May 22, 2013

The Guide to Moving in Together

by countrycutie

So you think you're ready to move in together? I don't mean to be your mom, but are you sure? Check out this guide to make sure you've crossed your Ts and dotted your Is!


Now that brings me to my next point. Talking.

Make sure you are comfortable talking to your significant other. I know, I know. You talk ALL THE TIME! But, are you spending all your time talking about where to have dinner and what that annoying girl at the office said in the middle of that big meeting where she should have kept her mouth closed? Do you actually spend any time discussing big issues?

When you hit a speed bump, and yes, you will, will you be able to handle it?

Be prepared to talk! You need to feel comfortable enough with your significant other to bring up things that bother you and things you'd prefer were done differently. Take the toothpaste example. Someone who can't talk to their significant other might keep silent on this issue and then one day, in the middle of an argument, slam the toothpaste issue right in their face. POW! You didn't see that coming! You probably didn't even know it was an issue!

Someone that does know how to communicate with their significant other will bring up the issue as soon as they realize it bothers them more than they'd like. This person might, while their significant other is brushing their teeth say, "Hey sweetie, please don't forget to put the cap back on. I'd really appreciate it." See? No argument. No pent up anger. No brainer!

Now, on the flip side, know when to keep your mouth shut. Learn how to choose your battles.

Take the Plunge

So, you've really thought about moving in together. You've talked it out. You're confident in your communication skills. You sound like you're ready to me!

Some things to consider when making the move:
* Be sensitive when consolidating belongings. Don't question why she absolutely must keep that extra table, just be flexible.
* Set boundaries. You may love being with your significant other 24/7 now, but know that one day you will just want to take 2 hours to yourself to relax. Allow a space (perhaps a desk) for that to be possible.
* Be fair. You may have better style or better quality furniture, but don't be a hog. The space is a shared space and should be treated as such.
* Have fun! Don't forget to continue to go on dates and get out of the house. You deserve it!

I'd love to hear your experiences and thoughts on this subject. What are some other moving-in-for-the-first-time tips you have?