Commingling about St. Andrews' Cross
Mystrys Genevieve’s immaculate play-space is painted a bright, taxicab yellow. Rows of neatly hung torture implements line the walls. In one corner sits an art deco vanity (inherited from her grandmother) the mirror of which reflects in the corner opposite, a wrought iron animal cage and a leather, spanking bench. In fact, there are strategically placed mirrors on each wall, so that supplicants may view their plight from every angle. But, to borrow a phrase from HGTV, “the focal point” of the room is most definitely an imposing wooden contrivance painted black and suspended from the ceiling by ample chains.
Despite the obvious implications of its accoutrements, my first impression is that this is a very happy place—and oddly enough, it turns out to be true. The complex rituals of pain and humiliation carried out between these walls convey pleasure, satisfaction and release to both Mystrys Genevieve and the clients she entertains. In this final installment, it’s time to talk shop.
Tell me about this.
It’s called a St. Andrew’s Cross. I just love chains. It’s probably from watching way too many Conan the Barbarian movies as a child. One of my favorite things that turns me on is a guy in chains. So you tie them here (points to the chains) you can bring them up or down, or I can put in a leather sling. Any time somebody says, “I want inescapable bondage,” I have chains and padlocks.
Where did you get it?
I’m friends with the people who own Whipper Snappers in Atlanta. There was a dance club down there called The Chamber that had some fetish stuff in the back, and they’d do fetish shows occasionally. When The Chamber went out of business, they gifted it to Whipper Snappers, but they doesn’t have their own play space, so I bought it directly from them.
It was originally a hanging cross. It fit in here perfectly. I added a couple of pieces to it myself—me and my Skillsaw. (laughs) The support system is very strong, so I can do full suspension, if that’s what someone wants. I’ve got a metal bar for that, as well (shows me a metal rod that resembles a trapeze bar). I totally love equipment. I’m an equipment junkie. I’ve got equipment in the garage that we haven’t brought up here because it’s too heavy. I don’t have the means to convert the garage into a big play space, which I would love to do. I occasionally host private parties here for lifestyle and CAPEX events, and we do use the stuff in the garage for that, but as far as professionally, this is it.
I’ve got some equipment on loan to another dominant that I know in the lifestyle. I just didn’t have room for them here.
What’s out on loan?
I have a second standing cross and another spanking bench and a partial suspension piece called a “Mantis.” It’s hard to describe…it’s a modified piece of gym equipment with a steel bar.
Let’s talk hygiene.
I clean my equipment with a hospital cleanser from a local home medical supply store. Some things, such as ball gags, you can’t really clean because the leather is attached to the toy, and once someone gets bodily fluids on it, its pretty much theirs, so that is one item that I ask clients to provide for themselves—or I will go and buy one for their session and they will reimburse the cost. I keep all my old used hosiery, though, and that can be used for a very effective—and completely washable—gag.
I don’t engage in blood play with paying clients very often—although I do quite a bit of it from time to time with kinky friends—but I keep those toys separate, for obvious reasons.
Tell me about your wardrobe.
I’ve got a couple of latex outfits that are fun to wear, but you tend to sweat in them, so I only wear those on special occasions, like events. Or, once in a while, I’ll have a client request that I wear latex, so I will. I find it very sexy. I bought a latex dress last year at an event called the Fetish Flea, but when you’re wearing latex, it turns skin temperature. The dress is black, it’s completely opaque, but it was a cool summer night, and there was a breeze. It felt like I was naked. I asked my escort, “Are you sure nothing’s showing?” He said, “No, you look great.” I told him, “I feel distinctly like I am walking across this parking lot naked.”
The idea that you’re totally clothed, but you feel naked is very enticing.
It was fabulous. Very erotic. I highly recommend it…but I have a variety of fetish outfits. Typically speaking, if a most clients want a school teacher kind of look: the glasses, the hair up on top of your head, the short skirt, high heels and stern disposition. I do a lot of role-play, so I have the top part of a doctor’s outfit—I’m not a medical professional, but I fake one really well. (laughs) I just think about every episode of ER I’ve ever seen and try to rattle off a few medical terms: “Cerebellum! Stat!” I’ve got a Japanese kimono that I put together for a science fiction convention. I also do a lot of my own costuming.
So, you did well in Home Ec?
Actually, I did terrible in Home Ec, but my grandmother was a seamstress and I spent a lot of time on the floor, playing at her feet while she was making quilts. I think some of it must have rubbed off through osmosis. It’s only been within the past seven-eight years that I’ve started sewing seriously. I never do anything too complex. I still take my pants to be hemmed. (laughs) If it’s entirely practical, I’m not interested.
Recently I’ve started making pasties for Burlesque. (For the past nine months, Mystrys Genevieve has appeared as Meredith Sparkles in the Charlotte revue, Big Momma D’s House of Burlesque. I do my own costumes and I make my own fetish outfits, although PVC is a pain. It’s very difficult to work with. I make little bandeau tops and serviceable shorts, but that’s pretty much the extent of it.
