I know that just about everyone has thought about anal play at least once in his or her life. I don’t know if you were too scared that it would hurt or felt that anal sex is nasty. Perhaps your partner didn't want to try it with you. For myself, I like to try anything that will spice up my sex life and when I tried anal for the first time I loved it.

The first piece of advice I have to give you when trying anything anal is to relax! I can’t stress enough how important this is; you have to relax and not tense up. If you tense up and don’t relax your muscles it won’t fell as good, and it might even hurt. Just breathe and let everything go smoothly; don’t over think it.

A lot of people are iffy about doing anal because of hygiene, or even afraid they might have an accident. Don’t worry, that has never happened to me. If you are afraid to do it because of hygiene try taking a shower right before you start doing anything. I doubt an accident will happen; but if you’re afraid that it will, just make sure you use the bathroom before trying anal. You could use an anal douche an hour or so before trying anal sex to be really sure about your cleanliness. Try not to think about it; all you will do is worry, not enjoy it, and tense up.

If you’re afraid that it’s going to hurt, or that the toy or penis won’t go in; again, no worry’s they make stuff that helps. You can buy a good slick lube for help. My personal favorite so far is ID Millennium. It’s very slick and stays in place. It’s a water based lube, so if it starts to dry a little spit or water will reactivate it. For me I have to have lube, but oh does it feel good!

I've heard a lot of men and women saying that they do want to try anal but they are too scared to ask their partner for the fear of rejection. Don’t worry about asking, it’s just another way to enhance your sex life. If you really don’t know how to ask him or her try starting another topic that will lead into it: ask your partner if he or she would be interested in trying something new, or what he or she wants to try but is afraid to. If you watch porn together and the actors are doing anal, ask your partner if he or she would ever want to try it.

When a partner mentions an interest in anal sex don’t shut them down, actually talk about it. If you're afraid; try talk to your partner about why you are scared, or why you don’t want to try it. Be honest, completely honest. What’s a relationship without communication? Try it, you never know you may like it, and find something new you love to do.