Sexis Social: A publication by EdenFantasys community

Are Pretty Sex Toys A Thing? From Cute Butt Plugs To Stunning Glass Dildos

How often are we drawn to things just because they're pretty? A sex toy doesn't have to be pretty in order to be hot... But I cannot resist a stunning glass dildo that is a full-blown masterpiece, an elegant glass butt plug that is made with craftsmanship worthy of bohemian glass sculptures, or a silicone vibrator that is so flawless of form you'd want to display it rather than ride it. Let's explore the concept of pretty sex toys - is it a thing?

"From Ancient Empires to Modern Boudoirs: Unveiling the Timeless Magic of the Rabbit Vibrator – The Greatest Sex Toy for Women Ever Made!"

Hey incredible readers!

Let me begin by saying that if I could start a cult of a rabbit vibrator, I would. It is a life-changing, powerful statement way more than it is a sex toy. As a woman-oriented sexual wellness researcher who, above all believes in women's empowerment, I'm here to once again talk about the relevance of the rabbit.

How I Find G-spot Vibrators For Squirting Orgasms

Follow me now into the world of pleasure and explore the often elusive yet oh-so-amazing G-spot. If you're on a quest for that mind-blowing experience and are ready to embrace your sexual empowerment, you're in the right place! Finding the perfect G-spot vibrator that can take you to new heights of pleasure, and yes, you will squirt. Because I did it, and so can you.

G-spot Vibrators for Solo vs. Partner Play: What's Your Preference?

Hey there, lovelies! Today, let's talk about something near and dear to our hearts – our pleasure. We're diving into the world of G-spot vibrators and exploring the delightful dilemma of solo versus partner play. After all, taking charge of our sexual well-being is an essential part of self-love, and there's no shame in seeking the ultimate satisfaction, whether alone or with a partner.

Why Vibrating Dildos Deserve More Recognition in LBGTQA+ Community

I don’t know about your world, but in my world, sex is important. I believe it is essential to acknowledge and celebrate the diverse range of sexual experiences - within the queer community especially. I am a femme presenting she/her, a lesbian in a long-term relationship with a very male-presenting partner. And I am the one who firmly believes in the importance of embracing pleasure and fully exploring our desires. Also, I love vibrating dildos and frequently get *looked down on* because of it.

Why Vibrating Dildos Are The Most Inclusive Sex Toy Out There: A POV By A Disabled Person

As a wellness activist and a staunch advocate for inclusivity, I firmly believe that disabled folks should be a part of conversations about intimacy and sex. It's time to break down the barriers and stigmas that have excluded disabled people from the world of sexual wellness. Sex toys as a whole are a very important tool for people with disabilities all over the spectrum, but I feel like vibrating dildos are up there as a crowning jewel. Let me explain!

3 Crucial SSC Things You Need To Know Before Trying CBT & Penis Play

Embarking on a journey of sexual exploration can be thrilling and transformative. It was for me, at least. If you're considering delving into the realm of Cock and Ball Torture (CBT) or Penis Play, it's essential to prioritize safety, consent, and communication.

How CBT Made Me Feel More Masculine Than Ever

Sexual exploration was a deeply personal journey for me, one that has challenged preconceived notions and expanded my understanding of pleasure. In my quest for self-discovery, I stumbled upon a practice that many misconstrue as solely belonging to the realm of BDSM, being about humiliation and torture. Yup, it's CBT (call and ball torture), but I prefer to call it penis play.

Penis Play Orgasms Are Next-Level - And It’s Not About BDSM

In the realm of sexual exploration, there are countless avenues to embark upon. From vanilla experiences to those that push the boundaries of kink, the spectrum of pleasure is vast and diverse. Today, we delve into a practice that is often misunderstood and misrepresented: Cock and Ball Torture (CBT). Let me begin with a disclaimer - it's not for BDSM folks only.

Unleashing Pleasure: The Power of Sex Machines for Plus-Size Women

As a proud plus-size woman who revels in the delights of adult toys, I am here to challenge conventional notions of pleasure. In this article, I will explore the realm of sex machines and make a passionate case for why they are the best sex toys for plus-sized women. Eradicating the limitations of traditional sex toys and even real human partners, sex machines offer unique advantages and adventures that little old me couldn't've even imagined for myself.

How to Enjoy Sex Machines & Be Discreet About It: Practical Tips

Sex machines have become popular in many couples' sexual experiences, offering unique sensations and very kinky fantasies to explore. However, the biggest concern about these fantastic pleasure beasts remains - they are FAR from being discreet, they are big, need set up, etc. So, it's important to navigate taking a sex machine into your home with care, sensitivity, and a few handy tips.

Do I Like Sex Machines? As a Man, I Love ‘Em

Hey there, fellow seekers of passion! I'm a 50-year-old retired guy. In my 27-year-long loving relationship with my amazing wife, Laura, we've discovered something extraordinary - we're not afraid to embrace our adventurous side when it comes to sex.
Let me begin by saying that I'm in love with sex machines. The motorized dildo, the thing that thrusts on its own, the toy that had changed everything.

Fuck Machines Are Not Porn-Exclusive Anymore

In the world of adult toys, sex machines have long been associated with the realm of pornography, often considered bulky, vulgar, and exclusively catering to niche desires. However, the time has come to challenge these perceptions and take sex machines at face value - as tireless pleasure automatons that are simply a little bigger than your average dildo. Let me walk you through the basic wonders of sex machines so you can see for yourself - one doesn’t have to be a pornstar to have fun.

Anal, and Everything About It: Plugs, Lube, Toys...

Ever wanted to learn about anal in a way that's informative and non-judgemental? Look no further! In this article, I will discuss anal in every aspect: toys, lube (and types of lube), anal plugs, enemas, if stretching is worth it - if you've got a question, it should be answered here!

"Our 30 Day Challenge in the Bedroom"

As couples who have a low sex drive, and just can't figure it out. This all how it started from my husband.

5 Sensational Sex Skills Every Couple Should Practice

Good sex is always about free emotions. You enjoy the most when you feel physically and emotionally connected with your partner, isn’t it?

Why is Sex an Integral Part of Married Life?

Sex is an act of making love to your partner, it an expression of affection, and a medium to build deep physical intimacy with your partner, and it is also a way to reproduce.

Things that I have learned to help keep all types of sex fun, freaky, and interesting.

I have many suggestions, helpful ideas, and all sorts of neat things to do to make sex (oral and otherwise) fun and even tasty.

Sex toys aren't a replacement for real sex!

When it comes to first getting into using sex toys, sometimes there's a few concerns that may come into people's minds. You may worry that it will lower your desire to have real sex, your partner may worry it means they are inadequate. I thought I'd try to help clear some things up.

5 Reasons Why Every Woman Should Try a Vibrator

Using a vibrator for sexual pleasure alone might, on itself, already be reason enough to try one. But the fact is that vibrators treat you to so much more than purely pleasure. Few of us may know it, but using a vibrator actually brings along a number of health benefits both physically as well as psychologically - giving every woman a good reason to try one. Below, we have listed down the 5 main reasons why we believe every woman should try a vibrator at least once.

Sex with transmen.

Sex with a transman, what’s that like? They have a vagina, right? So it’s like a butch girl?

No.

There’s plenty of assumptions cisgender people tend to have about sex with transgender people, and of course there is no right answer. However, there are a lot of wrong answers.

The most important thing to note is that sex with a transman is not the same as sex with a ciswoman.

Pegging Your Boyfriend Is Good and Healthy

Pegging has been a taboo for quite a long time, mainly practiced in secret, and to the eyes of the public, by sexual freaks only. As you can see on the graph below, it got more popular in the last 15 years. Probably thanks to internet, mostly Pornhub, this amazing way of having sex has been democratised. Is pegging really only for freaks? Can a non-submissive man enjoy pegging? Can a non-dominant woman enjoy pegging? Find out our experience with pegging by reading more below.

Bringing a sacred touch to your sex life

Here are a few tips and ideas to bring sacredness to your sex life through simple rituals and tantric practices

Not Tonight, Dear

Sex, marriage, expectation, obligation and why compromise isn't always the answer.

FIRST TIME/Virginity Story

LOSING YOUR VIRGINITY IS NOT ALWAYS SCARY. IT CAN BE DONE THE RIGHT WAY SO THAT YOU CAN ENJOY SEX.

Creative Ways to Incorporate Candy in the Bedroom

Ever heard of a candy bra, or an edible penis shaped lollipop? Once you can get past the inevitable bachelorette party feel of some of these creative bedroom items, you'll realize that they shine a whole new light on food play with your significant other.

Watchdog Timers: The importance of having a dead man’s switch when partying with strangers.

I was always paranoid that if something happened to me while I was out having a sexy good time no one would ever know what happened, how I got where I got to and why.

Why Do Men Love A Blowjob?

It's a question women often wonder about, or maybe that's just me!! If my hubby's ever looking for some sort of reward for being nice or doing something nice he always opts for a blowjob as his prize, not that he needs a prize for doing anything nice, but that's the way men think. They think "one good turn deserves another" and that equates to a blowjob in their minds.

Guide to Storing Sex Toys

Our sex toys are very important to us. The last thing we want is for our precious toys to be ruined by bad storage techniques. We have all probably heard, "Don't store your toys touching each other!" But why is this? Is this really true? How much do I actually need to worry about this?

Reading Erotica Makes Me Horny

Erotic books aren't for everyone, but we all like to get horny and in the mood. Even if we don't have a partner, there's nothing wrong with getting horny to pleasure yourself.

They Finally Meet...an erotic short story

This is a short fantasy of mine that I don't mind sharing with the community. Just a little erotic bed time story. Hope you enjoy...

To Buy Or Not To Buy

Where should you buy your sex novelties. While shopping around has always been the best thing, there are some places that just aren't worth it. From dangerous situations to down right too expensive.

Toxic Lube

A personal lubricant is just that... personal. But with all the options out there, it's important to make an informed decision and know what is safe for you and your partner.

Polyamorous Playtime Failures

I was introduced to my life partner's wife's life partner. Every visit was a complete bust. I'm hoping the next visit will go much better then this last one.

How to Write Smut

Whether it's an erotic story or a single sext, coming up with words that get you and your reader hot can be a challenge. Here's how to start.

I Don't Like It....And More Lines to Avoid Oral

Oral sex is no less secretive, or elusive, today as it was when I became sexually active. The excuses to avoid it, also haven't changed. Here's why I've decided I should probably, someday, blow my Husband.

How To Tell If A Potential Partner Will Be Abusive

I was in a severe abusive relationship for six months and I want to help women on here know how to spot a potentially abusive partner so you can avoid them.

Floggers

So you want to buy a flogger....It can be pretty intimidating with all the different types out there! Hopefully this guide will clear up any concerns

The Married Mom’s Guide to Toy Hiding

Running out of places to hide your toys? You children, roommate, or pet find them no matter where you put them? Don't fret! Here is a list of possible places to hide your precious toys.

Interview with Jamie Maclean at Erotic Review

Interview with Jamie Maclean, editor and founder of Erotic Review: a website committed to giving sex a good name.

Review: The Art of Erotic Writing

A review of contemporary author Jess C Scott's "Art of Erotic Writing" eBook.

Fan Fiction: As Good as Porn?

While fan fiction is widely accepted as being something that only geeks do, writing themselves into elaborate sci-fi scenarios, or something that twelve year old girls write (badly) about their favorite male characters kissing, some people would rank it above live action porn as far as masturbation material goes. Why?

My Experience With the IUD and How it Improved My Life

If you've ever experienced heavy flows, severe menstrual cramps or forgotten to take your pill, the IUD might just be the answer to your contraception needs!

Our Lives Are Who We Are

I never noticed how events that have happened in my life influenced my life in bed.

Perspectives on Polyamory

I’m not on the same level as the characters of Big Love, but I do consider myself polyamorous. If you have ever been interested in the lifestyle, here are a few key concepts that have popped up in my everyday life with my two (sometimes three) partners.

Teens and Sex

We all know how hard it is raising teens. This stage is where communication is so very difficult, yet so essential. Sex is certainly going to be a struggle during their teenage years, but this is the time when you are needed the most.

Seeking Help as a Survivor of Sexual Violence

Rape, abuse, and sexual assault are crimes that overwhelmingly target women, so I will be speaking primarily about women who have survived these things, and from my own experiences as a woman who has been assaulted. Through this series of articles, I hope to provide survivors and their supporters with resources, wisdom, and understanding, using myself as an example.

The Monosexual’s Guide to Dating Someone Flexible

There are many of us who identify as queer, bisexual, pansexual, or other identities that are flexible in the sex and gender of our partners. This is often difficult to understand for people who are not flexible, whether they are gay or straight. This is a guide for monosexual (cliff notes version: someone who is either straight or gay) partners of sexually flexible people to be a better partner to those of us with these unique identities.

Thinking about Taboos

Taboos are powerful things. Anything that has power over our minds and imaginations can either imprison us or be used to make us happier. Maybe it's time to think about harnessing your taboos and using them to keep a long term relationship healthy and exciting.

BDSM DIY: Creating Dungeon Furniture

In this third segment of my BDSM Do it Yourself column, I will discuss how I have made several pieces of dungeon furniture in the past and how you could, easily, learn to craft these transportable pieces yourself. The finished pieces can each be made for under twenty dollars and are mobile, so that you can bring and show off your furniture at play parties...or easily hide it under your bed if the in-laws come snooping.

How Phone Sex Can Improve Your LDR

Being of the internet generation, I’ve had my share of online, and long distance, relationships. When my husband was in Germany for a few weeks, Skype sex was a wonderful treat that we got to have every couple of days, and it kept us going until we were able to see each other again. Here is the secret that can help you the next time your significant other (SO) is out of town.

Turn Your Thinking Off: Running a Thought-mile During Sexual Activities

What am I going to cook for dinner? Did I leave the stove on? Why did Harold say that thing about my wife? Will they ever cum?

We all know that during sexual play time, there are those days (far many than few) where we cannot turn our minds to completing the fun at hand, to enjoy our sexual experiences fully. Is it possible to turn your thinking off? Can you quiet your mind? Is it even a realistic thought?

A Sexless Adventure

I think we all can agree that having a long term relationship is a great thing. As the relationship continues on, you gain a close friendship and a great sex partner, possibly for life. Spending a long time with someone can create challenges in the bedroom. Many couples feel that as they spend more time together, their sex lives get a little dull. So recently my partner and I have decided to go sexless for the next 3 months. Join me on my journey of revamping and restarting my sex life.

Happy MILF Day?

So, with Mother’s Day behind us (that would be the second Sunday of May) but the month in which it falls still with us, perhaps we need to roll out a MILF Day? Or make plans for one beginning next year? I mean, we have special days for just about everything now, including “Talk Like a Pirate Day,” so why isn’t there a MILF Day? Or am I just slacking on my online searching game this month?

Massage 101: Choosing Your Oil

If you are trying to plan something special for you and your partner, or you just want to help your partner relax, you may want to give them a massage. This article will cover how to choose the right oil for you and your partner.

Whips Vs. Floggers

Have you ever wondered exactly what the difference is between whips and floggers? Well here is your answer, along with examples of each.

BDSM 101—Understanding Masochism

Today I want to look at masochism and help those who are not masochists potentially understand why someone might enjoy pain.

BDSM 101--Orgasm Denial

Today we are going to discuss orgasm denial. What is it? How do you do it? Why do people like it?

Vibrator Envy

Today’s article focuses on a problem that many men face with the introduction of a toy, and that is envy and feelings of inadequacy in the face of a vibrator. We will discuss how to overcome this and why you will never be replaced by a vibrator.

Myth Busters: "Females will always know when they are having an orgasm"

In movies and magazines and on tv and websites, I've heard this idea of orgasms being the most obvious thing in the world. Sometimes they are so mind blowing that they are impossible to miss: my body seizes, pleasure surges through me blinding and deafening. Afterwards, I am so high off of oxytocin and endorphins that I am giddy and giggle, slightly drowsy. Then it is the most obvious thing in the world, but not all orgasms are alike, not for me and certainly not from one person to another.

Communication and Sexual Satisfaction

Those that talk about sex outside of the bedroom are more likely to talk in the bedroom. Those that talk in the bedroom are more likely to have a satisfying sex life. However, there is a right way and a wrong way to open up.

How to Shave Everywhere

For some, there is nothing sexier than rubbing against a lover’s smooth skin. Yet for some of us shaving can be a pain. Without the promise of some sexual favor to come, it can be hassle not worth undergoing. So how do we give our lover the smoothest skin possible and still make it worth our time and effort? That’s simple, combine the two. Here’s how...

Define This: GGG

GGG is a term first coined by sex writer Dan Savage. Not only is it a good road map for healthy relationships, but those that follow it report a higher level of satisfaction in their love life.

BDSM 101—Facesitting

Today’s article is going to focus on an activity called facesitting. We are going to learn what it is, how to do it, why people like it, and some safety concerning it.

My Body, My Image Part 1: Fostering a Healthy Body Image in Children

Children suffer from body image problems just as much as adults. Body changes, puberty and an ongoing culture of thinness adds to a time of anxiety that can last into adulthood. How can we help children to accept and love their bodies?

Pregnancy is the wildest roller coaster you'll ever experience.

So you're pregnant, and you're over run with new feelings and physical changes, but whats happened to your self confidence and sex drive? Are they hiding behind that new roll, or maybe it's on those feet you can't see.

How to Submit: A Basic Guide

Submission is all the craze now, ever since Fifty Shades of Grey hit the shelves last year. But what many people don't know is how to submit. Submission is so much more than being tied up and being spanked. Submission is, simply put, yielding to another, but sometimes that’s harder than it appears.

How Orgasm Focus Almost Ruined A Relationship

Today’s article focuses on how sex focused around an orgasm can put a lot of stress on both parties, and even lead to break ups in some cases. We will discuss what the goal of sex really should be.

Date Night Ideas Part 11

One of the hardest things to do is come up with ideas for date night. Where can you go, what can you do, and how can you do it without breaking the bank? Today we discuss some ideas

Play Party Guidelines

BDSM play parties can be extremely fun. I highly suggest learning a little about how to respect yourself and others, in a scene, before you attend your first party.

Date Night Ideas Part 8

One of the hardest things to do is come up with ideas for date night. Where can you go, what can you do, and how can you do it without breaking the bank? Today we discuss some ideas.

Date Night Ideas Part 7

One of the hardest things to do is come up with ideas for date night. Where can you go, what can you do, and how can you do it without breaking the bank? Today we discuss some ideas.

Date Night Ideas Part 6

One of the hardest things to do is come up with ideas for date night. Where can you go, what can you do, and how can you do it without breaking the bank? Today we discuss some ideas.

Date Night Ideas Part 10

One of the hardest things to do is come up with ideas for date night. Where can you go, what can you do, and how can you do it without breaking the bank? Today we discuss some ideas

Date Night Ideas Part 9

One of the hardest things to do is come up with ideas for date night. Where can you go, what can you do, and how can you do it without breaking the bank? Today we discuss some ideas

Date Night Ideas Part 5

One of the hardest things to do is come up with ideas for date night. Where can you go, what can you do, and how can you do it without breaking the bank? Today we discuss some ideas

Date Night Ideas Part 4

One of the hardest things to do is come up with ideas for date night. Where can you go, what can you do, and how can you do it without breaking the bank? Today we discuss some ideas

Date Night Ideas Part 2

One of the hardest things to do is come up with ideas for date night. Where can you go, what can you do, and how can you do it without breaking the bank? Today we discuss some ideas.

Date Night Ideas Part 1

One of the hardest things to do is come up with ideas for date night. Where can you go, what can you do, and how can you do it without breaking the bank? Today we discuss some ideas.

From Prude To Lewd

Our adventure from sexual repression to complete openness.

Busty Bitty : Finding the Breast Fit

There's something that I really need to get off of my chest: too many people are wearing the wrong bra size. Whether you have large breasts or not, you can still definitely benefit from wearing a bra that fits. Cramming your sweater puppies into any old piece of lingerie isn't any way for a civilized person to live, especially since there are so many resources available to help you find something flattering that fits.

The Guide to Moving in Together

So you think you're ready to move in together? I don't mean to be your mom, but are you sure? Check out this guide to make sure you've crossed your Ts and dotted your Is!

BDSM 101: Erotic Asphyxiation

Today’s guide is going to discuss erotic asphyxiation, what it is, and the major safety concerns it has.

Strap On Sex: A Buyer’s Guide

This guide is aimed at those who have decided they want to buy a strap on harness and are having trouble deciding which one to buy.

Most Romantic All-Inclusive Resorts In The World On A Budget.

I am no stranger to travel. Ever since I was old enough to travel, I have been out there seeing the world. I have found myself more and more drawn to the all-inclusive resorts as I have gotten older. With having traveled to over 25 all-inclusives, along with having studied many others and what they have to offer, I have decided to share my insight in to where a couple can go to get away for a romantic weekend and do so on a budget.

Celebrating Her Sexy Spirit--10 Ways to Make Her Feel Sexy

Today’s article focuses on ways you can keep your partner feeling hot and sexy. Just a note this is a male’s perspective on how to keep a female feeling sexy.

Summer helped me find myself!

Those of us who are above size average know all to well what kinda of emotions this time of year can bring to us. All of a sudden the few extra pounds we've gained over the winter, how un-tan we are and the memories of our last pedicure all come back to haunt us.

