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by Cherry Trifle,
Feb. 07, 2012
Dateless? Don’t sulk. Buy yourself an Oreo cheesecake, a pair of shoes or a night at the girly bar and count yourself lucky this stuff isn’t happening to you.
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by Nina Hartley,
Jan. 31, 2012
Everybody makes jokes about how once you get married, you stop having sex, but it's really no joke when a couple struggles with issues that prevent them from having a satisfying sex life or in the case of some couples, any sex life at all.
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by Liz Langley,
Jan. 12, 2012
Now you can have sex with your partner while they're overseas! Sort of.
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by Liz Langley,
Dec. 02, 2011
We doubt if being all over the Internet was part of this particular fantasy.
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by Roland Hulme,
Nov. 28, 2011
The more the sex positive community talks about the importance of respecting boundaries, the more alarming it becomes when, in mainstream dating, some women have been encouraging men to do the opposite for decades.
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by Liz Langley,
Nov. 23, 2011
Reunited with ex, they share their story with tabloid press.
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by Rayne Millaray,
Nov. 23, 2011
Pastor starts public kissing competition for married couples, and we watch approvingly.
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by TinaV,
Nov. 18, 2011
Recently, Loperfido and Lazer took the time to speak to TinaV about their new blog and the specifics of their open relationship.
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by Rayne Millaray,
Oct. 26, 2011
We know, that sounds kind of obvious. But ... read on ...
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by Liz Langley,
Oct. 26, 2011
Others might be jealous, but we think we get it ...
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by Nina Hartley,
Oct. 18, 2011
Nothing can temper the joy of a baby on the way like being told you can't have sex until they arrive.
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by Nikol Hasler,
Oct. 14, 2011
I date a lot of musicians. And by date, it usually goes like, "Hey, I like your style. Wanna go out?" We then got to a handful of shows and parties at which I'm one of the oldest women there, we get crazy drunk, we have sex, then we become friends. That's because I have trouble finding a way to be the kind of girlfriend a musician needs.
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by Lady J,
Oct. 12, 2011
It's possible there are as many myths and misconceptions about sex and pregnancy as there are babies being born. So what's fact and what's fiction? In this three-part series, Lady J, as a part of her own pregnancy journey, takes us through sex and pregnancy, one trimester at a time.
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by Liz Langley,
Sep. 30, 2011
Mexico City mulls offering temporary licenses. Can we call them learners' permits?
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by Tinamarie Bernard,
Sep. 08, 2011
This is, at a basic level, the narrative of cats. Were it not for experiments on felines that led to the discovery of oxytocin, we might disregard sacrifices from the animal world that have taught us about human sexual relationships.
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by Nina Hartley,
Sep. 06, 2011
Setting up a scene that involves multiple partners and making the space that allows for everyone’s feelings and expectations can be tricky, but it's important to make sure all involved are comfortable and understand the rules if you want to pull it off without acrimony or fostering resentment.
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by Liz Langley,
Sep. 06, 2011
In France, they apparently take lack of sex very, very seriously.
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by Barak & Sheba,
Sep. 02, 2011
You've considered it. Maybe you've even talked about it, but how do you actually go about opening your relationship to include other people? The direction and design depend on you, but there are important principles to keep in mind to ensure success.
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by Liz Langley,
Aug. 29, 2011
Experts suggest you choose between your laptop and your lover ...
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by Tinamarie Bernard,
Aug. 18, 2011
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by Veronica Monet,
Aug. 16, 2011
Do you feel positive emotions when you hear the word “No?” If kink is your preference, you may have eroticized this word but taken out of the context of role-play, the word probably still causes you to wince. “No” signals that you may not get something you want and that is rarely cause for celebration.
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by Liz Langley,
Aug. 11, 2011
Yes, it's part psychological ... but an anesthetizing spray has promise.
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by Liz Langley,
Aug. 08, 2011
Somehow, we think this happens a lot more than they think.
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by Rydell Johnson,
Jul. 20, 2011
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by Rayne Millaray,
Jul. 13, 2011
Bree Olson Talks to Playboy ... we notice she did not say “great”? Pass the Tiger Blood, please.
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by Liz Langley,
Jul. 06, 2011
Don't try smuggling your spouse out of prison in a suitcase. Most people would not need to be told, we know.
