I’ll begin by telling you a story of an experience I had with one of my exes. He was a bit of a Facebook dramatic. He and I had an argument one evening, so I left his house and went home. The next day I had noticed that this guy decided to “end” our relationship through Facebook and then he blocked me. My first thought was, “this is a joke, right?”
Later that day this same guy called and acted as if nothing had happened. I asked him if he was upset that I left and he said he was, but he was over it now. I went back onto my Facebook and I was magically unblocked, and had a relationship request from him.
Another person I had dated in the past was the master at ending and restarting relationship statuses. Any little funk we got into, I’d no longer be dating him. Well, we of course were still dating, but as far as Facebook and our friends on Facebook were concerned, we were no longer together… that is of course, until the next day when he changed the status back to dating.
I’m not the only one who has experienced things like this. I’ve heard others talk about how their partner likes to bring their relationship drama into their Facebook statuses. I’ve actually seen this many times on my friend’s updates. One friend just recently put, “I can’t take this anymore- insert name here is an ASSHOLE”. A few days later, I talked with my friend and she said everything was fine. Her new status reads, “I have the best boyfriend in the world! I love you *insert name here”
What in the world is going on with these people? Are they looking for attention? Sympathy? Revenge? Acts to just rile up their partner? I honestly don’t have the answer but regardless of why they do this, I find it immature and just plain silly.
Here are a few reasons as to why you should avoid doing these types of things:
1. Honestly, no one cares that you are your significant partner are fighting yet again. It won’t change anyone’s life and guess what? It won’t even change yours. You may be fueled with anger at the moment, but it always subsides. Stay away from the computer when you’re enraged.
2. You appear to be very confused (and not very smart) when one day you’re ranting and raving in your status about your partner and his/her bad habits, and then the next day you can’t stop proclaiming your love for him/her.
3. You’re letting all of your Facebook friends know how immature and unskilled you are at maintaining a healthy, happy relationship. How you ask? Well it’s showing that instead of communicating and resolving the issue with your partner, you’ve decided to run to Facebook to whine to people who in the end really don’t give a crap.
Here are a few suggestions that you can do instead of racing to your computer to update your new rant status…
-Talk with a close friend or family member about the issue. This way you’re only sharing your issues with one person, and its one person who is close to you.
-Sign up anonymously to a website dedicated to relationships. There will be people there who have had similar issues, or at least be able to leave you with some constructive criticisms. The Eden Forum is an excellent place to go if you’re looking for a lent ear or advice.
-Take a walk, listen to music, or take a bath. Sudden bursts of anger usually subside just as quickly as they arose.
-Ultimately, you’ll want to talk with your partner and explain why you are upset and how you are feeling. This is probably the best thing you could do because resolution starts with communication.
So if you participate in acts like these whether you are the victim or the culprit, take a moment and let this article sink in a bit. Recognize that by getting all Facebook dramatic, you’re only making yourself look silly. If you know someone who does this sort of thing, send this article by email to him or her. We can make social media sites better- one drama queen or king at a time.