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by Award Winning Author of Erotica Rachel Kramer Bussel,
Feb. 08, 2012
The best way to turn me on is to be yourself, whoever that is. Way too many people posture and try to seem like someone they’re not, and I find that confusing.
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by Cherry Trifle,
Feb. 07, 2012
Dateless? Don’t sulk. Buy yourself an Oreo cheesecake, a pair of shoes or a night at the girly bar and count yourself lucky this stuff isn’t happening to you.
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by Nina Hartley,
Jan. 31, 2012
Everybody makes jokes about how once you get married, you stop having sex, but it's really no joke when a couple struggles with issues that prevent them from having a satisfying sex life or in the case of some couples, any sex life at all.
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by Liz Langley,
Jan. 27, 2012
Now we just have to figure out what to do about the glitter.
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by Award Winning Author of Erotica Rachel Kramer Bussel,
Jan. 25, 2012
Gossips love to speculate that strip club visits equal marital doom, whereas I don't think you can infer anything from a strip club visit other than that a guy likes to look at scantily clad women.
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by Liz Langley,
Jan. 24, 2012
Andrew Shaffer gives us the skinny on the private lives of 37 philosophers, in Great Philosophers Who Failed at Love, all full of various types of affairs, angst, desire, despair and scandal.
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by Liz Langley,
Jan. 20, 2012
Apparently "one man, one woman" only applies to LGBT relationships.
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by Liz Langley,
Jan. 18, 2012
We like it when science proves us right.
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by Liz Langley,
Jan. 16, 2012
They will be if the ostriches have their way!
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by Nikol Hasler,
Jan. 13, 2012
Tim is my best friend, and I love him enough that I would marry him as long as one of us were dying within a year, because I'd probably stop being able to handle being married to him after that.
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by Liz Langley,
Jan. 12, 2012
Now you can have sex with your partner while they're overseas! Sort of.
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by Award Winning Author of Erotica Rachel Kramer Bussel,
Jan. 11, 2012
The biggest thing I learned about sex in 2011 is that, like life, it's unpredictable. Every time I thought I had a handle on my desire(s), on what I'm looking for, and not looking for, the universe threw me a curve, a challenge, a dare. I was engaged in a power play scene with the universe and it was my master, big time.
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by Mollena,
Jan. 06, 2012
Mollena shares a deeply personal conversation with her mother about just exactly why she lets people hurt her.
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by Liz Langley,
Jan. 06, 2012
If he doesn't get women, nobody ever will.
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by Barak & Sheba,
Dec. 30, 2011
The temptation to make something up when confronted with questions about your kink can be strong, but most often, the truth in some form is better than trying to get away with the little white lie.
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by Award Winning Author of Erotica Rachel Kramer Bussel,
Dec. 28, 2011
As I look back on 2011, I realize one thing I’ve come to understand more this year is that our society is a lot more prudish than we like to think it is. First let me say that I think everyone should have a clear idea of what's right for them when it comes to sex. Navigating how and when and why you're getting it on is important; telling other people what to do, however, is offensive.
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by Liz Langley,
Dec. 26, 2011
What’s worse? The principal doesn’t see the problem.
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by Mollena,
Dec. 23, 2011
There is no one rulebook for how to do this thing we call BDSM, Power-Exchange, Master/Slave relationships, etc., etc. One of the things I most enjoy about perverts is our limitless capacity to forge our own damn path, thank you very much! I’ve done a lot of weed-whacking through the jungles of kink in order to find ways that work for me.
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by Liz Langley,
Dec. 20, 2011
Passing around those sad or disturbing emails people receive after disastrous dating situations seems like it's all in good fun — but isn't it important to remember there's someone out there who perhaps needs some advice on how to accept rejection with grace, dignity and a little less sociopath-like decorum?
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by Nina Hartley,
Dec. 13, 2011
What do you do if you hate sex, but still want a relationship? is it normal to want nothing to do with sex? Is it possible to find a companion who can accept this or perhaps even shares your lack of desire?
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by Liz Langley,
Dec. 12, 2011
However, we suspect that behaving in a snoop-worthy fashion isn't good for you, either.
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by Mollena,
Dec. 07, 2011
There is no one rulebook for how to do this thing we call BDSM, Power-Exchange, Master/Slave relationships, etc., etc. One of the things I most enjoy about perverts is our limitless capacity to forge our own damn path, thank you very much! I’ve done a lot of weed-whacking through the jungles of kink in order to find ways that work for me.
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by Rayne Millaray,
Dec. 07, 2011
Conflict of interest? What conflict of interest?
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by Barak & Sheba,
Dec. 02, 2011
Why are the smallest words in our language the hardest to say? When looked at impassionately, these opposing tiny words are easy to write and say. They practically draw no attention; that is until we add emotion. Then they can become almost impossible to use. What are we talking about? The words that compose the shortest sentences in our language: “Yes”, and “No.”
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by Liz Langley,
Dec. 01, 2011
Fortunately, we can tell you that the story does *not* get worse than that.
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by Award Winning Author of Erotica Rachel Kramer Bussel,
Nov. 30, 2011
When the doors to your bedroom, and what you do inside, are thrown open for the world to see; when your sex life becomes fair game for speculation, it can change everything.
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by Liz Langley,
Nov. 28, 2011
If your spouse works for the phone company ... Um. He trusts you, right?