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by Em & Lo,
Jul. 05, 2011
If you want to feel like it's the very first time, then it's important to keep sex surprising and try new things regularly. You can’t get lazy. So give the following steps a try every now and then. You might feel silly being "experimental," but the occasional awkward moment is a small price to pay for unexpected pleasure.
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by Liz Langley,
Jun. 22, 2011
... but it all depends on what you mean by “infidelity,” doesn't it.
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by Rayne Millaray,
Jun. 10, 2011
"Duh" science strikes again, but it's always good to double-check.
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by Jeff Schult,
Jun. 06, 2011
Yes, we were offended, too. But we're backing off, a little.
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by Jeff Schult,
May. 30, 2011
This couldn’t be because it’s a really traditional dating site, could it?
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by Rayne Millaray,
May. 27, 2011
It's all innocent, even a little saccharin. Okay, a LOT saccharin ...
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by Jeff Schult,
May. 26, 2011
Unwedded coupling on the rise, according to 2010 census data.
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by Rachel Rabbit White,
May. 25, 2011
Prostitution hurts marriage, doesn’t it? This has often been used as an argument against sex work — it’s not only demeaning but endangering to unknowing wives. But, this isn’t an argument about the morality of sex work — it’s about the morality of cheating. Still, when talking to Johns, I had to ask: How are the wives actually affected?
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by Jeff Schult,
May. 24, 2011
Quick, guys. Time to change your profile picture.
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by Jeff Schult,
May. 20, 2011
Consenting adults, beware ...
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by Cherry Trifle,
May. 20, 2011
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by Rayne Millaray,
May. 17, 2011
Proposed bill raises concerns about individual rights.
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by Nina Hartley,
May. 17, 2011
We've got shocking news. Not everybody who enjoys giving blow jobs enjoys swallowing. It's just not something they are willing or happy to do. For those on the receiving end of oral sex, this can result in an anti-climactic conclusion. So what's a guy to do? Does Nina have the secret to convincing your partner to swallow?
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by Cole Riley,
May. 16, 2011
Like most men, I’m baffled by the nature of love. Lust, I can understand. But I’ve not done well in my efforts in my love life. An ambitious stripper, a snarky teacher with a jealous ex, a professional dancer with a nose candy problem, and a loopy reporter one step from the bughouse. All strike-outs.
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by Rayne Millaray,
May. 16, 2011
Unfortunately, there's only one way to find out.
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by Jeff Schult,
May. 13, 2011
... but we knew it had to be part of the story, somehow.
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by Jeff Schult,
May. 10, 2011
Plus, they allegedly don't break or leak. Coming soon!
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by Jeff Schult,
May. 03, 2011
Somehow, we’re thinking that the “penis sock” is not going to catch on.
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by Jeff Schult,
May. 02, 2011
Some guys actually want less sex. Okay, so it's really not that many.
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by Jeff Schult,
Apr. 29, 2011
"The Daily Beast" tells us what it means for The Royal Sex Life? Seriously ...
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by Jeff Schult,
Apr. 26, 2011
Finally, a place where it's totally okay to fabricate a dating profile.
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by Rayne Millaray,
Apr. 25, 2011
Policy established in 2008 is finally put into practice.
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by Jeff Schult,
Apr. 22, 2011
But princess-to-be Kate has already had pole-dancing lessons.
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by Veronica Monet,
Apr. 19, 2011
There's a unique connection between love and sex—though they don't always go together.
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by Jeff Schult,
Apr. 13, 2011
Coldplay, Adele, Gaga—not so much, according to music dating site survey
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by Jeff Schult,
Apr. 13, 2011
Club 307—This means you. You've got 10 days.
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by Jeff Schult,
Apr. 12, 2011
City council voting on ordinance that could shut down “lifestyle” club.
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by Jeff Schult,
Apr. 01, 2011
Media pursues woman's identity ... We're fascinated but mostly appalled.
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by Jeff Schult,
Apr. 01, 2011
Authors say pet names can take the heat out of a relationship.
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by Rayne Millaray,
Mar. 31, 2011
British group lists dietary passion-killers.
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by Rayne Millaray,
Mar. 30, 2011
Cell phone photos start an Internet furor.
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by Lady J,
Mar. 28, 2011
Are there occasions when you owe your partner the obligation to have sex with them?
