"Nothing's sexier than a nice plump earlobe."
Negative stigma?
We all know that people have their own personal ins and outs, and everyone is different. Well, this is especially true in the bedroom. Fetishes can vary from feet to ears, and sometimes we have no other explanation for why a fetish or kink is attractive other than “it just is." My personal theory is that with enough exploration in a safe, compassionate environment, everyone will discover kinks and fetishes of their own. Usually it is the people that are willing to explore their sexuality that are able to indulge and enjoy their fetishes.
So how does one come about “discovering” a fetish? Well, it will definitely be easier for some than others. I think it’s as unexplainable as why guys are ass men or tit men. In the end, it’s just meat and some fat, but a nice ass is still enough to blow my mind. I recommend watching different kinds of porn, exploring a little, clicking on a video you normally wouldn’t. You never know what might appeal to you. I promise you that eventually something will click. You’ll think about it more and more and become aroused just at the thought of it. It’s just tricky trying to find it. Another good idea might be to read some erotic literature or porn for a different sexual orientation. These are all things that we don’t really give a second chance, but they can make a world of difference.
Fetishes also vary in intensity. Some people get aroused at just the sight of an exposed foot. Others may simply think “mmm." Rarely is a fetish strong enough to disregard other aspects of a person for, as RJD2 (an electronica DJ) put it “When you take away the peanut butter or chocolate from a Reese’s peanut butter cup, what are you left with?” However a fetish usually is enough for people to take another look and say ‘damn’ and for whatever reason you have a certain fetish, I think you should be able to count on your partner to help you experience it.
By exploring your fetishes, you can reach a level of orgasm and sexual stimulation you never dreamed was possible. For guys, this is probably as close as you’ll get to the famous full-body female orgasm (aside from prostate stimulation) and I can only imagine the level girls are taken to when indulging in a fetish. Either way it is important for you as a partner to try and back your significant other as much as you are comfortable with. Keep in mind that exploring a fetish a little bit is not dangerous. It’s simply a fantasy that you might be able to play out in real life. It’s literally a dream come true. Why deny your partner such a great pleasure?
I truly do believe that fetishes are a great thing. They give people a great deal of individuality, and nothing sticks in your memory like a girl sensually asking you to kiss her legs/thigh. This individuality is part of what makes us human, and to avoid or hide it is a shame.