Do I Like Sex Machines? As a Man, I Love ‘Em

Hey there, fellow seekers of passion! I'm a 50-year-old retired guy. In my 27-year-long loving relationship with my amazing wife, Laura, we've discovered something extraordinary - we're not afraid to embrace our adventurous side when it comes to sex.
Let me begin by saying that I'm in love with sex machines. The motorized dildo, the thing that thrusts on its own, the toy that had changed everything.

"Our 30 Day Challenge in the Bedroom"

As couples who have a low sex drive, and just can't figure it out. This all how it started from my husband.

Not Tonight, Dear

Sex, marriage, expectation, obligation and why compromise isn't always the answer.

Polyamorous Playtime Failures

I was introduced to my life partner's wife's life partner. Every visit was a complete bust. I'm hoping the next visit will go much better then this last one.

How To Tell If A Potential Partner Will Be Abusive

I was in a severe abusive relationship for six months and I want to help women on here know how to spot a potentially abusive partner so you can avoid them.

Perspectives on Polyamory

I’m not on the same level as the characters of Big Love, but I do consider myself polyamorous. If you have ever been interested in the lifestyle, here are a few key concepts that have popped up in my everyday life with my two (sometimes three) partners.

Teens and Sex

We all know how hard it is raising teens. This stage is where communication is so very difficult, yet so essential. Sex is certainly going to be a struggle during their teenage years, but this is the time when you are needed the most.

The Monosexual’s Guide to Dating Someone Flexible

There are many of us who identify as queer, bisexual, pansexual, or other identities that are flexible in the sex and gender of our partners. This is often difficult to understand for people who are not flexible, whether they are gay or straight. This is a guide for monosexual (cliff notes version: someone who is either straight or gay) partners of sexually flexible people to be a better partner to those of us with these unique identities.

Thinking about Taboos

Taboos are powerful things. Anything that has power over our minds and imaginations can either imprison us or be used to make us happier. Maybe it's time to think about harnessing your taboos and using them to keep a long term relationship healthy and exciting.

How Phone Sex Can Improve Your LDR

Being of the internet generation, I’ve had my share of online, and long distance, relationships. When my husband was in Germany for a few weeks, Skype sex was a wonderful treat that we got to have every couple of days, and it kept us going until we were able to see each other again. Here is the secret that can help you the next time your significant other (SO) is out of town.

A Sexless Adventure

I think we all can agree that having a long term relationship is a great thing. As the relationship continues on, you gain a close friendship and a great sex partner, possibly for life. Spending a long time with someone can create challenges in the bedroom. Many couples feel that as they spend more time together, their sex lives get a little dull. So recently my partner and I have decided to go sexless for the next 3 months. Join me on my journey of revamping and restarting my sex life.

Happy MILF Day?

So, with Mother’s Day behind us (that would be the second Sunday of May) but the month in which it falls still with us, perhaps we need to roll out a MILF Day? Or make plans for one beginning next year? I mean, we have special days for just about everything now, including “Talk Like a Pirate Day,” so why isn’t there a MILF Day? Or am I just slacking on my online searching game this month?

BDSM 101—Understanding Masochism

Today I want to look at masochism and help those who are not masochists potentially understand why someone might enjoy pain.

Communication and Sexual Satisfaction

Those that talk about sex outside of the bedroom are more likely to talk in the bedroom. Those that talk in the bedroom are more likely to have a satisfying sex life. However, there is a right way and a wrong way to open up.

Define This: GGG

GGG is a term first coined by sex writer Dan Savage. Not only is it a good road map for healthy relationships, but those that follow it report a higher level of satisfaction in their love life.

BDSM 101—Facesitting

Today’s article is going to focus on an activity called facesitting. We are going to learn what it is, how to do it, why people like it, and some safety concerning it.

How Orgasm Focus Almost Ruined A Relationship

Today’s article focuses on how sex focused around an orgasm can put a lot of stress on both parties, and even lead to break ups in some cases. We will discuss what the goal of sex really should be.

Date Night Ideas Part 11

One of the hardest things to do is come up with ideas for date night. Where can you go, what can you do, and how can you do it without breaking the bank? Today we discuss some ideas

Date Night Ideas Part 8

One of the hardest things to do is come up with ideas for date night. Where can you go, what can you do, and how can you do it without breaking the bank? Today we discuss some ideas.

Date Night Ideas Part 7

One of the hardest things to do is come up with ideas for date night. Where can you go, what can you do, and how can you do it without breaking the bank? Today we discuss some ideas.

Date Night Ideas Part 6

One of the hardest things to do is come up with ideas for date night. Where can you go, what can you do, and how can you do it without breaking the bank? Today we discuss some ideas.

Date Night Ideas Part 10

One of the hardest things to do is come up with ideas for date night. Where can you go, what can you do, and how can you do it without breaking the bank? Today we discuss some ideas

Date Night Ideas Part 9

One of the hardest things to do is come up with ideas for date night. Where can you go, what can you do, and how can you do it without breaking the bank? Today we discuss some ideas

Date Night Ideas Part 5

One of the hardest things to do is come up with ideas for date night. Where can you go, what can you do, and how can you do it without breaking the bank? Today we discuss some ideas

Date Night Ideas Part 4

One of the hardest things to do is come up with ideas for date night. Where can you go, what can you do, and how can you do it without breaking the bank? Today we discuss some ideas

Date Night Ideas Part 2

One of the hardest things to do is come up with ideas for date night. Where can you go, what can you do, and how can you do it without breaking the bank? Today we discuss some ideas.

Date Night Ideas Part 1

One of the hardest things to do is come up with ideas for date night. Where can you go, what can you do, and how can you do it without breaking the bank? Today we discuss some ideas.

From Prude To Lewd

Our adventure from sexual repression to complete openness.

Most Romantic All-Inclusive Resorts In The World On A Budget.

I am no stranger to travel. Ever since I was old enough to travel, I have been out there seeing the world. I have found myself more and more drawn to the all-inclusive resorts as I have gotten older. With having traveled to over 25 all-inclusives, along with having studied many others and what they have to offer, I have decided to share my insight in to where a couple can go to get away for a romantic weekend and do so on a budget.

Celebrating Her Sexy Spirit--10 Ways to Make Her Feel Sexy

Today’s article focuses on ways you can keep your partner feeling hot and sexy. Just a note this is a male’s perspective on how to keep a female feeling sexy.

Getting Away Without Leaving Home:

This article is going to focus on how to get that “get away sexy feel” without ever leaving your home and keeping it cheap and inexpensive.

Giving more the you receive. A man's perspective.

So here I sit, the middle of the night after a long walk on a cold breezey night. Just a little too chilly to be out there in a pair of shorts with no shoes. I know right now many of you are asking yourselves why I would do this and why it is of importance. I assure you it is but we will get to that part shortly after I set the scene a bit more, but let me start a few hours before the walk.

Ways to Get Your Partner In The Mood

Today we are going to discuss ways which you can increase you and your partner’s sex drives for those times when one of you isn’t feeling that horny.

How to handle conversations of sexuality: A Guide for the not so open girl

Have you ever met someone that is SO comfortable with his/her sexuality that YOU feel uncomfortable? I have and I'd like to share my experience with you.

Kink From Afar: Dealing With Long Distance In A BDSM Relationship. (Part 2)

We all know that long distance relationships are hard, but what if you add BDSM into the mix? Both BDSM and long distance relationships require a lot of work to maintain just by themselves. If you happen to combine the two, you're in for a wild ride! Here is part two on how to keep the kink alive when you're apart.

Sending Dirty Photos

Today we discuss sending dirty photos, some tricks to it, and how to feel comfortable doing it.

