Daddy Doms: They're Not What You Think

A Daddy Dom is not someone that wants to have sex with his real children. There are people out there that like incest play of course, but that is completely separate. A Daddy Dom is also not a pedophile. He doesn't want to have sex with actual children. These two things are typically what uneducated people think when they hear "Daddy." It's not necessarily their fault, because how can they know any better? It's human nature to judge what you don't understand. That's why I think it's so important that people in these types of relationships try to educate society as a whole, rather than hiding themselves away like it's some deep, dark secret. When we hide away we open ourselves up to assumptions that are just patently ridiculous, but if we refuse to talk about what really goes on in our relationships then the people that judge us will never learn any better.

Now that we've talked about what a Daddy Dom isn't, let's talk about what a Daddy Dom is. He is someone that wants to protect their babygirl and mold them into the best possible version of themselves, much like a parent does with their children. It's a Daddy Dom's job to make sure that his babygirl's needs are always met. Typically the babygirl meets her Daddy's needs in return, but in some cases this doesn't happen. The thing that makes this different from an actual parent/child relationship is that in most cases (there are exceptions of course) there is also a sexual relationship between the Daddy and his babygirl. This is why the term Daddy, when used in this connotation, is typically more of a figurative definition rather than a literal definition.

A relationship with a Daddy Dom often includes some form of discipline or punishment. It may be corporal punishment or it might be something like writing lines or a time out. For some babygirls this is a positive thing because when they do something wrong it makes them feel better to have something that helps them atone for their transgressions and wipe the slate clean. This doesn't mean that they can do whatever they want, because all they have to do is say sorry and take a spanking and it will be all better. What it means is that if they accidentally or intentionally do something that upsets their Daddy Dom, they have a system in place to make up for it. There are some dynamics that don't include discipline, or they do include discipline but it goes the other direction. In some relationships the babygirl is the one in control and the Daddy does whatever she wants. This is not a very common form of the relationship, but it does happen. In that case the babygirl is the dominant one and the Daddy can be punished if that is part of their dynamic. And of course, there are relationships that don't include punishment at all. Some Daddy Doms and babygirls feel that punishment is unnecessary because disobedience always has a reason and that discussing why the disobedience happened is more effective than punishment.

Another assumption that is often made is that if someone is looking for a Daddy Dom, that means they want to be treated like a baby. There are definitely people out there that want to crawl around and drink from a bottle and wear diapers, but that is only a small percentage of all babygirls. Most babygirls are very in tune with their inner child and enjoy things like coloring and stuffed animals, but then there are also babygirls who do nothing child-like. They just want a partner who will protect and take care of them. Just like any other type of relationship, there is no one way to be a Daddy Dom but there is always a strong foundation of love at the base. Unlike most forms of D/s that can be done without much emotion involved, I truly believe it is impossible to be a good Daddy Dom if you do not love your babygirl with all your heart.

I hope this article has taught you a little bit about what being a Daddy Dom really means and that from now on when you hear a girl call her significant other Daddy you don't automatically cringe and think the worst of them.