been a surge of new feminist porn, created by female pornographers for women's enjoyment. It's a very diverse genre, but there are some defining features that most feminist porn films possess.

  • Feeling Off Balance

    As we women grow older we face certain milestones: Childhood, Menarche, Motherhood, Menopause, Cronehood. Sometimes we have the luxury of just waiting and watching it all happen and sometimes we have to take matters into our own hands. There is often a feeling of excitement about the change in our lives and sometimes there is a touch of sadness about moving on.

  • Good Pain versus Bad Pain: BDSM and Chronic Pain

    So, should I start with BDSM or my chronic pain? They are both so intertwined into my being that I don't know how to unknot them from each other.

  • Keeping it Fresh in a Long-Distance Relationship

    As the summer nights grow hotter, many people bristle at the added body heat of their partner, but for many college students, among other people, it’s the absence of their heat that stings far worse. This is the season for long distance relationships, as couples leave college and return to their respective homes for the summer. Months apart can be daunting. To survive this time apart there are many “Dos and Don’ts” each person should consider.

  • SexIs Subjective: It's YOUR Body.

    Controversial movements like ‘fat acceptance’ or ‘pro-ana’ leave me feeling confused. How can they ask for acceptance of their bodies while at the same time bringing others down because of theirs?

  • Is Porn Cheating? And Who Gets to Decide?

    There’s this idea going around sex-positive circles that watching porn isn’t cheating. Someone, usually a woman, will say she’s uncomfortable with her boyfriend’s porn consumption, and feels that he is cheating on her. And she gets smacked down, told in every reply that she needs to get over her insecurities and let her man be a man.

  • That 8-Year-Old should NOT be wearing those Daisy Dukes!

    Now, I’m not a parent, but this needs some correction! I was walking in the mall the other day and I saw a little girl, no more than 8 years old, in some daisy dukes.

  • Dare to Be Seduced by Your Senses

    That we are universally skin-hungry and primal in our basic urges bears out in our private conversations, our media obsessions with other people’s sex lives, our ferocious reading of erotic, how-to sex books, even the collective gasp at Fifty Shades of Grey. Harlequin-esque BDSM may be the gateway drug to fetishized sex in vanilla bedrooms. It could be the wake up call that women’s erotica is a literary genre worth taking a private peek at, or it could be a sign of the times.

  • The Jealousy Demon

    We've all heard advice that sounds good on the surface. But if your partner really doesn't like something you do for yourself, like masturbation, is it vital to the marriage that you respect his/her comfort level and sacrifice the behavior for the benefit of your marriage? Does this really help your partner? Or could it be that this sort of self denial actually causes more problems in the long run?

  • 5 Ways to Control a Man

    So you've heard the phrase "It's a man's world." While this may seem true to some women, it's not to me and I'm here to show you why. You have the power. Don't be afraid to use it.

  • When Those Boots Come On

    The world of the Dom/Domme/sub is a very intriguing world, whether you are into the lifestyle, or simply curious about it. It is a completely different world from the one that we live in, or the vanilla world that most accept. So, through this article, come with me on my journey into the BDSM world, and peer into the life that I've begun.

  • Respect for the Small Soldier

    I am asking you today to give a respectful salute to a soldier who has gone on many a mission, sometimes grueling and even dangerous ones, to bring pleasure to couples, threesomes and moresomes in whatever rooms we may choose to rut and copulate. He’s lean and helmeted, often with a functional but flimsy hood over his helmet, but he has a tough job sometimes. Also, he makes mistakes. But let us treat him with dignity, and allow me to help you understand him a bit better.

  • My Transformation Into A Super Soaker

    EdenFantasys has done many things for all of us. Most of us can agree that Eden has improved our sexual well being. This is my story!

  • Gold Lipstick at the End of the Rainbow

    10:04 a.m. (approximately), Saturday, June 16, 2012. I’d rather be at home doing my usual freelance editing, but as a ridadie chick, I’ve solemnly sworn to accompany hubby to his remodeling job and fire-tape a garage ceiling. It’s early, the temperature is already in the ‘80s, and I feel like a complete slob in hubby’s paint-covered work shorts and a shredded-to-hell old St. Patrick’s Day tank top. As we pass the complex that was once the town brewery, I read the marquis…

  • It's Okay to Shout, But if You Want to Whisper That's Okay Too

    Coming out doesn't have to be huge. It's different for each person.

  • Domestic Discipline vs. Spanking Fetish: One for each Cheek

    "Do you need a spanking, young lady?" he would ask me in a firm warning tone. "No sir." Yes.

  • Pinks and Blues. Colors are Colors.

    Makeup, Videogames, Nail Polish, Cookbook, Cologne. I bet you know which sex each of these items belong with.

  • Four Historical Figures Worthy of a Modern Day Sex Scandal

    What do Benjamin Franklin, Jean-Jacques Rousseau, Elvis Presley and Albert Enstien have in common? They all had their own less than conventional sexual preferences and you won't find it in most history books.

  • Fearlessly Optimistic about Sensual Kink

    The Lights are low, the music is playing in the background. The massage oils are warm, and your partner is waiting.