In Praise of Fisting

There is nothing about fisting that doesn't sound terrifying, but it has become one of my favorite treats during sex. It is safer than you may think, and it is incredibly intense (physically and psychologically) on so many delicious levels. Don't write it off without at least doing a little research first!

Getting Away Without Leaving Home:

This article is going to focus on how to get that “get away sexy feel” without ever leaving your home and keeping it cheap and inexpensive.

Giving more the you receive. A man's perspective.

So here I sit, the middle of the night after a long walk on a cold breezey night. Just a little too chilly to be out there in a pair of shorts with no shoes. I know right now many of you are asking yourselves why I would do this and why it is of importance. I assure you it is but we will get to that part shortly after I set the scene a bit more, but let me start a few hours before the walk.

Ways to Get Your Partner In The Mood

Today we are going to discuss ways which you can increase you and your partner’s sex drives for those times when one of you isn’t feeling that horny.

How to handle conversations of sexuality: A Guide for the not so open girl

Have you ever met someone that is SO comfortable with his/her sexuality that YOU feel uncomfortable? I have and I'd like to share my experience with you.

My first experiences at nudist resorts

I've been to several different places that allowed nudity and it always ends up being sad to have to go back to wearing clothing after a while.

First Time Tips

Sex can be a wonderful experience that allows us to bond, explore, ignite and surrender to a person in ways nothing else can. It can also be the cause of heartache, regret, disappointment and life altering choices that leave us questioning why we did it in the first place.

Kink From Afar: Dealing With Long Distance In A BDSM Relationship. (Part 2)

We all know that long distance relationships are hard, but what if you add BDSM into the mix? Both BDSM and long distance relationships require a lot of work to maintain just by themselves. If you happen to combine the two, you're in for a wild ride! Here is part two on how to keep the kink alive when you're apart.

Sending Dirty Photos

Today we discuss sending dirty photos, some tricks to it, and how to feel comfortable doing it.

Talking Dirty to Your Partner

Today I want to talk about some tips and tricks for talking dirty to your partner. I want to share some personal experiences and how I think we successfully integrated it into our sex lives.

BDSM 101—Wax Play

Today I want to talk about what wax play is, what you need to do it, how to clean up after it, and some safety concerning it.

BDSM 101 -- Finding a Partner Part

Today I want to talk about how I found my partner. My partner was originally not kinky at all; I introduced her to the world of kink. I want to discuss some of the tips and tricks that I discovered while doing this.

Masturbation doesn't have to be alone

For me, I find masturbating with someone else, whether it be in-person or in the virtual world, to be a much more fulfilling experience than being solo. There is a thrill and shared intimacy in sharing the build-up and climax of an orgasm with another person.

BDSM 101—Mummification

Today we are going to discuss what mummification is, what you need to do it, and some safety tips you should know about.

BDSM 101—Erotic Humiliation

Today we are going to discuss erotic humiliation, what it is, how lots of people go about it, why people like it, and what are some safety considerations you should have.

BDSM 101—Blindfolding

Today we are going to discuss blindfolding your partner, what you want to look for in a blindfold, why anyone would blindfold their partner, and what are some things you can do to your blindfolded partner.

BDSM 101 -- Self Bondage

Today we are going to talk about self bondage. We will discuss what it is and how to go about it, as well as the risks that are associated with it.

Spicing up your sex life!

If you want to learn new ways to make your sex life better, then read my article. I have more than one suggestion that may help you.

BDSM 101 — Household BDSM Toys

Today we are going to look at various household items that be used for some BDSM fun. These are items that you likely have sitting around your house right now, too. We will discuss what you can use, and the pros and cons of each item.

Being Large and in Charge!

This article is for all the "big girls." Whether you're shy and withdrawn or really loud and proud of who you are, I think all girls should see themselves as beautiful. It took me a very long time to like myself, but I did learn that self-confidence can grow overnight!

Making Friends With the Ladies Downstairs

I've lived my life perpetually jealous of women who have an easy going relationship with their clit or g-spot. I always felt like I was in some kind of cold war with my body. I have decided to try to accept what my body likes instead of trying to trick it into liking what others do.

6 Ways To Stay a Healthy, Sexy Mom

Feeling sexy isn't always high on a mom's to-do list, but there are simple steps she can take to keep feeling sexy through motherhood.

Being Super Mom, and a Super Spouse

There are never enough hours in the day to accomplish all the tasks of being a mother. It's harder still to have the energy to be a pleasing spouse after the tasks are complete. It can be done, though!

Ideas for a Sexually Satisfying Lesbian Relationship

I'm 21 and in a lesbian relationship. It's also the first completely sexually satisfying relationship in my life. Every relationship has ups and downs. Here are some of the ways we keep our sex life exciting. Straight couples can benefit from this as well!

10 ways to celebrate your sexiness

We all deserve to feel sexy. But sometimes that can be tough in today's world. Here are 10 ways for you to keep yourself feeling sexy!

Basic Tips for Giving Great Hand Jobs

Here are a few tips to spicing up the average, and sometimes boring hand job. All it takes is a little imagination, combined with these tricks of the hand!

Sex Toy Envy

Men masturbate. Women masturbate. That's just the way it is...

The Cuddle-Sutra: 7 Common Sleeping Styles

Have a partner who takes up all the bed space? Or steals all the blankets? What about whacking you (by accident) in your sleep? Here are 7 common sleeping styles you or your partner may have and how to handle them.

Returning To Intimacy When Cancer Has Changed Your Body Image

What happens after the diagnosis and the treatments? You have to find a new normal. That includes accepting your body changes. Whether you are single or in a committed relationship, things will be different. HOW different depends on YOU.

Splash! It's Not Pee! (Or Why Squirting Is Vastly Different From Urinating)

Many people believe that the stuff that comes out when a woman "squirts" is urine, but most women who have experienced it will tell you otherwise, myself included. I took it upon myself to bust the myth, so without further ado, I present to you, my lovely reader, the difference between squirting and urinating, and how to tell which you're doing.

Define This - That Marvelous Moment Right before He Cums

It doesn't have a name and it doesn't last long. But there's that sudden moment where you know it's going to happen - and paying attention can make you feel great!

Enjoying The Joy Of Sex

One of the most influential books ever published celebrated its fortieth birthday last year - and its sequel hits the same age in 2013. A personal celebration of Alex Comfort's "The Joy of Sex."

Another How-To Guide for the Aspiring Deep Throater

Lesson one: Throw away the how-to guides.

Alone Time

Having a partner is great, but sometimes you need alone time for yourself.

Losing Faith In Words

How what we say and the way we say it can make all the difference in the world.

Sexual Education: Who is the teacher?

Saying who is responsible for educating the youth about sex is not as simple as it seems. There isn't one right or wrong answer, but I feel the best course of action is a united front between the home and school.

You Always Remember The First Time

There's a first time for everything, and it may not be the greatest. But it's always the time you remember the best....

A Rekindling

My boyfriend and I found ourselves in a bit of a rut, and this is how we worked our way out of it.

Define This: The Frenulum Delta

Finding the sweet spot that is a penis' neatest secret.

How To Guide: Pleasing Cam Girls (And Not Just With Money)

Every time I'm on cam, there are people who make me want to tear my hair out. There are also people who I would so love to high-five, as well. Want to have your cam girl love you? Here is a list of what to do, and, of course, what not to do!

A Sexless Relationship

Is it possible for a sexless relationship to last?

BDSM 101 — Finding a Partner Part 2: Attending a Munch

Today we will explore munches. What is a munch? What is the etiquette surrounding them? How can you get involved in one?

Flogging 101: Choosing the Right Leather

Not all leather is created equal. Shopping for a flogger requires knowing the differences between the wide variety of leathers available. Whether you like a sting, thud, or all of the above, this guide will teach you some of the important essentials about different leathers, and is an important first step in finding the flogger that's right for you!

A boost of confidence

Being shy in the bedroom can sometimes feel like you're just plain boring; even if you have an amazing imagination, you are too reserved to share. Here are some tips on how to spice things up, and how not to feel like you're putting yourself out there to get embarrassed and let down.

BDSM 101 — Finding a Partner Part 1

One of the common things I see people asking about is where they can find a kinky partner. People say that "it is really hard and difficult to find someone who is into the same things" as they are. So, in today’s article we are going to discuss some of the common places where you can find a partner who has similar interests as you.

Making Friends With Your Fancy-Man's Fleshlight

Many guys enjoy watching their partner playing with her favorite toys. One woman reports on watching her partner playing with his.

It's Only Premature If He Cums Before You Get There

Taking the sting out of premature ejaculation

These Feet Were Made For... Jerking?

You've used your hands, your breasts, your mouth, and he keeps on coming back for more. Now it's time to let your feet do the talking.

Road Head!

A lighthearted guide to how not to do something you should never contemplate doing.

Domestic Violence: The story of my mom and I

My mother had me at a young age, and my father was a deadbeat who thought he was going to be a rockstar. When my mom finally worked up the courage to walk away, she met "Jeff" and entered into a whole new nightmare.

My Journey into a BDSM Community

How to articles are great to read, but here is the story of what I encountered as I was taking my first steps into a local BDSM or kink community. Hopefully it will lend a bit of insight into what you can expect.

Is Sex Addiction Real?

Most definitely yes! I was reminded of this subject over the weekend, while hearing a judgmental indictment of Tiger Woods' infidelity and divorce.

PropertyOfPotter's Guide To Buying A Clitoral Vibe

Looking for the perfect clitoral vibrator to suit your needs? A little overwhelmed by the huge selection available on Eden? Here's a little list of suggestions based on your preferences.

Take your Sex Toys to Work Day

It often has been the case that my non-vanilla-ness has lead to people looking at me in another light, and not in a good way. I thought this would be the case every time I brought it up in conversation, and had almost resigned myself to be considered a pervert every time. As luck would have it, though, things changed quite dramatically a few weeks back, when an unexpected conversation lead to my sex toys taking an unexpected trip to my workplace.

Who's responsible for sex education for kids?

Where should the burden fall? The schools? The parents? The Church? The internet?

College Sex Revisited

A while back, I wrote an article about sex during times of stress in college. As I come to the end of one of my busiest years of college, I have a little bit more to say.

Understanding Love

"Love conquers all." Its a phrase that we have all heard one way or another. Even our favorite fairy tales give us all the idea that love is perfect, flawless, and everlasting. Yet, reality can be a bit more shocking. By understanding basic concepts of how relationships work, known as "The Family Systems Theory," we all can make sense of our relationship histories and make choices that will lead to a more satisfying, intimate relationship with the ones we love.

So You Want to Make a Baby? A Guide to Conceiving

How hard can it be? Have lots of unprotected sex and it's bound to happen, right? Not always!

Define This: Popped Cherry

Often used as a term to indicate that one's virginity has been lost or taken, this term has brought about many misconceptions about the hymen. This irrefutably sexist term has grossly led to shame and anxiety about first-time sex. But wait, there’s more to it than that...

How to Raise Your Pain Tolerance

If you're into S&M, or have a partner you fancy who is, having a higher pain tolerance can definitely be beneficial. So here's some information on how to raise your pain tolerance.

Sex Education is MY Responsibility

Educating my children on sexual health and practices is MY responsibility. My girls are still very young, but their education has already begun.

Guide To Anal Accoutrements

Getting into different types of anal toys can cause a lot of confusion! I'll be explaining different toys for your pleasure today!

Size Only Matters If He's Too Damned Big

It wasn’t the angle, it wasn’t the mood, it wasn’t any of the things we normally blame. The fact is, he was just too huge. Some thoughts on why you shouldn’t click the Penis Enlargement links on that website.

The Years of Living Dangerously

We all did things in our youths that we are now slightly alarmed by (or, at least, I hope we all did!) And now, in adulthood, maybe we'd like to again. A look back at the years of "I just wasn't thinking," and how not thinking again could be the best thing you've done.

Affair: In Cheating, Everyone is Cheated

It is my opinion that when someone cheats, everyone involved is cheated. When you cheat, you're cheating yourself, as well as your partner from the full relationship you deserve. When you cheat, you're creating an environment in your life that's not conductive to a healthy life. You're losing opportunities, and playing emotions. It isn't fair to anyone, but it also isn't fair to you. In the end, everyone is going to get hurt. When you play with fire, everyone gets burned.

Please Pass The Salt

Life brings about inevitable change. No matter how much we detest it, it doesn't matter. People change, situations change, and feelings change. No good relationship isn't without its own set of issues. A perfect relationship doesn't exist, but there's a lot you can do to reintroduce some seasoning to your bland intimacy.

No Need To Hide My Sexuality (And How I Found It Out)!

Recent events in my life pretty much threw my sexuality out for my family and friends to see. In the end, things didn't turn out how I assumed that they would.

Life As An Aspiring Cam Girl

I am a 20 year old Canadian female. I am also an aspiring cam girl. As a cam girl, I'll take you into my experience; weird viewers, awkward situations, hilarious moments, and voyeuristic orgasms. Sure, there are ups and downs. Mostly, they happen while riding a toy. Being a cam girl isn't nearly fun as you think. It's a lot of work; building a fan base, working out, making yourself presentable, listening to demands, dealing with creeps... Well, that's a whole other article on its own.

Boys Like Boobies

A lot of guys dream of a girl with big tits. However, even with a flat chest, you can make those dreams come true.

What is Sexual Healing?

Sexual healing encompasses three
broad, interrelated categories of work.

To Whom Does The Responsibility Of Sexual Education Fall To?

In this day and age, who should be responsible for sex ed? What should a sexual education program teach?

The Nice Girl's Guide To The One Night Stand - Part Two: The Hook-up

We left our lovers on the dance floor, on the verge of their very first kiss. You’ve decided to go through with it... actually, you decided before the first dance even started, but now it’s time to let him know. Read on!

Great Expectations (part four)

The final part of our look at the pros and cons of giving head.

Great Expectations (part two)

In part one, we looked at how expectations about blowjobs differ between male and female participants, and who expects what from the experience. This time we look at the experience itself, and the preconceptions that naturally arise.

Great Expectations (part one)

“The problem I have with blowjobs,” a friend once confided, “is that guys expect to get them.” But do they really? Or are girls just conditioned to expect them to expect them? This is the first of four articles looking at the role of fellatio in the modern relationship, from a variety of viewpoints... pro and con.

The Thoughtless Kind

It is surprisingly easy to go through life without ever realizing that something is seriously out of alignment and relationships often top the bill. A cautionary tale for everyone who assumes that things are just perfect.

The First Lie

What is the first lie a guy ever tells his girlfriend? “I promise I won’t cum in your mouth."

And what is the first lie she tells him? "Good”.

Meeting Master

It’s that moment; you’ve come a long way, whether physically, emotionally, or both. You're now standing outside the door, the door that will lead you to meet your dominant or submissive cyber-partner for the first time. You take a deep breath, try to calm your nerves, and go through the door. This moment of the first face to face meeting can potentially make or break your relationship from this point on. Handling this moment is a huge deal.

BDSM 101-- Advanced Predicament Play

Today we will talk about more advanced predicament play scenarios. Most of these require some additional equipment, planning and set up, but you will be rewarded with complex and interesting scenarios.

BDSM 101--Predicament Bondage

Today we talk about what predicament bondage is and I will share some example scenarios that you can place your sub in.

BDSM 101 -- Pet Play

Today I want to talk about Pet Play. This is a type of role-playing seen within BDSM, in which one individual takes on the persona of an animal and the dominant becomes their owner/trainer/controller. Today we will discuss why people like pet play, and the toys most commonly used with this type of play.

BDSM 101—Electrosex Part 2

This article is going to focus on the different types of electrodes and where on the body they are used.

BDSM 101—Electrosex Part 1

Today we talk about a new type of play called electrosex. Electrosex uses electrical stimulation to cause pleasurable sensations.

Buying Nipple Clamps

Today we look at nipple clamps. What are the differences between the styles? How does the intensity between them change? And what other features do clamps have?

BDSM 101 –Collaring

Today, we look at collars, and the value and meaning that they have to many individuals.

BDSM 101 –Learning to Hit Your Partner Part 2

In part 1 of learning to hit your partner, I discussed how you mentally prepare for some impact play if you are uncomfortable with it. Today, I want to talk about some strategies about actually implementing it.

BDSM 101 – Learning to Hit Your Partner

The act of learning to hit your partner, when they ask for it, can be difficult for some people. This article helps explain why someone might enjoy it, and how you can learn to be okay with fulfilling your partner's sexual desires.

BDSM Shopping – Bondage Cuffs

BDSM equipment can often be quite pricey, and there are often too many choices and it makes it very hard to decide what you want to buy. Today we will discuss the different features of bondage cuffs and hopefully help you pick what suits you best.

A Shy Woman's Tips For Initiating Sex

Are you horny, but a bit uneasy with flat-out asking your man for sex? Then check out these tips.

Buying a Prostate Massager

So you have decided you want to try some prostate play, but are unsure of which one to get. There are a lot of them, so it can be confusing. This article will talk about all of the different features and styles prostate massagers have, so you can decide what would work best for you. Here's how you choose the best prostate massager.

Prostate Play

Today’s article is on the prostate. We uncover this mysterious organ and learn what it does, where it resides, and why there is so much talk about it.

BDSM 101 – Negotiating Limits

Today we discuss what are limits, why should I talk to my partner about limits, what is the difference between a soft and hard limit, and what are some ways you can discuss your limits.

BDSM 101-- Safewords

Today we are going to discuss what is a safeword, do I need a safeword, and how do I used a safeword. This will in turn allow you have better and more fun role playing sessions with your partner.

Busting Yourself Out of the Restraints

One of the earliest pieces of advice we get in life—whether from our parents, teachers, books or even a sappy sitcom or crappily animated cartoon show—is that “you should be yourself.” It’s an excellent piece of self-affirmation. It’s true. It’s powerful…it’s also often bullcrap.

Battle of the 'Bators: Fleshlight vs. Tenga!

When discussing male masturbators, two names consistently rise to the top: Tenga and Fleshlight. As both products can be expensive, one really needs to understand the pros and cons of each to make an educated purchase. This battle royale will hopefully help you in deciding which of these two fine products will make it to the top of your "Desert Island Masturbator" list!

BDSM 101 -- Impact Play

The art of hitting a person with an instrument can create a large array of pleasant, erotic, and unique sensations. Today we will talk about the different types of toys, and how they vary in each category, and what effect that has on the experience they create.

BDSM DIY -- Wooden Paddle

Today we explore how to make a wooden paddle. This articles talks briefly about how and why people spank, before discussing in detail how you can create your very own paddle and fulfill all of your spanking dreams!

BDSM 101 – Pegging

Today we will talk about pegging. We will discuss: what it is, how to go about doing it, why people do it, and the different toys you can use for it.

Sub-Space: How it felt for me.

If you're kinky, you may have heard of sub-space, or a sort of euphoric state that subs occasionally cross into during a scene. When I first found my kinky side, I thought just being part of a scene was causing me to dip into sub-space, but then I actually fell flat into it, and it was amazing.

BDSM DIY -- Spreader Bars

So you're interested in BDSM and you go to buy some gear. You see prices of 100, 150, and 200 dollars and your heart sinks a bit. There's no way you can afford that, but have no fear. Below is a guide on how to make a very effective, but also very cost efficient, spreader bar.

Tracking Your Ovulation for Fertility

The act of trying to get pregnant can become stressful if it is not happening within the time frame that you want it to happen. This article is going to focus on how you can track when you ovulate and use that to help you become pregnant.

BDSM 101--Rope Bondage

There are many implements you can use to tie someone up. One of the most versatile of these is rope. Today's article will focus on the different types of rope and positions associated with rope bondage.

Miscarriage and Marriage

Like millions of women in Australia and around the world, I have suffered the pain and heartache of a miscarriage. I understood the pain, the grief and the loss of what had happened, but what I wasn’t expecting was the way in which my husband began to react to me sexually after and me with him as well.

BDSM 101 -- Chastity

Chastity play is a type of BDSM that denies a person the ability to have sex and masturbate. Today, we will talk about it, what toys are used to enforce it, and why someone would enjoy the experience.

BDSM 101--Cock and Ball Toys

Today's article will focus on cock and ball toys. These are male toys that focus on the penis and testicles. We will learn about the different types of toys that exist, the sensations they provide, and why people might want to try them.

The Anatomy of a Dry Spell

The anatomy of a dry spell, and why you and everyone else's outlooks need to change.

Don't Worry, I'll Finger It Out Later!

Fingering was a term I recall hearing as a young teenager that sparked my curiosity about what it must entail. My gentle and innocent ways prevented me from asking the burning questions that I so desperately needed to know.

BDSM 101 -- Gags

BDSM play often involves a lot of toys, and deciding on the one that suits you best can be difficult. This article focuses on why people use gags, what the different types are, and how to safely use them.

BDSM DIY -- Rope Flogger

When it comes to BDSM equipment, it can get very costly very fast, and you may not even be sure if your fantasies will line up with what you truly like. So here is a guide to make a very cheap yet fun rope flogger. So you can both have a flogger with which to have fun and do a test run to see if you want to invest in the future.

Solo Sexuality

When most people think of the term "Solo Sexuality", it probably has a negative connotation to them. I, on the other hand, have always found it fun, interesting, and often an exciting alternative to engaging in sex with someone else. Masturbation has always been one of my favorite pastimes.