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by Jeff Schult,
Mar. 23, 2011
“How often” is often the subject of dispute in long-term relationships.
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by Award Winning Author of Erotica Rachel Kramer Bussel,
Mar. 23, 2011
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by Nina Hartley,
Mar. 22, 2011
If you are in a relationship with someone and fall in love with someone else, is that a betrayal? If you don't share these feelings with your significant other, is that a transgression?
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by Rayne Millaray,
Mar. 11, 2011
Sex-positive Christian message spreads to Indiana.
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by Jeff Schult,
Mar. 10, 2011
NBC reports on market for fake hymens, reconstructive surgery. Are we so different?
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by Rachel Rabbit White,
Mar. 10, 2011
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by Nina Hartley,
Mar. 08, 2011
We've all heard the cliche about there being no sex after marriage. But what if you're not willing to live with that? You want to save your marriage, you want a satisfying sex life, but your spouse is resisting you every step of the way because he suffers from the emotionally painful idea that he's too small? What's a woman to do to save her marriage and her sex life?
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by Jeff Schult,
Mar. 04, 2011
He's a kid. He had sex. Let's not traumatize him for life.
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by Rayne Millaray,
Mar. 02, 2011
So is it voyeurism to film the love lives of tiny deep-sea crustaceans?
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by Jeff Schult,
Mar. 01, 2011
We know, you're shocked again. Well, maybe you are if you haven't had a baby.
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by Em & Lo,
Mar. 01, 2011
It's happened to all of us: You meet someone charming, intelligent, miraculously modest, well-off, and, most importantly, smokin' hot. The evening finally comes when you will seal your budding relationship with a full-body kiss. You're eager with anticipation and expect nothing less than sheer bliss. But then your new partner's tongue attacks you like a leaping lizard's would a fly.
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by Rayne Millaray,
Feb. 21, 2011
Billboard, video series and, yes, mysexlifesucks.org all part of the message.
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by Award Winning Author of Erotica Rachel Kramer Bussel,
Feb. 09, 2011
Last week, I lost my Skype virginity. To summarize my extremely non-scientific findings: Skypeing can be very sexy, just make sure you’re ready to handle it.
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by Jeff Schult,
Feb. 08, 2011
New reality show will feature “the lifestyle,” 2011 style.
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by Nina Hartley,
Feb. 08, 2011
Staying married for 28 years requires love, commitment and let's face it— hard work! For most, sex is a vital part & one of the rewards of being married. Imagine that 28-year marriage without the sex. Could you stay faithful? You love your spouse, you don't want to leave them, but would you seek sexual satisfaction outside your marriage? Could anybody blame you? Or are you just a cheating louse?
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by Jeff Schult,
Feb. 07, 2011
What's true for the birds may be true for humans as well.
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by Jeff Schult,
Feb. 07, 2011
Relax, we're talking about 12 generations of mice—not your partner.
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by Liz NuMe,
Feb. 07, 2011
If someone had told me a couple of years ago that my sex life could be completely different—better than it’s ever been—I probably wouldn’t have believed them, and worse, possibly not even cared.
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by Kal Cobalt,
Feb. 07, 2011
Not everyone is a “roses-n-chocolates” kind of lover. Some of us are even irked by the idea of a greeting-card-industry “holiday.” But that doesn't have to stop them from making the most of the sexy mood permeating everything from grocery stores to restaurants come February 14. Here are some suggestions for enjoying V-Day for those of us with darker tastes & kinkier vibes (including singles)!
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by Jeff Schult,
Feb. 03, 2011
Cool, free dating site now the property of not-nearly-cool, paid site.
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by Nina Hartley,
Feb. 01, 2011
We all have different reasons for seeking companionship. Sometimes two people end up together and find out their goals for the relationship are not the same. Can two people who want different completely different things find compromise or should they find new companions?
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by Jeff Schult,
Jan. 31, 2011
Girl-on-girl not as much of a deal-breaker as boy-on-boy.
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by Rayne Millaray,
Jan. 27, 2011
After 18 years of marriage, he's had enough ...
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by Lorna D. Keach,
Jan. 26, 2011
Survey says most of us believe that, anyway.