  • Are Rape Jokes Ever Funny?

    Comedian Daniel Tosh us under fire for joking that a heckler should be gang-raped. Now that rape jokes are in the spot-light, perhaps it’s time to ask if they’re ever something to laugh about.

  • Finding Myself

    I joined EdenFantasys at the age of 19, which was 5 years ago. I decided to join the review program on my search for sexual enjoyment and knowledge. Having tried a wide variety of toys, I finally have come to a place where I feel confident in myself and my ability to please myself and my partner.

  • Fear Factors

    I do a great deal of speaking. On stage, as an actor. In front of crowds, as a storyteller. In the classroom, as a BDSM educator. All over the USA, in Europe, Canada, wherever. Much of what I share is intensely personal, and I often receive comments from folks who have been gracious enough to listen to me nattering on or watch me do my thing about how they wish they could be as brave as I am.

  • Beginner BDSM on a Budget

    Have you ever wanted to try out BDSM without spending tons of money on supplies you don't know you want? Whether you're crafty or not I have compiled a simple list of DIY tools that everyone should try at least once!

  • Exploring Vibrator Use

    According to studies, just over half of women and about 1/3 of men have at least some experience using vibrators during sexual play. Up to 35% of women usually don’t reach orgasm during masturbation, and up to 70% of women cannot orgasm from penetrative intercourse alone. However, we know that clitoral stimulation is the key for most women being able to achieve orgasm.

  • EdenCommunity: Home Away From Home

    When first looking into sex toys and sexual health, there's a big, vast world out there. Tons of websites host these products, but none held the sense of security and safety that I found within EdenFantasys. Not only did they welcome me in and make sex toys and sexual health seem harmless and inviting, but they also opened up the door for discussion with other users on the site making me feel more comfortable with my purchases.

  • Just What the Marriage Counselor Ordered

    This month, our parent company EdenFantasys is celebrating 10 sexy years of business! To honor the anniversary, we asked the EdenFantasys Community to tell us what being a member of our community has done for them. This is what SexyStuff had to say.

  • “Supportive” Only Begins to Describe It

    This month, our parent company EdenFantasys is celebrating 10 sexy years of business! To honor the anniversary, we asked the EdenFantasys Community to tell us what being a member of our community has done for them. This is what LadyDarknezz had to say.

  • Letter from the Editor: Introducing SexIs Social!

    We've been talking about major changes since March. You've waited so patiently. We're ready now. Are you?

  • What Makes A Girl Feel Sexy? (“?” Being the Operative Punctuation)

    The sofa was pleather. And so were the girls.

  • If Star Wars was remade, ala 50 Shades of Grey

    Yesterday, I was watching Star Wars for the 8,000th time and I realized that with a little creative trimming and some strong imagination, Star Wars could make some pretty great erotica. Better than 50 Shades of Grey, at least.

  • ISTA Conference of Sexuality & Consciousness: Exploring the Wild & Sacred

    Seminars on sex as healing, as transcendent joy, as an act of magic, as a way of communing intimately with the Earth, in film, therapy and pleasured practice highlighted the recent 11th annual Conference of Sexuality and Consciousness, presented by the International School of Temple Arts and held in the New Age colony of Sedona and in Camp Verde, AZ.

  • How They Touch Me

    I remember holding my boyfriend’s hand in high school. There were ways our fingers fit, over and under, woven together, that felt right, and other ways that just felt…weird.

  • Six Steps to Freedom

    Getting over a master is never easy. One must first decide they’re ready to move on, and then set their mind and mood for catharsis and deprogramming. Yes, we said deprogramming. Read on to understand why.

  • Calling All Drag Kings!

    With all of this drag queen love emanating from gay and straight circles, you have to wonder: Why aren’t drag kings being embraced with equal excitement?

  • The Suspension Accident: It Finally Happened...

    Kinksters talk quite a bit about the inherent risk of bondage and other kinky play. They learn the proper procedure, to mitigate that risk — but rarely do you hear about the stark reality that no matter what precautions you take or how safe you play, people can still get hurt.

  • Sex Positivity and Parenting: Should Moms Still be Sexy?

    Parents can be sexual, but there are limits.

  • BDSM’s Dirty Secret – The Real Risk of Kinky Sex

    As kinky folks, most of us have heard of the risks associated with certain activities we like: rope cuts off circulation, bruises invite suspicion and speculation, infected wounds or bites just plain suck and breath play can flat out be deadly... but there's more.

  • Devil's Advocate: Birth Certificates and Transgender

    Should Transgender People be Able to Change the Sex on Their Birth Certificates?

    Recently, SexIs featured a story about three transgender people in New York City suing to have the sex on their birth certificates changed — normally forbidden unless they’ve had reconstructive surgery.

  • Mr. Sexsmith’s Other Girlfriend: The Myth of New York

    If New York City was on Facebook, our relationship status would say “It’s Complicated.” I love her, I do; I have idolized her since I was a kid, watching all my favorite cheesy eighties movies like Big Business, The Secret of My Success, and Big, over and over again. Our culture mythologizes her, paints her as the place to be, so full of potential. She might even be The One.

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