In order to spice things up, people sometimes like to be dirty to makes things hotter. Talking dirty is one method that is used a lot during sex. Although not everyone enjoys it, it's quite powerful if it's done right. It's a problem, however, when a person over does it... or when they do it all wrong in the first place. So, how should you talk dirty? What are some of the things you should avoid doing?
To start off, talking dirty should be smooth.
Guys, girls like it when you are masculine and take charge. They like it when you inform them about the dirty things that you will do to them. Again though, you have to start out smooth, and then get into it from there. For example, start by telling her how sexy she is, and how she is driving you crazy. Tell her that with a whisper in her ear, in a sexy way. You can breathe slowly on her neck. You could also touch her below her waist and buttocks, as well. If you do this, this is a good start.
From there, you can add in that you want to make love to every inch of her body. Make it wet, and go crazy. From there, you can firmly hold her -- anyway is fine, as long as you don't over do it and cause her pain. Foreplay is then a good way to move on, and it'll help you to ease into things. Make sure that you don't soak her with your saliva, because this is not hot at all. Also, just be confident. Confidence is a very key ingredient that is absolutely necessary.
When you start making love, you can then take thing up a notch. You can start by being a little dirty. Most girls really like to be treated dirty by their lovers, and it's not bad for them to like being dirty. You can pull her hair (just make sure you're not ripping it off), and you can spank their buttocks. You can also get a little rough, depending on how your lady likes it, but make sure that you don't hurt her.
Now, when it comes to talking dirty, there are certain things that you want to make sure that you don't do. First of all, don't treat your girl/partner as a prostitute. There is a vast world of difference between talking dirty and being respectful, and treating your girl like a whore. Although some girls might like it, most girls don't. It's a turn off. Secondly, you want your lady to the reach the stage of: "oh baby, harder!", or "I am your dirty little..., and I want you to..." If your girl actually reaches the point where she is that turned on and is asking for it like that, then you are doing a fantastic job. Thirdly, don't mention your past sexual experiences. For example, don't say something like, "oh yes, do me like you ___ did," or "you're just as dirty as ____". This is just a big no-no. You are trying to help your partner get into the mood, not kill it, and saying such things will kill the mood. Finally, allow the girl to sometimes be dirty and take control. Girls don't just like to be dominated, they like to be dirty to you. They like to talk dirty and mess with you, so just let them do that. Trust me, it's going to end up pretty nice for you.
As for girls, the same applies for you, too. Guys don't like it when they hear fake moaning, or excessive moaning. They don't like it when you excessively dirty talk to the point that it feels fake and turns him off. There is another thing that is a BIG NO-NO: don't ever mention past hook ups, or other men. Doing that will end things. I repeat ladies, that will just end things right there. In general, guys have pretty sensitive sex egos, and if you hurt their egos, then I guarantee that your sex sessions will be over. I am not just generalizing here, it really does affect them -- they don't like it. Believe me, I almost made that mistake once, and I won't make it ever again. Also, it's okay to be dirty physically. You could pull hair (don't rip it off), or bite their shoulders during sex. Just make sure that you don't over do it.
In the end, dirty talking can be a powerful thing if it's done right. You just need to make sure that you do it in a sexy, hot manner, as otherwise it will actually cause more harm than good. This both applies for men and women alike -- as long as you keep it hot and sexy, it can be good. The results will definitely be fantastic.