Shame Free Sex and Spicing Things Up

Introduce a little whimsy into your sexual encounters,and find out where your true passions lie. Come in, leave your worries and your cares. Exploring your sexuality is natural and healthy, so let's find out what suits you, from toys to partners. Be yourself; I won't judge...

Don't Tell Me What to Do

Freedom from possession, jealousy, and control by my partners is a really important part of my relationships. I value my personal independence in making decisions about my body, finances, and life, even down to what I wear.

Prostate Massage (II): Prostate Orgasms

A lot of men have what they call "prostate orgasms". But what are they?

Eden Lit Is "March"ing On and Getting Things Started

New lessons and a clearer focus about just where Eden Lit is going in the future were just a few things that happened on the day of our meeting this month. Exciting stuff!

Dear Daughter: Live Without Limits

In a few days, I’m having another baby. In recognition of International Women’s Day, here’s what I’d like to tell her about life, if she’s a girl.

Sex and Babies: Can the two co-exist?

Oh. My. God. Right there, that's the spot, keep going, keep going...oh god, I'm going to - OLD MACDONALD HAD A FARM, E-I-E-I-O

Woman's Magazines: The Modern Man's Guide to Women

Attention Men Listen Closely: If you really want to know what women want, read what she reads. Women's magazines are a great way to get insight into the female mind.

Take a Walk on the Wild Side

Bored with your toy collection and tired of seeing the same designs again and again? If you think you’ve tried every kind of toy available, you may be surprised to learn there is a whole niche of truly wild sex toys out on the market available for anyone who dares to take a wild leap into some truly amazing experimentation.

She Plays, He Plays: The Strong Toy

We're sure you've heard about the Fun Factory Stronic Eins. New technology wrapped in Fun Factory's dense, plush silicone? What? So we sent one to Rydell and Susan to see just how different it was. Read on to see what they thought.

Reclaiming Independence

Independence can be very difficult to get back once you've lost it, but finding yourself again is worth every bit of effort.

Girls and strip clubs.

Many guys think that strip clubs are just for men, and that is very untrue. There are strip clubs for women, as well, and here is the interesting part: some women enjoy going to a strip club with their partners and buying them a dance.

Girls v. Grown Women

Many people say that girls are less mature than grown women and that grown women have better relationships. But who defines maturity here? Is maturity the only factor in a relationship's success/failure?

Independence or Co-dependence?

How important is independence in a relationship?

Conventions may be the right dating spot for you!

Let’s face it: getting into the dating game sucks, and sometimes you just don’t feel like letting people set you up. Sometimes you’re looking for a more meaningful connection, but dating websites don’t appeal to you, and you don’t quite feel desperate enough to post to the personals section. What can you do? Well, you may have not considered it, but if you enjoy going to anime and comic book conventions, you might be surprised to learn that they are great places to meet new people!

One Generation to Another: Interviewing Mom

My mother is a 58 year old woman, who grew up in a very different time. Views on women, on life, and love have changed a lot since she was my age. So how does a woman who’s been married twice, had three children, and lived such a full life view womanhood? I interviewed her recently to find out just what she thinks about women, motherhood, love, marriage, and even sex.

Oral Sex and Swallowing: How good is it?

Many girls love to blow their boyfriends or partners before intercourse, or just for the sake of the activity. But sometimes guys cum during oral, and the question is: should the girl swallow or not?

Single vs. Involved

The grass isn't always greener, whichever side of the fence you are on, though it often may appear it is. It's all a matter of perspective.

Exploring Hentai

There is so much porn, both on and off the internet. Why would anyone choose to look at drawings over real people? With a guilt free conscience, knowing that there are no reluctantly recruited actors, and no awkward feelings about watching strangers get down and dirty, many people choose hentai as an alternative. Plus, kinks and fetishes have no restrictions in hentai!

Long-Distance Relationships and How to Make Them A Little Bit Easier

Long-distance relationships are always difficult. Without any sort of physical contact, it can be easy to feel lonely, no matter how often you and your partner communicate. However, there are many things you can do to feel a little bit closer to your significant other, even when he/she is hundreds of miles away.

Get it While It's Hot: The Romantics of Cooking

There's very little more attractive to me than cooking a meal with my man. And we don’t even have to be naked to do it! Here are a few reasons why I get hot from a hot meal.

Fantasy and Reality

Many of us fantasize about a certain person, sexual activity or anything that makes us get turned on. But is fantasy the same as reality?

So You Booked a Professional Boudoir Session: Tips from a Fellow Beginner

Boudoir photos are a unique, sexy gift to give to your partner for a special occasion or for no occasion at all. Here are some tips for the boudoir beginner from a fellow novice on how to have a successful session.

How to Spice up Your Sexual Life

Many couples suffer from a lack of sexual interest in one another over time, causing sex to become less appealing and exciting. This is natural, but it doesn't mean that you can't fix it.

Girls and Porn

Every guy has at least seen one porn movie in his life, but many argue that women don't watch or enjoy porn. That's total BS! Here's why:

Rough sex and domination

Many people like sex to be rough and vigorous, to be dominated and taken over by someone else. But to what extent?

Transitioning to Male (Naturally), and the Adventures Along the Way.

Have you ever wondered why some transguys "pass" so much better than others? Well, here are my tips for how you can confidently walk into any place and be seen as male, all before starting hormones.

The Proper Way to Talk Dirty During Sex

Many people like to dirty talk during sex to spice thing up, but it is important that you know how to dirty talk. You also need to know the limits of dirty talk.

No Ruts Allowed: Tried and True Tips for Unlilting Passion

Has your sex life succumbed to the dreaded 3-letter word: Rut? Here are some tips to help keep your relationship in a permanent honeymoon phase!

Broaching the Subject: Introducing Your Girl to the Joys of Prostate Play

Do you love the tingling, wavelike feeling of prostate play? Do you want to include your significant other but don't know how to bring it up? In this article I will discuss the way I broached the subject and reinvigorated our sex life.

The Wild Kink Alphabet O-Z

The last of The Wild Kink Alphabet series, covering the letters O (for oviposition) through Z (for Zentai)! Have you ever heard of Zentai suits? Transformation? Vore? Kinks and fetishes go far beyond the well known BDSM spectrum, what's out there in the endless void of fetishism?

Becoming Well-Known on Eden

Your friend just told you about this cool new site where you can get free sex toys in exchange for genuine reviews.

Valentine's Day Can't Beat Spontaneity

Valentine’s Day is just never as good as any other day my partner and I spend together, which is part of the reason I have never celebrated it. Each of my partners over the years have asked me, “So what do you want to do for Valentine’s Day?” and I’ve never known what to say. I ask them what they want to do, to turn it on them. If they seem really excited about it, I’ll go forth with whatever they want to do. I personally don’t care about Valentine’s Day unless my partner does.

Valentine's thoughts

Valentine's Day: Love it or hate it? Read on to see how my opinion has changed over time!

How To Take Good Boudoir Photos of Yourself

This is a general suggestion for ways to take quality photos of yourself or your partner without getting into too many specifics. You can always look up some of the technical terms and find tutorials online, but I thought I would write this as an introduction to those who have considered it, but thought they couldn't do it themselves.

The Wild Kink Alphabet G-N

The second section in The Wild Kink Alphabet series, covering the letters G (for guro) though N (for necrophilia)! Have you ever heard of macros? Guro? Hypers? Kinks and fetishes go far beyond the well known BDSM spectrum, what's out there in the endless void of fetishism?

Eden Lit Discusses Writer's Block

So many things going on at the Eden Lit Club House! We are talking about serious topics that should interest everyone from the avid reader to the professional writer. This month we discussed writer's block, the bane of all creative people.

Female Ejaculation: The Real Deal on Squirting

There’s no other mysterious phenomenon like squirting that attracts such interest and attention. Yet there’s little real knowledge about squirting beyond urban legend. What is squirting, really?

Sexy Piercings! Part 2: The Vertical Clitoral Hood

A lot of people get this piercing confused with piercing of the actual clitoris. I assure you, piercing the hood and piercing the clitoris itself are two very different things. Piercing the clitoris itself is actually difficult and dangerous and not often done or recommended. The hood on the other hand, which is the layer of tissue above the clitoris, is safer and has a lot of benefits for your sex life.

Valentine's Day: Not Just One Day

Valentine's Day should not be the only day we show our loved ones we care because our love should be expressed daily.

Let’s Not Make a Big Deal About This, OK?

Nothing ventured, nothing gained. For big rewards, you have to be willing to take big risks. No one got ahead by playing it safe…

Talking to Teens About Sex.

When is it time? What should you cover? What shouldn't you cover? Should the school be helping?

I am a Sister Wife

I am a sister wife, and here is the why and how!

The Wild Kink Alphabet A-F

The first section of The Wild Kink Alphabet, covering the letters A (for age play) through F (for furry)! Have you ever heard of erotic asphyxiation? What about cum inflation? Furry? Kinks and fetishes go far beyond the well known BDSM spectrum, what's out there in the endless void of fetishism?

WHHHHHYYYYY!!! The reason your vibrator gave up the ghost.

We've all experienced that moment when our vibrators and bullets ceased to work. Sometimes if we're lucky, giving them a gentle shake or a fresh set of batteries will get them going again. Sadly this doesn't always work and we're left with one resounding question: Why?

Tired of Sex? Try Having It

More and more married couples are falling into sexless ruts in recent years, but it doesn't have to be that way.

Editor's Top 3 Last Minute Valentine's Day Picks

A little birdy told us some of you still haven't picked anything up for your lover. What is it about the gift-giving holidays that turns even the most punctual person into a procrastinator? Never fear! Our Editor in Chief is here with three suggestions of her own...and a naughty bonus.

Mind Kink: Exploring Consensual Non-Consensual

Consensual non-consensual (C.N.C.) is sometimes thought of as 'rape-play.' When done correctly and with respect for your partner, C.N.C. can be a very passionate and enjoyable thing. We've all had fantasies of being home alone and suddenly our partner dressed as a burglar comes in and 'burgles' us. The very idea of a trusted partner taking us forcefully and making us enjoy it can be highly erotic. C.N.C is a way to safely explore these fantasies and enjoy them fully.

Sometimes Father Does Know Best

Although I am not great at writing I decided to put my story out there because I hear so many people complaining about their parents setting them up on dates. I want to show everyone that sometimes it can be a good thing, too!

Morally Grey: Biological Children

When does the desire for children turn grey? Is it okay if you know you will give your child a disease? Is there a line? And where is it?

What Do Women Over 50 Look For When Buying Sex Toys?

Many women over 50 can tell you their sex drive is anything but dead, but many times there are circumstances which may prevent them from exploring and enjoying sexual freedom. Sometimes their partners are unwilling or unable to perform, other times the partner is simply absent. This doesn't mean a woman should deny herself pleasure. So what does a woman over 50 look for when buying a sex toy?

She Plays, He Plays: Indulge Me

We sent LELO's Indulge Me Pleasure Set to Rydell and Susan thinking there's no way we could top their experience with Tiani and Tiani 2. Apparently, Susan was more than ready to prove us wrong. Read on to find out what they thought of this month's featured toy!

Top 25 Most Popular SexIs Articles in 2012

The year 2012 was a year fraught with change for SexIs. We added a lot of new faces, and touched on a lot of new topics. We had articles all over the spectrum from people all over the world. And these are the most read, most popular, most commented...dare we say most loved? Catch up on what you missed!

The “Traditional” Family? Anything but.

The argument for "One Man. One Woman." Is anything but traditional. Looking back at human history, you'll be surprised that that so-called "traditional" family is the farthest thing from traditional.

Preschool Closes Amidst Sex Scandal Between Students

A California Lutheran preschool is in hot water due to allegations of sex between its young students. Unanswered questions still exist about where students learned of these sexual acts in the first place and what the long-term consequences will be.

The Trials of a Long Distance Relationship

Long distance relationships can be insanely difficult. Without constant interaction in person, you can easily come across a variety of issues. However, it can be done. Let me show you how!

How to prepare yourself before anal sex or anal play

Many girls want to try anal sex but are afraid that "something" might happen that will embarrass them. Here are some things, that you can do before anal sex, to help you feel more prepared.

The Process Of Understanding

I know that most people look at a new and different relationship style that seems to be functional and wonder how on Earth this began. I will attempt to answer that question as fully as I can.

Mutual Masturbation is a wicked alternative to going "all the way"

Looking for something new to do in bed? With a new partner and not ready to do the penetration route just yet? Having trouble figuring out exactly how your lover likes it? A bit of an exhibitionist or voyeur? Mutual masturbation may be new to some people, but it can be one of the hottest, simplest acts for both foreplay or the main attraction.

Does Size Really Matter?

Many people are hyped up over the idea that the size of your penis affects your sexual performance. Is that really true and if not why do people think this way?

A Beginner's Guide to Online Dating

I have done my share of blind dates and internet dating over the past 20 years on and off. I am happily taken now and thought I would share some of what I learned. I've tried most of the popular sites and some off the beaten path too with mixed results. There have been disasters, some great successes, and everything in between, but I'd say the good experiences definitely outweighed the bad. You just have to use a little common sense, have tons of patience, and be true to yourself.

Visually Enhanced Psychosexual Therapy (VEST)

Everyone knows about sexual dysfunction, and those who have experienced it may have tried a score of medical “solutions” with less than fruitful results. For those who have found other “non-medicinal” interventions that have worked, perhaps this article may not be news for you so much as proof that getting reacquainted with your own body, and that of your loved one, can do more for you than any medicine can.

Starting Sex Ed Classes: Maturity Before Age

Children are hitting puberty younger than ever and are attending sex education classes at an earlier age, but not all children are ready to deal with the information that is being presented.

The Highs and Lows of it

Most nights when the lights go off, there is that moment where sex is a possibility before drifting off to sleep. My heart races and I can feel the blood rushing to my lady bits in a wonderful wave. As my fingers wander around her skin, hoping to catch something, there's always the thought in the back of my head "Will this happen tonight?"

Daddy Issues: What Do You Do When Daddy Leaves You?

I know plenty of people that have had issues with their father growing up. And, when they grew up to be an adult, a lot of their issues-including their love life were said to be the result of having an absent father. While I do believe a "dead beat" parent can certainly have an effect on your psyche, I do not believe that you cannot shape yourself to be a better you from it.

Marriage and Divorce: My Perspective on Commitments

Recently, I was involved in a heated argument with a friend who misquoted me about divorce. Specifically, he implied that my acceptance of divorce meant that I didn’t know the true value of commitment. So, to clarify my feelings on the topic, I am expressing my opinions on commitment, marriage, and divorce.

Clutter vs Convenience: Books in the bedroom?

From the ubiquitous 70's offering of The Joy of Sex through Madonna's 'Sex' tome and almost every issue of Cosmopolitan, there was always a certain appeal in having 'coffee table' books & magazines that not only showed our open-mindedness to select friends, but also meant we could just grab a title and take it off to bed with us. But do we still need books for that, or can we get the same reading enjoyment out of our Kindles & Tablets?

A Sexy Guide: Enjoying Oral Sex (More)

Disclaimer: This is written by a cisgender female, and is biased toward a vulva-bearing reader. It is intended for people uncomfortable with oral sex as opposed to those who don't like the sensation itself. I use the term "partner" throughout this article as a stand-in for person who is giving you head, lover, boyfriend/girlfriend, significant other, hottie from the bar, etc.

Men: Don't Feel Worried About Your Woman's New Sex Toy

Many men feel anxious and uncomfortable when their woman gets a toy. I am here to tell them why they shouldn't feel that way.

She Plays, He Plays: The Key To The G

So why exactly did Jopen cover one awesome material with another? We weren’t sure, either. Then we read the Johnsons’ review. Read on to find out what Susan and Rydell think about Jopen’s Key Comet G!

Top 25 Most Popular Articles in December 2012

Naughty Christmas gifts, coming out kinky, and sexy fantasies were the topics of discussion in December on SexIs Social. Sadly, despite all the warmth and love, it was also a month of reflection and disgust when a bad situation surrounding one Ohio high school spun wildly out of control. Bundle up next to the heater vent and read the most read and shared stories on SexIs in December 2012.

The Forbidden Fruit

Anal sex is one of those things that are considered a "taboo", but that is what makes it so interesting.

Control Yourself During Sex

Many guys suffer from premature ejaculation. Here are a few tips and tricks I've picked up from my personal experiences with my boyfriend.

My Story: Recognizing and Preventing Rape

This a bit heavy for a first article, but as someone who has been a victim, rape is a serious issue that men and women need to stay informed about. I admire the magazine Cosmopolitan for making a monthly article about the issue of campus rape and actually doing something to raise awareness of the problem. In this article you will learn about my experience and ways to be aware and safe.

Old-Fashioned Dating Etiquette for Modern Times

Some say that chivalry is dead, but perhaps its rules have just evolved so that we can use them easily in today's world. Old-fashion dating etiquette can still hold up in modern times, even though our lifestyles and culture have changed.

Stuck in the Friend Zone

The idea of the "friend zone", at least the way many men use it, is one of the most subtly misogynistic relationship concepts we have. Here's why.

My Journey to Submissive Bliss

This is my journey in submission and finding who I really am. Self-discovery can be a long, hard road with many bumps along the way. How do you tell your partner that you desire more in your relationship? Is it hopeless if you are married vanilla?

Whose rights are it anyway?

Is there a simple answer to the question of who has the right to make a decision on abortion? Of course not! In such a horrible situation, who gets the final say?

The Clitoris: The Tip of an Iceberg

Did you know that the size of the clitoris is comparable to that of an average penis? The large majority of the clitoral network is internal, we only get to see the very tip on the outside. There's so much more than the little man in the boat!

A Gentlemen Always Lets The Lady Cum First.

Call it common courtesy. Call it being a gentlemen. Call it whatever you like. If you're allowing your lady to cum first, you, my friend, are a prime example of the refined, exquisite gentlemen of sex etiquette. Alas, many men out there refuse their lady this fine privilege. Hell, some don't even know if their partner has cum. This, my readers, can not go on any longer. Not in the year 2013!!! We outlived the Mayans for Christ sakes! Surely this too shall pass. I hope...

You don't have to be gay to enjoy anal play.

This article is less of a "how-to" and more of a demonstration that the enjoyment of anal penetration or stimulation has no bearing on one's sexuality. It is a common misconception by many hetero females and males alike that any man who likes his ass penetrated is "gay" or at a minimum, bisexual. That is simply untrue.

In Defense of Monogamy: It's Not Selfish

In modern society, many people think monogamy is outdated, restrictive, and most of all, selfish. But is it really?

A Beginner's Guide To Safewords: What Is A Safeword And Why Do I Need One?

What do you do when "YES, YES, YES" turns into "NO, NO, NO?" Safewords are an invaluable tool to have when you are involved in rough play. In this guide, I will explain what a safeword is and why they are good to have, because in the BDSM world "No" doesn't always mean "No."

Our Agreement or How I Learned to Stop Stressing and Enjoy Sex Again

My fiancé and I have an agreement about sex. Our agreement is that we will not engage in sex of any kind unless I am the one who initiates it. I know, it sounds a little bit strange, doesn’t it? Maybe even a little bit draconian? I thought so too at first, but this agreement has changed not only our sex life, but our relationship as whole for the better. But maybe I should back up a bit and start from the beginning.

What About Him?

It takes two to make a baby, but it only takes one person to decide if that embryo is born or not. Should the man have any say in what happens?

The Struggle Over Choice

It's never an easy choice to make, but when the mother and father cannot reach an agreement, how is a plan of action eventually reached?

Define This: Pheromones

You're scanning through various massage oils and lotions here on Edenfantasys, and you see that word again. Pheromones. But what are they? What are they doing in your massage lotion? And most importantly, do they work?

Equal rights across all planes!

In a country that has fought so long for equal rights, it seems to me that a key area has been disregarded: father's rights to an unborn child. No man can legally force a woman to abort her baby, so why should a woman be able to abort a baby that has a parent who wants to raise it?

Sexual Anatomy 201: The 18 Parts of the Clitoris

Did you know the most of the clitoris is hidden from view? Can you name the many parts of the clitoris? The key to understanding something is to truly study it!

The Fine Line Between "Wanna F@ck?" and "F@CK ME!!!"

I make it no secret that I have had many sexual encounters in my lifetime. Some of them were more memorable then others. This is largely due to the things that were said during coitus. I wish I could tell you that it was all hot, sexy and really got my motor running, but alas, I can not. Nine times out of ten it was pure rubbish. I'm here to tell you now that talking dirty is an art form.

Masturbation: It is Perfectly Fine!

Flicking your bean, flogging the dolphin, jerking the gherkin...Whatever you call it, it is perfectly safe. It's also healthy!

The Tale of the Survivor

Survivors of sexual assault are people made sensitive by not only the attack but also by the treatment they receive from society.

A Father's Rights Don't Trump A Mother's

While I do acknowledge that a father has rights, I simply can't view a scenario in which they trump a woman's rights.

It Takes a Village

While it's tempting for single mothers to view their contribution as the only one that really matters, it's important to acknowledge the role of father to a child.

Rights Given or Taken?

We as a society mostly agree that once a child is born, the father has some sort of parental rights and responsibilities, barring any sort of extenuating circumstances. But what about before birth? Does he have any sort of say? Should he?