I’ve also got leather pants and leather corsets. Leather fetish is another one that’s often requested. I don’t actually have any “earned leather”—that’s leather that’s been gifted to you. If I had a piece of that, it wouldn’t be something I’d wear [for my clients], that would only be worn for events.
Who are your clients—not specifically of course—but what kind of people do you see most often?
Your typical client for a pro dominatrix is going to be middle-aged, white, with a professional job. Somebody who can’t really risk going out to a club for fear of somebody finding out what they’re into. I have a few African American clients, and a few younger ones. But the younger ones…
One of the things a professional dominatrix does—and a lot of people in the lifestyle don’t get this or even think of this—there are lots of people in this world that are into kink and that need kink, need to play, that cannot go to the local club. The schoolteacher. The bank president. Not that I see any bank presidents. I’m not that high-profile. (laughs) They cannot risk somebody finding out who they are.
People don’t want to know that Mr. Smith who manages the boy’s basketball team at the high school is into having his ass smacked. So that would be the type of person who would seek out the services of a professional dominatrix, as opposed to somebody who is 22, and not really doing much of anything, working at the McDonald’s four days a week and living in his parents’ basement the rest of the time. He can afford to go to a club and risk the possibility that somebody’s going to recognize him.
What about ambience? Do you have any particular music you like to use for your sessions?
I have a couple of CDs that I like—stuff that you might not think of. I like Cirque de Soleil, and I’ve got Verekai over there. Right now, for my vanilla-scene, kind of anything goes, I’ve got Christina Aguilera. I’ve got Madonna’s Erotica. It’s an older CD of hers that wasn’t really on the charts. She did it back when she had the Sex book out. It’s great for scenes. And of course I’ve got the standard music as well.
As far as ambience, I can take the sidelights down. The mirrors are very important. There’s no point in this room that you can’t see yourself, sideways or from the front. I’ll pull the bench out in front of the mirror. It’s really cool when you’re spanking them from behind and they can look up and see what you’re doing. I’ve got a lot of wigs so I can dress the little boys up.
You dress them as well?
Cross-dressing is a huge fetish. Feminization is probably the most requested fetish that I get.
Do they supply the panties?
Well, if they’re going to leave with them, yes. I have several pieces for feminization including bras and panties. I’ve found some very pretty pieces in larger sizes at second hand shops. Every now and again, it’s fun to cut clothes off people with scissors or I knife, so I also go to yard sales and thrift stores with an eye toward disposable clothing. I try to get one-size-fits-all. I’ve got a few teddies that were made for larger women but they fit men.
The serious cross dressers have their own clothes and accessories. I even had one once who wanted to show up in a wedding gown! Usually people who come to me for cross-dressing feminization are novices. They don’t have a lot of expectations. You put them in a bra and panties and they’re good to go.
The PSI of a Stiletto Heel
What are some other things that you get requests for?
Lots of role-play, of course. My favorite is the school mistress disciplinarian. A client was very nice and gifted me with this fraternity paddle (shows me a wooden paddle with Greek letters carved in it). So, when you come here, to be disciplined by the schoolmarm, you really get disciplined by the schoolmarm. I have no idea what fraternity it’s from, but I’ve left that impression on many an ass. It’s like baseball. You kind of wind up with both hands and hit it out of the park.
Foot fetish is huge. Lots and lots of people are into foot fetish, which is wonderful, because I love it. I get a fair number of adult babies who like to dress up in diapers; humiliation, partial suspension, rope and chain bondage; sometimes hot wax play and electro play—and those are nice by way of a change.
Is there a sexual component for them, even though there’s no intercourse, per se, involved?
I’m sure there is. I’m a huge tease, a huge tease, and so I’ll lean over at the end of a session—if it’s a really good one and it turned me on—and sometimes you do get turned on by it. I know I do. What’s the point of doing something kinky if you’re not turned on by it? So, if I’ve hurt him really good—I tend to get turned on by the hurt—the more pain I can dish out, the more turned on I get. So, anyway… I will sometimes lean over them and whisper in their ear ever so gently, “As soon as you leave, I’m going to go masturbate, and I’ll let you enjoy that thought.” And then I show them the door. (laughs)
I’m sure at some point they pull over to the side of the road, to do whatever they want to do—although, hopefully they wait until they get home. I don’t want any of my clients getting arrested, thank you very much.
But yeah, there should be a bit of a sexual component. If you’re not getting turned on, it just hurts. If you’re not getting turned on, if it doesn’t please you in an erotic fashion, then you might as well just get beat up on the street and save your money. Obviously, there is a sexual aspect to it, but as far as overt sexuality, such as nudity, that’s not part of what I do.
But there is—if not genital to genital contact—some genital contact involved.
Well, you can’t do cock and ball torture without genital contact, but it’s not a handjob. I am not jerking the person off. It’s about applying erotic stimulation, yet more in terms of painful things than “pleasurable” things. I don’t do handjobs. I don’t do blowjobs. I don’t let clients perform sex acts on me.