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by Nina Hartley,
Jan. 25, 2011
If you've negotiated a monogamous relationship with your partner, you've probably set up some ground rules. For most, that means no sex with someone who isn't your significant other. Sounds simple, right? Well, "it ain't necessarily so."
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by Lady J,
Jan. 21, 2011
I know how many sexual partners are lurking in my husband’s past. I know one had MY first name. Another is heir to a well-known salad dressing fortune. I know he never contracted a sexually transmitted disease. This is all I know. This is all I WANT to know.
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by Nina Hartley,
Jan. 18, 2011
While the glut of media mumbo jumbo makes it hard to believe that in this day and age there might exist a sexually active grown female—at least one who is heterosexually oriented—who has never taken the road south to explore the ins and outs of orally gratifying a man, blowjob virgins do exist… and it’s nothing to be ashamed of.
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by Lorna D. Keach,
Jan. 17, 2011
“My mistress may be the sea, but the thing is ... that's just an expression.”
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by Lorna D. Keach,
Jan. 12, 2011
Local government wants to know about employee affairs.
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by Lorna D. Keach,
Jan. 12, 2011
New love, mature love look the same in our brains.
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by Sinclair Sexsmith,
Jan. 12, 2011
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by Lorna D. Keach,
Jan. 07, 2011
Chemical signal in women’s tears apparently says, “Not interested.”
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by Em & Lo,
Jan. 04, 2011
When you write about sex for a living, it’s easy to get caught up in the idea that we should always be inventing a new position or discovering a new erogenous zone. But sometimes it’s good just to remind ourselves of some basics. These 15 tips never go out of style—and they’re way easier to pull off than the Wheelbarrow, too.
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by Lorna D. Keach,
Jan. 03, 2011
Self-expression and individual growth are key for happiest couples.
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by Jeff Schult,
Dec. 23, 2010
Kinky coach? So what, and who deserves this?
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by Jeff Schult,
Dec. 22, 2010
Some people just like to start the New Year with a random bang.
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by Veronica Monet,
Dec. 21, 2010
Last month, we looked at how both acting out or suppressing anger can lead to angry sex or no sex at all. Today we delve into anger management. By learning to channel "darker" emotions in a positive way, you can actually boost intimacy and sexual response.
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by Alan & Michele,
Dec. 17, 2010
Ever hear that phrase: “Can’t find your arse with both hands and a flashlight?” That may be true for some folks, but if they’re looking for the clitoris, the Extase Liberte has both a light and a user-friendly design that will help even the uneducated find their way.
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by Lorna D. Keach,
Dec. 17, 2010
If you haven't gotten sex advice from Chip Womack, you can't really say that you've heard it all.
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by Rayne Millaray,
Dec. 15, 2010
Documentary filmmaker explores complex marital relations in the Land of the Pharaohs.
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by Nina Hartley,
Dec. 14, 2010
We've all heard the math jokes: 20 goes into 60 a lot more times than 60 goes into 20, but for couples who are dealing with a sizable age disparity, the day to day realities—from functionality to family or peer pressures—can be daunting.
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by Kal Cobalt,
Dec. 09, 2010
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by Lorna D. Keach,
Dec. 09, 2010
(This probably works for well-adjusted singles, too.)
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by Cherry Trifle,
Dec. 06, 2010
Einstein’s definition of insanity was doing the same thing over and over expecting different results. Applying the same principle to your love life is a proven method to madness.
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by Lorna D. Keach,
Nov. 24, 2010
Drug, when taken regularly, substantially reduces risk of infection—at a price.
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by Veronica Monet,
Nov. 23, 2010
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by Alan & Michele,
Nov. 19, 2010
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by Sinclair Sexsmith,
Nov. 10, 2010
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by Lady J,
Nov. 08, 2010
When you're trying to have a baby, you can take all your “preconceived” notions about the birds and the bees... and toss them out the window.
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by Lorna D. Keach,
Oct. 27, 2010
Rub a little on your belly, thighs, arms or shoulders ... it may be the next thing in birth control.
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by Rydell Johnson,
Oct. 25, 2010
Or come as you really are. Or come as a massive vagina. It doesn’t really matter, and that’s what makes Halloween so great.
