I've always been the kind of person to have plain old sex. Sure we do different positions and play around with surfaces but recently I've read the Fifty Shades series and it's given me a few ideas to make my sex life a lot more fun. Now I'm not saying, "tie me up and tell me how you like it." No, I'm just saying the book has given me a few ideas on how to make things more interesting. I've used toys before but never in bed with another person. Well I'm gonna tell you that was a big mistake. Ladies, we don't always reach that big "O" by doing different positions or having a bit of foreplay, for us it takes a bit more effort. Toys can really help you get there and they can be a whole lot of fun.

Giving him control of a vibrator or dildo can actually be a great way to rev things up. He can control the speed of things and the intensity of the vibrations. This can help you get off quickly or he can slowly torture you with slow rhythmic movement bringing you higher and higher until you can't take it anymore. Add a blindfold into the mix and holy hell. This way all you do is feel everything. Losing one sense can heighten all the others and when you reach a climax it'll be like nothing you've ever felt before. If you're not into the blindfold or you are too shy to just have your man looking at you completely naked, shut off all the lights and close the blinds. This way you still get some good sensory play but you have to feel your way around each other instead of seeing it. You'd be amazed how much not seeing things can be erotic.

Wanna take things a little further? Get restraints of some sort. Whether it's leather cuffs, fuzzy handcuffs, or simply a piece of fabric to hold your hands back, restraints can be a great tool. Either have him tie your hands back, or you tie his and let one person have the control. If you decide to tie his hands back...wow. Tease him in every way you know how and make him want you more than he ever has before. By the time you decide to free his hands he'll have to touch you all over the place and sex will be very intense. Think about it, if you couldn't touch your partner and then suddenly you're allowed to feel every part of them...trust me on this, you'll want to. Touching is very intimate and when it's taken away and given back, it can intensify things.

And if you're really not into the whole idea of vibrators and restraints, then simply try changing locations. You can have sex in your car, on your couch, on the floor, or in the shower. Even in the comfort of your own home there are tons of possibilities. Different surfaces give you the ability to have better leverage, especially when a girl is on top, or they can allow your guy to get even deeper. Try using a coffee table or a desk that is a perfect height for his pelvis to meet yours. Lay down on the surface and have him stand or kneel (this can work on a low couch too). He will be able to control all the movements and get incredibly deep. Standing is great if you're the same height, but if you're vertically challenged (like me), then find a way to make your height more even. Sex in heels can be great and him pushing you against a wall for support, wow, that's just steamy.

There are so many possibilities with sex and experimenting and if I were to go on this article would be pages, but this is just to keep in mind that toys can be used for more than just solo play and that there are many other ways to spice things up. Anyone wanna add to the list?