SexIs Subjective: Gentleman's Choice?

Should men be included in the decision making choice for abortion?

Pro-Choice, but Whose Choice?

When it takes two people to make something, who gets more of a say when choosing to unmake it? Normally, the clear answer is both parties, but what if that something affects one party way more than another? Such is the dilemma of abortion. Doesn't he have a say in whether the child should live?

Losing innocence while gaining perspective.

I was young, impressionable and I just really didn't wanna be the last virgin in a group of supposed Sex Goddesses (my friends).

Losing Your Libido At 35

I hear people complaining about becoming 40 all the time. Hell, they made a movie about it for God's sake. I'm not 40 yet, but I still feel the strain of my libido slipping away. I feel the urge for sex slowly fading. My energy is not there. I'm here to tell you turning 35 kind of sucks! However, it doesn't have to.

Cis People, Read This If You Plan on Dating Someone Who Is Trans* or Queer

Are you cis and dating or considering dating a person who is trans* or queer and you're not sure how to handle the relationship? Even if you don't feel very sure, being in a relationship with someone who's trans* or queer can be a pretty complicated thing, because they may actively question things you otherwise don't. So read on, even if you're feeling confident that you can handle the relationship, because trust me, even if you think you know it all, you don't!

"Thinking-Off" (The Thought Induced Orgasm)

Since the 1970s, the connection between thought and orgasms has been a hot topic (Masters & Johnson)...Mental orgasms, Energy Orgasms, Thinking Off, Thought-gasms, Thought-induced orgasms. I am sure many of you have seen the show “Strange Sex” on TLC, specifically the episode about Thinking Off, but has anyone really thought about it? In this article I highlight my own experiences with thought-gasms, that they are in fact real, and what exactly you might want to know about them.

The boys' club and porn culture

The verbal-visual porn dichotomy demystified. Or: do women like porn?

How To Guide To Set (and keep) Realistic New Year Resolutions

Tonight is officially the last night of 2012. It's been a great big year of ups and downs. Each of us has had our share of events that have changed us; some for the good and some for the bad. The start of a new year is always a great chance to start over and make the next year full of positive changes. But how do you decide where to start? How do you choose goals that are attainable?

Long Distance Relationships and Sexual Desire

Many people may experience a long distance relationship but how to deal with sexual desire and lust is a problem that many face.

Ho, Ho, Hoe?

Opening a sex toy you purchased can feel exciting and decadent; opening a sex toy gift can make you feel wanted, wanton, and maybe a little dirty...

Online Dating: The Cyber Search For Real World Love

Learn a little bit about online dating and see if it might be right for you!

Porn For the Rest of Us: Top 5 Reasons to Read Fanfiction

The phrase “porn for women” is thrown around a lot these days, sometimes mockingly accompanied by a photo of a man doing the dishes, but you might be surprised to learn that there is a massive community of porn – real, explicit, kinky, delicious porn – created by women, for women. I'm talking about fanfiction.

The First Time [With a Man] (AKA I Was Young and Stupid)

I always imagined my first time being special. I never expected it to be like this...

From the Mouths of Babes

I had my children as a teenager. I struggled with their irresponsible father and my teenage children know the paths that I've taken and they respect them. I've always told them that I'd respect theirs as well. However, you'll never know what they are until you talk to them.

Anaphrodisiacs

While you can read a lot about libido-enhancing aphrodisiacs and what to give your significant other to eat if you want an exciting night, there is little talk about natural anaphrodisiacs, foods and herbs that blunt the libido. So, here is everything to know about them.

SexIs Subjective: Gifting Pleasure

Sex toys are a great way to show someone you care about their pleasure, but it is necessary to use personal judgment and respect others’ boundaries before gifting a sex toy.

Sex Myths in Our Schools

Educating our children about sex is one of the most important lessons we can teach them in life. High school is a breeding ground for misinformation and peer pressure. Get to your kids first before their peers do.

The power in your feet - A guide to giving a fantastic foot job

Did you know that the most common fetish in the western world is the foot fetish? Odds are good that your significant other likes your feet too. Or maybe you already know he does and you want to knock his socks off with a hot surprise. Or he asked if you would do it. If so, here are some tips for you to make your man moan and groan!

Define This: the Oedipus and Electra complexes

It was Freud who penned the expression for the first time, but Jung defined the meaning differently, and contemporary psychologists are on different opinions. Here is a little summary on them.

Define This: Vore

Have you had the desire to eat someone today? Whole? There's a rare fantasy fetish floating around the web called Vore. Frequently compared to cannibalism, vore has many different categories that appeal to vorarephiliacs.

Breastfeed Your Man

Would you breastfeed your man? Breast milk is extremely nutritious. There are many couples who enjoy an adult breastfeeding relationship everyday. Between adults, it can be a very rewarding, pleasurable, and intimate act.

Shopping Guide: How to Get the Best Underwear for Your Body Type

Too many times have we all bought underwear that looked great on a model or in our hands but when we wear it, it looks bad or not as expected. I am a firm believer that women should and can wear whatever underwear we like, and this is not a guide to what you should or should not wear. Rather, think of it as we all have a color best for us, and we all have an underwear cut that is best for us.

The Juvenile Long-Haulers: What Young Love Can Be.

To many, college is a time of exploration- but how do you fit that into a long-term, completely monogamous relationship? People tend to assume that "young love" is frivolous, romantic fun, but can't it be real? Let this introductory story warm your heart and remind you of the love that you feel for your honey.

Feminish: Sex Pozzies

Think feminists don't like sex? Think again. One feminist's discovery of sex positivism.

How To: Be a Camgirl

For those who have contemplated webcamming for money, here is a quick and easy guide to get you started. Webcamming can have some major financial benefits, but like any job, it requires hard work.

SexIs Subjective: Careful Who You Give To! (And Have Fun!)

Be careful how you gift people with sexy gifts. Overall, though: Do it! Gift your partner with something sexy! You BE that sexy Santa!

How To: Get a Job as a Phone Sex Operator

Ever wondered how to go about working as a phone sex operator (PSO)? Here is my tutorial guide on the basics of starting your career as a PSO.

SexIs Subjective: ‘Tis a gift...and ‘tis the person

Think twice before you wrap that Fleshlight! Reasons you might want to reconsider giving someone that particular gift.

Clearing the hurdles: Our struggle to conceive a child (Part Six)

Before we get into this, does anyone else see sex toys wherever you go? I think once you're around them long enough, you just naturally start to see dildos and vibrators in every day objects. Going to see a doctor will bring this out ten fold. Everything just eventually looks like a vibrator. Then suddenly the whole thing becomes something pulled from the pages of an erotic novel. Maybe it's just me. Probably. Have I mentioned that I am a little twisted? Anyway...let's move on.

The Singletonian’s guide to a happy “Nude Year”

When the new year hits, some of us will be watching the ball drop in Singleton. For us permanent residents, that's just the right place to be. Here are one Singletonian's resolutions for a happy, healthy, and sexy new year.

The Toy War

Regan and I were up late, when he asked the question. I never though that my answer would begin this...

SexIs Subjective: Giving Sex Toys as Gifts

If there are people on your shopping list, who you know could benefit from a few sex toys and a few good orgasms, open up your mind to the idea. You may just become their favorite gift giver!

Making Marriage Work

Many marriages that end in divorce can be saved by ultimately targeting any issues the union may have and making a strong effort to openly communicate with their partners. Some marriages are irreparable but there are some that require a bit of TLC. So here is some advice on having a better relationship with your spouse and overall benefiting the relationship.

BDSM 101: Aftercare

When you start planning your first scene, you want to do everything you can to make it as perfect as possible. What you might forget is to plan what will happen after the scene is over.

Top 25 Most Popular Articles on SexIs November 2012

Needing a break from all the hustle and bustle of holiday shopping? We’ve got another amazing edition of the SexIs Top 25!

BDSM 101: What websites to join and which ones to avoid

When you first find the world of BDSM, one of the things that you probably want to do is learn as much as you can. A good way to do that is join a fetish website so that you can connect with like-minded individuals. But like with everything else, there are both good and bad websites.

Sexis Subjective: Sex Toys Make Great Gifts... Sometimes

You may be able to tell who needs the gift of orgasms this Christmas, however, not everyone will be receptive to a sex toy. How can you tell who to grant some sexiness to, and who just gets monogrammed pencils? Follow these simple rules.

Clearing the hurdles: Our struggle to conceive a child (Part Five)

I just realized that I have dragged you all in to a story that has no ending. It's still unwritten. This could have a tragic ending. Or hopefully, God willing, a very happy one. Either way, I'm sorry I lead you to this. I'm sorry you're here for the ride. Just be with me here, that's all I ask. No matter what, please know, I do not want to hurt you. Hopefully it will never come to that.

Anal Play

Are you wanting to try anal but have doubts about you or your partner? If you are read my article and I hope it helps.

SexIs Subjective: Toys for Private, Sweaters for Family

The holidays are about love and family, and family is all about respect.

The Science of Love and Heartbreak

Ever wonder why you fall in love? Why it doesn't last? What you can do about it?

Clearing the hurdles: Our struggle to conceive a child (Part Four)

The worst part of our struggle was about to unfold. It would change us forever and leave us wondering if this foolish wish was truly outside our grasp.

10 Gifts That They Will Love for Under $20

Your guide to affordable and sensuous Christmas gifts from EdenFantasys.

Clearing the hurdles: Our struggle to conceive a child (Part Three)

Our battle to become pregnant had a lot of downs and one very special up.

Clearing the Hurdles: Our Struggle to Conceive a Child (Part Two)

We have battled with ourselves, blaming everything from the types of lube we use, the possibility I have a low sperm count, straight down to the positions we use during sex. However in the end, the answer was still not clear. To put it simply, we are caught in the middle of a steeplechase of unknowns. All we can hope for is to clear these hurdles along the way.

Clearing the Hurdles: Our Struggle To Conceive a Child (Part One)

My wife and I have been together for a little over eleven years now. In that time, we have had our ups and downs. A lot more downs then ups, to be honest. One of our constant struggles is the inability to get pregnant. Over the course of eleven years, we have had our fair share of heartache, near death experiences, and an unbelievable miracle that has has now become my lil' six year old whirlwind of energy. Even so, we still wish it was easier on us to conceive a child.

BDSM 101: Not Everyone Needs To Know

People that are new to kink often ask "how do I explain my kink to my family and friends?" Whenever I see this question, I wonder why they feel the need to tell people.

BDSM 101: How to find your limits

When you're new to the world of BDSM, you might find it difficult to pick out your limits when there are many types of play you've never been exposed to.

An illustrated guide to creating a safe and secure self-bondage system

In life, you do not always have a partner to play with – sad but true. Maybe because you’re single, maybe because they aren’t into your kink, or maybe you just want some quality time for yourself.

BDSM 101: BDSM Myths

There are many things that you may hear when you start researching about BDSM that might make you tilt your head and go "huh?" Here are a few of them that aren't always true.

BDSM 101: Pick Your Label

When it comes to D/s relationships, there are so many labels that it can get a little confusing. Here is a guide with a basic explanation of some of the more common labels.

Pushing Sexual Boundaries: When the Lines get Blurred

If there is one thing that has been blurred for me, it would have to be boundaries. When does something stop being itself, and transform into something completely opposite? In my love life, sex has become one of those things.

She Plays, He Plays: What A Thrill

If you couldn’t tell by the picture alone, the packaging for We-Vibe’s Thrill makes the toy’s intended use perfectly clear. “Solo: for her” it says right across the top of the box sleeve.

The Tale Of "Tara" Or How I Survived 3 Years With A Violent Girlfriend "Part Four" THE END

A year later and things were looking up. We were engaged, I was saving up money for the honeymoon in Vegas, we were looking at houses and planning on having a child. Things were really picture perfect. Despite a few minor shouting matches, I seriously thought we had this beat. On the other end, I alienated myself from my friends. I spent every waking hour with “Tara." She became my world. She was my everything. It would take a a lot to snap me out of it.

The Tale Of "Tara" Or How I Survived 3 Years With A Violent Girlfriend "Part Three"

The road I was on was looking bleak. I couldn't turn back, I could not give up on her. No matter what my friends had to say, I would stick by her side. Thick or thin, I had a point to prove. No matter how stupid it seemed to anyone else. I would make this relationship work, even if it killed me.

SexIs Subjective: Stockings For The Naughty List, A Lump Of Coal Or...

You do not want to be on the naughty list at Christmas...or do you? This can be a good time of year for:
~Lovely, sensual surprises!
~A fun, sexy and practical way to introduce a few toys to your partner!
~Starting a new tradition!

You, Your Partner, and Your Kink

To nuzzle is one thing, but what if you need to tell your partner you prefer a bite? Or handcuffs? Will they accept it, or will they run far away?

Push Her Magic Button Just Right

So you decided you wanted to know more about pleasuring yourself or your girlfriend? Or maybe she simply pulled your hand on her clitoral area? You looked up tutorials and guides, and there came a line: “stimulate her clit”. But it arrived without instructions.

How to Deal With a Family Who Disapproves of Your Spouse

While it is important to listen to what your loved ones have to say about your spouse, it’s also important for them to recognize and be respectful of your partner. The Holidays tend to arrive with enough stress and, when we’re spending time with family, we’re often reminded of the saying that "in-laws never get along." I have tips on how to handle situations, between your spouse and family for the upcoming Holidays, and not only that, but I have a back-up plan, just in case other plans fail!

Sexis Subjective: An Old-Fashioned Christmas.

Toys are a great gift... just not for Christmas.

Sexis Subjective: The Season of Giving... Orgasms

What's Buzzing Underneath the Tree?

The story of my first vibrator or why I shop online

A little funny and a little embarrassing story of the first piece of my toy collection.

Sexis Subjective: Sex Toys as Gifts

Would I give a vibrator to my grandma? Nope, you guessed right! While yes, this would be a wildly inappropriate gift for my grandmother, there are definitely people whom it is appropriate to give the Christmas gift of a healthier, more enriched sex life to!

Labels: Good or bad?

I've recently been in a relationship that has been more than difficult. The constant ups and downs were overly taxing and we decided to end it and be friends. But now we are still "seeing" each other without the label and things are better than ever. So my question is, can the label of a relationship ruin a relationship?

The Tale Of "Tara" Or How I Survived 3 Years With A Violent Girlfriend "Part Two"

"Tara" had become my project. My goal in life. To show the rest of the world around us that a person could be changed for the better through the power of love. She would see how much I cared and loved her, simply by me not giving up on her. Surely it would work. I just had to stay by her side no matter how many trips to the ER it took.

My Discovery Of The Big "O"

"Oh! I give up trying to achieve orgasm it is too much work!" "My health problems are the reason I cannot achieve orgasm so I am a helpless cause!" "I am to busy to think of sex right now!" Do these sound like you? Do you want answers? I did too. This is how I began my search for the big "O".

The Naughty Stocking

So it's the holiday season, a time of peace, love and joy, right? Or are you more like me, frantically shopping to get everyone on your list done, trying to pacify all the relatives and feeling like your love life goes on the back burner? Here's what I'm doing this year to make sure that doesn't happen.

The Tale Of "Tara" Or How I Survived 3 Years With A Violent Girlfriend Part One

For three years I was in a violent relationship. The biggest struggle with it all wasn't the abuse, but rather explaining my situation to family and friends. No one could believe that a 5' 2” 120 pound girl could do that much damage to a 6' 4” 190 pound man. It wasn't until the 3rd visit to the ER that my “awaking” happened. It was then that I realized that even men can be victims of abuse. Mental and physical, and I didn't need to take it anymore!

Bringing a Fantasy to Life

Each month, SexIs Social asks us to look at different topics. This month's focus is "Wish Lists" and this week is specifically about "Fantasy." We all have that favorite fantasy that we return to, I know I certainly do. One of my favorite repeat fantasies has helped me expand my own sex life.

Have You Been Naughty?

Are you dreaming of a naughty Christmas? You are not alone. Thanks to the "50 Shades of Grey" trilogy, 2012 has officially become the year of kink. Moreover, women seem to be the driving force behind this sexual explosion. LELO, a leading designer of personal pleasure objects, recently released their yearlong global survey. With 19,000 women respondents from 8 countries, the results may surprise you, unless you already have your grey silk tie.

Learning The Ropes: A Guide To Different Bondage Rope

It is easy to get lost in the knotted jungle of ropes. Here is some help for finding your way out of the forest!

The Virgins of the Modern World: Different Classes of Virginity in Today's Society

Today, a virgin is not simply a virgin. It is no longer as simple as deciding what sexual acts you want, or don't to want to engage in. In our society, virginity means one thing for one virgin and a completely different thing for another, it's a debatable topic. So the question is - what makes someone a virgin and who can claim to be a "True Virgin," in this twisted world filled with varying descriptions and deceptions?

Giving and receiving oral!

Are you a little iffy about trying oral or even giving it? Well read my article and I will try to help you the best I can.

He's perfect but I'm just not into him.

When you settle for the paper perfect person

Adding toys to your sex life.

Are you curious about bringing a little bit of spice to the bedroom?

SexIs Subjective: Sex Toys as Gifts: Yes for Bridesmaids, Maybe for Grandmas

Are you wondering about giving a gift of orgasmic goodness to your loved ones? Read about the pleasures and perils of sex toy gift-giving.

How crabs saved my life. Well...sort of.

The best thing about being young and sexually active is that sooner or later you might just stumble across an STD or two. If you're lucky, you may escape some of the very major ones we all know are out there, so please play it safe. With that said, even if you do get an STD, sometimes, and very rarely now...they can help fix the path you're on.

SexIs Subjective: The Season of Giving

I love my toys, so why not share the joy?

How to have safe (and yes enjoyable) anal sex.

This isn't your average "Go after it!!!" mission my friend. If you're going to explore places unknown, then both of you need to be informed. Otherwise it could be messy. No pun intended.

Understanding The Female Orgasm.

If you've been having trouble reaching the big "O," it may not be your partner's inability to please you. It may be a misunderstanding as to what part of your lady bits needs to be manipulated for an earth-shattering climax.

Sexis Subjective: Give the gift of Orgasms!!

To give or not to give that is the question.....is it appropriate to gift sex toys? Is there some sort of protocol for this?

Holiday Gift Guide: Titillating Tinsel Edition

Gift kits, gift wrap and free shipping! Oh, my!

Merry Freaking Christmas! An Irreverent Guide to All Your Holiday Problems

Holiday stress got you down? Here are six easy solutions to your yuletide woes.

Some of the best places and ways to hide your sex toys

If you have a surplus of toys, this can mean one thing for sure. You may have few places to hide them. Never fear, I'm here to help any way I can.

Why Most Men Are Afraid of Sex Toys.

Even in today’s day and age, most men still shy away from sex toys. They see them as a threat to their manhood, or even worse, a replacement for their god given penis. I'm here to tell all men to shut the funk up! Sex toys are not a dangerous thing that will destroy your relationship with your partner. Sex toys will enhance your love life tenfold. As long as you learn to stop worrying and fall in love with the joy that is a sex toy filled love life.

SexIs subjective: Toy presents??

Are they accepted? or not...

It's hard out there for a sex toy lover, especially if you're straight.

Why on God's green earth is it hard for people to grasp that straight men can love sex toys too? Or why do they think you must be gay?

Kinky Sex Club

Harvard College approves a kinky sex club as a new student organization.

How to influence the taste of your semen

Ever wondered what it would be like if your partner swallowed your cum? Maybe even tried it? And did you ever wonder what it would be like for your partner to swallow it?

SexIs Subjective: Should Toys Only Be Gifted To Children?

Should children be the only ones receiving "toys" for Christmas and other gift-giving occasions? Is it really a black and white decision?

The power in his hands - a guide to fingering a girl

So you decided you wanted to treat your girlfriend better and enhance the experience for her – good decision! Women like to be pampered and appreciated, and they are able to reach several orgasms during one act – so yes, why not?

SexIs Subjective: Hell yes! Oh...hell...no?

To buy toys, or not to buy toys...that's the question!

How My Husband Made Me Sexy!

He's my husband and from the moment I met him he claimed he saw something special in me; something I couldn't see. He has spent many years patiently teaching me to see myself as he sees me, and this is how it all began.

SexIs Subjective: What's In The Box?

Everyone loves receiving gifts, but what about giving or receiving sex toys as gifts?

Two Lovers and A Vibrator.

Have you been wanting to introduce a toy into the bedroom but aren't entirely sure how to do it? If you want to know the benefits of using toys in the bedroom or exactly how to introduce the toy itself...keep reading!

I pondered, do most women know if they like cunnilingus?

Thoughts from myself and other men and women on the joys or lack thereof of women receiving oral sex.

Words have power - a guide to talking dirty

So talking dirty makes your blood boil, but you do not know where to start. Or your partner whispered in your ear to do it. Or simply you’re curious. Then this is the right place for you to start – as words have power and they can spice things up!

Internet Safety Should Be For Everyone

There is no doubt that technology definitely has come a very, very long way since the internet's humble beginnings and the silly, almost cartoon-like sounds of dial-up connections. The internet is something that can be used for seemingly millions of things and should be enjoyed safely, no matter your age, gender, or sexuality.

Coming out as a Cam girl

When you just can't lie about such a big part of your life anymore...