Talking Dirty to Your Partner

Today I want to talk about some tips and tricks for talking dirty to your partner. I want to share some personal experiences and how I think we successfully integrated it into our sex lives.

BDSM 101 -- Finding a Partner Part

Today I want to talk about how I found my partner. My partner was originally not kinky at all; I introduced her to the world of kink. I want to discuss some of the tips and tricks that I discovered while doing this.

BDSM 101—Erotic Humiliation

Today we are going to discuss erotic humiliation, what it is, how lots of people go about it, why people like it, and what are some safety considerations you should have.

BDSM 101—Blindfolding

Today we are going to discuss blindfolding your partner, what you want to look for in a blindfold, why anyone would blindfold their partner, and what are some things you can do to your blindfolded partner.

Sex Toy Envy

Men masturbate. Women masturbate. That's just the way it is...

The Cuddle-Sutra: 7 Common Sleeping Styles

Have a partner who takes up all the bed space? Or steals all the blankets? What about whacking you (by accident) in your sleep? Here are 7 common sleeping styles you or your partner may have and how to handle them.

Alone Time

Having a partner is great, but sometimes you need alone time for yourself.

A Rekindling

My boyfriend and I found ourselves in a bit of a rut, and this is how we worked our way out of it.

A Sexless Relationship

Is it possible for a sexless relationship to last?

BDSM 101 — Finding a Partner Part 2: Attending a Munch

Today we will explore munches. What is a munch? What is the etiquette surrounding them? How can you get involved in one?

A boost of confidence

Being shy in the bedroom can sometimes feel like you're just plain boring; even if you have an amazing imagination, you are too reserved to share. Here are some tips on how to spice things up, and how not to feel like you're putting yourself out there to get embarrassed and let down.

BDSM 101 — Finding a Partner Part 1

One of the common things I see people asking about is where they can find a kinky partner. People say that "it is really hard and difficult to find someone who is into the same things" as they are. So, in today’s article we are going to discuss some of the common places where you can find a partner who has similar interests as you.

Domestic Violence: The story of my mom and I

My mother had me at a young age, and my father was a deadbeat who thought he was going to be a rockstar. When my mom finally worked up the courage to walk away, she met "Jeff" and entered into a whole new nightmare.

My Journey into a BDSM Community

How to articles are great to read, but here is the story of what I encountered as I was taking my first steps into a local BDSM or kink community. Hopefully it will lend a bit of insight into what you can expect.

College Sex Revisited

A while back, I wrote an article about sex during times of stress in college. As I come to the end of one of my busiest years of college, I have a little bit more to say.

Understanding Love

"Love conquers all." Its a phrase that we have all heard one way or another. Even our favorite fairy tales give us all the idea that love is perfect, flawless, and everlasting. Yet, reality can be a bit more shocking. By understanding basic concepts of how relationships work, known as "The Family Systems Theory," we all can make sense of our relationship histories and make choices that will lead to a more satisfying, intimate relationship with the ones we love.

Affair: In Cheating, Everyone is Cheated

It is my opinion that when someone cheats, everyone involved is cheated. When you cheat, you're cheating yourself, as well as your partner from the full relationship you deserve. When you cheat, you're creating an environment in your life that's not conductive to a healthy life. You're losing opportunities, and playing emotions. It isn't fair to anyone, but it also isn't fair to you. In the end, everyone is going to get hurt. When you play with fire, everyone gets burned.

Please Pass The Salt

Life brings about inevitable change. No matter how much we detest it, it doesn't matter. People change, situations change, and feelings change. No good relationship isn't without its own set of issues. A perfect relationship doesn't exist, but there's a lot you can do to reintroduce some seasoning to your bland intimacy.

The Thoughtless Kind

It is surprisingly easy to go through life without ever realizing that something is seriously out of alignment and relationships often top the bill. A cautionary tale for everyone who assumes that things are just perfect.

BDSM 101-- Advanced Predicament Play

Today we will talk about more advanced predicament play scenarios. Most of these require some additional equipment, planning and set up, but you will be rewarded with complex and interesting scenarios.

BDSM 101--Predicament Bondage

Today we talk about what predicament bondage is and I will share some example scenarios that you can place your sub in.

Buying Nipple Clamps

Today we look at nipple clamps. What are the differences between the styles? How does the intensity between them change? And what other features do clamps have?

BDSM 101 –Collaring

Today, we look at collars, and the value and meaning that they have to many individuals.

BDSM 101 –Learning to Hit Your Partner Part 2

In part 1 of learning to hit your partner, I discussed how you mentally prepare for some impact play if you are uncomfortable with it. Today, I want to talk about some strategies about actually implementing it.

BDSM 101 – Learning to Hit Your Partner

The act of learning to hit your partner, when they ask for it, can be difficult for some people. This article helps explain why someone might enjoy it, and how you can learn to be okay with fulfilling your partner's sexual desires.

A Shy Woman's Tips For Initiating Sex

Are you horny, but a bit uneasy with flat-out asking your man for sex? Then check out these tips.

BDSM 101 – Negotiating Limits

Today we discuss what are limits, why should I talk to my partner about limits, what is the difference between a soft and hard limit, and what are some ways you can discuss your limits.

BDSM 101-- Safewords

Today we are going to discuss what is a safeword, do I need a safeword, and how do I used a safeword. This will in turn allow you have better and more fun role playing sessions with your partner.

Busting Yourself Out of the Restraints

One of the earliest pieces of advice we get in life—whether from our parents, teachers, books or even a sappy sitcom or crappily animated cartoon show—is that “you should be yourself.” It’s an excellent piece of self-affirmation. It’s true. It’s powerful…it’s also often bullcrap.

BDSM 101 – Pegging

Today we will talk about pegging. We will discuss: what it is, how to go about doing it, why people do it, and the different toys you can use for it.

The Anatomy of a Dry Spell

The anatomy of a dry spell, and why you and everyone else's outlooks need to change.

BDSM 101 -- Gags

BDSM play often involves a lot of toys, and deciding on the one that suits you best can be difficult. This article focuses on why people use gags, what the different types are, and how to safely use them.

Don't Tell Me What to Do

Freedom from possession, jealousy, and control by my partners is a really important part of my relationships. I value my personal independence in making decisions about my body, finances, and life, even down to what I wear.

Woman's Magazines: The Modern Man's Guide to Women

Attention Men Listen Closely: If you really want to know what women want, read what she reads. Women's magazines are a great way to get insight into the female mind.

Reclaiming Independence

Independence can be very difficult to get back once you've lost it, but finding yourself again is worth every bit of effort.

Girls and strip clubs.

Many guys think that strip clubs are just for men, and that is very untrue. There are strip clubs for women, as well, and here is the interesting part: some women enjoy going to a strip club with their partners and buying them a dance.

Girls v. Grown Women

Many people say that girls are less mature than grown women and that grown women have better relationships. But who defines maturity here? Is maturity the only factor in a relationship's success/failure?

Independence or Co-dependence?

How important is independence in a relationship?

Conventions may be the right dating spot for you!

Let’s face it: getting into the dating game sucks, and sometimes you just don’t feel like letting people set you up. Sometimes you’re looking for a more meaningful connection, but dating websites don’t appeal to you, and you don’t quite feel desperate enough to post to the personals section. What can you do? Well, you may have not considered it, but if you enjoy going to anime and comic book conventions, you might be surprised to learn that they are great places to meet new people!

Single vs. Involved

The grass isn't always greener, whichever side of the fence you are on, though it often may appear it is. It's all a matter of perspective.

Long-Distance Relationships and How to Make Them A Little Bit Easier

Long-distance relationships are always difficult. Without any sort of physical contact, it can be easy to feel lonely, no matter how often you and your partner communicate. However, there are many things you can do to feel a little bit closer to your significant other, even when he/she is hundreds of miles away.

