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Auto-Erotic Autonomy: Women & Self-Image

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Societal standards be damned - self-esteem is more involved in great sex than you might think.

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So what can a person do to improve his or her sex-life self-esteem?

• Know your own body. Find your own sweet spots. Bring yourself to orgasm. If you know what feels good to you, it’s much easier to tell your partner what to do.

• Tell your partner when you like or dislike something. Give them cues. If it feels good, don’t be afraid to moan. If it doesn’t, encourage your partner to do something else – without being deprecating.

• Talk to your partner about your fantasies, wishes, and desires. If your partner knows what turns you on, it turns them on to fulfill that want.


There are also lots of small, quick things that can give a sexy boost.

• Wear sexy lingerie under your regular clothes.

• Do something that makes you feel accomplished: put away the laundry, finish that manuscript you’ve been working on, do something for your significant other, pen a letter to an old friend.

• Exercise or spa yourself. Knowing you’re doing something healthy or having extra-soft skin will definitely give your sex appeal a boost.

• Laugh. Read something funny, watch a comedy, shine a flashlight on the wall and watch your cat bounce everywhere trying to kill it…

• Put on your favorite broken in beaten up blue jeans, or your lucky t-shirt.


Oh and, for the record, the overwhelming majority doesn’t prefer the looks of scrawny girls who weigh less than a sack of oranges. So go on and have that scrumptious brownie – you can work it off later in bed.

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