Understanding Premature Ejaculation

Learn a little about premature ejaculation as well as some possible ways to remedy the situation!

Define This: Dyspareunia (Painful Sex)

Do you ever experience pain during sexual penetration? Have you ever thought about why you feel that pain? Well there is a name for painful intercourse. It's called Dyspareunia.

Brr! How To Stay Warm With Your Lover This Winter When It Is Too Cold To Play Outdoors.

I absolutely dread the winter time, as well as many others! If you're like me and you are tired of the same 'ol "drink hot chocolate and wait for the blizzard to pass," try one of these saucy things to occupy your time.

You Want Me To WHAT?!

I'm sure many of us remember the introduction of toys and possibly porn into our current relationships. For some of you it may have been a fun adventure, others a continuation of your life as a single person, but for those like myself who were a bit naive, it was...an experience. Luckily, I had a patient husband who did not give up on me and I think we know the end of the story, but let me tell you how we got there.

If At First You Don't Succeed...

Becoming intimate with anyone is a process. You're two different people with one common goal: sharing closeness.

Here's What Not To Do.

It seems as though sex and rocket science are on the same level of complexity. Yes it is fun, pleasurable, and exciting but without the right knowledge it could also be tricky. To avoid awkward silence and enjoy sex to the fullest, here is what NOT to say and do in the bedroom.

Eat. Make Love. Repeat.

We all know that eating certain foods can put you in the mood for a bit of love-making. But after having done some research, you may be surprised the effect that some of these edibles will have on your sex life.

The Extra Pleasure Spot: Cervical Orgasms

While some of us are busy still trying to achieve orgasm during penetration, there are the few, blessed rest of us who have found a whole ‘nother type – the cervical orgasm, also known as the X-orgasm. In this article, I want to share with you the X-orgasm, what it is, how it happens, and even better, my own experience.

How Has Your Spouse Changed You?

This month's theme here at SexIs Social is sexual freedom. We are free to express ourselves sexually, but we are all influenced by different people. When it comes to sex, your spouse or significant other can definitely play an influential and large role in your sexual life and identity.

How I Deal With Holiday Stress

My family get-togethers are few and far between. I don't look forward to them. My blood pressure goes up just thinking about it. Fist fights, arguments, down right mean behavior and that is all before we even eat!

Sex - the absolute and relative availability of information

Today we live in the age of sexual freedom as well as the age of information and the internet. Anything you might want to learn or know about is pretty much a click away. But is it, really?

Happy Holidays From Eden Lit!

The holiday season is upon us once again and we at Eden Lit are feeling very festive. We are dropping Eden Lit Lessons and just about everything we normally do and we're gonna party. We're gonna play games and write happy, hot or maybe even healing stories. Join us for an earlier meeting on Tuesday December 4, 2012 at 3 pm on our forum for a writing party!

Getting what you really want out of sex.

I know a lot of couples who have fallen into the boring sex life routine, I was one of them! Finding your way out can be a hard road, but it can be done!

Top 25 Most Popular Articles in September 2012

Sex education, orgasms and BDSM were on the minds of our readers and contributors in September, this year. And who could blame them, what with the release of 50 Shades of Grey, and the alleged "war on women" waging in the United States presidential and state campaigns?

Fantasies and Friends with Benefits: an Exploration in Communication

Does casual sex have to change the way that you communicate fantasies with your partner? This is a look into answering that question from the perspective of a girl who thought she was the kinkiest girl in her cornfield town, and the friend-with-benefits who proved her very, very wrong.

The power in your hands - part II

So you already know the basics of a handjob, and maybe even have a few techniques you can vary, but you're looking for more options? Read on to learn how to make your guy smoking hot for you.

Sex & Religion: The Beautiful and the Damned

People have touched upon Sex & Religion in a variety of ways. However, I think there is more talk about "don't feel guilty" and less about why people feel guilty despite all "logic." This article is partly personal in nature, but for those who still feel guilty despite all the sermons and debunking, perhaps the answer is that most of us cannot quite put our finger on where the guilt is coming from – and it might be a whole lot more than just religion in the water.

Want to see my D?

Nowadays it seems like showing your D is easier than saying hi.

Is anal really worth it?

The answer is Yes.

She Plays, He Plays: The Sure Things

Our parent company, EdenFantasys, carries tons of products meant to aid you in sparking the sensual blazes in your bedroom. From oils to reduce friction and increase the heat, to powders to add a hint of flavor to your skin, to silky soft feather dusters meant to tantalize your lover, the possibilities are endless. But which ones are right for you? Rydell and Susan tried a few to give you an idea.

Introducing porn into a relationship!

Are you trying to get your partner to watch porn but don't know how? Well read my article. I'm here to help you.

The power in your hands - What makes a good handjob good?

A hand job can be just a quick jerking off and release - but it can be a sexy, hot experience if done well. With blowjobs becoming more common and less the exclusive treat, hand jobs have lost some of the appeal. But with a little concentration your hands can gain power again!

BDSM 101: Sadists and Masochists

When it comes to pain lovers there are two types of people: the givers and the receivers.

BDSM 101: Safe Words

Especially if you're new to BDSM or even just playing with a new partner, it's a good idea to have a safe word.

BDSM 101: Risk-Aware Consensual Kink

RACK is the counterpart to SSC in the BDSM world. In some ways they are very similar and in other ways they are very different.

Dealing With My Kink

How does a person figure out that they like sex differently from what is thought of as "typical"? The stories are as unique as the people who enjoy BDSM. Each person takes their own path. Some paths are scarred with abuse. Surviving an abusive relationship leaves many wounds. All too often, it affects many areas of life for years to come. One area that was difficult for me after leaving my ex, was intimacy. For me, it has taken years to accept my own kink; to let go and let myself enjoy it.

Mental Abuse is Abuse, too! - My Story

When people think of "Abuse," they usually think of physical abuse, such as beating. Physical abuse is common and dangerous. Many men, women and children are beaten and injured, and a large amount are losing their lives. These are the cases we hear about. We wonder, "Why won't they leave?" and tell ourselves that we'll never be in that situation. People think that's the only type of abuse. If they aren't hitting me then they aren't abusing me, right? Wrong. Mental abuse is abuse, too.

Thanksgiving: Why I Thought Of Eden Fantasys Today

When sitting around the table with your family, sharing all the wonderful things you're thankful for, it's not often that someone would actually pipe up with 'I'm thankful for the best online sex shop!'. But it popped into my mind several times today; though not openly shared with my guests. Here are a few reasons why it came to my mind on this great holiday.

Balancing sex and family...Or how my mother-in-law came to hate me.

This is the story of the girl who traveled four hours to stay at her boyfriend’s parents’ house after dating him for just around a month and how after two weeks of nonstop sex, succeeded in making the aforementioned parents despise her. So if you’re looking for tips on how to ensure you leave your significant other’s house with more than a little condemnation, you’re in the right place!

Getting Down In Public: 5 Locations to Have Sex

Do you want to experience the thrill of getting caught without actually getting caught? In this article we talk about 5 potentially fun places to have sex in public.

Homosexuality: The Nature vs Nurture Debate

We've all heard of this debate. Were you born gay? Or did your environment nurture you to be gay? My answer to those who ask me is, "I chose to be gay the moment you chose to be straight." I've always known. The only choice I had was if or when I chose to "come out of the closet." This article is about sexual orientation and my opinion on whether or not sexual orientation is based on nature, nurture, or both.

Coming Out, Letting Out

There are reasons to put things in bottles. Really, there are. But usually, we're talking about something to drink, or a message to send out on the waves and tides, or multicolored layers of sand to make a pretty decoration for a child's room.

The Shaky Bridge Experiment and How It Relates to Your Life

If you've ever wondered "What did I ever see in him/her?" this might be the answer.

Sticks & Stones May Break My Bones, But Words Will Never Hurt Me....Or Will They?

We all grew up with this schoolyard saying, using it in defense when others would say something that hurt us or called us names. How accurate was that little saying and has it played a part in society's lack of acknowledgement of mental and verbal abuse? As an adult, do you know the signs and the result of mental abuse? Are you an abuser, either intentionally or accidentally?

A Relationship Based On Cheating: Deal Breaker or Not?

This story is far from typical, it does have cheating spouses, betrayal, triumph and wrenching decisions. It also has a huge twist... and a unique perspective. This is the other woman's story and its ending- well, I will let you read it for yourself.

Make sex a priority this year...

If the intimacy in your relationship is seemingly absent then it may time to take the initiative and reignite that spark.

Yes, 'Good Girls' DO Have Sex (and we like it, too)!

When the time came for 'The Talk,' my mother decided to inform me about the differences between 'good girls' and 'those girls.' Let's just say, the thought of being one of 'those girls,' not to mention the effort to avoid becoming one, was... inhibiting.

Feeling Sexy After Having A Baby!

Are you wanting to feel sexy again but don't know how? Well that's what I'm talking about today. So read and enjoy.

Sex workers speak out ~ Interview with a Pimp.

There are many different sectors of the sex industry. In those sectors there are many different faces. And each of those faces belong to a real person, with a real story. Here is one of them.

Anxiety and Submission

How being a submissive Daddy’s little girl has helped me work on my anxiety.

Is Purity Hurting Girls?

What happens to a girl when she isn't "pure" anymore? She's a whore, she's a slut, and guys toss her around like a dirty rag doll.

I Am a Woman Who Has No "Window"

As I get older, I find that more and more women are disinterested in sex. I however, have the opposite issue.

Defeating Succorbenoth- The Demon Of Jealousy

We agonize over it, we hide from it, we even build walls and defenses against it, but the only time we ever defeat this bastard emotion is when we turn and face it. You cannot fight what you refuse to see.

Confessions of a Stripper: The Champagne Room Unveiled - Part 3 - The rest of the story.

Day after day and year after year, I went to work. Each night, I ran the same hustle on a different man. For years, I was their play toy and took their money; it all began to grow old. There was no big light bulb that went off in my head. However, there was one night when my thinking began to shift; when I found myself standing at a cross road. This was the night that I was slapped in the face with the reality of what my actions had caused. That night will be burned in my mind forever.

SexIs Subjective: Sexual freedom--It is found in the last place you would ever look.

Sexual freedom. Two words that, when paired together, mean many things to people. Once I realized what sexual freedom honestly meant to me, I felt liberated and truly free. Sexual freedom has nothing to do with legal issues, moral battles or input from other people. Sexual freedom comes from within. It is an important and overlooked truth about who you are as a person and how honest you are with yourself.

Why So Squeamish About Sex Ed?

We have the freedom in America to choose how we educate our children, but many schools and parents avoid educating children about sex. Of course, we have to teach kids about sex in an age appropriate fashion, but why are we so squeamish about sex? Why ignore the fact that schools are saying "abstinence only" and getting away with it? We're choosing to stay in the dark in a nation where we have the freedom to learn, and quite frankly, it's unacceptable.

Out of Lies, Truth

Is it possible that out of all the lies I told to pursue an extramarital affair, truth was revealed?

Unusual Fetishes

If you have a fetish that seems weird or unusual, I feel your pain. Read on to see how I integrate cannibalism, alien abductions, and incest into my everyday life.

Achieving Great Sex: All of Your Relationships in Life Need To Be Re-evaluated.

We all know that great sex is more than just physical- it is mental and emotional as well. Most of us cannot enjoy sex as much when we are not mentally and emotionally satisfied. Sexual satisfaction can be tied to a lot of aspects within our lives. Read my story and apply it to your own life. Take the steps that I took to achieve the freedom and satisfaction you deserve.

BDSM 101: Safe, Sane and Consensual

SSC is probably the most common principle followed in regards to safety in the BDSM "world."

Nothing's Cozier Than a Web of Lies.

The story of how revealing your love to the world made everything perfect forever is popular. What about all the other times though? What about when the truth makes everything worse and perpetuating a web of lies would have made everyone happier?

Communication Methods & Steps To Avoid Anger

After writing an article on communicating your feelings via a game with your spouse, I'm on a roll! I had so much more to add, that I went ahead here to share my own learning experiences, how I've managed to change my ways and how we found a little more peace during conflict.

BFF - Pinky Promise

I may have different types of friends, but they all have something unique about them. Each person, kinky or not, has something to offer. It's up to me to open up and be myself with everyone I love and trust.

Someone Stole My Vibrator And It Wasn't The Dog

Teenagers are horrible. I have two that I'd like to exchange, but they are extremely expensive and in this economy, I haven't had any takers - especially for the badly behaved ones. I know that teens go through a roller coaster of emotions, but I want mine to be able to come and talk to me about their sexuality, not just take money from my purse.

Sex workers speak out ~ The Beginning of Becki LeBeau

There are many different sectors of the sex industry. In those sectors there are many different faces. And each of those faces belong to a real person, with a real story. Here is one of them.

The Man Who Told Me He Hated Me

I spent almost two years of my life in a relationship with a man who told me that he hated he hated me often, explicitly detailing what a horrible person I was and how I had ruined him. This is my story, how I got out, and what you can watch out for (for yourself and your friends) to avoid the same thing.

Long distance and D/s relationships

Long distance and D/s... it's like someone went looking for a complicated style of relationship to be a part of. But with the right emphasis on communication and patience with common issues, they can be a breeze.

Long Distance: Keeping Passion Alive

When you're in a long distance relationship, it might be difficult to keep the passion in the relationship, but it can be done when you are willing to work hard.

Submissive's Guide to Giving Head

Although most of us know how to give a good blow job, there are certain things you can do to bring your submission into your technique. Try one or try all, but giving head will never be the same.

You're as Unique as Your Vagina

I bet you don't know that your vagina is one of a kind. You are made up of an intricate network of nerves that is unique to you and your reproductive system. No two females are the same.

Sharing is Caring

You talk to your friends about a lot of things, is sex one of the topics? And how much of your sex life do you discuss with them? I'm still trying to figure out how much to talk about with my friends, but I want to figure it out.

Nice Guys Finish Last: A Young Man's Perspective

Here I will take a humorous outlook on this myth, what I've seen it do, and why it sucks.

Intimacy - You Can't Fake it

Bombarded by imagery of sex and death, politics and disaster, life - like the movies - sometimes feels like it's lost all grip on what matters. Some ruminations on the meaning of intimacy, seen through the lens of a forty-five year old subtitled Swedish movie.

Confessions of a Stripper – The Champagne Room Unveiled: Part 2

With an open credit card at the bar, the game begins. If she can skirt around his obvious desires while stringing him along, she can make a lot of money tonight. This game is not a one man show. It takes a team to pull off a successful champagne party. From the waitress, to the bartender, and even including another dancer, each is vital for a party to continue all night long.

Love Your Body! Out Of The Image Box!

I never had anyone tell me I was pretty growing up. I never had any support from my family. My body self image was horrible. I hated myself so badly that I have no pictures. I didn't look in a mirror. I believed that no one could love me or even look at me.

Group Sex For Monogamous Couples: The Devil Is In The Details

When my wife and I were offered a foursome by a couple of very close friends, it brought up more questions than I ever thought possible

Do you want a Daddy?

A lot of people seem to be kind of "grossed out" by the thought. There's definitely a taboo around calling your partner Daddy. If you're someone who wants a Daddy Dom and little style dynamic, this can make it hard to tell your partner about wanting this. But it doesn't have to be hard.

Forget Time Outs And Counting To Ten, Here's How We Fight

Being with my partner for six years does not make me an expert, by far, but I've learned many useful ways to communicate during a mini upset, an argument and a full-on fight. I've been able to make big changes in the ways I was programmed to communicate my anger and sadness. So I want to share what works for us during the light situations and the heated, angry ones too. Maybe these will be of help to you.

So you think you may want a Sex Swing?

Do not hesitate, go ahead and get it. It has so many uses and so many possibilities. The feeling of weightlessness and floating is great for whatever ails you.

Body Mods Down Below: Male Edition

What’s the deal with dick piercings? Do people really split their penises? Here's a brief look at all the crazy, cool and scary things that males can do to their genitals, and why you might want to look into getting pierced, even if you're not the "crazy" type! Not for the faint of heart!

Love Is in the Air

Sometimes love is in the air – literally. Long distance relationships always existed, but with our accelerating world, those distances can stretch out to thousands of miles, and all that connects the lovers is the net or a few telephone calls. Some relationship wilt under such duress, and some live through it to flourish. But what is the secret to that?

Foods That Make You Horny

Ever wonder what foods will get you going or turn you on? Better yet did you ever wonder why they do that...?

SexIs Subjective: Open About Sex

Nowadays people are allowed to be somewhat open about their sexual preference but not completely open. I think that should change and people should have more freedom about their sexual preferences.

Peer Pressure: How our friends impact our sex life

We all may think that we're adults, and therefore no longer affected by peer pressure, but the influences of our friends can impact our sex life in both positive and negative ways.

Accepting My Kink

How can submitting to a spanking possibly build confidence?

Sex Feed: Teenage abstinence might be related to happiness

If you lost your virginity later in life, you may have a better shot at a successful relationship.

More Than Boys and Girls: C-boys, Dickgirls, Traps, Transvestites, and Transfolk

You've heard terms like "dickgirl" and "trap" throughout the internet when referring to specialty porn, but who and what are these people, and what's the difference between them all? There's more than just the man-woman/boy-girl binary!

"Muffing" Your Man (or Woman!)

The term muffing has two common meanings: one is oral sex on a female; the other is something you probably haven't even thought of before! Do you know where your man's inguinal canals are? You're about to find out!

Our Young Teen Girls. How Young Is Too Young?

Girls today are going through puberty so early. When do you start talking to them about grooming? What grooming is okay at that age?

Makin' A Baby

We all know that sex has another purpose other than just being fun. But what happens when you decide to start trying to get pregnant instead of avoiding it?

You were jealous!

My boyfriend thought I was obsessed with a sex site until he saw the benefits that EdenFantasys brought into our bedroom. I had to reel him in with lingerie before I introduced a sex toy. The toy of my dreams became his nightmare. At first, he liked it, but then he decided that I was addicted to it! It was a shock to me that not all men enjoy the idea of having an extra tool in the bedroom.

Talking About The First Time

I think we all remember the first blowjob we ever gave. But do we remember why we gave it?

One Lump Or Two??? Oh, How About 28!!

It was just one small lump, the size of a pea. Who knew what that innocuous little bit of tissue in my breast would lead to...and the surprising results of all the testing.

Collars and Pets OH MY!

I recently spoke with a friend of mine who was having trouble with her "Owner." She's a pet, an actual pet, a Nekko, as it is standard to be called. However, when her Owner started dating a new woman, things around her house changed rather quickly. The relationship that they had has degraded.

Fang-tasy: Vampire, Werewolf, and Supernatural Play!

Are you Team Fangs or Team Claws? Either way, spook-tacular fantasy play has been everywhere from Renaissance Faires, Cons, and now most recently, the bedroom! Here will be some tips to let your claws out during intimate moments.

It's raining men

The third in a series of interviews with some of the sex industry’s lesser-known and occasionally least understood practitioners.

Bukkake is one of those sex acts that most of us discovered on the internet and, the occasional fleeting fantasy aside, we're content to leave it there. But what if it had a different name? Or if it didn't have a name at all?

Note: I've chosen to present this strictly in the words of the interviewee, removing my own questions and prompts.

Roleplaying as a Way to Discovery

Roleplaying is a healthy and exciting way to explore new avenues in your sexuality. Once you get used to being someone different you can have all sorts of fun and explore your desires in a safe environment.

She Plays, He Plays: A Toy That Isn’t

When we offered Rydell and Susan a “batty dong,” we didn’t realize we were opening them up to a whole new world of sexual possibilities. Read their account of the fun they had with Leoweenie by Vixen, and find out what they learned!

We Are Not Part of a Circus Freak Show

You see that I am different and you want to stop and stare? Have you no respect? Is it your goal to be as blunt and as rude as possible? I am not your personal side show. I am not something you can just gawk at, stare at and belittle. I am a person just like you: I have feelings, a heart, and a family. I may be different. I am a transman.

The weighing game

Struggling with body issues is no laughing matter and can be a serious problem for many, but I may be able to help someone with overcoming the obstacle that is weight in the bedroom.

Winter Cold Causes Pain. How to Continue Having Sex.

Winter is cold and uninviting. Most of us have joint pain and back pain. This can be an every day thing. When winter moves in it can be even worse. We want to have sex but pain can keep you from your needs.

Women United

I can't believe she wore that! Look at her, she is too fat! She is too thin! Blah! Blah! Blah!

Size does matter!

How big is yours? 6 inches? Maybe 10? What about how deep is mine? Have you ever thought of how much dick a girl can really take? No, of course not, so let's discuss.

Beyond the Dungeon - the "other" secret life of a Dominatrix

The second in a series of interviews with some of the sex industry’s lesser-known and occasionally least understood practitioners.

Immortalized in fiction, fetishized in art, and lionized in some of the internet’s most fascinating corners, we probably think we know everything about the life of a Dominatrix. In which case, we are in for a few surprises.

Note: I've chosen to present this strictly in the words of the interviewee, removing my own questions and prompts.

Body Mods Down Below: Female Edition

What’s the deal with clit piercings? Do people really get their nipples removed? Here's a brief look at all the crazy, cool and scary things that females can do to their genitals, and why you might want to look into getting pierced, even if you're not the "crazy" type! Not for the faint of heart!