Get it While It's Hot: The Romantics of Cooking

There's very little more attractive to me than cooking a meal with my man. And we don’t even have to be naked to do it! Here are a few reasons why I get hot from a hot meal.

Fantasy and Reality

Many of us fantasize about a certain person, sexual activity or anything that makes us get turned on. But is fantasy the same as reality?

How to Spice up Your Sexual Life

Many couples suffer from a lack of sexual interest in one another over time, causing sex to become less appealing and exciting. This is natural, but it doesn't mean that you can't fix it.

Girls and Porn

Every guy has at least seen one porn movie in his life, but many argue that women don't watch or enjoy porn. That's total BS! Here's why:

No Ruts Allowed: Tried and True Tips for Unlilting Passion

Has your sex life succumbed to the dreaded 3-letter word: Rut? Here are some tips to help keep your relationship in a permanent honeymoon phase!

Valentine's Day Can't Beat Spontaneity

Valentine’s Day is just never as good as any other day my partner and I spend together, which is part of the reason I have never celebrated it. Each of my partners over the years have asked me, “So what do you want to do for Valentine’s Day?” and I’ve never known what to say. I ask them what they want to do, to turn it on them. If they seem really excited about it, I’ll go forth with whatever they want to do. I personally don’t care about Valentine’s Day unless my partner does.

Valentine's thoughts

Valentine's Day: Love it or hate it? Read on to see how my opinion has changed over time!

I am a Sister Wife

I am a sister wife, and here is the why and how!

Tired of Sex? Try Having It

More and more married couples are falling into sexless ruts in recent years, but it doesn't have to be that way.

Sometimes Father Does Know Best

Although I am not great at writing I decided to put my story out there because I hear so many people complaining about their parents setting them up on dates. I want to show everyone that sometimes it can be a good thing, too!

The Trials of a Long Distance Relationship

Long distance relationships can be insanely difficult. Without constant interaction in person, you can easily come across a variety of issues. However, it can be done. Let me show you how!

The Process Of Understanding

I know that most people look at a new and different relationship style that seems to be functional and wonder how on Earth this began. I will attempt to answer that question as fully as I can.

Mutual Masturbation is a wicked alternative to going "all the way"

Looking for something new to do in bed? With a new partner and not ready to do the penetration route just yet? Having trouble figuring out exactly how your lover likes it? A bit of an exhibitionist or voyeur? Mutual masturbation may be new to some people, but it can be one of the hottest, simplest acts for both foreplay or the main attraction.

A Beginner's Guide to Online Dating

I have done my share of blind dates and internet dating over the past 20 years on and off. I am happily taken now and thought I would share some of what I learned. I've tried most of the popular sites and some off the beaten path too with mixed results. There have been disasters, some great successes, and everything in between, but I'd say the good experiences definitely outweighed the bad. You just have to use a little common sense, have tons of patience, and be true to yourself.

The Highs and Lows of it

Most nights when the lights go off, there is that moment where sex is a possibility before drifting off to sleep. My heart races and I can feel the blood rushing to my lady bits in a wonderful wave. As my fingers wander around her skin, hoping to catch something, there's always the thought in the back of my head "Will this happen tonight?"

Daddy Issues: What Do You Do When Daddy Leaves You?

I know plenty of people that have had issues with their father growing up. And, when they grew up to be an adult, a lot of their issues-including their love life were said to be the result of having an absent father. While I do believe a "dead beat" parent can certainly have an effect on your psyche, I do not believe that you cannot shape yourself to be a better you from it.

Marriage and Divorce: My Perspective on Commitments

Recently, I was involved in a heated argument with a friend who misquoted me about divorce. Specifically, he implied that my acceptance of divorce meant that I didn’t know the true value of commitment. So, to clarify my feelings on the topic, I am expressing my opinions on commitment, marriage, and divorce.

My Story: Recognizing and Preventing Rape

This a bit heavy for a first article, but as someone who has been a victim, rape is a serious issue that men and women need to stay informed about. I admire the magazine Cosmopolitan for making a monthly article about the issue of campus rape and actually doing something to raise awareness of the problem. In this article you will learn about my experience and ways to be aware and safe.

Old-Fashioned Dating Etiquette for Modern Times

Some say that chivalry is dead, but perhaps its rules have just evolved so that we can use them easily in today's world. Old-fashion dating etiquette can still hold up in modern times, even though our lifestyles and culture have changed.

Stuck in the Friend Zone

The idea of the "friend zone", at least the way many men use it, is one of the most subtly misogynistic relationship concepts we have. Here's why.

My Journey to Submissive Bliss

This is my journey in submission and finding who I really am. Self-discovery can be a long, hard road with many bumps along the way. How do you tell your partner that you desire more in your relationship? Is it hopeless if you are married vanilla?

Our Agreement or How I Learned to Stop Stressing and Enjoy Sex Again

My fiancé and I have an agreement about sex. Our agreement is that we will not engage in sex of any kind unless I am the one who initiates it. I know, it sounds a little bit strange, doesn’t it? Maybe even a little bit draconian? I thought so too at first, but this agreement has changed not only our sex life, but our relationship as whole for the better. But maybe I should back up a bit and start from the beginning.

The Tale of the Survivor

Survivors of sexual assault are people made sensitive by not only the attack but also by the treatment they receive from society.

Rights Given or Taken?

We as a society mostly agree that once a child is born, the father has some sort of parental rights and responsibilities, barring any sort of extenuating circumstances. But what about before birth? Does he have any sort of say? Should he?

Losing innocence while gaining perspective.

I was young, impressionable and I just really didn't wanna be the last virgin in a group of supposed Sex Goddesses (my friends).

Cis People, Read This If You Plan on Dating Someone Who Is Trans* or Queer

Are you cis and dating or considering dating a person who is trans* or queer and you're not sure how to handle the relationship? Even if you don't feel very sure, being in a relationship with someone who's trans* or queer can be a pretty complicated thing, because they may actively question things you otherwise don't. So read on, even if you're feeling confident that you can handle the relationship, because trust me, even if you think you know it all, you don't!

Ho, Ho, Hoe?

Opening a sex toy you purchased can feel exciting and decadent; opening a sex toy gift can make you feel wanted, wanton, and maybe a little dirty...

Online Dating: The Cyber Search For Real World Love

Learn a little bit about online dating and see if it might be right for you!

The First Time [With a Man] (AKA I Was Young and Stupid)

I always imagined my first time being special. I never expected it to be like this...

Breastfeed Your Man

Would you breastfeed your man? Breast milk is extremely nutritious. There are many couples who enjoy an adult breastfeeding relationship everyday. Between adults, it can be a very rewarding, pleasurable, and intimate act.

The Juvenile Long-Haulers: What Young Love Can Be.

To many, college is a time of exploration- but how do you fit that into a long-term, completely monogamous relationship? People tend to assume that "young love" is frivolous, romantic fun, but can't it be real? Let this introductory story warm your heart and remind you of the love that you feel for your honey.

SexIs Subjective: Careful Who You Give To! (And Have Fun!)

Be careful how you gift people with sexy gifts. Overall, though: Do it! Gift your partner with something sexy! You BE that sexy Santa!

SexIs Subjective: ‘Tis a gift...and ‘tis the person

Think twice before you wrap that Fleshlight! Reasons you might want to reconsider giving someone that particular gift.

The Singletonian’s guide to a happy “Nude Year”

When the new year hits, some of us will be watching the ball drop in Singleton. For us permanent residents, that's just the right place to be. Here are one Singletonian's resolutions for a happy, healthy, and sexy new year.

Making Marriage Work

Many marriages that end in divorce can be saved by ultimately targeting any issues the union may have and making a strong effort to openly communicate with their partners. Some marriages are irreparable but there are some that require a bit of TLC. So here is some advice on having a better relationship with your spouse and overall benefiting the relationship.