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by Mollena,
Nov. 23, 2011
When you look at “Power Exchange” relationships – that is, relationships that are based on someone giving over control of some facet (or all aspects!) of their lives to another person – it seems obvious whose needs, wants and desires come first. The master over the slave, the dominant over the submissive, top over the bottom.
Or is it?
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by Rayne Millaray,
Nov. 23, 2011
Pastor starts public kissing competition for married couples, and we watch approvingly.
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by Midori,
Nov. 21, 2011
When you find it, the desire to jump into the deep end of the BDSM pool can be irresistible. The excitement of new found friends, playmates and activities can drive a submissive off track and into dangerous situations for mind, body and soul. In this letter to my submissive friends, I offer some advice to avoid the pitfalls during your adventures.
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by TinaV,
Nov. 18, 2011
Recently, Loperfido and Lazer took the time to speak to TinaV about their new blog and the specifics of their open relationship.
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by Rachel Rabbit White,
Nov. 18, 2011
Last week when news of Kim Kardashian's divorce shook up the Internet, I asked: What's with the so-called “sanctity”of this marriage? Does the institution actually have any sanctity?
The short answer? No.
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by Rayne Millaray,
Nov. 18, 2011
And we're glad she didn't do it via Twitter, you know?
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by Award Winning Author of Erotica Rachel Kramer Bussel,
Nov. 16, 2011
Shopping for a potential mate and a potential sperm donor involves evaluation of very different sets of information. When choosing the DNA material to pair with yours to create a child, what's really important and how does it different from choosing a potential life partner?
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by Rayne Millaray,
Nov. 16, 2011
Revenge backfires, big-time, for Pennsylvania man.
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by Liz Langley,
Nov. 15, 2011
Lady spiders, take note. There are cheapskates out there.
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by Liz Langley,
Nov. 09, 2011
Fortunately, it was bird shot. And she's not mad any more.
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by Barak & Sheba,
Nov. 04, 2011
Let’s spend a moment on Oral Sex. We don’t mean the licking, slurping, sucking kind; although we love that kind too! We mean opening up your soft, warm lips and sending luscious vibrations through those little white chords that say, “I want you to fuck me. Slow. Fast. Long. Hard.” And, “Please, make it hurt… just a little.” Want to talk about that? We do.
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by Rachel Rabbit White,
Nov. 03, 2011
Kim Kardashian threw a lavish multi million dollar wedding, only to divorce two months later. The gossip has prompted a wave of tweets along the lines of... “tell me again why the sanctity of marriage is threatened by gays?” But I ask, has marriage ever had sanctity?
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by Award Winning Author of Erotica Rachel Kramer Bussel,
Nov. 02, 2011
Age has been on my mind since I'm about to turn 36 on November 10th. I'm often told I don't look my age, and I certainly don't feel my age, but I can't deny that what I want out of sex and relationships has changed since I was 26, and even from when I was 30. Sometimes I think the older I get, the less I know about how sex works — not so much the physical side, but the rest of it.
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by Em & Lo,
Nov. 01, 2011
Before Facebook, MySpace, Google, et al, the “one who got away” (OWGA) was rarely more than a passing daydream — or a handy bit of masturbation material.
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by Rayne Millaray,
Oct. 26, 2011
We know, that sounds kind of obvious. But ... read on ...
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by Rachel Rabbit White,
Oct. 25, 2011
Allena Gabosch is the founder of Seattle’s Center for Sex Positivity, a polyamorous, sex-scene goddess and a reminder that even goddesses are not immune to the specter of breast cancer.
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by Liz Langley,
Oct. 19, 2011
Proposed law would make it a crime even when both are adults.
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by Nikol Hasler,
Oct. 14, 2011
I date a lot of musicians. And by date, it usually goes like, "Hey, I like your style. Wanna go out?" We then got to a handful of shows and parties at which I'm one of the oldest women there, we get crazy drunk, we have sex, then we become friends. That's because I have trouble finding a way to be the kind of girlfriend a musician needs.
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by Sinclair Sexsmith,
Oct. 12, 2011
Mary's struggling with the gender roles and sexual top and bottom roles within her relationship and getting her partner to fill the role of top is proving to be a challenge.
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by Liz Langley,
Oct. 10, 2011
For ourselves, we think we'd be a little gun-shy ...
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by Rayne Millaray,
Oct. 06, 2011
Study suggests that the sex of the people around us may lead us to consume more or less food.
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by Award Winning Author of Erotica Rachel Kramer Bussel,
Oct. 05, 2011
“Dating” sounds like a dirty word to me, and not in a good way. I love traditionally dirty words in the right context, but dating? Not so much.
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by Liz Langley,
Oct. 05, 2011
If it was a few times, we'd call it romantic. But this is borderline OCD.
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by Liz Langley,
Oct. 04, 2011
See? They really are very safe ...
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by Liz Langley,
Oct. 03, 2011
We think we'd be able to tell, but apparently not everyone can.
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by Liz Langley,
Sep. 30, 2011
Mexico City mulls offering temporary licenses. Can we call them learners' permits?
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by Sinclair Sexsmith,
Sep. 28, 2011
You've got questions on gender, relationships, strap-on sex and everything in between. Mr. Sexsmith returns with advice, opinions and insights for all in his new column Mr. Sexsmith Says...
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by Liz Langley,
Sep. 26, 2011
No one gets away with anything, but at least they're all alive.