The Invasion of the Body Snatchers

Close your eyes and imagine this: you are standing in front of the mirror expecting to see this perfect figure, but instead you see this strange figure standing in front of you. This person is the opposite of how you imagined yourself to look. Now if you open your eyes you see yourself. It must be nice to be the person you knew in your mind you were all along. Note that 3% of the world’s population is not that lucky.

Sex After Having Kids

Well if you’re anything like me you start to forget what sex is. I have two kids under 5 and I use these steps to make it easier for me to get to have sex.

Love without boundaries

A guide to dating a trans man

Are We Being Overexposed to Sex?

Are we all becoming sex addicts or are we just really hung up on getting, having, and experiencing sex?

Preventable Damage

In every relationship there are a few must-have qualities that both partners must possess in order for the relationship to thrive. These qualities vary by couple and everyone has their own interpretations of each. Still, one of the few universally necessary qualities is being honest and trustworthy.

Benefits and Downfalls of Different Communication Methods

Communicating with other humans is vital, and the more ways to do so, the better. I feel there are some relationships best kept more intimate than text-only. The truth is, it's so easy to fall into text or social media only lifestyle, but we need real human interaction sometimes, right? That's why I want to share the benefits and my personal preferences for each type of communication.

No Love Without the Glove: Forget That!

I've always been the type of girl to strictly believe that condoms were the best way to go. Birth control has too many side effects and I never wanted to take the risk. But oh was I pleasantly mistaken!

The How To Guide to Lesbianism

To avoid confusion, questionable Google searches, and to manage the minefield of other people's questions.

Sleeping With Transboys: A brief how-to on sex with transboys

So you've got this new boyfriend, and he's a transman! Or maybe you've just always wanted to hook up with one? What do you do when it comes to sex without offending him? What's going on in his pants? Check this out before you jump in bed!

The Social Lover: Your Guide To Having More Communicative Sex

Your partner spanked you for the first time the other night and you loved it, but now they ask you how far you want to take things— You struggle with your response.

Opening Up (Or Newer Can Definitely Be Better)

How open-minded are you in the bedroom? One of the Community Choice topics this month deals with how open-minded you are. Being open-minded is a good thing, though not every new thing you try will always be successful. But some of these new things can really add a certain spice to the bedroom.

Cum, Jizz, Semen, Whatever

A plea on behalf of those of us who ejaculate semen to all those who don't: Please don't make us feel as if there's something wrong about the way our bodies orgasm.

Three Is Company

Polysexuality is an alternative to polyamory. Instead of having emotional and romantic feelings for many partners (polyamory), you have just a sexual relationship with more than one partner.

Sex Feed: Former Bengals cheerleader turned teacher pleads guilty to sex with student

She left court holding the young student’s hand.

Sex and Depression

Over my time, I've heard a lot of people talking about how sex and help when you are depressed. Being one who like sex and hates feeling depressed, this very much intrigued me and I wanted to find out more. How does depression affect one's sex life? How could sex possibly help one's depression? Is it all really that simple? So, I decided to start some research and find my answers.

Making A Promise To My Children About Growing Up

As much as I do not want to, eventually I am going to have to give both of my children the talk on sex, and what happens when you grow older. When you are a parent, that is a scary thing to have to do. This is my vow to be upfront, truthful, and knowledgeable when this time comes.

The Triumph Of A Human Punching Bag.

Have you ever watched someone practicing their punching and speed on a small punching bag that is dangling on a chain hanging from the ceiling? The little bag flying back and forth, never veering from its path as it goes back time after time for another punch? Have you ever wondered what would happen if only one time that little punching bag veered off course and actually fought back? Once upon a time I was a little punching bag, and I veered off course and fought back. This is my story...

Sex in someone else's house

In a moment of passion, would you have sex while in your family's house?

Sex Feed: An advocate for cervical cancer screening

She waited 7 years, and it almost cost her life.

Depression and its affect on the partner

Depression does not just decrease sexuality, sometimes it can increase it. I will tell you about my personal experience with hypersexuality and how my partner was affected.

Hiding Behind A Mask For The Freedom To Experiment.

What to do when you are a shy exhibitionist with a lot to lose? When you want to be watched--but not recognized? When you want to watch and play, but fear the risk of exposure? What is the one thing that can give you the freedom to release your inhibitions and let it all go?

Growing up Sexual: Puberty in the Internet Age

The internet allows people of any age, gender, or sexuality in any location to connect instantly. The information highway is limitless and utterly incredible. But in a world where teenagers must be digitally connected to be "cool" and anonymity is key, what changes can we expect to see in our children? What can we do to help and better understand our children in this unpredictable and challenging cyber universe?

Before You Spread the Rumor, Learn the Facts

October is also Domestic Violence Awareness month, and while domestic violence is a horrible thing, I want to share my story of why you should always know ALL the facts before reporting anything. This isn't the same for every case, but it's something I had to deal with, and I'd like to share my story.

Putting It In Drive

People don't have the same sex drive. Some have extremely high ones, some not so much. A Community Choice topic this month is what do you do when your partner's sex drive doesn't match up with your own. I'm here to talk about a relationship with two different speeds as far as sex drives go.

SexIs Subjective: Keeping Halloween Sexy...for Adults

My personal take on children wearing "sexy" Halloween costumes.

Eden Lit Club: October Story Starts and All Things Fall!

The air is crisp, colors are exploding all over, and school is well into its first semester. We're all gathering up and settling down for the winter. The Eden Lit Club is also settling in and harvesting all the creative energy.

Shut Up and Kiss Me

I have undeniable sexual chemistry with my boyfriend. We can’t lay next to each other without going at it like bunnies. I never want to lose that, but sometimes I just want to enjoy kissing without worrying about what happens next.

Take a Dance With Chance

Sometimes taking a leap of faith and just allowing things to happen can be a scary thing. Let's face it, the unknown is scary, but we live every day facing the endless possibilities. So why are we so afraid to knowingly take a dance with chance?

3 Scary (Deadly) Trends in our Youth

They do what?! And put it where?! The youth of today are very creative, but sometimes the desire to get the quickest buzz or latest gadget can turn deadly. Here are some of the dangerous trends occurring in younger people.

Sometimes Adam, Sometimes Eve

I'm married to a man...and a woman. No, I'm not a member of a religion that believes in multiple marriages. Nor am I in a polyamorous relationship. My spouse is bigender, both male and female in one body.

The Cock Ring

Put a ring on it and make it go longer! Benefits and some of the types of rings.

Why Not Let Everyone Be Happy?

I’m going to talk about the equality in the marriage field. I only have one question, Why not let everyone be happy? Nobody runs to a happily married straight family and says, “Hey please don’t kiss in front of me or my kids, it makes me uncomfortable.” So why do we feel the right to tell homosexual couples this exact sentence? I don’t think that is right in my opinion.

First Time Tips

While many feel society falsely portrays ‘the first time’ as magical and are consequently disappointed, I was led to believe the opposite and was happily surprised. I am here to tell you that giving away your virginity can be a positive experience if it is with the right person and if you prepare properly.

Admitting It's Not All About You

Sex is a very personal thing and sometimes we get caught up in our own pleasure. While you may think you're entirely giving in bed, there are still ways to open up and consider your partner more, which in turn will help draw you closer.

Sex Toys: How Do You Introduce Them to a Partner?

It can be difficult to introduce toys into a new relationship. What if your partner isn’t open to the idea? What if it freaks them out? Will you have to choose between them and toys?

The Spirituality of Sex

Do you like sex? Do you like ambiance? If there's one thing we learned from ice-cream sandwiches, it's that good things are always better combined. (Or, well, usually, at any rate. We received quite a different message from jalapeno jelly beans.)

Dealing With A Non-Affectionate Partner

As a very physically affectionate person, being in a relationship with someone who isn't was a new thing for me! Here's some tips on how I dealt with it.

Sexy Me, Sexy You

We all want to feel sexy, but sometimes in our daily life we lose touch with that sexy side of ourselves. There are some easy ways to help you get your sexy back though, read on for more.

How to court a poly person

Pursuing a poly person is different from pursuing a single monogamous individual. There are more people involved than just the two of you that are going to impact whether you are successful or not. Here are some pointers about how to approach things.

Beginner's Guide to Anal Play

Anal sex can be an exciting addition to your bedroom. And although it may seem overwhelming, with a little preparation and patience, it can be an enjoyable experience, perhaps one that you'd like to make a regular occurrence.

Candy Cum!

Ever wonder why your partner never wants to give you oral? It might be your diet! Here's a bit of information on how to make your cum taste delicious and which foods to avoid.

Light and Sex

Does turning off the lights actually contribute to us being turned on? This article is all about how light affects our bodies, our mood and by extension, our sexual experience.

My Dear Kira

Back when I was in high school I got to a point where I said, "Screw boys, I'm batting for the other team!" That's when I met Kira, an absolutely gorgeous 18 year old girl who was into girls. Kira was the girl that got me to see other girls in a whole different way.

All The Crap That Can Go Wrong With Our Cooches

STD testing: a necessary evil that all sexually active people must partake in at least once in their lives. Fortunately I am disease free today at 36 years of age. But that's because of my horseshoes up my arse, so to speak. For females there are a number of things that can go awry in your reproductive system. Some are STDs while others just mimic the symptoms. Here's my personal account of a bunch of issues I and my body have had to face.

The Steel Clit: A How-To On Dealing With A Stubborn Clitoris

Not everyone has those wonderfully sensitive, easy clits that can get off from a few light rubs of a finger. Some of us have clits of steel that are so stubborn that sometimes the hours spent attempting just aren't worth the orgasm! What do you do with a clit that just won't give in? You've got options and you're not alone!

Advice you should NOT take from your mother!

When it comes to dating, many people take their parent's advice into consideration. I was not one of them, because my mother's advice was horrible.

Sensual Massage!

You don't know what passionate lovemaking is without the most intimate kind of foreplay. Massages are stress relieving, they enhance immunity, improve circulation and joint flexibility, and can even lessen depression and anxiety.

The sex talk from above?

This is my piece of knowledge I'd like to drop on ya'll and my opinion with it.

Things To Do To Help With Chronic Pain.

Dealing with chronic pain can put anyone off to sex. What do you do if you still have the desire? Here are things to help out with the daily discomfort.

A beginner's guide to Sexting

Panic-stricken social commentators tell us it's the latest evil craze to be turning our children into sex-mad monsters. But not only has sexting always been with us, it doesn't care how old you are, either. So, a noobie's guide to getting it on in three or four characters, tops.

Staying Married For The Kids

When is divorce the best option?

Role-Playing – probably not the kind you’re thinking.

Plenty of couples have tried their hand at role-playing – anything from a sexy nurse to a police officer. But have you ever tried acting as a specific character? Don’t laugh yet – it can be a lot more fun than you think!

Kink: Convenient and Cost-Effective

So we talked about household items that can stand in for kink toys. But what about the festishes you can't replace with a ping pong paddle?

Dealing with your childhood

We do stuff as adults and say "Oh my god, I am just like my mom or dad." This can be good or bad. Dealing with these feeling can be overwhelming. How do we deal with the bad feelings?

Butt Toy Breakdown

Because there are so many different butt toys on the market, some that often beget a ‘wtf is that for?’, I figured I’d explain what the most common products are and what they’re used for.

Study Suggests “Horny” Trumps “Ick” in Most Women

What can your arousal make you forget today?

The Dichotomy of Me

My daily and bedroom personalities don't match. What does that say about me? Does it say anything at all?

Huge Mood Killers

There are so many things that affect our moods in the bedroom, so many of them under our control.

Submissive Journals: A How To Guide

As promised, this is part 2 of my previous post on submissive journals. In this section, I will focus on how to start and maintain your own Sub journal. As well as a starting guide, I will include helpful tips and tricks for writing and formatting your journal, things to consider when choosing a site, important posts to include in your journal, writing prompts, suggestions, and ideas to help you get started.

Do YOU think it's better?

Love is an amazing thing. For such a short word, it packs an incredible meaning which differs from person to person. I don't believe two people in the whole world define the word in the same way. It produces the most amazing highs and the most rock bottom lows. Love is a verb. Love is a battlefield. Love is patient. Love is blind. What is love? And is it truly better to to have loved and lost, or to never experience it at all?

Submissive Journals: The Benefits Of Having Your Sub Keep A Daily Journal

In one of my previous articles, I briefly talked about having a sub journal. I've decided to expand on the subject a bit more, since I received some questions. This is part one of a two part series. In this section, I will focus on why journals are important and also address some common ways they are used. Part two will be a how to guide on writing, and some helpful tips and tricks I've learned.

Learning To Love Me

Never thought I was good enough. Never thought anyone would care about me, let alone love me.

How Far is Too Far?

A recent French movie shattered mainstream cinematic expectations by incorporating scenes of real sex in place of the usual simulation. And a lot of people got very upset. Were you one of them? A few thoughts on a theme of the movie world’s final frontier.

Finding The Right Dildo

Do you feel like Goldilocks in the world of dildos? This one’s too big, this one’s too small. This one’s too hard, this one’s too soft! Ahhh, this one is just right!

You know your boyfriend's been watching porn when...

Kicking the cliche out of blowjobs

Top 8 Movie Sex Scenes of 2011

What were the sexiest flicks in 2011? Find out here.

Beginner's BDSM: What It Means To Be Submissive

You love sex, particularly kinky sex. But how do you know if you are ready to take your relationship to the next level, and become truly submissive?

Letter from the Editor: Two Contests and New Types of Submissions!

You guys are always writing in with topic suggestions, and questions about what kinds of topics we'll accept, and when we're holding our next contest. So we figured we'd give you a quick update, including some information on where to find things.

Kink From Afar: Dealing With Long Distance In A BDSM Relationship.

We all know that long distance relationships are hard, but what if you add BDSM into the mix? Both BDSM and long distance relationships require a lot of work to maintain just by themselves. If you happen to combine the two, you're in for a wild ride! How to keep the kink alive when you're apart.

Stepping Out Of Our Boxes To Live a Life Without Regret

After a very rocky childhood with a mother that told me I was not pretty and that I wrecked her life, one controlling marriage, two marriages total, two kids, jobs, and oh wait, did I mention I almost died? A diagnosis that stopped it all, a life changing job, and one murder.

BDSM 101

So you're interested in learning more about BDSM or even ready to start going down that road? Read on and I'll describe a few of the things that you might want to try out, without sending you running for the hills.

It's Not Easy Being Green

Jealousy. We've all experienced it and it can do permanent harm to a relationship. How do you handle jealousy like an adult and keep it from harming your relationship?

Looking to try something new? It's not as scary as you think.

Many think about trying new things in the bedroom, especially with the 50 Shades of Grey craze going on throughout the country right now. It's time to stop being afraid of what might be too weird or freaky and give it a shot! Easing into new territory might not be as hard as you're imagining.

Sexbot and Robots, or Coin-Operated Hookers.

I was recently asked (or the question was referred to me) if I thought sex robots were a thing I would see in my life time. I replied simply, "I already have." Granted these are not the robot nymphomaniacs of current movie magic, more like the clunky things you might expect, but they are getting better. However what does that mean, for humanity, and are these for men only? How close to the cool ones? These answers will surprise you.

How To Make Your Own Amateur Porn Not Suck

If your going to make porn at home, you may as well know how!

My Inner Bitch’s Bout with Sex Negative Education

An eye-opening event this summer has me thinking: It’s time for grownups to grow up about sex education. It starts too late and ends too early. I came to this realization this summer when I got a dreaded call from my son’s camp director one Friday afternoon.

Feelin' Sexy, Inside and Out

You don't have to be a perfect Hollywood bombshell to feel like you're sexy, both in and out of the bedroom.

Why Can't We Be Friends?

Breakups are hard, there's no doubt about that. But when you end it with someone or they end it with you, then why can't a friendship blossom from the ashes?

Strip Teaser - The Art of Ultra Sexy Exotic Dance at Home

Dare to experience something new in your love life? Surprise your lover with a sexy striptease at home!

The Seven Stages Of Breaking Up

Every relationship goes through its ups and downs. There are always compromises to be made and ways to advance further into a deeper state of intimacy and togetherness with your partner. However, there are some times when no matter how many compromises you make or how hard you try, it just isn't working. Ending a relationship is probably one of the most difficult things to do, especially when you're married or have children together; trust me, I would know.

Cuffs, Paddles and Safewords, Oh My! Or Beginner BDSM!

BDSM seems to be on everyone's lips these days since a certain book became so popular. It seems that even some of the most quiet of people I have spoken with seem infatuated with giving it a try. So I thought why not impart some of the basics that everyone should know.

Variety is the Spice of Life

Sex is a huge part of any relationship, whether you're sexually active all the time or tend to be the kind of couple that only gets it on every so often, sex is important. While the cuddly, cute, "let's make love" kind of sex is enjoyable, spicing things up can be just as much fun if not more. I've recently decided to take my sexual relationship and turn up the volume a few notches, and DAMN is it making a lot of noise.

Anal play!

This is just a quick guide for anyone who's interested in anal play or penetration, with some tips I've picked up on through personal experience.

Common Myths About Sex Toys

There I was standing in front of the glass case of beautiful toys for the first time. The lingerie we originally came there for was forgotten. I couldn't believe what I was seeing. They looked more like works of art than sex toys. Could my negative opinions about them have been wrong? I was in heaven, and determined to test my theories.

Blowjob Tips!

This is just a quick little guide along with some tips for how to get better at giving blowjobs, based on personal experience.

Touch your dang wiener, or how am I writing this if I'm blind?

I certainly hope that any male browsing through SexIs knows the joys of masturbation, if not you should be masturbating. Male masturbation has many physical, emotional, and even sexual benefits. You can trust me on this, I've been doing it since I was twelve. I've practically got a PhD in waxing the dolphin. (Warning this article will contain several euphemisms for spanking the monkey.)

Variety Is the Spice of Life

Trying new things can be scary, and so some people stay in their comfort zone. But trying new things, especially in the bedroom, can be a lot of fun. By carefully and thoughtfully introducing things to your lover, the sky is the limit when it comes to fun in the bedroom.

Out of the Bi Label, Into the Pan Fire

I always bristle at the word “confused,” used to describe a sexual orientation that’s not straight, not lesbian and not gay. I’m sexually attracted to men, and I’m sexually attracted to women. I know this from a rich variety of sexual experiences that were and are pleasurable, memorable, endearing, funny and occasionally tragic, but never confusing.

Mysteries of the Male Ejaculate: A Matter of Taste

There is so much that goes unasked and unspoken between a man and woman. Since orgasms really begin and end in the mind and so much of sex is psychological, understanding each other's sexual needs, wants, fantasies and expectations can be a wonderful turn-on, and create a deeply passionate connection.

@%#*ing Zombies, or Stress Relief in the Zombie Apocalypse.

It seems like these days more people have more Zombie Survival plans than they have pairs of socks. I fully support this activity but everyone always seems to forget something really important, sex during the end times.

The Beginner's Guide to Strap On Play

Interested in learning more about strap on harnesses and dildos? Do you like the idea of penetrating a partner with a strap on dildo? Read on to learn about both harnesses and dildos!

Cuffs, Chains, and Rope; OH MY!

Some of us get all tingly at the thought of our partner tying us up. There is something intoxicating about one half of the equation being at a complete disadvantage. There are more options on how to go about doing this than one who think at first glance.

How Young Is Too Young?

Following up on my last article I wanted to make a point that I do not believe that every raging hormone, sex crazed, young teenager should be having sex. The people I preached for were that of ages 20 or higher. But here is now an interesting point: how young is too young for teens to be sexually active?

Coming Out Of My Cocoon!

Before I made my way to EdenFantasys, my sex life was not something I talked about. I have really come out of my cocoon and have learned so much, not only about myself but about my husband and best friend as well.

Paddle Shopping

Paddles are pretty iconic to spanking games. They are easy and not complicated to use. A lot of people feel more comfortable with a paddle than any other spanking toy when they are first trying BDSM. All paddles are not created equal. They feel and respond differently depending on how and what they are made of. This is a quick a dirty guide to help you select the paddle that fits you.

Making Noise

Who doesn’t like positive feedback? I mean, when you are working hard, it’s really nice to know that you are making a good impression. For some, it is hard to vocalize their enjoyment. I have oscillated from being a talker, moaner, and silent companion depending on what my relationships are like. I have found that the more feedback I give and receive; the better the sex is for everyone.

Talking about it.

I am an American. I am a woman. These two things mean that I was socialized to be ashamed of being a sexual being. That shame didn’t last long, but it was an intense few years learning to shrug it off.

Eden Lit Club: What's going on in September?

Everyone writes poetry. This was our premise in August and it was a rousing success! It turns out our community does, indeed, write poetry. As we continue to reorganize and redefine our club as an entity, we learn more about our unique skills and not a small amount about ourselves as individuals.

My "No Sex" Education

Is abstinence really the best way? Find out how the Abstinence Only approach to sex education has impacted my life and what I'm doing about it. Get my tips on your recovery and how to teach your teens about sex.

The Young and The Sexless

Nowadays there are a lot of young and generally attractive men who have virtually little to no sex lives. What's the reason for this? Is it their looks, personalities, or is it both? For those who are labeled as unattractive or seemingly unworthy of a sex life, how do we change the perspective of billions who believe that tall, tan, and physically fit is the ideal looks of someone who is attractive?