That’s the one thing that will get you turned down when they apply to me. “I will be happy to worship your maidenhood,” or how did he put it? “I will be happy to worship the center of your goddessness orally for as long as you like.” (laughs) “The center of my goddessness?” Oh, you want to go down on me! It’s not allowed. That is sex, and unlike Bill Clinton…Well, we don’t do any Clinton things here.
Are there issues that you have to be concerned about to make sure what you’re doing won’t get you arrested?
Yes. I’ve looked into the laws, and actually, several years ago, there was a case here in Charlotte where a person that was advertising foot fetish in the local newspaper got arrested for prostitution. The police involved in her case were interviewed on television, and one of the reporters specifically asked him, “Is it illegal to have foot fetish or an S&M business?” The officer told him, “No, it’s not illegal to have an S & M or foot fetish business, it is illegal, however, to have people [pay you for] blowjobs and handjobs…or footjobs (laughs).
For me personally, lifestyle? And this is somebody I’m playing with for fun, for pleasure—not at all professionally—okay, it might be fun to do a little fluid exchange, but I’m not going to do fluid exchange with a someone I’ve only had a couple of e-mails and a phone call with. As far as letting them cum on my feet and lick it up, I have had that request, but no.
One of the Dommes I knew up in New York had a guy ask her to step on a live mouse (she refused).
I had a guy who wanted me to walk around in mashed potatoes. That was one of those, “Your kink is okay, my kink is okay, but your kink is not my kink.” It seems very benign. It wasn’t that the thought of what he was doing was gross—it was just the thought of mashed potatoes oozing between my toes. Ew! At the same time, I know people who like having pudding and chocolate and other things licked off their feet. Had I known another mistress in town who offered that professionally, I would have gladly referred him.
Do you have a particular philosophy about what you do and how you do it?
I used to call myself Wiccan, but I’m not really a witch, per se, so I just say I’m pagan. I revere nature. One of the precepts of my personal religion is “As it shall harm none.” That pretty much governs my life. I try to live my life and enjoy it; do it as hard and as long as I can, and harm as few people as possible along the way. That’s kind of what I do with kink. Notice I said, “harm.”
There’s a huge distinction between “hurt” and “harm.”
Exactly. I would personally never want someone to come to permanent injury. Like I had a fellow who e-mailed me who was into extreme foot play. He wanted me to stomp on his chest in stiletto heels.
Aren’t there something like 250 pounds of pressure at the point of a stiletto heel?
Exactly. I told him, “I’m not going to puncture a lung for you.” I could not risk that for myself, even if I wanted to do it. I met a person who’d had his ribs broken in a session and he was in triple digits of heaven about how he had “served” the mistress. But I was thinking, I can’t play with someone like this.
It’s not that I can’t play intensely. I love to play intensely. The more pain you can take, the hotter it is, but I draw the line at harm. At the end of a session, particularly a really intense one, where there’s been a lot of pain, and he’s suffered beautifully for me—I love it when they suffer beautifully. I have one client who has the most beautiful, clear blue eyes, and whenever you hurt him, he sort of tears up—he’s a man, he won’t cry. I hate that. I wish they would cry more. Anyway, his eyes are so clear, and they well up just a tiny bit when you really hurt him. It’s so hot. He suffers so beautifully….
So that’s my philosophy. As long as at the end of the day, we can hug each other—and I hug everybody when they leave here. That’s the type of person I am. I cannot do that “goddess” kind of thing—I mean I can, I can fake it, and in a role-play, it’s fine, but at the end of a session, I don’t want to be like, “Get out! You bore me, slave.” I’m not like that.
What do you want clients to get out of your sessions?
I want them to have a wonderful time. I want them be able to relax, because that is really one of the reasons why we do this. At the end of a good session, it feels like you’ve just had the best massage in the world—for them and for me. I get kind of blissed out. I get that natural endorphin rush that goes off in your head that just takes you almost to a spiritual place….
I do find that more in the lifestyle than in my professional work. Professional is professional. “I want to come to you, and I want to experience this, this and this.” Lifestyle people go more for, “Whatever you want, Mistress. Just make it something special.” In a lot of ways, I think that limits professionals and clients. Once in while I’ll have that very special, very unusual professional time where someone will come to me and say, “I’ve had some experience, so let’s just do it and see where you can take me.” Obviously for the most part, he doesn’t give you a script. He doesn’t say, “I want to be bound and spanked and have my nipples tortured,” or something like that. He just lets me do what I want, and I love having the freedom to do that. But I really just want clients to leave here happy.
Are there things that you would do professionally that you won’t do personally, and vice-versa?
Everything I do professionally, I do lifestyle. I don’t have sex with clients. I don’t even go topless for clients. I know some Dommes do, and that’s their own business. I would never say that it’s wrong; it’s just not me personally. [My clients] come to me for domination services. I don’t want somebody who is looking for a sex kitten. I am a real woman. I have a few extra pounds—although I’m height/weight proportional. I am not offering sexual services. I am offering the services of a dominatrix—somebody who is experienced and knowledgeable, who can do these things safely—for someone who would not otherwise have access to that in their lives.