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by Sinclair Sexsmith,
Oct. 20, 2010
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by The Bloggess,
Oct. 14, 2010
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by Nina Hartley,
Sep. 28, 2010
Being treated for bipolar disorder or other medical conditions can complicate your sex life. Drugs can have an impact on your libido in ways that make it less responsive, or knock it out altogether. So, do you give up sex entirely, or are there solutions for improving the quality of your sex life?
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by Kal Cobalt,
Sep. 23, 2010
What’s fueling your next naughty romp? If you’ve ever tried to get down with an empty stomach or felt frisky after a heavy meal, you know that the state of your stomach has a lot to do with the success of your sex. How do you make sure that you have enough fuel for a night of mattress marathons without getting sidelined by the need to digest?
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by Sinclair Sexsmith,
Sep. 22, 2010
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by Nina Hartley,
Sep. 21, 2010
You can climax with a vibrator—alone in your bedroom, just you and your fantastical thoughts—no problem. But slide into bed with another human being and all bets are off?
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by Lorna D. Keach,
Sep. 13, 2010
A survey commissioned by an unnamed pharmaceutical company is trying to debunk the idea that the French are the best lovers in the world—by pointing out Parisians’ “miserable” sex lives.
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by Em & Lo,
Sep. 07, 2010
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by Nina Hartley,
Sep. 07, 2010
Imagine that the love of your life, your spouse, your husband... tells you he wants to be a woman. What does a couple do when one of them needs to transition from male to female and the other is not attracted to women?
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by Elizabeth Black,
Sep. 01, 2010
When it comes to sex therapy, pretty much anyone with an opinion can hang out a shingle and call themselves an “expert,” but how do you separate the spin doctors from the real deal? In the days ahead, SexIs will be speaking to some of the most respected “sexperts” in the field to separate pros from the poseurs—and get the skinny on how to have great sex.
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by Nina Hartley,
Aug. 24, 2010
The intimate lives of those with a disability or debilitating disease is not something people typically talk about openly, but of course, the challenges these men and women—and their partners—face when seeking sexual satisfaction can be more daunting than most. Today, Nina talks about the realities of making love with a disabled partner.
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by The Bloggess,
Aug. 05, 2010
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by Em & Lo,
Aug. 03, 2010
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by Nina Hartley,
Aug. 03, 2010
A Indian man, deeply dedicated to his wife, has written to Nina to ask if it's normal for him to be masturbating when his wife is gone for a few days. Nina addresses his concerns, and also offers food for thought on how masturbation can be use to improve sex between husband and wife.
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by Sexis Editors,
Jul. 05, 2010
Another week, another hot topic, another 140 characters of steamy micro-erotic excellence. Presenting our weekly winner, runner-up and the outstanding entries for last week’s topic: Simultaneous Sexual Combustion.
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by Liz Langley,
Jul. 05, 2010
If there’s anything that can rival the intoxication of nude bodies grinding together in a rush of passion, it’s bodies that were so wild with desire they didn’t have time to get nude.
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by Nina Hartley,
Jun. 29, 2010
She's 21, he's 55. She's new to the game and he’s been around the block a time—or 10.
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by The Bloggess,
Jun. 17, 2010
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by Rydell Johnson,
Jun. 04, 2010
Professional sexy photo shoots for “regular” gals have gone mainstream. The resulting images make gift giving easy, but what’s really in it for you? Well, as the author’s wife says, “Hanging out in my lingerie all day was pretty damn nice.”
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by Nina Hartley,
May. 25, 2010
This week, Nina's taking on mutual masturbation. The timing is perfect, since May is Masturbation Month! How do you step out of your comfort zone and invite your partner to share in pleasures you previously kept to yourself?
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by Johnny Murdoc,
May. 14, 2010
The Internet has done what all great tools of communication do: fundamentally transformed the way we interact with one another—and that’s just as true of our discussion about sex as it is anything else. The games we play haven’t changed, but how we play them has.
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by Lorna D. Keach,
May. 10, 2010
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by Forbidden Light,
May. 10, 2010
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by Em & Lo,
May. 04, 2010
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by Nina Hartley,
May. 04, 2010
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by Nina Hartley,
Apr. 27, 2010
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by Rydell Johnson,
Apr. 19, 2010
In fiction, you get to push the envelope—and whether that's testing the waters of polyamory or having an affair—the chickens don't come home to roost in real life. That's what happens when art imitates life, but when life imitates art? That is an entirely different thing altogether.
