When you think of the holiday season, you ideally would be thinking about time spent with loved ones, opening the perfect present and generally having a wonderful time. But like I mentioned in my opening, it never seems to be that way for me. It seems like from when the Thanksgiving meal is done until the last present is opened on Christmas Day, I am running around trying to get everything accomplished and feeling like it will never happen. Between the gifts to buy, the decorations to put up, the holiday parties to attend and coordinating Christmas Day dinner with my family, I feel more like an air traffic controller than anything else. By the time everyone leaves on Christmas Day, I’m exhausted and just want to sit on the couch and do nothing for a while. And that’s not even thinking about the years when things go wrong and my wife and I lament later about how this didn’t really feel like Christmas at all. During all of this time, it seems like sex and our romantic life is the furthest thing from my wife’s mind or my own. It’s only on New Year’s Eve does it even seem like we start thinking about sex again.

But this year I’m resolving to be different, not just about everything else that is going on during the holiday season, but with my love life as well. Sex plays an important role in all of our lives and it really helps my wife and I feel close and connected. During this busy and stressful holiday season, I think it is even more important to maintain that bond. The bond you have with your partner is more than likely the strongest bond or relationship in your life and it is crazy that so many of us neglect that during this time of the year. I’ve had a rough few months personally with deaths and job issues that I won’t detail, but without the love and support of my wife I’d be in a much worse place than I am the moment and the sexual bond between us has remained strong during these difficult times and there is no reason that can’t continue during the stressful holiday season.

So I had an idea in November before all of this started for a way to connect with my wife during this stressful time. Little did I know how stressful it would be and how important this would become for me now. I love surprising my wife with little gifts and I had an idea to give her a “naughty stocking” to help make sure that the fire in our love life wasn’t totally extinguished during the holidays as it had been in the past. Our wedding anniversary is during this time as well, which makes it even crazier that there have been years where we’ve neglected our relationship during the holidays, and I had decided to load up on goodies from here at Eden Fantasys that would certainly not be appropriate for her to open on Christmas morning in front of our son or her mother. I’m excited to do this because it’s exciting and a way for us to connect during this holiday season that we’ve never tried before.

The idea of handing my wife a stocking filled with things like nipple clamps, vibrators and actual stockings has excited both of us. She’s excited to see what might arrive, especially since we plan on exchanging it before Christmas Day and spending some time with just us, going through each item and seeing what it’s like. Some things I’m looking at will be new for us, others are upgrades on items we already have, and not everything is going to fit in the stocking. I’ve decided to make a whole evening of it and send the toddler off to the grandparents for the evening. We’ll both have a nice dinner and wear dressy adult clothes, something that is a rarity at the moment. Before dinner, I’ll slip away and lay out the items on the bed with the stocking so it looks like Santa will have come by for a visit. After some champagne, we’ll come upstairs and let her see what she got for being on the “naughty” list this year. I had also thought about giving her a little bit of the stocking at a time, such as one item one night and another a few nights later so we’d feel like the naughty season was stretching out through the entire holiday season. The time frame for that is rapidly closing now, but I still think it's a good idea as well and might try that aspect next year.

Making time for your partner during this season is important. It’s too easy to get caught up in buying Aunt Jenny a present and making sure your mother-in-law is okay with the bedspread in the guest room. (That has been a problem in the past.) We worry so much about our families and our children that we forget about taking time to take care of ourselves and our partner. A little bit of pampering seems to go a long way during this holiday season. If we don’t take that time to recognize our partner and appreciate them for both who they are and what they do, resentment can certainly fester. My wife and I have encountered this very thing in years past by getting too wrapped up in things for everyone else and by the time Christmas or our anniversary rolled around, we felt so distant that we wound up having a big fight. I know, how terribly romantic. But that’s why I’ve decided to take steps to make sure that very thing doesn’t occur during this holiday season. Your partner is the person you more than likely spend the most time with so you should definitely take some time to make sure that you two are still connecting.

The last thing I’m excited to try is something a little daring. We all spend time at relatives’ houses during the season, or have relatives stay with you. If you’re anything like me, you feel very strange about getting it on when your father-in-law is only a few doors down. But this year we’re going to mix it up. My mother-in-law usually stays with us for a few days around Christmas and for the past couple of years sex has been off the table, mainly because Santa is up too late putting things together for Christmas morning. But the final thing I’ve done this year is to buy my wife a naughty Mrs. Claus costume. While my mother-in-law is sleeping downstairs on Christmas Eve and after Santa has laid out his goodies, he’s going to have another treat with Mrs. Claus. When I first brought this idea up to my wife, her first thought was to say no, but now she’s excited to try something different and while not daring for most people, it’s definitely out of the norm for us.

So by doing a few different things during this season, I’m going to do my part to make sure romance isn’t forgotten under the tree. I have a lot to be thankful for and by taking a little time to make sure my relationship isn’t put on the back burner, I’m thinking this might be one of the best holiday seasons yet. I wish you and yours happiness during this time. And hopefully some great orgasms as well!