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by Award Winning Author of Erotica Rachel Kramer Bussel,
Sep. 21, 2011
These days, you don't really have to go on a first date with a total stranger. You can Google, you can hunt them down on dating review sites, you can get a glimpse into who they are before you ever get a glimpse of them at all. But is this really the best way to get to know someone, or the most accurate for that matter?
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by Tinamarie Bernard,
Sep. 08, 2011
This is, at a basic level, the narrative of cats. Were it not for experiments on felines that led to the discovery of oxytocin, we might disregard sacrifices from the animal world that have taught us about human sexual relationships.
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by Liz Langley,
Sep. 06, 2011
In France, they apparently take lack of sex very, very seriously.
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by Em & Lo,
Sep. 06, 2011
Readers are always asking us this question, and the masturbator in question is pretty much always a man. Sometimes his female partner writes to us, asking if she's right to feel cheated on. Other times the man himself writes to us, asking why his partner can't understand how benign his porn masturbation habit really is.
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by Liz Langley,
Sep. 05, 2011
We think being forced to drive a getaway car deserves at least a nomination.
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by Barak & Sheba,
Sep. 02, 2011
You've considered it. Maybe you've even talked about it, but how do you actually go about opening your relationship to include other people? The direction and design depend on you, but there are important principles to keep in mind to ensure success.
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by Liz Langley,
Aug. 23, 2011
Some people think the petition for “allowing” Bert and Ernie to marry is stupid and goes too far. I say it’s stupid and doesn’t go far enough.
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by Liz Langley,
Aug. 18, 2011
These things always seem to backfire, don't they ...
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by Tinamarie Bernard,
Aug. 18, 2011
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by Veronica Monet,
Aug. 16, 2011
Do you feel positive emotions when you hear the word “No?” If kink is your preference, you may have eroticized this word but taken out of the context of role-play, the word probably still causes you to wince. “No” signals that you may not get something you want and that is rarely cause for celebration.
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by Liz Langley,
Aug. 12, 2011
She'll thank you for your consideration, instead of calling the police.
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by Nikol Hasler,
Aug. 12, 2011
So, I guess you could say that I haven't been myself lately. This month has been consumed with trying to hold myself together through a really ridiculous break up. It's been confusing and messy and I've been a nutcase.
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by Rayne Millaray,
Aug. 10, 2011
No word on whether William and Kate knew what to do with a Coco de Mer. Do you?
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by Liz Langley,
Aug. 09, 2011
Because love and sex don’t come from a bartender, dealer or pharmacy (unless you’re banging the bartender, dealer or pharmacist) we often don’t give their chemical powers the fearsome credit we give to drugs we can see. But they do trigger chemicals and those chemicals wield a crazy amount of power.
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by Liz Langley,
Aug. 08, 2011
Who's checking your email and text messages besides you? Shhh.
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by Barak & Sheba,
Aug. 05, 2011
Seeking new connections through kinky social networking sites can be fraught with drama, dissatisfaction and potentially danger. Keeping a few important tips in mind can help improve your experience and find what you're really looking for.
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by Award Winning Author of Erotica Rachel Kramer Bussel,
Jul. 27, 2011
When you discover the need to focus on yourself and make changes, sometimes you need to step back from that which you use as a distraction, a diversion from paying attention to your problems. Sometimes you need to give up sex.
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by Kal Cobalt,
Jul. 20, 2011
What they don't tell you when you sign up to join a poly household...
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by Nikol Hasler,
Jul. 08, 2011
I don't come home after a date and dish all the dirty details of my evening.
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by Liz Langley,
Jul. 01, 2011
Maybe if we were actually there, it would seem more romantic ...
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by Liz Langley,
Jul. 01, 2011
It sounds as though Huma Abedin will take a little time off from her husband as well.
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by Rayne Millaray,
Jun. 29, 2011
... And the kink and dom responses come rolling in. Predictably, trouble ensues.
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by Liz Langley,
Jun. 28, 2011
Political sex scandals seem to be a matter of course these days — is anybody surprised anymore when the news announces yet another politician has cheated on his spouse? This begs the question: Why did they even get married in the first place?
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by Nina Hartley,
Jun. 28, 2011
What do you do when your partner stops having sex with you? Is it your fault? Is it theirs? Should you try to change or call it quits?
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by Liz Langley,
Jun. 24, 2011
Census data shows that "the closet is getting smaller."
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by Liz Langley,
Jun. 22, 2011
“Lost” actor and teen singer, married last month, stand up to critics.
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by Veronica Monet,
Jun. 21, 2011
I like to say ALL sex is sacred. Of course anytime you make sweeping generalizations like that, there is a lot of room to disagree. Given the right mood, I'd be the first to disagree with myself. Still, I want to explain the kernel of truth in the statement “all sex is sacred.”
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by Jeff Schult,
Jun. 21, 2011
Thanks, kids, for a real, honest and innocent moment.
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by Rayne Millaray,
Jun. 21, 2011
We think this will be the last time Crystal Harris makes the cover.
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by Aubrey Sitterson,
Jun. 15, 2011
In today's world, marriage for political reasons is pretty uncommon. But just a few centuries into the past, arranged marriages were a vital part of government and politics. In the medieval fantasy-world of Game of Thones, marriage within the ruling families is almost entirely political and critical to the stability of the Seven Kingdoms of Westeros.
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by Rayne Millaray,
Jun. 15, 2011
Now we don't feel so bad about not being invited ...
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by Jeff Schult,
Jun. 14, 2011
California Proposition 8 defenders really are pretty shameless, desperate or both.