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by Nina Hartley,
Apr. 13, 2010
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by Nina Hartley,
Mar. 30, 2010
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by Dr Dick,
Mar. 29, 2010
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by Yvette Safire,
Mar. 23, 2010
One definition of insanity is trying the same thing and expecting different results. The years that I’ve been sexually active have been great, but leave something to be desired. I’ve been getting it in, but I haven’t been getting off. Simply put: I have never experienced climax as a result of intercourse.
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by Elly Lonon,
Mar. 22, 2010
At 31, she was diagnosed with Primary Mediastinal Large B Cell (Non Hodgkin’s) Lymphoma. Described at times as “diffuse” and “aggressive,” this cancer targets white chicks in their early thirties. Now, 16 months into remission, the author looks back on her road to wellness, including some sexual detours along the way.
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by ErinORiordan,
Feb. 26, 2010
Lesbian? Gay? Bi-curious? Straight. Sexual identification isn’t always etched in stone. Sometimes, you can’t tell who the players are, even when you have the scorecard.
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by Nina Hartley,
Feb. 23, 2010
Who is responsible for you having a happy sex life? Hint: It's not your partner. Nina explains that without a healthy emotional state, good communication, and mutual respect for one another, no amount of bedroom acrobatics will save a bad sex life.
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by Ymagine,
Feb. 19, 2010
Women love men. Men love porn. While some wives hate their hubby’s smut habit, others have learned to embrace it… with some very satisfying results.
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by Nina Hartley,
Feb. 16, 2010
When you're in bed, how often do you find yourself saying "no" to something that might actually be pleasing? A little too often? Find out why Nina says learning to give, accept and offer permission is the path to embracing your true potential, and unlocking the pathway to untold sexual pleasures.
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by Rydell Johnson,
Jan. 28, 2010
Snip-snip, the Big V, or voluntary sterilization. No matter how you slice it (good one, right?), a vasectomy is a major decision. Fortunately, it’s a minor procedure—and a great excuse to spend the weekend on the couch.
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by Nina Hartley,
Jan. 26, 2010
Today, Nina talks about how to conquer the Cowgirl position—or, to be more precise, how to do the “butt shimmy"—in a way that will make everybody happy!
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by Cherry Trifle,
Jan. 15, 2010
On a 1 to 10 scale of Internet freakydeaky, I’d personally place period fetishes at a rather tame three or four. And if any of you wonderful readers have a lust for the moon blood, alas, this is not your story, but a quest to discover how many people are unwilling to go to town when Aunt Flo’s in.
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by Mrs Melee,
Jan. 14, 2010
I love strippers. I love their well-fitted bikinis. I love the way the move in high heels. I love the their upper body strength and flexibility. (Oh, the flexibility.) I love the bravery and unfettered sensuality. Showmanship turns me on. Tina Fey would never approve of me.
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by Dr Dick,
Jan. 11, 2010
Getting ready to marry and finding yourself with a case of the cold feet? Never fear; Dr. Dick is here, with a primer for all you betrothed to-be to find your own sexual success.
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by Yvette Safire,
Jan. 08, 2010
The Victorian Era added an important term to the sexual lexicon, other than merkin. When a family shared a bed, Mother and Father would instruct the kiddies to squish together and lie on their sides facing the same direction. Everyone stayed warm and more children could fit in the bed. Thus, spooning was born.
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by Nina Hartley,
Jan. 05, 2010
How does a couple prepare for a threesome? How do you know if it’s right for you and your partner? Why is the fantasy often better than the reality? Nina explains it all!
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by Roland Hulme,
Jan. 04, 2010
Known for his legendary libido, Greek god Pan left a trail of ravished woodland nymphs in his wake. In modern times, does the aphrodisiac that bears his image live up to the horny hype, or is it another myth waiting to get busted?
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by Elizabeth Black,
Jan. 02, 2010
When I heard about figging, I was fairly certain that I’d enjoy it. Figging is inserting a plug of fresh ginger root into your ass to enhance sexual pleasure. The ginger’s juices soak into your anal tissues, resulting in a burning sensation that is both arousing and excruciating. This practice took root in Victorian times—and you know those prim folks engaged in some very kinky pastimes.
