I love role playing. I think it's a great way to mix things up in the bedroom. However, more often than not, people find it more nerdy than sexy, that it is something best left for people that play Dungeons & Dragons. But it doesn't have to be. Role play in the bedroom can be a great way to spice up your sex life and try new things.

One of the biggest complaints I have seen about role playing is that people aren't interested in the “classic” sexy scenes. They are not interested in the boss and the secretary or the naughty nurse. But the best thing about role playing is that you get to create the scene. If the idea of a scene doesn't appeal to both of you, then it's best not to even try. You are not going to be able to stay in the scene if you are not enjoying yourself. And that's the point, isn't it, to enjoy yourself? So, if you're not into the hot librarian, pick something else. Find out what your partner is into and work with that.

Then there is the issue with costumes. People are constantly complaining that “they're too expensive” or “I can't find something that fits.” Don't let pricy or ill fitting costumes stop your desire to try role playing. The costumes don't need to be elaborate or expensive or even what you would initially use as a costume. For instance, I used a black mini skirt, high heels, and a sexy bra for a maid's costume. Everything came out of my closet. Even better, they were all things that my boyfriend had seen me in before. Separate, simple articles of clothing. Together, they made for one hot night. Don't stress over a costume. Trust me, your partner will be more interested in getting you out of the clothes than you wearing them.

After people get past choosing a fantasy to play out and finding a sexy outfit, they get stuck on something else. “How do I start?” Really there is no straight answer to that question. Some people like to plan these things out. Personally, I prefer to surprise my boyfriend with a costume or character. One time, he was in the living room watching TV and I walked in wearing a sexy red negligee with a persona to match. He really enjoyed the surprise. Whether you work role play in as a surprise or plan out all of the details, it is really all up to you.

My boyfriend and I are both actors, so role playing is something that just comes naturally for us. However, acting experience is not required. Even if you're not so theatrically inclined, I still recommend giving role play a shot. It really is a lot of fun and it gives you a shot to try out that fantasy that you normally would not. So, pick out a sexy outfit, grab your partner, and give it a try!