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Secrets of a Sex Writer: Why I’m Taking The Year Off From Sex and Dating

Anya Garrett
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The last time I had sex was January 12th. Well, that is if we’re defining “sex” as physical, genital contact with another person. In January, I also had phone sex and cybersex, but since February 1st, have stayed away from all of that. The most action I’ve gotten, by choice, is a kiss goodnight on a street corner.

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Contributor: JoanPrice

Wow, this is so interesting, Rachel. People do assume that we sex writers are having steamy sex every hour of the day and night, but the truth it that we have ebbs as well as flows and relationships are complicated. We humans make love with the brain, not just the genitals, so we're not always raring to go with every possibility.

Thank you for this thoughtful and candid post. I'll go share it with others now.

Joan Price

Author of Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk about Sex After Sixty and the upcoming Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud about Senior Sex.

Join us -- we're talking about ageless sexuality at [http://www.NakedAtOurAge.com]

03/09/2011
Contributor: Lana Fox
Lana Fox  

Yes, I absolutely agree, what a great post. And of course, something we readers and writers of erotica know is that a solo sex life can be deeply rewarding too and can certainly help us on many different levels.

Bravo!

03/10/2011
Contributor: Jeff Schult

I keep thinking ... there's a book in this.

03/10/2011
Contributor: (Re)tired Stripper

Wonderful post on a topic we don't hear much about. This really resonated with me. Self-improvement and even monk-like discipline can be very rewarding. I think most everyone would be benefit from something similar to this...

03/13/2011
Contributor: indiglo
indiglo  

Wow, great post! Taking time out just for you is such a wonderful thing to do. I agree, everyone should allow themselves the opportunity to do it, it's a gift for yourself! Really enjoyed reading. (This is my first time to check out this area of the website, but after reading your post, I can assure you it won't be the last!)

03/14/2011
Contributor: bluekaren

This is a great sacrifice for you, since you write about sex. I have done this before but never on purpose. I wouldn't do it by choice now thou....

03/16/2011
Contributor: sexyk515

03/17/2011
Contributor: JoanPrice

Rachel, I just blogged about your post here: [http://betterthanieverexpected.blogspot.com/2011/03/senior-sex-solo-style.html].

Joan Price

03/18/2011
Contributor: Liz Langley

This is my favorite thing that you've ever written - thank you for posting it and for being so graceful and so authentic at the same time. xo

03/21/2011