The Handy-Dandy Guide to Clitoral Vibrators

Are you thinking about getting a clitoral vibrator but not sure where to start? I’m here to help!

Fun with Blow Jobs

Check out this article for some fun tips to stimulate your partner during oral sex.

On Dominance and Drudgery

When we think of words like “slavery” and “submission,” the immediate connotations are so often unpleasant. As a Black American, descended from human beings who were enslaved, bought and sold and dehumanized for generations, it took me years to come to terms with my own desire for submission, with my own capacity to eroticize submission to the will of another.

All That’s Wickedly at Stake with Jessica Drake

What does Jessica Drake do on her birthday? Why does she do what she does? How does she feel about her fans? Dave Gammon asks all that and more in this interview with “the wickedest girl” in porn.

Role Play: Nerdy or Sexy?

Some people find role play too nerdy for the bedroom, but what's really holding you back?

Talk Dirty To Me Baby

Dirty talk, it isn't just for porn is it? Have you ever been in a public place and gotten totally turned on by something your lover whispered in your ear? Or gone nuts when they cried out something in bed? If not, then we need to have a talk.

Flogger Shopping

Picking out a flogger is like picking out a new pair of sexy shoes. You need it to be comfortable enough but without sacrificing an ounce of style. Floggers, unfortunately, are expensive, making them a group of sex toys that aren't really cost effective to experiment with.

Never fear! Krissy Novacaine is here with some things to consider when flogger shopping.

Why I Like Anime Porn

Alright. So, anime porn. I know this might not be a very popular subject but I'm not sure anything else I do is, so I will just smack the 'Remember, this is just what's in my head' sticker on the article and send it to market.

Are you sitting comfortably? Well then let us begin.

You want to do what?

The art of negotiating a BDSM scene is a delicate balance between brutal honesty and fantasy. Both people have to walk the line between maintaining the illusion of an exchange of power while still maintaining clear boundaries. Many authors that write about BDSM stress the importance of negotiation, but they don’t tell you how to go about it. No one is going to have the exact same negotiation needs, but there is a general guideline to how this whole process can be done.

To Make a (NSFW) Music Video

I have made various music videos, and all from porn clips.

HOLY MOTHER OF...STOP!

Safe words are an iconic part of BDSM play for a reason. They maintain the integrity of the role play while still giving the individuals a way to end play immediately. Safe words are an important thing to think about.

Vocalizing Pleasure: Is louder better?

He was still a peachy-cheeked, lanky-limbed, soprano-voiced child who happened to be getting on the same elevator with us. Nothing about his appearance would have grabbed my attention except for the message on his shirt: ‘Sexual Expert, First Lesson Free.’

Bondage Around the House

So you want to try bondage? You don't want to go out and buy fancy handcuffs or rope from a hardware store? That's ok, there are everyday household items you can use for your little fantasy!

A Day in the Life of a Cam Girl: When worlds collide

The lighting is set, the camera is ready to go live. You are dressed and everything is ready to go...And then your child wakes from a nightmare and is crying for you.

Real Men Eat Pussy—and Kiss Ass

I don't believe that all things must be equal in a sexual relationship—few things in life in general, much less in any kind of human relationship, are truly equal. We all have ways in which we intentionally or unintentionally get over on someone else or receive more than another person in the course of human dynamics.

What's wrong with me?

After years of feeling down and depressed, wondering what was wrong with me, I've finally come to terms with the fact that my body doesn't work quite the way I would like it to.

When "Doing Your Wifely Duties" Becomes a Chore

When I first discovered EdenFantasys, I hadn’t read or even heard of the 50 Shades of Gray series. Now seven months after placing my first order, who would ever imagine I would be living my own series; that my whole sexual being would be change.

Thank You, EdenFantasys

How has EdenFantasys changed my life? I would love to say that I have always been sex positive, open, free and knowledgeable but the truth is the person I am today is a direct result of the community at EdenFantasys.

My Favorite Outdoor Location

I’ve recently rediscovered the fun from having sex outdoors can be. When I was a teenager, this was an ordinary occurrence, but as I grew older and became married sneaking around like a couple teenagers wasn’t a necessity anymore.

Fantasy Land

As the parent of a toddler, the greatest place on Earth right now for him seems to be the Magic Kingdom. While researching a trip to the so called “Happiest place on Earth” I started thinking about the name for one part within the theme park, Fantasy Land.

SexIs Social Writing Contest: And the winners are...

We put out the call. You answered. We were amazed by the response and raw talent we received. And now? We find we're forced to choose winners.

BDSM Etiquette and Involvement

OK, so you are venturing into the BDSM community and aren’t sure how to interact. What do you need to know? How do you not offend people? Here are some tips and tricks for navigating the kink community.

The Birds and the Bees: Why the Sex Talk Isn't Always Necessary

There is always a lot of pressure on parents to have "the talk" with their children, but it might not be as big of a deal as you've been told.

To wait, or not to wait, that is the question.

The coverage of Olympic athletes and virginity makes me wonder about an important aspect of sex education. How do I advise my daughter when making the choice to lose her virginity?

The Poly Male, or Rational Polyamory

How do two men share a woman without killing each other? It's much more about respect, and love, and less about animalistic furry and marking of territory. I want to explain how my friend and I share a woman without murdering each other.

Submission in a few of its forms.

There are as many ways to submit as there are people in the world submitting, but there are a few different ways that these get lumped together.

A Day in the Life of a Cam Girl: The Unveiling

So you want to know what a successful cam girl looks like? You wanna see just what I am made of? This is the line of questioning I have been getting lately, So, Why not. Ok then, Lets get down to the glitter and glam of... ME.

In Praise of Uncut Cocks

One girl, one fetish, and her quest for enlightenment. Am I alone in my love of uncircumcised penises?

Music to Set the Mood

Music is something that can elevate, or totally destroy a sexual encounter. Everyone has their own idea of music to create a vibe, and almost everyone's is different.

What's the Content of your Intent?

When I speak about BDSM practices, one of my core assertions about the difference between consensual kink and abuse is intent. The person who verbally humiliates their partner to gain control and erode the self-esteem of the other, or the spouse who beats and harms their significant other, using violence as a means to destroy, is different from the kinkster, pervert or Leatherperson in one central, pivotal way. And that is intent.

Your favorite movie can be a great sex enhancer.

How can an action movie get you some action?

Strip Club Etiquette

A visit to the strip club can be a thrilling, exciting, eye opening experience. As both a sometimes stripper and strip club client, I would like to share with readers how to make the best of your trip to the nudie bar...and how not to make a fool of yourself!

Avoiding the Fire

Oftentimes people will refer to their love or sex life as being “on fire”. I’ve used this same saying when describing an out of control fight.

A Day in the Life of a Cam Girl: Sex Sells

If you have read my other articles, you got the details in a perky, upbeat, sometimes sarcastic way. Tonight, it is coming from the other side of me, the depressed single mother that feels like things will never change. This will prove that being a cam girl, or a mom, is not all glam and glitter.

Confessions of a Stripper: How it all began.

With the days of the Red Light District long gone, the back bone of the sexual atmosphere in the French Quarter is the Exotic Dancers who fill its numerous clubs. Over a hundred Ladies of all ages and back grounds work every night year around to entertain the tourists.

Why fetishes are a good thing

In today's society, fetishes have a very negative connotation. On a very special episode of "rants by Mine Fujiko," we discuss why fetishes can actually benefit people.

Intro to Rough Sex

Ever wonder why the phrase "fuck me like you hate me" is so popular? Recently, rough sex and bondage have been explored by many couples and for good reasons.

10 Steps to Making Your Own Summer Romance

When people think of a ‘summer romance,’ a very distinct image comes to mind. You know the one. Two people on a sexual adventure free of hassles, commitment, or drama. Everyone dreams of this at one point or another, but before you start fantasizing about what could be, humor me for a minute.

So, you want to be a Cam Girl?

Lots of requests have been coming in about what it takes to be a cam girl. Well, Let me tell you...

A New Awakening: The introduction & acceptance of porn in my relationship.

Have you ever had an epitome? One that has changed your outlook on a very minor area of your life and then turned it into a major part of your relationship? A realization so profound that it changed your sexual relationship with your partner?

How to pick and clean your toys!

Whether you're an expert or a novice, you always want to make an informed decision before buying a product. Keeping your toys clean is always recommended, but there's a lot more to it.

Spicing Up Our Sex Life

July 19th 2012 is my husband and I ninth wedding anniversary and thirteenth year we have been together. In this time we have experienced many different things together. We have found jobs and quit them to do something different, had two children, went back to school, I became a stay at home parent, lost family members, but through it all we have stuck by each other and helped each other through whatever we may be experiencing at the time.

Our Lazy Afternoon

During a lazy afternoon in, my boyfriend and I figured out a new way to make each other feel good.

Feeling Beautiful After Hate

Have you ever had something happen to make you feel lesser? Many things can lead to this: rape, an abusive relationship, or even just a friend who likes to put you down. Feeling beautiful after that can be a long hard road; it was for me.

Forget “All Men Are Potential Rapists.” How about “Child Molesters?”

Qantas, consistent with many airlines, has a standing policy to move any male passengers to prevent them sitting next to unaccompanied minors. But what message does this send?

She Plays, He Plays: The Battle of the Tianis

You may recall our last go ’round with a LELO Tiani. I obsessed over the instruction manual and Susan ended up hijacking the tight-horseshoe-shaped toy (not to mention my column) and putting it to pleasurable use as an understated double penetration device.

There’s Nothing Plain About Vanilla

The first time I heard sex described as vanilla, condemnation dripping from the tongue, I might have felt my private life was wanting were it not for my sense of play. My inner child has always loved vanilla, especially the rich, creamy French version. Mystifyingly delicious in every food or beverage and heady as a scent, there was nothing plain about it.

Guide to Sex Toys for Men

This is a really basic article covering how to get started using male masturbators and how to pick the best male masturbator. It's all based off personal experience however I feel it will be accurate information for all.

Anal For Beginners

Feel like experimenting with anal, but not exactly sure where to start? It's not as complicated as it may seem, check it out!

It's Not Just About Sex

For the Guys: How touching your favorite spots on her can be her new favorite thing.

An Understanding and Introduction to Porn

Porn is very hit-or-miss for a lot of people. If you'd like to find out some ways you could engage in it more (and like reading rants), read on!

Orgasms: You're not a freak.

No one ever told me what a normal orgasm was like, and so I spent years feeling like a freak for the way(s) that I orgasm.

So You Wanna Try Bondage?

Maybe you've wanted to try it for a while, or you just read some spicy erotica that spiked your interest, but either way you want to try bondage. Now the only thing you're trying to do is figure out where the heck to start, right?

Eden Lit Club

The Eden Lit Club is cleaning out and redecorating its clubhouse! It's an exciting time for the club as we are changing, rearranging and redefining who and what we are.

My story about my first love affair.

Ever fall in love with both a female and a male? Well Julissa did and now she doesn't know what to do.

How many Wrongs does it take for me to find Mr. Right?

The touch of his body next to mine makes me feel safe. When he kisses me, I close my eyes and my mind floats away. He fixes his mouth to say "I love you" and my heart just melts.

Sex and College Stress

How to use orgasms as a weapon against those stressful college days and days to come.

50 Shades of a Cam Whore in love with a Vampire?!?!?

Warning : This is more of a rant opposed to a stimulating article!

Community Commentary: Wait...there are still "The Rules"?

Love, relationships and romance can be difficult and confusing enough, but take a trip to your local bookstore and you might wind up even more topsy-turvy than when you entered.

Long Distance: Enjoying the Now

Long distance relationships are certainly not easy, but they are just as valid as other kinds of relationships. Here's what works for my relationship -- maybe it will work for yours, too.

Is High School Sex Ed Going Too Far Or Not Far Enough?

With the rate of teen pregnancy escalating, I have to wonder... are high schools doing their part to prevent it?

Stay Cool, Man

Who doesn’t love summer? When you were a kid you got out of school and had nothing to worry about except when the pool opened and whether or not the girl down the street thought you were cute. Now that we’re adults there are a few more things on your mind during the day, but summer is still awesome.

Long Distance Love: Sex Without Contact

Do you remember the first time you spent an extended period of time away from your partner? How do you maintain intimacy when you're thousands of miles apart?

Embracing Kink

How do you find a partner who's into kinky sex? You may already have the answer!

It's Getting Harder to Tell the Girls from the Women...

The shorts are getting shorter, the tops getting lower. Boobs and butts are rounder and bigger. Heels and mascara and lip gloss abound. Nope, not talking about your girlfriend's girlfriend. I'm talking about the pre-teen next door!

How Not to Win Friends and Influence People. Or Get a Date Via the Internet.

Everyone's had them: rude, ignorant, or downright offensive emails. Usually, I just ignore them. This time, I got mad.

The Game of Life: An unexpected teaching moment

A new game night selection prompts an unexpected discussion about marriage equality and freedom of choice.

Tokophobia: Fear of Childbirth

Tokophobia: (As defined by Wikipedia) described the fear of childbirth or pregnancy as a psychological disorder, when it had previously received little to no attention as such, in addition to introducing the term tokophobia (from the Greek tokos, meaning childbirth and phobos, meaning fear). Tokophobia is also widely ascribed to the fear of pregnancy, and may also be called "maieusiophobia."

Exploring our Sexual Vocabulary: Today’s Word Starts with ‘C’

The words we use to describe the things we do in bed can say a lot about us, and the society we live in. When we talk sex we usually are talking about something “dirty” or “nasty” or if it drips with raw animal desire, it might even be “filthy.” Why is that?

Pregnant Submissives Need Fun, Too.

As a submissive who has been pregnant three times and a childbirth doula, I can tell you without a doubt you can still enjoy a power exchange relationship even during the highest risk pregnancies! Keeping the spice in your sex life during pregnancy can even lead some of lucky few to have the elusive orgasmic birth!

Cyber Sex Part Two

Do your fingers freeze up at the keyboard trying to figure out what to say during cybersex? Can you think of anything besides mmmmmmmm....or oh yeah baby. Unable to find anything on the internet I have gathered some examples that I would like to share with you.

How To Have Amazing Sex

I was fortunate enough to attend a course that was in part taught by leading sex therapist and sex researcher, Dr. Peggy Kleinplatz. One of the things she discussed was a study her and her fellow colleagues conducted to learn about what components tend to be involved in reaching “optimal” sexuality.

Food and Sex: Sexy, Yummy, Edible Stuff

Food? In the bedroom? Really?

Really. PuddlePuppy's here to tell you all about it.

Teenage Sex With A Dose Of Heartbreak

Teen angst at its best. I wrote this when I was nineteen years old. He was my first love. He broke my heart. I broke his right back, and in the worst way. He ended up marrying the girl in the end, but that is how many of my fairy tales work out. He was my first true love, but he wasn't my last. He was her last true love. They are happily married with a baby, and another on the way. I thank the higher power that I didn't end up with him and found my own fairy tale.

Why does Gender matter?

A three part examination of Gender Identity in the 21st Century. Or as I like to think of it, I'm going to take your concept of normal and toss it out the window.

Move Over, G-Spot: The Anterior Fornix is Here

For decades, the G-spot has reigned supreme as the marvelous, magical, mystical erogenous zone inside the vagina. But did you know there's an often-overlooked hot spot just a couple of inches north of the G-spot? It's called the anterior fornix, and it just might change your life.

Sex Toys in the New Relationship

Should you share your toys with your lover? Yes, you should! If you don't share the fact that you use sex toys with your lover, you're only hurting your relationship in the long run.

Marriage Warning

Without fail you've heard it. Perhaps someone has said it to you or maybe you've said it to others before, but everyone has heard the warning; with marriage comes the death of your sex life.

BDSM as a Starting Point: Incorporating It Into a Marriage

A few months ago my wife and I began to bring BDSM elements into our relationship. While this fulfilled a dream/desire that I had long had, you have to anticipate that things are changing within your relationship, find a way to make it work, and to realize that you don't have all of the answers all of the time, no matter what you may think.

A Day in the Life of a Cam Girl : It's all in the Attitude.

Whether we are talking about Mothers, Cam Whores, or sexual fetishes; it all comes down to attitude. And as much as people believe, attitude is everything. I am here to tell you, you are full of shit. Attitude means nothing if you can't back it up with the rest of you.

Sexy dysfunctions that can destroy your life: Part One -- Sexsomnia

Sexual conditions that sound sexy but could destroy your life.

From Wife to Slave

A month before our six year anniversary, we went from husband and wife to Master and slave. My life shifted gears when I became his, but learning a new dynamic didn't happen overnight like I expected. We've come far in a month, but now more than ever I realize how this is a journey, not a race.

Erotica in The Mainstream (Or how "50 Shades of Grey" Has Helped Loosen Us Up)

"50 Shades of Grey" is everywhere. No matter what you think of the writing, the books have brought erotica out from the shadows in the publishing world. With the way erotica is being viewed currently and the advent of E-readers, there has never been a better time to love erotica.

My First Days as a Dom

I thought I would be rough and tough. But instead, I ended up being a weepy mess, afraid that I was breaking my husband.

BDSM Training Schools Online

School is in session for Dominants and Submissives alike with several online institutions to choose from offering everything from the basics of BDSM to the intricacies of specific fetishes, relationships and even legal matters.

Playing with (Human) Dolls - Dollification

"Will you let me dress you up and play with you?" she asked. It was a question that no one had ever asked me before, but which started my exploration into the world of human dolls, a fetish known as "dollification." Playing with dolls isn't just Ken and Barbie anymore.

Masturbation or a Lack Thereof

I’ve always read that the key to knowing what turns you on is masturbation. You won’t know what you’ll enjoy with a partner until you masturbate and find it on your own. What happens when neither partner in a relationship is interested in masturbation?

Everybody Kinks

Whether you like it bent over the bed and spanked or missionary with the lights out, everyone has something that gets them going. Just remember, at the end of the day we are all doing it to get off.

The First Time

No one's first time is what everyone imagines it will be. We as a society put so much emphasis on the first time that it is nearly impossible to meet the expectations that accompany your first sexual experience.

Where Angels Fear To Tread... Building a Permanent Relationship From the Foundation of Domestic Abuse.

Have you ever heard a heart break? Watch a person's soul shatter during a fall? Looked into the eyes of someone whose flame was callously turned to ash? Did you ever die inside, one piece at a time, at the hands of your abuser? The man who promised to love and cherish you, honor and protect you, until death do you part.

How to deal with different libidos in long-term relationships

Discrepancy in sex drives is one of the most common issues that sexual couples face. Included in this article are not only reasons for why someone may be struggling with low sexual desire, but ways of improving the situation for everyone involved as well.

A Day in the Life of a Cam Girl: Mood Based Pricing

How can I tell you who I am in the cam world, if you don't know who I am for real. I want to show you everything involved in being a Cam Girl. And by everything, I mean who I am, what I do, and who (and what) I deal with. So from now on, I am going to be doing 3 part articles. I hope you enjoy!

On Collars & Closure & Why Submission Is Not a Gift

I don’t mind tropes. Sometimes, phrases that are often used are that way because they withstand the test of time. I don’t even have to finish the following sentences and you know the balance…

Beyond the Bedroom: The Submissive Lifestyle

Many have toyed with the idea of becoming a submissive, but have put it off because the general stereotype of a submissive is taking as much pain as your master can deal. Dominant and submissive relationships can, and do, go beyond the bedroom.

Women are not the victims

In the dating game, women nowadays seem to be reaping feelings of entitlement and are left bitter and underwhelmed by their selection pool. Let's put ourselves in the man's shoes for a minute.

Fractured Lives: Healing sexually and mentally with the help of Eden

All it takes to change your life forever is 30 seconds. The first thing I clearly remember was being inside a white tube, completely immobile. The only thing I could see was clear, smoky glass with lights or cameras behind it--my mind was screaming! Those UFO shows on TV were true--and the aliens had me!! I could not escape, would not fully wake from the nightmare I was in!! Little did I know, my nightmare was only beginning....

For My Friends & Family: An Open Letter From An Abusive Relationship

Ever wonder how a woman gets trapped in an abusive relationship, why she stays, and what really goes on behind closed doors? Here is a letter from a woman, just like you and me, who can give you a glimpse.....

You wanna do what?!?

Years ago, before I was serious about anything in my life, I was involved in a relationship that was purely focused on carnal needs. We certainly didn't imply catching a movie when we said, “Hey, you wanna hang out tonight?” The agenda was sex. What's funny to me isthat it isn't the sex that I remember. It's something so insanely simple he said so long ago that dug in and made a home in my mind.

The Making of a Kinkster

I remember walking into the local toy store when I was freshly 18. I was with a couple of my friends, and we were giggling the whole time. We were there to buy a gag gift for a friend.

EdenFantasys, how I love thee. Let me count the ways.

Everything that has been positive in my sex life within the last ten months has been because I found a wonderful place called EdenFantasys. EdenFantasys has been the center of my growing sexual confidence, and I am so thankful for stumbling upon them.

How to Come Into Yourself

I discovered EdenFantasys just about a year ago. I was reading a blog that I follow and someone had posted a link to where they purchased their latest sex toy. I clicked on the link, and I won’t say that my life was transformed from that moment on, but my sex life has definitely never been the same. Between the selection of toys, the ways I interact in the community and the writing that I do here on SexIs I’ve been able to really come into my own sexually.

