Wow, we are a bunch of budding stalkers, aren’t we? Well, a lot of us are, at least according to a story posted on Shine that reports that said 35 percent of women “have checked the email or call history of someone they were dating without them knowing it.”

The report is about a July survey from Retrevo and the statistics about our lack of respect for the privacy of the person we’re supposed to love are kind of disturbing. That 35 percent number on women is up from 25 percent last year; and the number of people under the age of 25 who checked their boyfriend or girlfriend’s emails or call history is 47 percent—up from 38 percent a year ago.

The Retrevo Gadgetology study also says 37 percent of married couples snoop on each other. “It’s also possible that unfaithful partners are more careful about hiding any “incriminating” text messages as the number of spouses reporting they discovered someone cheating rose only slightly,” the Retrevo blog reports.

Not so surprisingly, parents snoop on their kids, which is more understandable because parents are responsible for their children’s well-being. When partners do it it just smacks of nosiness, insecurity and lack of respect for boundaries. Retrevo concludes “With congress busily holding hearings and crafting legislation to prevent companies like Apple and Google from invading you privacy, this Retrevo Gadgetology study illustrates that consumers may have just as much to fear from people they know than big corporations.”