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by Alisa Bowman,
Dec. 29, 2009
Last year, on Christmas Eve, I dressed in red lingerie, fishnets and heels, sauntered up to my husband, and said, “I am here to satisfy you in every way.” He rather enjoyed that gift, so I decided to make it a yearly tradition. This year, however, I wanted to take things up a notch. Rather than just dress up, I was going to perform. I would give him a strip tease to be remembered.
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by Elizabeth Black,
Dec. 14, 2009
To shave or not to shave—that is the question. I've always sported hair in my southern hemisphere, so when I saw porn where the models are bare except for a landing strip, I wondered what it would be like to be clean-shaven. I trim during the summer to keep my little curls from saying "boo!" when I wear a swimsuit, so when my husband begged me to let him shave me, I figured it might be fun...
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by Rydell Johnson,
Dec. 11, 2009
What’s better than a daydream about a porn star, a pop star, or simply Star (she’s the new redhead in accounting)? Try some erotic make-believe starring your significant other.
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by Alisa Bowman,
Dec. 08, 2009
Last I wrote, I was feeling like an old, haggard, dull excuse for a wife—the very type of wife who might have a husband who wasn’t particularly interested in bedding down with her. I can tell you, worrying that you may no longer be attracted to your husband is one problem. Worrying that he may no longer be attracted to you? That’s a problem of an entirely different magnitude.
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by Liz NuMe,
Nov. 24, 2009
When it comes to verbal communication, my husband generally have no problem finding things to discuss. Actually, one of the things I love most about him is that he truly listens to me and respects my opinions. But there’s one topic we both stumble over—sex. Actually, it isn’t the topic of sex per se, but being able to effectively communicate our wants and needs.
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by Yvette Safire,
Nov. 17, 2009
Preparation for my boyfriend’s long-awaited visit to the Dominican Republic required more than just a pedicure and bikini wax. He was traveling with friends and there was no way I could sneak him into my host family’s home, so I had to find a place for us to reunite properly. This was the perfect opportunity to investigate the possibilities of the Dominican's many clandestine sex cabañas.
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by Alisa Bowman,
Nov. 17, 2009
Was he no longer attracted to me? I’d gained some weight. I knew that. My clothes were tight on me. Only one pair of pants fit comfortably. Was it the fleece? Or was it the sex?
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by Cherry Trifle,
Nov. 13, 2009
The ins and outs of sex on the go.
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by Dr Dick,
Nov. 09, 2009
Let’s pick up where we left off last week, on the perils young people face as they navigate the expectations of virginity and sex, and begin to consider their first forays into partnered sex.
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by Rydell Johnson,
Nov. 05, 2009
Once the realm of just dudes, strip clubs are now increasingly the domain of frisky couples with a hankering for a bit of harmless naughtiness.
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by Liz NuMe,
Nov. 03, 2009
Or, to put it another way, someday they will leave...
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by Alisa Bowman,
Nov. 03, 2009
That’s what I’ve been telling myself...let's see if I can make it happen.
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by Lady J,
Oct. 26, 2009
At 6:00 each morning, you are likely to find me out cold. My husband on the other hand, is most likely laying next to me, wide-awake, trying to cajole me into a daybreak quickie. At this time of day I am barely capable of keeping my eyes open, much less my legs, and he knows this. However, this doesn’t stop him from trying—and hasn’t stopped him from trying for the last six years.
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by Dr Dick,
Oct. 26, 2009
I’m receiving a startling number of correspondences lately from older men and their partners, highlighting the sexual difficulties of the aging process. It’s not surprising that these people are noticing the changes in their sexual response cycle as they age, but it is astonishing that they haven’t attributed the changes to andropause.
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by Elizabeth Black,
Oct. 22, 2009
News flash, folks: You may think you’re a powerhouse in bed who can get any partner off, but according to a University of Kansas study, of students they interviewed who were sexually active, 67 percent of women—and 30 percent of men—faked orgasms.
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by Liz NuMe,
Oct. 19, 2009
Infidelity in marriage is like a Ming vase that’s been shattered by the person you loved and trusted most. That’s what my life felt like the night I found out my husband was cheating on me. I shared that with someone who’d been through it as well, and she said she wanted to turn her broken pieces into a beautiful mosaic. I think—and hope—that is what my husband and I have finally done.
