This is a great harness and dildo set. It's easily adjustable and fits a large range of women. It limits you to only Vac-u-loc dildos but they do have a larger variety. It's a little pricey so if you are just exploring strap on play you may want to start with a less expensive one until you know for sure that you and your partner will enjoy it. If you already enjoy it and are looking for a well made, long lasting, easy to use harness with a variety of attachments this will be perfect for you.