Cyber Me Sexy

Where, how, and why would you want to have cybersex? Where do you find someone with similar needs and what should you expect?

When The Bread of Your Relationship is Getting Stale and Dry

Let’s be honest; there are always new products and ideas for spicing up your sex life, but what about the non-related sex aspect of the relationship? It’s like a loaf of bread. After awhile of just sitting there, it becomes hard, perhaps a bit moldy, and just unappealing all around. So what can we do?

The Diary Of A Girl Who Just Wants To Be Loved

This is a story about a girl who is trying to live each day without going insane. She is up, she is down, she is all around. She makes choices and fights battles with herself and others. She likes hard extreme kinky sex and wants it more often but can't seem to find the courage. She is trying to find herself, and I'll let you know when she does. Who is this girl? She's driving in the rain. She wants some sunshine out of it all.

Domestic Submission

Submission doesn't always have to involve whips and chains. Sometimes, the best way to prove your desire to submit to your dominant is to perform domestic duties that may seem mundane but are always helpful.

Feeling Off Balance

As we women grow older we face certain milestones: Childhood, Menarche, Motherhood, Menopause, Cronehood. Sometimes we have the luxury of just waiting and watching it all happen and sometimes we have to take matters into our own hands. There is often a feeling of excitement about the change in our lives and sometimes there is a touch of sadness about moving on.

A Paranoid Geek's Guide to Sneaky Sex Toy Ordering

Do you secretly lust after sex toys, but fear ordering any lest your parents discover your secret and kick you out of their basement to fend for yourself in the cruel, cruel world? Fear not, for there are plenty of clever ways to sneak sex toys into your geek cave and hide them once they've arrived. Read on.

A little BDSM finally helps me to orgasm - followed by lots of "self love!"

As an older teenager/young adult, I was sexually dysfunctional due to past issues. In addition to thinking masturbation was "disgusting," I also never understood why men found me attractive. It wasn't until a partner tied me down and "made" me orgasm, that I truly realized what I had been missing.

The Rules of Safety: D/s Relationships

Recently BDSM has been ushered into the mainstream. Let's take a look at the basic rules you should know about before engaging in play.

Why You Should Buy Your Mom a Sex Toy

Our mothers do so much for us, often going underappreciated for all their tireless work and love. The best way to appreciate someone is to do it in a way that feels good to them, and to you - and what could feel better than facilitating a self-love revolution? Yes, it might seem weird, but your mom deserves just as many awesome sex toys as you do, and here's why...

Loving the Broken: Three Women Coping with Marriage to a Military Man with PTSD

What would you do if the man you loved was taken away from you? For many military wives, post-traumatic stress disorder can effectively steal away a beloved husband.

Suck It!

Who really likes giving head anyway? I do, I do! Let me help you like it too.

How to properly care for a Fleshlight!

As a Frequent FLyer, I currently own 22 different fleshlights, and after a little trial and error, I've found a simple and safe way to care for your fleshlight(s)! With a few simple materials you can keep your fleshlights as good as new for a very long time.

The Relationship Between Sexual Desire and Romantic Love

Sexual desire and romantic love have often been mistaken for two separate, opposing entities. While reading articles written by great philosophers such as Sartre, Blackburn, and Fromm, I noticed that they all use the two terms as if their meanings were like day and night. This article will explore the interconnecting relationship between desire and love, and consider the fact that Fromm’s writings may not be as accurate as his readers may have presumed.

Mouth-Breathers Need Kink Too!

I love gags! Especially ball gags! The only problem is I can't breathe through my nose, and I know I'm not the only person with that problem. So what do you do when you want to be gagged, but you also want to breathe? I'll tell you!

Makeup-Breakup-Repeat: Facebook Style

We all know at least one couple that sticks to the pattern of breaking up, making up, and repeating. Heck, I’ve even had a relationship (or two) in the past that followed this pattern. It was pretty ridiculous and pointless. Now that we’ve got social media websites like Facebook, it seems that these couples are making their personal dramas public for all to see. Seriously, I’m like, “what the eff?”

I Want Your Love, I Want Your Disease. I Want You Open Mouthed And On Your Knees.

Love. Passion. Lust. Kink. Fetish. These five words have such meaning for the BDSM community and those whom only fantasize of living the dream. It has always been about love. It has always been about fetish and kink. It will always be about giving up that control that you didn't know you could, and just embracing it. It makes my toes curl just thinking about everything involving love and kink. You and me could write a bad romance.

Keeping it Fresh in a Long-Distance Relationship

As the summer nights grow hotter, many people bristle at the added body heat of their partner, but for many college students, among other people, it’s the absence of their heat that stings far worse. This is the season for long distance relationships, as couples leave college and return to their respective homes for the summer. Months apart can be daunting. To survive this time apart there are many “Dos and Don’ts” each person should consider.

You're Into WHAT?!

Foot fetishes, golden showers, rimming, pony play, slave and master, role playing, faeces play, whipping, spanking, pegging, needle play, asphyxiation, and oh so much more! You don't have to practice or even like the idea of these activities but many people thoroughly enjoy them. Just because they may seem different doesn't make them wrong.

Beginner BDSM On A Budget II

Have you ever wanted to try out BDSM without spending tons of money on supplies that you aren't sure that you need? Whether you're crafty or not, I have been compiling a simple list of DIY tools that everyone should try at least once!

Is Porn Cheating? And Who Gets to Decide?

There’s this idea going around sex-positive circles that watching porn isn’t cheating. Someone, usually a woman, will say she’s uncomfortable with her boyfriend’s porn consumption, and feels that he is cheating on her. And she gets smacked down, told in every reply that she needs to get over her insecurities and let her man be a man.

Dare to Be Seduced by Your Senses

That we are universally skin-hungry and primal in our basic urges bears out in our private conversations, our media obsessions with other people’s sex lives, our ferocious reading of erotic, how-to sex books, even the collective gasp at Fifty Shades of Grey. Harlequin-esque BDSM may be the gateway drug to fetishized sex in vanilla bedrooms. It could be the wake up call that women’s erotica is a literary genre worth taking a private peek at, or it could be a sign of the times.

The Jealousy Demon

We've all heard advice that sounds good on the surface. But if your partner really doesn't like something you do for yourself, like masturbation, is it vital to the marriage that you respect his/her comfort level and sacrifice the behavior for the benefit of your marriage? Does this really help your partner? Or could it be that this sort of self denial actually causes more problems in the long run?

5 Ways to Control a Man

So you've heard the phrase "It's a man's world." While this may seem true to some women, it's not to me and I'm here to show you why. You have the power. Don't be afraid to use it.

How to Help Cure DGS (Death-Grip Syndrome)

Do you sometimes not finish in bed? Do you find yourself grabbing yourself quite roughly? Chances are you have DGS, more commonly known as Death-Grip Syndrome. Don't worry, it's curable! If you want to figure out how to help cure this, read this article!

Am I a Freak? (A Formal Introduction)

Nobody can tell you better if your turn-ons make you a freak, than the expert on taboo... Tessa Taboo.

Sex Not Going as Planned? Here are Three Steps to get Back to Pleasure.

It happens to the best of us. You're in the moment, fully enjoying every kiss, stroke, and lick...until you're not. You start thinking about the laundry that needs to get done or that fight we had with whoever or the bills that need to get paid and before you know it, you are just over it. Sex? Not anymore. These three steps are my sure-fire way to move through those moments and back to your pleasure...fast.

So, You Read ‘Fifty Shades’, and Now You Want to be a Sub…

Yes, I get it. You read all three of the ‘Fifty Shades’ books in one weekend, you’ve looked up some stuff on the Internet about BDSM, and now, you’re DYING to be a sub, right? You even typed up a contract just like the one in the book, went and bought a pair of handcuffs, and put a wanted ad in the craigslist personals looking for a Dom. Right?

When Those Boots Come On

The world of the Dom/Domme/sub is a very intriguing world, whether you are into the lifestyle, or simply curious about it. It is a completely different world from the one that we live in, or the vanilla world that most accept. So, through this article, come with me on my journey into the BDSM world, and peer into the life that I've begun.

When the BDSM Lifestyle gets abruptly put on hold, what happens next?

You are deeply into the BDSM lifestyle with your significant other and life makes those unexpected changes on you. Where are you to go next? You always move forward. You keep living from day to day and hope that one day, the answer to all your questions will just glow on the top of your head like a light bulb. You begin to get into the passion and have these uncontrollable urges to do incredibly taboo things with your lover at ridiculous times of the day/night.

A day in the life of a Cam Girl: Welcome to my world!

Hello, My name is Lillie. How can I serve your credit card today?

From Raped And Repressed, To Rabbit Aficionado: A Tale Of Redemption Through EdenFantasys.

It took me twelve years to mentally and emotionally recover my sexual health after being raped the first time I had sex. It took another six years for me to find a trustworthy man with whom I could explore my newfound sexuality. And the healing all started with an ad in the back of Cosmopolitan magazine and a vibrator from EdenFantasys.

When A Website Changes It All

We didn't expect our life to be thrown for a loop after having a baby. What we expected even less was for a website to turn it all around for us.

My Transformation Into A Super Soaker

EdenFantasys has done many things for all of us. Most of us can agree that Eden has improved our sexual well being. This is my story!

It's Okay to Shout, But if You Want to Whisper That's Okay Too

Coming out doesn't have to be huge. It's different for each person.

Sex and The World

Are you fooling you self by thinking you're a different person behind closed doors?

Broken Education

Did you know that the government has spent 1.5 billion per year, estimated, on abstinence only programs in public schools, only to leave us with the highest teen birthrate in the entire industrialized world? Now consider that teen pregnancy costs taxpayers about 9 billion dollars a year. Are we trying to throw money away? Why do we have such a hard time talking about sex and sexuality with our kids?

Fearlessly Optimistic about Sensual Kink

The Lights are low, the music is playing in the background. The massage oils are warm, and your partner is waiting.

How EdenFantasys Saved My Sex Life

Eden Fantasys is more than just an online sex store. It is a sex positive online community that has changed my life.

Fear Factors

I do a great deal of speaking. On stage, as an actor. In front of crowds, as a storyteller. In the classroom, as a BDSM educator. All over the USA, in Europe, Canada, wherever. Much of what I share is intensely personal, and I often receive comments from folks who have been gracious enough to listen to me nattering on or watch me do my thing about how they wish they could be as brave as I am.

Beginner BDSM on a Budget

Have you ever wanted to try out BDSM without spending tons of money on supplies you don't know you want? Whether you're crafty or not I have compiled a simple list of DIY tools that everyone should try at least once!

Top Ten Things We Don’t Need

A friend of mine sent me a picture of a piano she saw and I was all “Nice piano,” until I looked a little closer and realized it was a VAGINA PIANO.

Just What the Marriage Counselor Ordered

This month, our parent company EdenFantasys is celebrating 10 sexy years of business! To honor the anniversary, we asked the EdenFantasys Community to tell us what being a member of our community has done for them. This is what SexyStuff had to say.

Letter from the Editor: Introducing SexIs Social!

We've been talking about major changes since March. You've waited so patiently. We're ready now. Are you?

Money Talks, or Does It?

Recently, I read an article discussing whether or not gender equality had changed the rules on who should pay on a date. Like the author, I also grew up thinking that when I was older and dating, the man would automatically pay for the first date, and probably any future dates. It was his responsibility assigned to him by gender, right?

Buyers Guide: Heating Up and Cooling Down with EdenFantasys

When you think of summer, what comes to mind? The spark of fireworks as they explode in the night sky? The heat of the air drying your lips and skin? Fiery passion with a new-found lover? ? How, exactly, do you stoke it? Everyone's way is different. Let us give you some pointers.

Sensing Summer

I grew up poor in New York City, so my relationship to nature is…tenuous, at best.

Unselfish Hands

I looked into coming back to write some new articles for EdenFantasys and saw that Touch is the theme for this month. More specifically, how hands relate to touch. I couldn’t wait to write this article.

Lube: You should use it.

So many erotic novels make becoming aroused out to be some simple, five-second thing. Us girls know the truth. Here's a handy guide to the different types of lube you can use for... well, whatever!

Money Talks: Should he pay?

Should men still be held responsible and expected to shoulder the financial burdens? Even in such small things as paying for the first meal?

My Dream

What happens when your dream doesn’t run along side your lover’s?

Hot Sex: How to Avoid Heat Stroke in the Bedroom

“Don’t touch me.” I can be heard using this phrase on a fairly regular basis in the summertime.

Smokedawg’s Adventures in Wanking Part 1: A Hand’s Best Friend

I’ve never lived or worked on a farm, but I’ve choked many a chicken. Never played one of those Indian flutes while wearing a turban, but I’ve charmed a snake thousands of times. Never worked at a BDSM-friendly water park, but I’ve been known to frequently flog the dolphin.

She Plays, He Plays: Operation Pussy Power

Since the 50 Shades craze, there has been a lot of talk about kegel exercisers. Sales for these little lady helpers have skyrocketed across the board. But which set is best for your body? Rydell Johnson gives you the scoop on four sets carried on EdenFantasys.com.

More Than Looks

The evening news comes on to report about the protests in New York – the 1% protests. The reporter clutches her microphone as she gestures with her other arm at the crowds behind her with a serious and solemn expression.

Deep Time: Sensual, Sexy and Slow

If a June night could murmur, would it insist to a blistery winter day or the fresh blooms of spring that summer was the time for love? Warm nights that smell of ocean air and coconut oil; barefoot strolls through cool grass and sandy shores; skin aglow and hungry for kisses. Invitingly so, June has a point.

Are student loans killing the traditional family?

National student loan debt has surpassed $1 trillion, topping credit card debt for the first time and has prompted new calls for a student debt bailout. At the same time, marriage and birthrates are falling, while the average age people tie the knot is inching ever upward.

She Plays, He Plays: We’re Fixated On The FixSation

Even if you take nothing else from this recap of our experience with the FixSation Couple’s Vibe, do yourself a huge solid and tend to this one golden nugget of guidance: After you’ve charged the device, but way before you intend to use it (way before), study the enclosed instruction card and properly fasten the vibrating mechanism to the included “panties.”

Does Your Partner Mind if You Touch Yourself in Bed?

I confess that I have trouble sleeping if I don’t have an orgasm that night. It usually doesn’t even matter if I got off in the morning, or if we had sex four hours before bedtime. If my body has already gotten over the endorphins, I have trouble sleeping.

Buyers Guide: Be Playful! Express Your Love with Toys!

How do you express your love? Do you buy your lover something cute you know they’ll enjoy? Maybe you take them out on a date and come prepared? Perhaps you express your love by taking care of the environment? Whatever the form of expression you use, we’ve got something for you.

She Plays, He Plays: The Je Joue Mio, One Ring To Rule Them All

If we’re being totally honest, I think it’s fair to say that from a guy’s perspective, a good number of sex toys – vibrators, dildos, and the like – can be a bit intimidating. No matter how many innings of baseball I imagine, I can’t stay hard all night long, and no matter how much Coca-Cola I ingest, I can’t vibrate my cock, tongue, or finger at a frequency of one gazillion megahertz.

SexFeed: Gay Men Arrested for “Buggery” on Cruise Liner

“They were struck by the beautiful mountains, the clean and clear fresh air and were having a few cocktails, and so threw caution to the wind.”

Buyers Guide for a Sexy YOU!

What makes you feel sexy? What’s more important: feeling sexy or looking sexy? How do you define “sexy”? Still looking for your “sexy”? Let us help you along with this Buyers Guide for a Sexy YOU.

Sex After Baby

Couples, who have had a child, or more than one, have had to confront the issue of their sex lives after the little bundle of joy comes into the picture.

Thoughts During Terrible Sex

Once again, twitter has gone crazy with the bad sex trends and has basically written my column for me. This time there were a few gems worthy of sharing and a whole lot of shit that makes me glad I’m not single.

The Suspension Accident: It Finally Happened...

Kinksters talk quite a bit about the inherent risk of bondage and other kinky play. They learn the proper procedure, to mitigate that risk — but rarely do you hear about the stark reality that no matter what precautions you take or how safe you play, people can still get hurt.

Valentine's Day Gift Guide: Simple, Sexy, Fun Edition

Valentine’s Day is one of the most complex, pressure-laced holidays, gift-giving wise. You’re set up to believe you can’t just pop off to the market and grab any old thing to take back to your romantic interest.

Uzbekistan Bans Valentine’s Day for Its Evil Goals

Well at least Iran has someone to play with now. That might not be a good thing.

Parents of Gender-Neutral Child Catch Heat for Their Choice

‘Cause how we raise our children is totally society’s business.

Another Year, Another No Pants Subway Ride

Brought to you by the folks of Improv Everywhere. We love you guys!

Winter Pep Rally Prank Leaves Most Parents Scratching Heads

What’s worse? The principal doesn’t see the problem.

Hotels Try to Cater to 'Just Us Girls' Demographic

Accommodations for women only: Feminine choice, or discrimination?

Can We Stop It with the Strip-Searching Grandmas, Already?

Politicians propose on-site "passenger advocate" for JFK airport.

Topless Protesters in Kiev Oppose Sex Tourism

Group wants soccer association to raise awareness, educate fans ... or else.

Ryanair CEO Hints at In-Flight Porn Options

As porn-friendly as we are, we're not sure we want to see it on airplanes.

The Naughty Side of Sydney

Sydney Australia – A world class city, with gorgeous beaches, beautiful people, and brilliant food. But there’s more to this city than what the guidebooks share. If you want to take the time to go find the naughty side of Sydney, it’s there for the taking. Nude beaches? SM parties? Cruise bars? Swingers clubs? Wacky drag queens and drag kings? Legal brothels? They’ve got it!

Sex and Pregnancy: The First Trimester

It's possible there are as many myths and misconceptions about sex and pregnancy as there are babies being born. So what's fact and what's fiction? In this three-part series, Lady J, as a part of her own pregnancy journey, takes us through sex and pregnancy, one trimester at a time.

Devil's Advocate: A Follow Up to Sex Positivity and Parenting

As a column, Devil’s Advocate is intended to push the envelop, challenge the way you think and spark debate — but not just for the sake of controversy.

Sex Positivity and Parenting: Should Moms Still be Sexy?

Parents can be sexual, but there are limits.

Is Masturbating to Porn Cheating?

Readers are always asking us this question, and the masturbator in question is pretty much always a man. Sometimes his female partner writes to us, asking if she's right to feel cheated on. Other times the man himself writes to us, asking why his partner can't understand how benign his porn masturbation habit really is.

BDSM’s Dirty Secret – The Real Risk of Kinky Sex

As kinky folks, most of us have heard of the risks associated with certain activities we like: rope cuts off circulation, bruises invite suspicion and speculation, infected wounds or bites just plain suck and breath play can flat out be deadly... but there's more.

Toronto Parents Keep Baby's Gender a Secret

'Storm' will be allowed to make choices, later in life.

Tenth Circle of Hell: Bra Shopping

Owning boobs is complicated. Men have no idea how seriously high-maintenance boobs are. Yes, they’re a fun, soft source of pleasure, but they’re also uncomfortable, judgment prone and even get in the way of sports and leisure.

Do Straight Women Need an After Sex Doll to Cuddle With?

Secrets of a Sex Writer: Why I’m Taking The Year Off From Sex and Dating

The last time I had sex was January 12th. Well, that is if we’re defining “sex” as physical, genital contact with another person. In January, I also had phone sex and cybersex, but since February 1st, have stayed away from all of that. The most action I’ve gotten, by choice, is a kiss goodnight on a street corner.

And Then I Threw A Sex Party

“Skins” Actress Says Parents are Missing the Point

Sofia Black D’Elia defends controversial MTV show.

“Yesterday, I blew a 500 pound man.”

The Whore Journals, Part 22: The end is at hand.

What Your Honey Really Wants for Christmas

Top Ten Strangest Things

Once again I’m flooded with emails from friends and strangers sending me pictures of zombie penises and dead squirrels having sex. This has become my new normal, ya’ll.

Married...With Sex Toys: He Plays, She Plays

Ten Ways to Tell He’s Not Into You

Vagina Hair. It’s Tricky.

The (Sex) Toy Story

Ruminations from a middle-aged man who thought the sexual revolution was over, somebody lost, and things were pretty much the same.

What Hollywood Teaches Us about Being a Daddy

Or, how to successfully combine parenting, fatherhood, and sex...

Sex and the Suburbs: Getting It On without Traumatizing Your Children

One of life’s inevitabilities as a parent (besides tax credits) is the knowledge that at some point, your kids are going to catch you in delicto flagrante. So—do you cease all sexual activity until they’re 18, or do you invest heavily in Disney? Or...is there another option?

With This Ring…A Buyer’s Guide to Cock Rings

So you say you’re ready to get your Frodo on and try your very first cock ring? First, you’ll want to know the ins and outs of getting it in and out, from safety to texture, and ultimately to decking out your member in style.

The Bottom Line: A Buyers Guide for Anal Toys

There are some things in life which demand that you throw caution to the wind and just jump in cold...but who wants something cold in their butt? Check out our guide to picking out the perfect pucker-toy.

Toys for Boys: A Trans Men’s Buyer’s Guide

Hard packies, soft packies, packing straps, and the mindset that one size does not indeed fit all – if you’re looking for a new cock, we’ve got you covered.