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by Dr Dick,
Oct. 12, 2009
I have just the thing for all you folks out there who are in a relationship. If you’re like every other couple I know, you have your share of tension. And let’s face it—tension leads to fighting. And fighting, if not done fairly, can lead to hurting your partner—even if that’s not your intention.
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by L. Jade,
Sep. 29, 2009
L. Jade muses on the acts that put the ‘auto’ back into erotica.
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by Rose Fox,
Sep. 17, 2009
You sprain your wrist playing basketball, or get carpal tunnel twinges from too much typing. Your partner is battling depression or post-traumatic stress. Sooner or later, the question is likely to come up: how do you make sex work when someone involved is temporarily or permanently disabled? Our goal here is to provide you with tools for finding solutions that work for you and your partners.
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by Elizabeth Black,
Sep. 03, 2009
Here's a hint: handcuffs + sprinkler system = disaster.
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by Cherry Trifle,
Sep. 01, 2009
Lots of us do it. Some studies claim most of us do it. And if you believe what you see on cable news, it’s a prerequisite for a political career. Are we just a species that can’t say no?
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by Wise Young Mommy,
Aug. 12, 2009
It’s inevitable that all couples will go through it. And when you add needy children that expect to be fed, bathed and nurtured every day to the relationship cocktail, the chances that sex is going to take a backseat for certain periods of time is almost completely unavoidable. The question is, how long is too long?
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by Hungry4more,
Aug. 07, 2009
Or, how to successfully combine parenting, fatherhood, and sex...
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by SaucySarah,
Aug. 05, 2009
How do you make a relationship work when the two principals have a significant age gap between them?
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by Wise Young Mommy,
Aug. 05, 2009
Momma’s got a brand new bag. And it’s full of paddles, floggers, and restraints. It’s time to get your kink on!
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by The Bloggess,
Jul. 23, 2009
Last week there was a buzz on Twitter when everyone started sharing the thoughts they have most often during sex. It was bizarre and completely unsettling. And also very educational in that you should make your teenagers read it so they don’t get pregnant because honestly after reading this I’m not sure *I* ever want to have sex again.
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by Dr Dick,
Jul. 20, 2009
I’m often asked about my work as a sex therapist. I’m surprised at how few people have any sense of what we actually do. While I can’t speak for all my fellow therapists, I can tell you a bit about my own practice.
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by Wise Young Mommy,
Jul. 08, 2009
This week: an open letter to dads, husbands and/or partners, from the mothers who love them but want—or, rather, need—more foreplay).
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by Wise Young Mommy,
Jul. 01, 2009
When it comes to talking to your wee little ones about the birds and the bees (and specifically, why Mommy and Daddy are doing it), the truth often WILL set you free—and it just might get you laid more often.
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by SaucySarah,
Jun. 29, 2009
Just what is an open relationship, anyway? Let's find out!
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by Cherry Trifle,
Jun. 17, 2009
Does a straying mind make you a stray dog? What are you freaks really thinking about in flagrante delicto? If your mind works anywhere close to normal, it’s going to wander—at least occasionally
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by L. Jade,
Jun. 05, 2009
One cold November night the year I turned fifteen, I kissed him for the very first time. Seven years and thirteen days later, we finally made love. What happened in between?
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by Elizabeth Black,
Jun. 01, 2009
Or, how NOT to turn your man into a meat dildo...
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by Sarah Sloane,
Apr. 28, 2009
Are you a swinger, baby? Do you want to be? Swinging has come a long way since the 60s...explore the new swinger lifestyle and decide if it's the place for you.
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by Sarah Sloane,
Apr. 03, 2009
Want to know some great ways to mess up your relationship...or would you rather get some hints on how to prevent it?
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by Sarah Sloane,
Mar. 11, 2009
Just like bodies, all harnesses aren't created equally. Read this before you try to strap one on, and make sure you get the ride of a lifetime!
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by Sarah Sloane,
Mar. 09, 2009
There are some things in life which demand that you throw caution to the wind and just jump in cold...but who wants something cold in their butt? Check out our guide to picking out the perfect pucker-toy.
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by SaucySarah,
Mar. 07, 2009
So, you’re pregnant! Don’t let your mother-in-law tell you that you can’t have sex during the next nine months—chances are that not only can you have sex, it might just be the best sex of your life.
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