We realize today that gender and sexual identity are far more complex than the binary system with which many of us are familiar. But how do you handle it when your husband comes to you and tells you he plans to transition to female?

A MtF transgender woman seeks guidance because her wife is struggling with being intimate with her in her new female role. Nina Hartley contemplates the complicated course a marriage takes when a wife finds her spouse is not the straight man she married, but a lesbian woman instead.




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