The Science of Love and Heartbreak

Ever wonder why you fall in love? Why it doesn't last? What you can do about it?

Clearing the Hurdles: Our Struggle to Conceive a Child (Part Two)

We have battled with ourselves, blaming everything from the types of lube we use, the possibility I have a low sperm count, straight down to the positions we use during sex. However in the end, the answer was still not clear. To put it simply, we are caught in the middle of a steeplechase of unknowns. All we can hope for is to clear these hurdles along the way.

BDSM 101: Pick Your Label

When it comes to D/s relationships, there are so many labels that it can get a little confusing. Here is a guide with a basic explanation of some of the more common labels.

Pushing Sexual Boundaries: When the Lines get Blurred

If there is one thing that has been blurred for me, it would have to be boundaries. When does something stop being itself, and transform into something completely opposite? In my love life, sex has become one of those things.

The Tale Of "Tara" Or How I Survived 3 Years With A Violent Girlfriend "Part Four" THE END

A year later and things were looking up. We were engaged, I was saving up money for the honeymoon in Vegas, we were looking at houses and planning on having a child. Things were really picture perfect. Despite a few minor shouting matches, I seriously thought we had this beat. On the other end, I alienated myself from my friends. I spent every waking hour with “Tara." She became my world. She was my everything. It would take a a lot to snap me out of it.

The Tale Of "Tara" Or How I Survived 3 Years With A Violent Girlfriend "Part Three"

The road I was on was looking bleak. I couldn't turn back, I could not give up on her. No matter what my friends had to say, I would stick by her side. Thick or thin, I had a point to prove. No matter how stupid it seemed to anyone else. I would make this relationship work, even if it killed me.

SexIs Subjective: Stockings For The Naughty List, A Lump Of Coal Or...

You do not want to be on the naughty list at Christmas...or do you? This can be a good time of year for:
~Lovely, sensual surprises!
~A fun, sexy and practical way to introduce a few toys to your partner!
~Starting a new tradition!

You, Your Partner, and Your Kink

To nuzzle is one thing, but what if you need to tell your partner you prefer a bite? Or handcuffs? Will they accept it, or will they run far away?

How to Deal With a Family Who Disapproves of Your Spouse

While it is important to listen to what your loved ones have to say about your spouse, it’s also important for them to recognize and be respectful of your partner. The Holidays tend to arrive with enough stress and, when we’re spending time with family, we’re often reminded of the saying that "in-laws never get along." I have tips on how to handle situations, between your spouse and family for the upcoming Holidays, and not only that, but I have a back-up plan, just in case other plans fail!

Labels: Good or bad?

I've recently been in a relationship that has been more than difficult. The constant ups and downs were overly taxing and we decided to end it and be friends. But now we are still "seeing" each other without the label and things are better than ever. So my question is, can the label of a relationship ruin a relationship?

The Tale Of "Tara" Or How I Survived 3 Years With A Violent Girlfriend "Part Two"

"Tara" had become my project. My goal in life. To show the rest of the world around us that a person could be changed for the better through the power of love. She would see how much I cared and loved her, simply by me not giving up on her. Surely it would work. I just had to stay by her side no matter how many trips to the ER it took.

My Discovery Of The Big "O"

"Oh! I give up trying to achieve orgasm it is too much work!" "My health problems are the reason I cannot achieve orgasm so I am a helpless cause!" "I am to busy to think of sex right now!" Do these sound like you? Do you want answers? I did too. This is how I began my search for the big "O".

The Naughty Stocking

So it's the holiday season, a time of peace, love and joy, right? Or are you more like me, frantically shopping to get everyone on your list done, trying to pacify all the relatives and feeling like your love life goes on the back burner? Here's what I'm doing this year to make sure that doesn't happen.

The Tale Of "Tara" Or How I Survived 3 Years With A Violent Girlfriend Part One

For three years I was in a violent relationship. The biggest struggle with it all wasn't the abuse, but rather explaining my situation to family and friends. No one could believe that a 5' 2” 120 pound girl could do that much damage to a 6' 4” 190 pound man. It wasn't until the 3rd visit to the ER that my “awaking” happened. It was then that I realized that even men can be victims of abuse. Mental and physical, and I didn't need to take it anymore!

Bringing a Fantasy to Life

Each month, SexIs Social asks us to look at different topics. This month's focus is "Wish Lists" and this week is specifically about "Fantasy." We all have that favorite fantasy that we return to, I know I certainly do. One of my favorite repeat fantasies has helped me expand my own sex life.

He's perfect but I'm just not into him.

When you settle for the paper perfect person

How crabs saved my life. Well...sort of.

The best thing about being young and sexually active is that sooner or later you might just stumble across an STD or two. If you're lucky, you may escape some of the very major ones we all know are out there, so please play it safe. With that said, even if you do get an STD, sometimes, and very rarely now...they can help fix the path you're on.

SexIs subjective: Toy presents??

Are they accepted? or not...

How My Husband Made Me Sexy!

He's my husband and from the moment I met him he claimed he saw something special in me; something I couldn't see. He has spent many years patiently teaching me to see myself as he sees me, and this is how it all began.

I pondered, do most women know if they like cunnilingus?

Thoughts from myself and other men and women on the joys or lack thereof of women receiving oral sex.

If At First You Don't Succeed...

Becoming intimate with anyone is a process. You're two different people with one common goal: sharing closeness.

Here's What Not To Do.

It seems as though sex and rocket science are on the same level of complexity. Yes it is fun, pleasurable, and exciting but without the right knowledge it could also be tricky. To avoid awkward silence and enjoy sex to the fullest, here is what NOT to say and do in the bedroom.

How Has Your Spouse Changed You?

This month's theme here at SexIs Social is sexual freedom. We are free to express ourselves sexually, but we are all influenced by different people. When it comes to sex, your spouse or significant other can definitely play an influential and large role in your sexual life and identity.

Getting what you really want out of sex.

I know a lot of couples who have fallen into the boring sex life routine, I was one of them! Finding your way out can be a hard road, but it can be done!

Mental Abuse is Abuse, too! - My Story

When people think of "Abuse," they usually think of physical abuse, such as beating. Physical abuse is common and dangerous. Many men, women and children are beaten and injured, and a large amount are losing their lives. These are the cases we hear about. We wonder, "Why won't they leave?" and tell ourselves that we'll never be in that situation. People think that's the only type of abuse. If they aren't hitting me then they aren't abusing me, right? Wrong. Mental abuse is abuse, too.

Balancing sex and family...Or how my mother-in-law came to hate me.

This is the story of the girl who traveled four hours to stay at her boyfriend’s parents’ house after dating him for just around a month and how after two weeks of nonstop sex, succeeded in making the aforementioned parents despise her. So if you’re looking for tips on how to ensure you leave your significant other’s house with more than a little condemnation, you’re in the right place!

Coming Out, Letting Out

There are reasons to put things in bottles. Really, there are. But usually, we're talking about something to drink, or a message to send out on the waves and tides, or multicolored layers of sand to make a pretty decoration for a child's room.

The Shaky Bridge Experiment and How It Relates to Your Life

If you've ever wondered "What did I ever see in him/her?" this might be the answer.

Sticks & Stones May Break My Bones, But Words Will Never Hurt Me....Or Will They?

We all grew up with this schoolyard saying, using it in defense when others would say something that hurt us or called us names. How accurate was that little saying and has it played a part in society's lack of acknowledgement of mental and verbal abuse? As an adult, do you know the signs and the result of mental abuse? Are you an abuser, either intentionally or accidentally?

A Relationship Based On Cheating: Deal Breaker or Not?

