November 09, 2012

Do you want a Daddy?

by Lacey-

A lot of people seem to be kind of "grossed out" by the thought. There's definitely a taboo around calling your partner Daddy. If you're someone who wants a Daddy Dom and little style dynamic, this can make it hard to tell your partner about wanting this. But it doesn't have to be hard.

My Experience

In my relationship, we started falling into this dynamic without specific intention to do so. When I realized we were headed in that direction, I did my research on Daddy Doms and littles. I found that this was what I wanted. The closer we drifted towards it, the more right it felt. Our biggest hang up was on the term "Daddy." I knew my boyfriend was starting to fit that title more than anything else. But we both initially found it to seem a bit too incestuous, which is not appealing to us. What helped me get past that was thinking about other terms of endearments. Like at that point in time, my soon-to-be-Daddy was already calling me baby girl and baby and many more things. You those don't have to translate to imagine me as an actual baby. Consciously recognizing that terms of endearment don't exactly correspond to the word’s dominant meaning, but rather the kind of feelings they evoke, helped me get past the taboo of the term "Daddy."

With my boyfriend having already drifted into such a role before the application of the name "Daddy" and before we ever discussed the dynamic, it ended up being a smooth transition. I talked to him about it, and he seemed to go along with it at first just to make his baby girl happy. And now we live the lifestyle whenever we can, it seems like a perfect fit for the both of us. I've never been happier.

So my final word on the matter is: if you know what you want, go for it. Don't let the taboo of this hold you back.