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by Nikol Hasler,
Jun. 10, 2011
When I was a little kid I was a total weirdo. I would talk to anyone, anywhere. Homeless guy on a bench? Tell me everything. Mother at the park swinging her child? Let's chat about swinging and did you know my grandpa died when my mom was a teenager and her mom is crazy and did you know my neighbor Mrs. Pinkski has a little dog and she thinks I stole her tulips but I was on roller-skates?
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by Rayne Millaray,
May. 27, 2011
It's all innocent, even a little saccharin. Okay, a LOT saccharin ...
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by Jeff Schult,
May. 26, 2011
Unwedded coupling on the rise, according to 2010 census data.
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by Rachel Rabbit White,
May. 25, 2011
Prostitution hurts marriage, doesn’t it? This has often been used as an argument against sex work — it’s not only demeaning but endangering to unknowing wives. But, this isn’t an argument about the morality of sex work — it’s about the morality of cheating. Still, when talking to Johns, I had to ask: How are the wives actually affected?
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by Liz Langley,
May. 24, 2011
Many people think it’s reason that separates us from the animals but I think the opposite is true: it’s belief.
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by Rayne Millaray,
May. 20, 2011
Senator opines that fetishist is capable of holding a job.
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by Cherry Trifle,
May. 20, 2011
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by Rayne Millaray,
May. 17, 2011
Proposed bill raises concerns about individual rights.
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by Veronica Monet,
May. 17, 2011
Last month I noted that the “love hormone,” Oxytocin, introduces an element of love to all sexual encounters. If sex exists on a continuum, then some sex might be almost bereft of love while other sex would be completely defined by love. In between those two extremes exists a lot of varied combinations of eroticism and emotion.
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by Cole Riley,
May. 16, 2011
Like most men, I’m baffled by the nature of love. Lust, I can understand. But I’ve not done well in my efforts in my love life. An ambitious stripper, a snarky teacher with a jealous ex, a professional dancer with a nose candy problem, and a loopy reporter one step from the bughouse. All strike-outs.
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by Rayne Millaray,
May. 13, 2011
Judge says kids should have a more “normal” childhood.
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by Johnny Murdoc,
May. 05, 2011
In preparation for a new collection of short stories to be published, Johnny Murdoc embarks on a new experience, shooting a nude pictorial, which will be included in the upcoming book.
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by Kal Cobalt,
May. 02, 2011
Whether you're the one excited about trying poly or the partner who's been approached to open up the relationship, you don't have to just guess and hope about the outcome of this venture. There are things to think about, scenarios to talk about, and tools to use to figure out whether your monogamous relationship has a good chance of withstanding the switch to polyamory.
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by Nina Hartley,
Apr. 26, 2011
Do you find yourself in a relationship where you have to go along to get along? Are you using sex as a tool to protect yourself against mental or physical abuse? Nina speaks today about the fact that there are other options available and there is help for people in abusive relationships.
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by Jeff Schult,
Apr. 19, 2011
Woman who says she was date-raped goes on "Good Morning America"
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by Veronica Monet,
Apr. 19, 2011
There's a unique connection between love and sex—though they don't always go together.
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by Rayne Millaray,
Apr. 19, 2011
Talk about getting off on the wrong foot? But we love happy endings ...
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by Award Winning Author of Erotica Rachel Kramer Bussel,
Apr. 06, 2011
If you ever see me on the street, chances are, I'll be carrying at least three bags. More than likely four, possibly five. Usually I have my purse, a bag with my laptop, various magazines, books & papers, then a few others with shoes, gym clothes, more books, maybe a bottle of seltzer. The bags are, as I told someone recently, a part of me, but they are also, literally & figuratively, my baggage.
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by Jeff Schult,
Apr. 04, 2011
Alternative sex columnist Dan Savage suddenly finds himself in the mainstream.
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by Tinamarie Bernard,
Mar. 31, 2011
How many of us think of ourselves as polyamorous? Some do, of course, but probably most of us think of ourselves as monogamous. Yet, how many of us can claim we've loved just one person in our lives? Likely, not many. So, are we truly monogamous or are most of us serially polyamorous?
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by Jeff Schult,
Mar. 31, 2011
Government says all forms of unions with more than two people are harmful.
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by Lady J,
Mar. 28, 2011
Are there occasions when you owe your partner the obligation to have sex with them?
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by Jeff Schult,
Mar. 23, 2011
“How often” is often the subject of dispute in long-term relationships.
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by Award Winning Author of Erotica Rachel Kramer Bussel,
Mar. 23, 2011
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by Nina Hartley,
Mar. 22, 2011
If you are in a relationship with someone and fall in love with someone else, is that a betrayal? If you don't share these feelings with your significant other, is that a transgression?
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by Jeff Schult,
Mar. 17, 2011
But shock jock still “sort of” admires Charlie Sheen.
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by Rayne Millaray,
Mar. 15, 2011
Sperm extraction and IVF succeed for some dads.
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by Nina Hartley,
Mar. 15, 2011
How do you stop being the guy every girl wants as a friend and start being the guy with whom every girl wants to flirt?
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by Award Winning Author of Erotica Rachel Kramer Bussel,
Mar. 09, 2011
The last time I had sex was January 12th. Well, that is if we’re defining “sex” as physical, genital contact with another person. In January, I also had phone sex and cybersex, but since February 1st, have stayed away from all of that. The most action I’ve gotten, by choice, is a kiss goodnight on a street corner.