This story is far from typical, it does have cheating spouses, betrayal, triumph and wrenching decisions. It also has a huge twist... and a unique perspective. This is the other woman's story and its ending- well, I will let you read it for yourself.

Make sex a priority this year...

If the intimacy in your relationship is seemingly absent then it may time to take the initiative and reignite that spark.

Anxiety and Submission

How being a submissive Daddy’s little girl has helped me work on my anxiety.

I Am a Woman Who Has No "Window"

As I get older, I find that more and more women are disinterested in sex. I however, have the opposite issue.

Defeating Succorbenoth- The Demon Of Jealousy

We agonize over it, we hide from it, we even build walls and defenses against it, but the only time we ever defeat this bastard emotion is when we turn and face it. You cannot fight what you refuse to see.

Out of Lies, Truth

Is it possible that out of all the lies I told to pursue an extramarital affair, truth was revealed?

Unusual Fetishes

If you have a fetish that seems weird or unusual, I feel your pain. Read on to see how I integrate cannibalism, alien abductions, and incest into my everyday life.

BDSM 101: Safe, Sane and Consensual

SSC is probably the most common principle followed in regards to safety in the BDSM "world."

Nothing's Cozier Than a Web of Lies.

The story of how revealing your love to the world made everything perfect forever is popular. What about all the other times though? What about when the truth makes everything worse and perpetuating a web of lies would have made everyone happier?

Communication Methods & Steps To Avoid Anger

After writing an article on communicating your feelings via a game with your spouse, I'm on a roll! I had so much more to add, that I went ahead here to share my own learning experiences, how I've managed to change my ways and how we found a little more peace during conflict.

BFF - Pinky Promise

I may have different types of friends, but they all have something unique about them. Each person, kinky or not, has something to offer. It's up to me to open up and be myself with everyone I love and trust.

Sex workers speak out ~ The Beginning of Becki LeBeau

There are many different sectors of the sex industry. In those sectors there are many different faces. And each of those faces belong to a real person, with a real story. Here is one of them.

The Man Who Told Me He Hated Me

I spent almost two years of my life in a relationship with a man who told me that he hated he hated me often, explicitly detailing what a horrible person I was and how I had ruined him. This is my story, how I got out, and what you can watch out for (for yourself and your friends) to avoid the same thing.

Long distance and D/s relationships

Long distance and D/s... it's like someone went looking for a complicated style of relationship to be a part of. But with the right emphasis on communication and patience with common issues, they can be a breeze.

Long Distance: Keeping Passion Alive

When you're in a long distance relationship, it might be difficult to keep the passion in the relationship, but it can be done when you are willing to work hard.

Sharing is Caring

You talk to your friends about a lot of things, is sex one of the topics? And how much of your sex life do you discuss with them? I'm still trying to figure out how much to talk about with my friends, but I want to figure it out.

Nice Guys Finish Last: A Young Man's Perspective

Here I will take a humorous outlook on this myth, what I've seen it do, and why it sucks.

Group Sex For Monogamous Couples: The Devil Is In The Details

When my wife and I were offered a foursome by a couple of very close friends, it brought up more questions than I ever thought possible

Do you want a Daddy?

A lot of people seem to be kind of "grossed out" by the thought. There's definitely a taboo around calling your partner Daddy. If you're someone who wants a Daddy Dom and little style dynamic, this can make it hard to tell your partner about wanting this. But it doesn't have to be hard.

Forget Time Outs And Counting To Ten, Here's How We Fight

Being with my partner for six years does not make me an expert, by far, but I've learned many useful ways to communicate during a mini upset, an argument and a full-on fight. I've been able to make big changes in the ways I was programmed to communicate my anger and sadness. So I want to share what works for us during the light situations and the heated, angry ones too. Maybe these will be of help to you.

Love Is in the Air

Sometimes love is in the air – literally. Long distance relationships always existed, but with our accelerating world, those distances can stretch out to thousands of miles, and all that connects the lovers is the net or a few telephone calls. Some relationship wilt under such duress, and some live through it to flourish. But what is the secret to that?

Sex Feed: Teenage abstinence might be related to happiness

If you lost your virginity later in life, you may have a better shot at a successful relationship.

Makin' A Baby

We all know that sex has another purpose other than just being fun. But what happens when you decide to start trying to get pregnant instead of avoiding it?

You were jealous!

My boyfriend thought I was obsessed with a sex site until he saw the benefits that EdenFantasys brought into our bedroom. I had to reel him in with lingerie before I introduced a sex toy. The toy of my dreams became his nightmare. At first, he liked it, but then he decided that I was addicted to it! It was a shock to me that not all men enjoy the idea of having an extra tool in the bedroom.

Collars and Pets OH MY!

I recently spoke with a friend of mine who was having trouble with her "Owner." She's a pet, an actual pet, a Nekko, as it is standard to be called. However, when her Owner started dating a new woman, things around her house changed rather quickly. The relationship that they had has degraded.

Roleplaying as a Way to Discovery

Roleplaying is a healthy and exciting way to explore new avenues in your sexuality. Once you get used to being someone different you can have all sorts of fun and explore your desires in a safe environment.

Women United

I can't believe she wore that! Look at her, she is too fat! She is too thin! Blah! Blah! Blah!

The Invasion of the Body Snatchers

Close your eyes and imagine this: you are standing in front of the mirror expecting to see this perfect figure, but instead you see this strange figure standing in front of you. This person is the opposite of how you imagined yourself to look. Now if you open your eyes you see yourself. It must be nice to be the person you knew in your mind you were all along. Note that 3% of the world’s population is not that lucky.

Love without boundaries

A guide to dating a trans man

Preventable Damage

In every relationship there are a few must-have qualities that both partners must possess in order for the relationship to thrive. These qualities vary by couple and everyone has their own interpretations of each. Still, one of the few universally necessary qualities is being honest and trustworthy.

The How To Guide to Lesbianism

To avoid confusion, questionable Google searches, and to manage the minefield of other people's questions.

Sleeping With Transboys: A brief how-to on sex with transboys

So you've got this new boyfriend, and he's a transman! Or maybe you've just always wanted to hook up with one? What do you do when it comes to sex without offending him? What's going on in his pants? Check this out before you jump in bed!

The Social Lover: Your Guide To Having More Communicative Sex

Your partner spanked you for the first time the other night and you loved it, but now they ask you how far you want to take things— You struggle with your response.

Opening Up (Or Newer Can Definitely Be Better)

How open-minded are you in the bedroom? One of the Community Choice topics this month deals with how open-minded you are. Being open-minded is a good thing, though not every new thing you try will always be successful. But some of these new things can really add a certain spice to the bedroom.

Cum, Jizz, Semen, Whatever

A plea on behalf of those of us who ejaculate semen to all those who don't: Please don't make us feel as if there's something wrong about the way our bodies orgasm.

Sex Feed: Former Bengals cheerleader turned teacher pleads guilty to sex with student

She left court holding the young student’s hand.

Sex and Depression

Over my time, I've heard a lot of people talking about how sex and help when you are depressed. Being one who like sex and hates feeling depressed, this very much intrigued me and I wanted to find out more. How does depression affect one's sex life? How could sex possibly help one's depression? Is it all really that simple? So, I decided to start some research and find my answers.

The Triumph Of A Human Punching Bag.

Have you ever watched someone practicing their punching and speed on a small punching bag that is dangling on a chain hanging from the ceiling? The little bag flying back and forth, never veering from its path as it goes back time after time for another punch? Have you ever wondered what would happen if only one time that little punching bag veered off course and actually fought back? Once upon a time I was a little punching bag, and I veered off course and fought back. This is my story...

Depression and its affect on the partner

Depression does not just decrease sexuality, sometimes it can increase it. I will tell you about my personal experience with hypersexuality and how my partner was affected.

