I did a couple of Google searches with variations of my theme...and nothing showed up that matched my feelings here. This was really startling to me, as I can’t imagine that I’m the first person to feel that my submission to my Dominant has helped decrease the anxiety I experience.
Some quick background: I've seen a couple of therapists, been on medication for my anxiety, and have my share of panic attacks. Depending on which professional I was talking to, it’s been labeled as just high anxiety levels, social anxiety, mild depression, and “I’m so sorry, let’s see what we can do about that” and be given Zoloft. And then there’s my Daddy-Dom (who shall be here on referred to as Daddy). We've been in a relationship for 9 months, and about 5 of which have included varying degrees of a Daddy-Dom/little lifestyle.
Being his sub is better than medication and therapy for my anxiety. I feel like I've struck gold and finally found the best way for me to work on things. I think this comes from two main aspects of our dynamic: 1) having him be a top priority and 2) having him take care of me. I still experience some anxiety, but I've felt more in control of it, and have noticed fewer panic attacks since we started making this dynamic our lifestyle.
Because I’m submissive to my Daddy, being a good girl serving him and making him happy is the most important thing on my mind. And regardless of whatever else is going on, he’s almost always at the front of my mind in one way or another. I think this is one of the things that has helped me. It takes away space for the needless worrying that goes on in my head. And because I want to do well for him, I push myself in some anxiety-inducing scenarios because I know he’ll be proud of me. Rarely before have I felt as strong and constant a motivation to push myself to work on reducing and better managing my anxiety.
Being my Daddy’s little girl comes with the knowledge that I am his. I’m something of his that he loves and cherishes, so I know he’ll take care of me. There have been times where I've been sick to my stomach with anxiety, and talking to him has calmed me in a way no one else has been able to. That’s not to say that he’s better at calming people than most are, but that his role in my life gave him the best position to help me. I trust him with every atom of my being. When he tells me things will be okay, while I don’t always believe it in the moment, I trust that he is right. When he tells me to breathe and relax, as when anyone does, I do follow those suggestions; but with him being my Daddy, it feels much more like he’s trying his best to take care of one of his prized possessions and make everything okay. I know that I’m his, and that helps me believe that he won’t let anything bad happen.
Of course having him take care of me isn't always calming words and cuddles. He pushes me. He knows I can be better in this area. He’s the only person who has successfully pushed me through something and as a result of that I can see improvements in those anxiety inducing situations. Being pushed by my Daddy was absolutely no fun at all. With the most recent such scenario, I was crying for hours. It was hard and extremely uncomfortable. But I’m better because of it. Going back to knowing I’m his, that allowed me to not try to run away from him as he was trying to help. I knew he was only doing this because he cared, which kept me from hating him during those times.
I’m in no way saying that being submissive will solve your anxiety issues. I just know that it has been helping me some, and that I can’t be the only person like this. So if this is relevant to you, try your best to take full advantage of things to see if it’ll help you like it has helped me.