"What is it that draws an individual to the BDSM lifestyle? Could it be the smell of fresh leather or the gentle snap of the whip? Maybe it is the shine of the chains, drawing the eye from cuff to ceiling."
What is it that draws an individual to the BDSM lifestyle? Could it be the smell of fresh leather or the gentle snap of the whip? Maybe it is the shine of the chains, drawing the eye from cuff to ceiling. These accoutrements are simply tools to express feelings, normally repressed by society. How many times throughout the day have you wanted to plow your car into the asshole in front of you? Slap the crying child in the grocery store? We don’t normally act on these urges because we are taught from a young age that it is not acceptable to act out in anger.
As an adult we are allowed to rethink what is possible. Exploring urges, sexually and otherwise, is allowed and we now (most of us) live in houses where we have the space to explore without being judged. It’s time to grab a tiny amount of cash from your wallet, and head to your local hardware store because I am going to tell you how to make BDSM supplies on a budget.
You can try out these tools and techniques without breaking the bank. Most of these toys can be used alone or with a partner, but remember anything you do to another person you should be willing to use first on yourself. None of the items you need will be sexually conspicuous. Tell the hardware store cashier you are making crafts!
Bondage
Homemade Spreader Bar - Items needed are silk rope, wooden dowel, duct tape and O-ring hooks. Buy a wooden dowel about two feet long and coat it with black (or another fun color) duct tape. Bind your lover’s hands with silk rope, ten or more feet, and hook the rope onto each end of the spreader bar. Your partner’s arms (or legs) should be spread wide and unable to close. This won’t cause pain but they should not be able to move from their bindings, giving you complete control.
Cost - 10 dollars
Discipline
Bag of Rice Trick - This one is quite simple and all it requires is a simple bag of rice. If your significant other(s) is being naughty there can only be one solution, kneeling in front of their Dom! Sprinkle rice grains onto a hardwood floor and have your partner kneel on top of the rice for as long as it takes for them to regret their earlier behavior.
To increase the allure of this activity, bind your partner’s hands and feet and blindfold them. Use your new blade (see below) to trace lines up and down their shoulders while taunting them or masturbate while watching them. Don’t allow them to help you! Humiliation Play is often used to train a submissive and this trick can allow you to do that easily without having to leave the house for supplies.
Cost - About 1 dollar
Sadism
Pocket Knife Sadism - Buy a cheap pocket knife at your local hardware store and boil the blade. The blade won’t be used to actually cut into anyone but in case of an accident it is best to have a sanitary blade!
This is an exciting toy as it can be used alone or with a partner. It can also be extremely tame or harsh, be careful with this one!
If you want to use this with little to no danger to you or your partner follow these rules. Dip the blade of your knife into water and place it in the freezer for several minutes. Trace the blade or the blade’s back up and down you or your partners erogenous zones. The frozen aspect of the steel will give the illusion of the blade being much sharper than it actually is. Place a blindfold on your partner before pulling out the blade to increase the illusion of being cut.
Cost - 1-5 dollars
Masochism
Thin Rubber Tubing - Tie the ends together and make a circle the same diameter as your thigh. Slide the circle up your leg like a garter belt and snap it hard, like you would a rubber band. This pain will be stingy and short and you may be left with tiny red marks. This DIY item is fun because you can use it on yourself and it is close enough to your genitals to take a short break from masturbating to snap the tube.
Cost - 2 dollars
I hope you have learned a few ways to try out each of the BDSM tenants without spending much more than you would on fast food. Enjoy!
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