Hiding Behind A Mask For The Freedom To Experiment.

What to do when you are a shy exhibitionist with a lot to lose? When you want to be watched--but not recognized? When you want to watch and play, but fear the risk of exposure? What is the one thing that can give you the freedom to release your inhibitions and let it all go?

Putting It In Drive

People don't have the same sex drive. Some have extremely high ones, some not so much. A Community Choice topic this month is what do you do when your partner's sex drive doesn't match up with your own. I'm here to talk about a relationship with two different speeds as far as sex drives go.

Shut Up and Kiss Me

I have undeniable sexual chemistry with my boyfriend. We can’t lay next to each other without going at it like bunnies. I never want to lose that, but sometimes I just want to enjoy kissing without worrying about what happens next.

Take a Dance With Chance

Sometimes taking a leap of faith and just allowing things to happen can be a scary thing. Let's face it, the unknown is scary, but we live every day facing the endless possibilities. So why are we so afraid to knowingly take a dance with chance?

Sometimes Adam, Sometimes Eve

I'm married to a man...and a woman. No, I'm not a member of a religion that believes in multiple marriages. Nor am I in a polyamorous relationship. My spouse is bigender, both male and female in one body.

Why Not Let Everyone Be Happy?

I’m going to talk about the equality in the marriage field. I only have one question, Why not let everyone be happy? Nobody runs to a happily married straight family and says, “Hey please don’t kiss in front of me or my kids, it makes me uncomfortable.” So why do we feel the right to tell homosexual couples this exact sentence? I don’t think that is right in my opinion.

Admitting It's Not All About You

Sex is a very personal thing and sometimes we get caught up in our own pleasure. While you may think you're entirely giving in bed, there are still ways to open up and consider your partner more, which in turn will help draw you closer.

Sex Toys: How Do You Introduce Them to a Partner?

It can be difficult to introduce toys into a new relationship. What if your partner isn’t open to the idea? What if it freaks them out? Will you have to choose between them and toys?

Dealing With A Non-Affectionate Partner

As a very physically affectionate person, being in a relationship with someone who isn't was a new thing for me! Here's some tips on how I dealt with it.

How to court a poly person

Pursuing a poly person is different from pursuing a single monogamous individual. There are more people involved than just the two of you that are going to impact whether you are successful or not. Here are some pointers about how to approach things.

My Dear Kira

Back when I was in high school I got to a point where I said, "Screw boys, I'm batting for the other team!" That's when I met Kira, an absolutely gorgeous 18 year old girl who was into girls. Kira was the girl that got me to see other girls in a whole different way.

Advice you should NOT take from your mother!

When it comes to dating, many people take their parent's advice into consideration. I was not one of them, because my mother's advice was horrible.

Staying Married For The Kids

When is divorce the best option?

Role-Playing – probably not the kind you’re thinking.

Plenty of couples have tried their hand at role-playing – anything from a sexy nurse to a police officer. But have you ever tried acting as a specific character? Don’t laugh yet – it can be a lot more fun than you think!

Do YOU think it's better?

Love is an amazing thing. For such a short word, it packs an incredible meaning which differs from person to person. I don't believe two people in the whole world define the word in the same way. It produces the most amazing highs and the most rock bottom lows. Love is a verb. Love is a battlefield. Love is patient. Love is blind. What is love? And is it truly better to to have loved and lost, or to never experience it at all?

Submissive Journals: The Benefits Of Having Your Sub Keep A Daily Journal

In one of my previous articles, I briefly talked about having a sub journal. I've decided to expand on the subject a bit more, since I received some questions. This is part one of a two part series. In this section, I will focus on why journals are important and also address some common ways they are used. Part two will be a how to guide on writing, and some helpful tips and tricks I've learned.

Learning To Love Me

Never thought I was good enough. Never thought anyone would care about me, let alone love me.

Kink From Afar: Dealing With Long Distance In A BDSM Relationship.

We all know that long distance relationships are hard, but what if you add BDSM into the mix? Both BDSM and long distance relationships require a lot of work to maintain just by themselves. If you happen to combine the two, you're in for a wild ride! How to keep the kink alive when you're apart.

Stepping Out Of Our Boxes To Live a Life Without Regret

After a very rocky childhood with a mother that told me I was not pretty and that I wrecked her life, one controlling marriage, two marriages total, two kids, jobs, and oh wait, did I mention I almost died? A diagnosis that stopped it all, a life changing job, and one murder.

It's Not Easy Being Green

Jealousy. We've all experienced it and it can do permanent harm to a relationship. How do you handle jealousy like an adult and keep it from harming your relationship?

Looking to try something new? It's not as scary as you think.

Many think about trying new things in the bedroom, especially with the 50 Shades of Grey craze going on throughout the country right now. It's time to stop being afraid of what might be too weird or freaky and give it a shot! Easing into new territory might not be as hard as you're imagining.

Why Can't We Be Friends?

Breakups are hard, there's no doubt about that. But when you end it with someone or they end it with you, then why can't a friendship blossom from the ashes?

Strip Teaser - The Art of Ultra Sexy Exotic Dance at Home

Dare to experience something new in your love life? Surprise your lover with a sexy striptease at home!

The Seven Stages Of Breaking Up

Every relationship goes through its ups and downs. There are always compromises to be made and ways to advance further into a deeper state of intimacy and togetherness with your partner. However, there are some times when no matter how many compromises you make or how hard you try, it just isn't working. Ending a relationship is probably one of the most difficult things to do, especially when you're married or have children together; trust me, I would know.

Cuffs, Paddles and Safewords, Oh My! Or Beginner BDSM!

BDSM seems to be on everyone's lips these days since a certain book became so popular. It seems that even some of the most quiet of people I have spoken with seem infatuated with giving it a try. So I thought why not impart some of the basics that everyone should know.

Blowjob Tips!

This is just a quick little guide along with some tips for how to get better at giving blowjobs, based on personal experience.

Variety Is the Spice of Life

Trying new things can be scary, and so some people stay in their comfort zone. But trying new things, especially in the bedroom, can be a lot of fun. By carefully and thoughtfully introducing things to your lover, the sky is the limit when it comes to fun in the bedroom.

Out of the Bi Label, Into the Pan Fire

I always bristle at the word “confused,” used to describe a sexual orientation that’s not straight, not lesbian and not gay. I’m sexually attracted to men, and I’m sexually attracted to women. I know this from a rich variety of sexual experiences that were and are pleasurable, memorable, endearing, funny and occasionally tragic, but never confusing.

Mysteries of the Male Ejaculate: A Matter of Taste

There is so much that goes unasked and unspoken between a man and woman. Since orgasms really begin and end in the mind and so much of sex is psychological, understanding each other's sexual needs, wants, fantasies and expectations can be a wonderful turn-on, and create a deeply passionate connection.

Coming Out Of My Cocoon!

Before I made my way to EdenFantasys, my sex life was not something I talked about. I have really come out of my cocoon and have learned so much, not only about myself but about my husband and best friend as well.

Making Noise

Who doesn’t like positive feedback? I mean, when you are working hard, it’s really nice to know that you are making a good impression. For some, it is hard to vocalize their enjoyment. I have oscillated from being a talker, moaner, and silent companion depending on what my relationships are like. I have found that the more feedback I give and receive; the better the sex is for everyone.

Fun with Blow Jobs

Check out this article for some fun tips to stimulate your partner during oral sex.

On Dominance and Drudgery

When we think of words like “slavery” and “submission,” the immediate connotations are so often unpleasant. As a Black American, descended from human beings who were enslaved, bought and sold and dehumanized for generations, it took me years to come to terms with my own desire for submission, with my own capacity to eroticize submission to the will of another.