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by Nina Hartley,
Mar. 08, 2011
We've all heard the cliche about there being no sex after marriage. But what if you're not willing to live with that? You want to save your marriage, you want a satisfying sex life, but your spouse is resisting you every step of the way because he suffers from the emotionally painful idea that he's too small? What's a woman to do to save her marriage and her sex life?
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by Rayne Millaray,
Mar. 07, 2011
Maybe he should have stuck with “It’s the thought that counts.”
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by Rayne Millaray,
Mar. 03, 2011
... Except for the “losing custody of your kids” part.
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by Jeff Schult,
Mar. 01, 2011
We know, you're shocked again. Well, maybe you are if you haven't had a baby.
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by Jeff Schult,
Mar. 01, 2011
... And in other Lady Gaga news, she likes monogamy.
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by Em & Lo,
Mar. 01, 2011
It's happened to all of us: You meet someone charming, intelligent, miraculously modest, well-off, and, most importantly, smokin' hot. The evening finally comes when you will seal your budding relationship with a full-body kiss. You're eager with anticipation and expect nothing less than sheer bliss. But then your new partner's tongue attacks you like a leaping lizard's would a fly.
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by Nina Hartley,
Mar. 01, 2011
Lisa, who considers herself a bisexual, sex and relationship virgin, is wondering if, in a lesbian relationship, you are in the driver's seat in the bedroom does that mean you are in the driver's seat, or the more dominant, butch partner outside the bedroom as well?
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by Midori,
Feb. 28, 2011
Dominant, kinky women are frustrated, and not in the good way. They’re getting prickly and thorny.
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by Award Winning Author of Erotica Rachel Kramer Bussel,
Feb. 23, 2011
Recently, I decided to take a break from sex and dating until November, when I turn 36 (but not writing about sex and dating!), and part of my impetus for doing so is to give myself time and space both to work on myself, and to sort out a lot of unresolved feelings and right at the top is jealousy.
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by Rachel Rabbit White,
Feb. 16, 2011
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by Nina Hartley,
Feb. 15, 2011
Sometimes the hardest person to be honest with about who you are, is the person you love the most: your spouse, your partner, your significant other. Fear of exposure and judgment is one of the hardest barriers to breach when sharing sexual fantasies with our partners when we think they may not understand what we want.
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by Award Winning Author of Erotica Rachel Kramer Bussel,
Feb. 09, 2011
Last week, I lost my Skype virginity. To summarize my extremely non-scientific findings: Skypeing can be very sexy, just make sure you’re ready to handle it.
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by Sinclair Sexsmith,
Feb. 09, 2011
Mr. Sexsmith ponders the implications of giving more than a relationship is ready for as we approach Valentine's Day. Is there such a thing as giving too much too soon?
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by Jeff Schult,
Feb. 08, 2011
New reality show will feature “the lifestyle,” 2011 style.
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by Jeff Schult,
Feb. 04, 2011
Survey says more guys want love, more women value independence.
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by Nina Hartley,
Feb. 01, 2011
We all have different reasons for seeking companionship. Sometimes two people end up together and find out their goals for the relationship are not the same. Can two people who want different completely different things find compromise or should they find new companions?
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by Rayne Millaray,
Jan. 27, 2011
After 18 years of marriage, he's had enough ...
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by Sinclair Sexsmith,
Jan. 26, 2011
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by Nina Hartley,
Jan. 25, 2011
If you've negotiated a monogamous relationship with your partner, you've probably set up some ground rules. For most, that means no sex with someone who isn't your significant other. Sounds simple, right? Well, "it ain't necessarily so."
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by Lady J,
Jan. 21, 2011
I know how many sexual partners are lurking in my husband’s past. I know one had MY first name. Another is heir to a well-known salad dressing fortune. I know he never contracted a sexually transmitted disease. This is all I know. This is all I WANT to know.
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by Rayne Millaray,
Jan. 20, 2011
Stereotypes of gay parents belied by latest census data.
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by Lorna D. Keach,
Jan. 17, 2011
“My mistress may be the sea, but the thing is ... that's just an expression.”
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by Rayne Millaray,
Jan. 13, 2011
Oops. Federal tax withholding wrong for all of 2010.
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by Lorna D. Keach,
Jan. 12, 2011
New love, mature love look the same in our brains.
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by Lorna D. Keach,
Jan. 05, 2011
MRI results show what we might have guessed.
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by Lorna D. Keach,
Jan. 03, 2011
Self-expression and individual growth are key for happiest couples.
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by Rayne Millaray,
Dec. 30, 2010
OK City man accidentally shoots wife during sex.
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by Rayne Millaray,
Dec. 29, 2010
“Strength is Sexy” in Lehigh Valley, Pa.
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by Award Winning Author of Erotica Rachel Kramer Bussel,
Dec. 29, 2010
Taking a breath, after riding the roller coaster that was 2010 ...
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by Rayne Millaray,
Dec. 28, 2010
Heterosexual couples tend toward gender-based divisions of responsibilities.
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by Jeff Schult,
Dec. 23, 2010
Kinky coach? So what, and who deserves this?
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by Rayne Millaray,
Dec. 23, 2010
We're looking for some second opinions, here ...
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by Em & Lo,
Dec. 07, 2010
If you want to start eating healthy, you know that changing your relationship to food is more effective than a crash diet. The same is true with your sex life.
