We all know that we really don’t have control over who we fall in love with. It could be one person over a life time. It could be someone new every week. It could be multiple people at one time. But everyone falls in love.

I am going to be writing with the assumption that you, my lovely readers, know what polyamory is, how poly relationships work and how the dynamic works. If you don’t, some other writers here have talked about it.But once in a while, in the poly world, you will see a unique style of a poly relationship pop up called a v point relationship.

In a V-point relationship there are two people open and in a sexual relationship with the same person who aren't having sex with each other.

Think about the shape of the letter “V”. The bottom point is the primary for both of the branching points of the “V”. The bottom point is the one that the branches go to for the most things, both sexually and emotionally.

The branches of the “V” sometimes care about each other, but aren’t sexually attracted to each other. If the branches of the “V” become sexually and more emotionally invested in each other, then it becomes a triad.

When I was growing up, there was a V-point relationship in my family. My great aunt was in one. Most of my family treated it as something normal and natural. This was how I was introduced to polyamory and bisexuality. It was there, and it was treated no different than the heterosexual monogamous relationships in my family.

Let’s put it this way, when my great aunt died a few years ago at age 92, she left behind her boyfriend of 40 years, her girlfriend of 30 years and still loved her husband who had died a number of years earlier.

Now I am starting to find myself in a V-point relationship. The relationship has reached the point where when I talk about adopting a child, most people that I am close to say, “That kid will have it made. A mommy, two daddies and a lot of loving aunts and uncles that will actually be his/her parents boyfriends and girlfriends.” How cool is that?