Talk Dirty To Me Baby

Dirty talk, it isn't just for porn is it? Have you ever been in a public place and gotten totally turned on by something your lover whispered in your ear? Or gone nuts when they cried out something in bed? If not, then we need to have a talk.

Real Men Eat Pussy—and Kiss Ass

I don't believe that all things must be equal in a sexual relationship—few things in life in general, much less in any kind of human relationship, are truly equal. We all have ways in which we intentionally or unintentionally get over on someone else or receive more than another person in the course of human dynamics.

When "Doing Your Wifely Duties" Becomes a Chore

When I first discovered EdenFantasys, I hadn’t read or even heard of the 50 Shades of Gray series. Now seven months after placing my first order, who would ever imagine I would be living my own series; that my whole sexual being would be change.

My Favorite Outdoor Location

I’ve recently rediscovered the fun from having sex outdoors can be. When I was a teenager, this was an ordinary occurrence, but as I grew older and became married sneaking around like a couple teenagers wasn’t a necessity anymore.

Fantasy Land

As the parent of a toddler, the greatest place on Earth right now for him seems to be the Magic Kingdom. While researching a trip to the so called “Happiest place on Earth” I started thinking about the name for one part within the theme park, Fantasy Land.

The Poly Male, or Rational Polyamory

How do two men share a woman without killing each other? It's much more about respect, and love, and less about animalistic furry and marking of territory. I want to explain how my friend and I share a woman without murdering each other.

Submission in a few of its forms.

There are as many ways to submit as there are people in the world submitting, but there are a few different ways that these get lumped together.

What's the Content of your Intent?

When I speak about BDSM practices, one of my core assertions about the difference between consensual kink and abuse is intent. The person who verbally humiliates their partner to gain control and erode the self-esteem of the other, or the spouse who beats and harms their significant other, using violence as a means to destroy, is different from the kinkster, pervert or Leatherperson in one central, pivotal way. And that is intent.

Your favorite movie can be a great sex enhancer.

How can an action movie get you some action?

Avoiding the Fire

Oftentimes people will refer to their love or sex life as being “on fire”. I’ve used this same saying when describing an out of control fight.

Why fetishes are a good thing

In today's society, fetishes have a very negative connotation. On a very special episode of "rants by Mine Fujiko," we discuss why fetishes can actually benefit people.

Intro to Rough Sex

Ever wonder why the phrase "fuck me like you hate me" is so popular? Recently, rough sex and bondage have been explored by many couples and for good reasons.

A New Awakening: The introduction & acceptance of porn in my relationship.

Have you ever had an epitome? One that has changed your outlook on a very minor area of your life and then turned it into a major part of your relationship? A realization so profound that it changed your sexual relationship with your partner?

Spicing Up Our Sex Life

July 19th 2012 is my husband and I ninth wedding anniversary and thirteenth year we have been together. In this time we have experienced many different things together. We have found jobs and quit them to do something different, had two children, went back to school, I became a stay at home parent, lost family members, but through it all we have stuck by each other and helped each other through whatever we may be experiencing at the time.

Our Lazy Afternoon

During a lazy afternoon in, my boyfriend and I figured out a new way to make each other feel good.

It's Not Just About Sex

For the Guys: How touching your favorite spots on her can be her new favorite thing.

My story about my first love affair.

Ever fall in love with both a female and a male? Well Julissa did and now she doesn't know what to do.

How many Wrongs does it take for me to find Mr. Right?

The touch of his body next to mine makes me feel safe. When he kisses me, I close my eyes and my mind floats away. He fixes his mouth to say "I love you" and my heart just melts.

Community Commentary: Wait...there are still "The Rules"?

Love, relationships and romance can be difficult and confusing enough, but take a trip to your local bookstore and you might wind up even more topsy-turvy than when you entered.

Long Distance: Enjoying the Now

Long distance relationships are certainly not easy, but they are just as valid as other kinds of relationships. Here's what works for my relationship -- maybe it will work for yours, too.

Stay Cool, Man

Who doesn’t love summer? When you were a kid you got out of school and had nothing to worry about except when the pool opened and whether or not the girl down the street thought you were cute. Now that we’re adults there are a few more things on your mind during the day, but summer is still awesome.

Long Distance Love: Sex Without Contact

Do you remember the first time you spent an extended period of time away from your partner? How do you maintain intimacy when you're thousands of miles apart?

Embracing Kink

How do you find a partner who's into kinky sex? You may already have the answer!

How Not to Win Friends and Influence People. Or Get a Date Via the Internet.

Everyone's had them: rude, ignorant, or downright offensive emails. Usually, I just ignore them. This time, I got mad.

How To Have Amazing Sex

I was fortunate enough to attend a course that was in part taught by leading sex therapist and sex researcher, Dr. Peggy Kleinplatz. One of the things she discussed was a study her and her fellow colleagues conducted to learn about what components tend to be involved in reaching “optimal” sexuality.

Teenage Sex With A Dose Of Heartbreak

Teen angst at its best. I wrote this when I was nineteen years old. He was my first love. He broke my heart. I broke his right back, and in the worst way. He ended up marrying the girl in the end, but that is how many of my fairy tales work out. He was my first true love, but he wasn't my last. He was her last true love. They are happily married with a baby, and another on the way. I thank the higher power that I didn't end up with him and found my own fairy tale.

Sex Toys in the New Relationship

Should you share your toys with your lover? Yes, you should! If you don't share the fact that you use sex toys with your lover, you're only hurting your relationship in the long run.

Marriage Warning

Without fail you've heard it. Perhaps someone has said it to you or maybe you've said it to others before, but everyone has heard the warning; with marriage comes the death of your sex life.

BDSM as a Starting Point: Incorporating It Into a Marriage

A few months ago my wife and I began to bring BDSM elements into our relationship. While this fulfilled a dream/desire that I had long had, you have to anticipate that things are changing within your relationship, find a way to make it work, and to realize that you don't have all of the answers all of the time, no matter what you may think.

From Wife to Slave

A month before our six year anniversary, we went from husband and wife to Master and slave. My life shifted gears when I became his, but learning a new dynamic didn't happen overnight like I expected. We've come far in a month, but now more than ever I realize how this is a journey, not a race.

My First Days as a Dom

I thought I would be rough and tough. But instead, I ended up being a weepy mess, afraid that I was breaking my husband.

Where Angels Fear To Tread... Building a Permanent Relationship From the Foundation of Domestic Abuse.

Have you ever heard a heart break? Watch a person's soul shatter during a fall? Looked into the eyes of someone whose flame was callously turned to ash? Did you ever die inside, one piece at a time, at the hands of your abuser? The man who promised to love and cherish you, honor and protect you, until death do you part.

How to deal with different libidos in long-term relationships

Discrepancy in sex drives is one of the most common issues that sexual couples face. Included in this article are not only reasons for why someone may be struggling with low sexual desire, but ways of improving the situation for everyone involved as well.

On Collars & Closure & Why Submission Is Not a Gift

I don’t mind tropes. Sometimes, phrases that are often used are that way because they withstand the test of time. I don’t even have to finish the following sentences and you know the balance…

Beyond the Bedroom: The Submissive Lifestyle

Many have toyed with the idea of becoming a submissive, but have put it off because the general stereotype of a submissive is taking as much pain as your master can deal. Dominant and submissive relationships can, and do, go beyond the bedroom.

Women are not the victims

In the dating game, women nowadays seem to be reaping feelings of entitlement and are left bitter and underwhelmed by their selection pool. Let's put ourselves in the man's shoes for a minute.

Fractured Lives: Healing sexually and mentally with the help of Eden

All it takes to change your life forever is 30 seconds. The first thing I clearly remember was being inside a white tube, completely immobile. The only thing I could see was clear, smoky glass with lights or cameras behind it--my mind was screaming! Those UFO shows on TV were true--and the aliens had me!! I could not escape, would not fully wake from the nightmare I was in!! Little did I know, my nightmare was only beginning....