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by Cherry Trifle,
Dec. 06, 2010
Einstein’s definition of insanity was doing the same thing over and over expecting different results. Applying the same principle to your love life is a proven method to madness.
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by Midori,
Dec. 06, 2010
In Japan, petting pussy has its price ... and can be both decadent and tame.
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by Sexis Editors,
Nov. 26, 2010
Marketers want to erase the stigma of sexual aids for men.
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by Veronica Monet,
Nov. 23, 2010
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by Nina Hartley,
Nov. 23, 2010
Sex should be one of the most natural things in the world, but when medication becomes part of the equation, sometimes, it doesn't come so easily—particularly the “cumming” part...and especially for women.
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by The Bloggess,
Nov. 18, 2010
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by Award Winning Author of Erotica Rachel Kramer Bussel,
Nov. 17, 2010
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by Sinclair Sexsmith,
Nov. 17, 2010
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by Nikol Hasler,
Nov. 12, 2010
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by Sinclair Sexsmith,
Nov. 10, 2010
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by Lady J,
Nov. 08, 2010
When you're trying to have a baby, you can take all your “preconceived” notions about the birds and the bees... and toss them out the window.
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by Award Winning Author of Erotica Rachel Kramer Bussel,
Nov. 03, 2010
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by Veronica Monet,
Oct. 26, 2010
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by Nina Hartley,
Oct. 26, 2010
"The course of true love never did run smooth," Shakespeare once sagely said, but for the young man who is seeking advice today, the booty train has spotty service at best, and might be headed for derailment. Can Nina help him get his love life back on track?
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by Award Winning Author of Erotica Rachel Kramer Bussel,
Oct. 20, 2010
My name is Rachel, and I’m an attention whore. There, I said it. Maybe that’s obvious, because I think to some degree, all writers are attention whores, but I don’t mean professionally, I mean personally. Only in the last few months have I realized that when it comes to dating, attention is the number one thing I’m looking for from a partner.
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by Sinclair Sexsmith,
Oct. 20, 2010
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by Lorna D. Keach,
Oct. 15, 2010
It's okay to ask or tell, at least temporarily. But it's probably not a good idea while legal confusion reigns.
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by The Bloggess,
Oct. 14, 2010
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by Nina Hartley,
Oct. 12, 2010
Last week, we met a young woman who was new to marriage and new to sex. Due to a conservative background, she has yet to spend a lot of time exploring her sexuality and the things that please her. She wants to grow the intimate relationship she has with her husband, and has come to Nina for advice.
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by Sinclair Sexsmith,
Sep. 29, 2010
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by Veronica Monet,
Sep. 28, 2010
Today we welcome Veronica Monet to the SexIs crew. If you just don’t get the opposite sex, don't worry. You CAN learn to understand your partner. Whether you’re straight or gay, vanilla or kinky, monogamous or poly, Monet says we all have something to learn about “cross-cultural fertilization.” Life’s a journey. Let our expert tour guide help you make the most of your travels in Libido Territory.
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by Award Winning Author of Erotica Rachel Kramer Bussel,
Sep. 08, 2010
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by Sinclair Sexsmith,
Sep. 08, 2010
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by Em & Lo,
Sep. 07, 2010
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by Sinclair Sexsmith,
Aug. 25, 2010
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by Award Winning Author of Erotica Rachel Kramer Bussel,
Aug. 11, 2010
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by Award Winning Author of Erotica Rachel Kramer Bussel,
Jul. 28, 2010
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by Award Winning Author of Erotica Rachel Kramer Bussel,
Jul. 14, 2010
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by Nina Hartley,
Jul. 13, 2010
This week, Nina tackles the concerns of a woman diagnosed with hypothyroidism and her resulting inability to achieve orgasm. People with this condition often have a reduced libido and diminished ability to climax—which can be distressing to both you and your partner. Nina has consulted sex expert, Dr. Robert Lawrence, for tips on how to cope with a thyroid that's putting a damper on your sex life.
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by Nina Hartley,
Jun. 29, 2010
She's 21, he's 55. She's new to the game and he’s been around the block a time—or 10.
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by Nina Hartley,
Jun. 15, 2010
How do you even begin to figure out if you should stay in a relationship with problems, or leave in search of a better match? Do you get counseling? Do you go with your partner or alone? If your partner won't dance with you, do you need a new one?
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by Dorian Darque,
May. 28, 2010
There may be nothing you can legally do with your body more exciting and sensual than grabbing your partner and jumping on a motorcycle, at least in public. No other human experience heightens the senses and ignites instincts like climbing atop a great chuffing beast and heading out on the highway.
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by Cherry Trifle,
May. 07, 2010
A recent story in the UK’s Telegraph reports that Facebook is cited in roughly one in five of the country’s online divorce petitions, but millions of avid users swear the reconnections are mostly harmless fun. Have these quantum leaps forward in technology created a society addicted to its past?
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by Nina Hartley,
Apr. 27, 2010
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by G.L. Morrison,
Apr. 26, 2010
When the rules of society overrun the path to sexual satisfaction, sometimes, the only way to get back on track is with a little—or a lot—of hands-on help.
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by Ymagine,
Feb. 19, 2010
Women love men. Men love porn. While some wives hate their hubby’s smut habit, others have learned to embrace it… with some very satisfying results.
