When it comes to first getting into using sex toys, sometimes there's a few concerns that may come into people's minds. A concern many people have is that it somehow replaces or interferes with having sex. You may worry that starting to use toys will lower your sex drive or that they will make you unable to orgasm with regular sex. Maybe your partner feels that a desire to add sex toys means they are inadequate or that you won't want to have sex with them as often. I thought I'd help explain some things on why that's not the case so that maybe if you've been debating on whether or not to add sex toys to your life, you'll finally decide to give it a shot. Sex toys can provide tons of pleasure when used on your own. They can do things that a partner wouldn't be able to do and it's super convenient to be able to reach into your drawer and pull one out whenever you're feeling horny. However, at the same time a partner is able to do things that a toy cannot. You never know what to expect with a partner, where are they are going to touch you, how they are going to touch you, what my partner is exactly doing with their fingers that feels so good. That all helps to provide a heightened stimulation as you're not completely sure what is going on, unlike when you reach for your toy and know exactly what you're doing to yourself. A partner can also help you to play out your fantasies. Sometimes just the fact that you're with someone else is enough to make you hornier than if you were alone with your favorite sex toy. A person can turn you on, participate in foreplay, and make you want to have sex. All a toy can do is provide you with pleasure when you already want it. While I love my sex toys, I still sometimes find myself craving the feeling of a real cock inside me, even the most realistic dildo isn't a replacement. You can be fully satisfied with a partner but using sex toys with them can turn great sex into even better sex. You can add new feelings that you normally wouldn't be able to have without toys and that can actually increase your desire to have sex because you can get the best of both worlds when using sex toys with a partner. Maybe you can enjoy some double penetration sensations with your partner and a toy, add some vibes to your clit during penetration for an extra quick orgasm, or so much more. I find that when a partner uses one of my toys on me it always seems to feel way better than when I use it on myself. I think it's a combination of it being different instead of the same way I always use it, not knowing exactly how it's being used, and the fact that I'm extra horny. Often times a partner will also find it quite enjoyable to be able to see you enjoying yourself from another angle as they use a a toy on you. Using sex toys can improve your experience with sex in general, even if you only use them when you're alone, as it allows you to explore your body more and find out what you like best. You can then let your partner know what you like so you can incorporate it into the bedroom. While yes, when you're by yourself with a sex toy you really love you may find yourself reaching for it regularly, but that's alright. Just because you got yourself off already doesn't mean you're gonna end up passing up on sex later. I've even had days where I really didn't feel like playing with my toys but when I was with a partner all of a sudden I was horny again, mostly because I know how much better it feels when with someone else. Don't get me wrong, I absolutely love my toys. They've given me tons of orgasms but that by no means replaces the feeling of having a partner pulling on my hair while he pounds my pussy doggy style and asks me if I like it. Sex toys are a great way to enjoy pleasure on your own or to spice up your sex with a partner. There's no need to worry about it negatively effecting your sex life so you should go ahead and buy that toy that you've had your eye on.