For My Friends & Family: An Open Letter From An Abusive Relationship

Ever wonder how a woman gets trapped in an abusive relationship, why she stays, and what really goes on behind closed doors? Here is a letter from a woman, just like you and me, who can give you a glimpse.....

How to Come Into Yourself

I discovered EdenFantasys just about a year ago. I was reading a blog that I follow and someone had posted a link to where they purchased their latest sex toy. I clicked on the link, and I won’t say that my life was transformed from that moment on, but my sex life has definitely never been the same. Between the selection of toys, the ways I interact in the community and the writing that I do here on SexIs I’ve been able to really come into my own sexually.

When The Bread of Your Relationship is Getting Stale and Dry

Let’s be honest; there are always new products and ideas for spicing up your sex life, but what about the non-related sex aspect of the relationship? It’s like a loaf of bread. After awhile of just sitting there, it becomes hard, perhaps a bit moldy, and just unappealing all around. So what can we do?

The Diary Of A Girl Who Just Wants To Be Loved

This is a story about a girl who is trying to live each day without going insane. She is up, she is down, she is all around. She makes choices and fights battles with herself and others. She likes hard extreme kinky sex and wants it more often but can't seem to find the courage. She is trying to find herself, and I'll let you know when she does. Who is this girl? She's driving in the rain. She wants some sunshine out of it all.

Loving the Broken: Three Women Coping with Marriage to a Military Man with PTSD

What would you do if the man you loved was taken away from you? For many military wives, post-traumatic stress disorder can effectively steal away a beloved husband.

The Relationship Between Sexual Desire and Romantic Love

Sexual desire and romantic love have often been mistaken for two separate, opposing entities. While reading articles written by great philosophers such as Sartre, Blackburn, and Fromm, I noticed that they all use the two terms as if their meanings were like day and night. This article will explore the interconnecting relationship between desire and love, and consider the fact that Fromm’s writings may not be as accurate as his readers may have presumed.

I Want Your Love, I Want Your Disease. I Want You Open Mouthed And On Your Knees.

Love. Passion. Lust. Kink. Fetish. These five words have such meaning for the BDSM community and those whom only fantasize of living the dream. It has always been about love. It has always been about fetish and kink. It will always be about giving up that control that you didn't know you could, and just embracing it. It makes my toes curl just thinking about everything involving love and kink. You and me could write a bad romance.

Keeping it Fresh in a Long-Distance Relationship

As the summer nights grow hotter, many people bristle at the added body heat of their partner, but for many college students, among other people, it’s the absence of their heat that stings far worse. This is the season for long distance relationships, as couples leave college and return to their respective homes for the summer. Months apart can be daunting. To survive this time apart there are many “Dos and Don’ts” each person should consider.

Is Porn Cheating? And Who Gets to Decide?

There’s this idea going around sex-positive circles that watching porn isn’t cheating. Someone, usually a woman, will say she’s uncomfortable with her boyfriend’s porn consumption, and feels that he is cheating on her. And she gets smacked down, told in every reply that she needs to get over her insecurities and let her man be a man.

The Jealousy Demon

We've all heard advice that sounds good on the surface. But if your partner really doesn't like something you do for yourself, like masturbation, is it vital to the marriage that you respect his/her comfort level and sacrifice the behavior for the benefit of your marriage? Does this really help your partner? Or could it be that this sort of self denial actually causes more problems in the long run?

5 Ways to Control a Man

So you've heard the phrase "It's a man's world." While this may seem true to some women, it's not to me and I'm here to show you why. You have the power. Don't be afraid to use it.

How to Help Cure DGS (Death-Grip Syndrome)

Do you sometimes not finish in bed? Do you find yourself grabbing yourself quite roughly? Chances are you have DGS, more commonly known as Death-Grip Syndrome. Don't worry, it's curable! If you want to figure out how to help cure this, read this article!

So, You Read ‘Fifty Shades’, and Now You Want to be a Sub…

Yes, I get it. You read all three of the ‘Fifty Shades’ books in one weekend, you’ve looked up some stuff on the Internet about BDSM, and now, you’re DYING to be a sub, right? You even typed up a contract just like the one in the book, went and bought a pair of handcuffs, and put a wanted ad in the craigslist personals looking for a Dom. Right?

When the BDSM Lifestyle gets abruptly put on hold, what happens next?

You are deeply into the BDSM lifestyle with your significant other and life makes those unexpected changes on you. Where are you to go next? You always move forward. You keep living from day to day and hope that one day, the answer to all your questions will just glow on the top of your head like a light bulb. You begin to get into the passion and have these uncontrollable urges to do incredibly taboo things with your lover at ridiculous times of the day/night.

From Raped And Repressed, To Rabbit Aficionado: A Tale Of Redemption Through EdenFantasys.

It took me twelve years to mentally and emotionally recover my sexual health after being raped the first time I had sex. It took another six years for me to find a trustworthy man with whom I could explore my newfound sexuality. And the healing all started with an ad in the back of Cosmopolitan magazine and a vibrator from EdenFantasys.

Fearlessly Optimistic about Sensual Kink

The Lights are low, the music is playing in the background. The massage oils are warm, and your partner is waiting.

How EdenFantasys Saved My Sex Life

Eden Fantasys is more than just an online sex store. It is a sex positive online community that has changed my life.

Just What the Marriage Counselor Ordered

This month, our parent company EdenFantasys is celebrating 10 sexy years of business! To honor the anniversary, we asked the EdenFantasys Community to tell us what being a member of our community has done for them. This is what SexyStuff had to say.

Money Talks, or Does It?

Recently, I read an article discussing whether or not gender equality had changed the rules on who should pay on a date. Like the author, I also grew up thinking that when I was older and dating, the man would automatically pay for the first date, and probably any future dates. It was his responsibility assigned to him by gender, right?

Money Talks: Should he pay?

Should men still be held responsible and expected to shoulder the financial burdens? Even in such small things as paying for the first meal?

My Dream

What happens when your dream doesn’t run along side your lover’s?

Deep Time: Sensual, Sexy and Slow

If a June night could murmur, would it insist to a blistery winter day or the fresh blooms of spring that summer was the time for love? Warm nights that smell of ocean air and coconut oil; barefoot strolls through cool grass and sandy shores; skin aglow and hungry for kisses. Invitingly so, June has a point.

Are student loans killing the traditional family?

National student loan debt has surpassed $1 trillion, topping credit card debt for the first time and has prompted new calls for a student debt bailout. At the same time, marriage and birthrates are falling, while the average age people tie the knot is inching ever upward.

Does Your Partner Mind if You Touch Yourself in Bed?

I confess that I have trouble sleeping if I don’t have an orgasm that night. It usually doesn’t even matter if I got off in the morning, or if we had sex four hours before bedtime. If my body has already gotten over the endorphins, I have trouble sleeping.

Is Masturbating to Porn Cheating?

Readers are always asking us this question, and the masturbator in question is pretty much always a man. Sometimes his female partner writes to us, asking if she's right to feel cheated on. Other times the man himself writes to us, asking why his partner can't understand how benign his porn masturbation habit really is.

Do Straight Women Need an After Sex Doll to Cuddle With?

Secrets of a Sex Writer: Why I’m Taking The Year Off From Sex and Dating

The last time I had sex was January 12th. Well, that is if we’re defining “sex” as physical, genital contact with another person. In January, I also had phone sex and cybersex, but since February 1st, have stayed away from all of that. The most action I’ve gotten, by choice, is a kiss goodnight on a street corner.

Ten Ways to Tell He’s Not Into You