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by Nina Hartley,
Feb. 16, 2010
When you're in bed, how often do you find yourself saying "no" to something that might actually be pleasing? A little too often? Find out why Nina says learning to give, accept and offer permission is the path to embracing your true potential, and unlocking the pathway to untold sexual pleasures.
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by Rydell Johnson,
Jan. 28, 2010
Snip-snip, the Big V, or voluntary sterilization. No matter how you slice it (good one, right?), a vasectomy is a major decision. Fortunately, it’s a minor procedure—and a great excuse to spend the weekend on the couch.
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by Johnny Murdoc,
Jan. 18, 2010
When I moved in with my partner, I did something unthinkable: I stopped masturbating. Though we’d been sexually active before we moved in together, but I still masturbated occasionally, and, at 21, I needed to orgasm more than once a week. Still, I felt bad when I did it—almost like it was a betrayal of our relationship, and I promised myself that I’d stop when we moved in together.
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by Zoeyjane,
Jan. 18, 2010
I can’t count the amount of times a hypersexual mood has convinced me within a breadth that sleeping with someone would make me feel better. Scratch that, rewind—feel something. And then, afterwards—feeling unclean, guilty and manipulative, as the choices I’ve made have not been my best.
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by Dr Dick,
Jan. 11, 2010
Getting ready to marry and finding yourself with a case of the cold feet? Never fear; Dr. Dick is here, with a primer for all you betrothed to-be to find your own sexual success.
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by Zoeyjane,
Jan. 08, 2010
My sex life was completely, 100 percent, definitely no question about it attributed to my high and low moods. So, I stepped away from the computer and told a doctor in real life. I was easily diagnosed as bipolar, in part because of the record setting, in addition to the fact that I was unbalanced and moody. Since, bipolar has been written on my metaphorical psychiatric permanent record.
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by Nina Hartley,
Jan. 05, 2010
How does a couple prepare for a threesome? How do you know if it’s right for you and your partner? Why is the fantasy often better than the reality? Nina explains it all!
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by minivanlibertine,
Dec. 18, 2009
In this final installment of our interview with the one and only Tristan Taormino, she speaks at length about open relationships, nonmonogamy, and trying to shatter the preconceived notions of what relationships are.
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by Dr Dick,
Dec. 14, 2009
Deviating from conventional model. Is it worth it?
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by Rydell Johnson,
Dec. 11, 2009
What’s better than a daydream about a porn star, a pop star, or simply Star (she’s the new redhead in accounting)? Try some erotic make-believe starring your significant other.
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by G.L. Morrison,
Nov. 27, 2009
Or, how not to get chewed up in the parlance of polyamory.
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by Liz NuMe,
Nov. 24, 2009
When it comes to verbal communication, my husband generally have no problem finding things to discuss. Actually, one of the things I love most about him is that he truly listens to me and respects my opinions. But there’s one topic we both stumble over—sex. Actually, it isn’t the topic of sex per se, but being able to effectively communicate our wants and needs.
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by Liz NuMe,
Nov. 18, 2009
Hello. My name is Newme…and I’m a closet kink. If you saw me walking down the street, you would probably think, preppy mom. I’m top to bottom J. Crew—cardigan, tee and jeans. Mother of four who home-schooled her kids, drove them to all their activities in a Honda Accord, worked hard for a living, helped my husband start his own business. Nothing special, just your typical person on the streets.
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by Alisa Bowman,
Nov. 17, 2009
Was he no longer attracted to me? I’d gained some weight. I knew that. My clothes were tight on me. Only one pair of pants fit comfortably. Was it the fleece? Or was it the sex?
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by Liz NuMe,
Nov. 03, 2009
Or, to put it another way, someday they will leave...
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by Alisa Bowman,
Nov. 03, 2009
That’s what I’ve been telling myself...let's see if I can make it happen.
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by Dr Dick,
Nov. 02, 2009
Virginity is a very touchy issue in just about every culture on the globe. Curiously enough, it’s almost always exclusively about female virginity. This sad double standard gives rise to emotional conflicts for both genders. But again, it is young women and girls who bear the brunt of it.
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by Sexis Editors,
Oct. 24, 2009
Crush, obsession, or the real deal? One woman’s journey to decipher the difference.
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by Liz NuMe,
Oct. 19, 2009
Infidelity in marriage is like a Ming vase that’s been shattered by the person you loved and trusted most. That’s what my life felt like the night I found out my husband was cheating on me. I shared that with someone who’d been through it as well, and she said she wanted to turn her broken pieces into a beautiful mosaic. I think—and hope—that is what my husband and I have finally done.
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by Dr Dick,
Oct. 12, 2009
I have just the thing for all you folks out there who are in a relationship. If you’re like every other couple I know, you have your share of tension. And let’s face it—tension leads to fighting. And fighting, if not done fairly, can lead to hurting your partner—even if that’s not your intention.
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by Citi Kittie,
Oct. 07, 2009
Explaining your relationship status isn't easy when you've got a wife, a girlfriend, and a boyfriend (or what I like to call a Full Set). "It's complicated" doesn't begin to capture it. But while we may be unique, there are lots of people who practice polyamory. It can be pretty confusing for the participants themselves, so it's not always easy to explain to everyone else.
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by Elizabeth Black,
Sep. 30, 2009
Elizabeth Black takes a look at different exercise techniques designed to improve your sex drive—and sexual gratification.
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by Wise Young Mommy,
Sep. 16, 2009
Cheating on one’s spouse has become big business—just ask Ashley Madison.
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by Elizabeth Black,
Sep. 03, 2009
Here's a hint: handcuffs + sprinkler system = disaster.
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by Wise Young Mommy,
Sep. 02, 2009
The last relationship I had before I met my husband was with a woman. Yes, I am a bi-sexual woman, although I am not a great fan of labels and can’t truly, with all honesty, say that I know that I fit the definition of that title to a tee. Nor do I really care.
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by Cherry Trifle,
Sep. 01, 2009
Lots of us do it. Some studies claim most of us do it. And if you believe what you see on cable news, it’s a prerequisite for a political career. Are we just a species that can’t say no?
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by Hungry4more,
Aug. 26, 2009
You might hear people make outrageous claims such as “Porn destroys more marriages than crack cocaine!” “Porn drives married couples apart!” I hate to break it to you, but that’s hogwash. Porn is the glue that holds families together. Porn is good. Porn is the bread and butter of any married person’s sexual existence. Porn is an integral part of 21st century living.
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by Wise Young Mommy,
Aug. 26, 2009
Many men already know the joys of pornography, whether it be a raunchy movie or some strategically shot photos on the internet—and aren’t afraid to sing their praises. However, most women I have spoken to regarding porn either love it or hate it, and there isn’t much middle ground.
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by Hungry4more,
Aug. 07, 2009
Or, how to successfully combine parenting, fatherhood, and sex...
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by SaucySarah,
Aug. 05, 2009
How do you make a relationship work when the two principals have a significant age gap between them?
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by Wise Young Mommy,
Jul. 29, 2009
Okay, moms—take your fingers out of your ears: it’s time to talk about buttsex!
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by Sarah Sloane,
Jul. 27, 2009
Being a sex-educator isn’t all glamour all the time. And for Sarah Sloane, it’s more about being a sex-positive gypsy, traveling the highways and byways to deliver the good word—sort of like an evangelist, with a strap-on. In her first column, our heroine reflects on life, long-distance sex, and the evils of cheap hotel beds.
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by Wise Young Mommy,
Jul. 22, 2009
Necessity is the mother of invention. Why else would there be so many wonderful instruments of pleasure available today if someone somewhere didn’t find them to be just what suits their personal kink?
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by Wise Young Mommy,
Jul. 15, 2009
Domestic goddess? Soccer mom? Suburban earth mother? Minivan mommy? This week, we demystify the mother archetype, and get right down to business—having more (and better) sex, that is.
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by SaucySarah,
Jun. 29, 2009
Just what is an open relationship, anyway? Let's find out!
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by Wise Young Mommy,
Jun. 24, 2009
One of life’s inevitabilities as a parent (besides tax credits) is the knowledge that at some point, your kids are going to catch you in delicto flagrante. So—do you cease all sexual activity until they’re 18, or do you invest heavily in Disney? Or...is there another option?
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by Cherry Trifle,
Jun. 17, 2009
Does a straying mind make you a stray dog? What are you freaks really thinking about in flagrante delicto? If your mind works anywhere close to normal, it’s going to wander—at least occasionally
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by Wise Young Mommy,
Jun. 17, 2009
It’s time to enjoy a glimpse into the world of your typical suburban mom (played by me), and how sex fits (or more appropriately doesn’t fit) into it. It’s not pretty, it’s not glamorous and it certainly isn’t all that sexy. But here it is, stripped down to the bone. It might just look a little familiar…
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by Miya,
Jun. 10, 2009
We were drunk the first time it happened. And maybe that’s always how it always goes. A handful of shots, a slow dance, red lipstick.
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by Wise Young Mommy,
Jun. 03, 2009
Why? Because moms have sex...
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by Elizabeth Black,
Jun. 01, 2009
Or, how NOT to turn your man into a meat dildo...
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by slavette,
Jun. 01, 2009
A humorous glimpse inside the lives and minds of slaves
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by slavette,
May. 26, 2009
A Peek at Life Behind the Black Leather Curtain
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by slavette,
May. 18, 2009
Today, Slavette wades through the murky waters of relationship-negotiation within the confines of the master/slave dynamic, without litigation, butcher knives, or invoking a demon.
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by Cassie,
Apr. 30, 2009
Last night I slept with Christian, my ex-husband, for the first time since he became my ex-husband. In so doing, I knowingly exacerbated his feelings for me, opened my own heart back up to him…and betrayed both of our significant others.
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by Judy Cole,
Mar. 24, 2009
Touch. Sight. Taste. Smell. Sound. Each one plays an important role in sexual arousal, whether you realize it or not...
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by Sacramento Sam,
Mar. 07, 2009
Listen up – sometimes the best way to your lover’s loins is through their ears.
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by L. Jade,
Mar. 07, 2009
You like sex toys. Your partner likes sex toys. So how can you enjoy them together?
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by Mr Guy,
Mar. 07, 2009
Whether you’re a ‘two-minute brother’ or an anorgasmic amorist, there’s one thing everybody should be able to agree on: foreplay, if played properly to your partner’s tune, can be just as good as the inevitable main event. In fact, it can be so good that it might end up being the main event all by itself.
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by Mr Guy,
Mar. 06, 2009
Cunnilingus isn’t nearly as hard as it’s made out to be. However, it helps to know what you’re doing down there – and, more importantly, why.
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by SaucySarah,
Mar. 06, 2009
Old, young, gay, straight, bi, or political pundit; if there’s one thing you can count on, it’s that guys love blowjobs.
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