"When in Rome, do as the Romans do."
Going Backwards- Some "so called" time honored methods are being reinvented, as virgins are using a form of self-segregation by redefining virginity.
It used to be that either you were a virgin or you weren't, because hey, sex is sex - it is what it is. However in the world we live in, scoring has become a whole new ball game. The bases are gone and the definitions are murky. Everyone has a different idea of what constitutes sex - intercourse, making love, screwing, effing or fracking. Just trying to name the act shows the differences in opinion amongst the today's youth. So of course, when it comes to something as touchy and complicated as a girl or a guy's virginity, you're going to have classifications, justifications and of course Clinton (no judgement) style reasoning.
These days, everything is a euphemism or has a double meaning, and it seems like the world revolves around sex. Yet in a world obsessed with sex, there are those who take their own path, buck society, and have made the decision (for whatever personal reasons) to remain a virgin. However, even that becomes complicated in a world like ours. It used to be that if you decided not to have sex - whether you were waiting for love, marriage or just the right moment, it was simple - you just didn't have sex and, by that I mean no sex period. It used to be that a virgin was someone who did nothing except kiss (and some would choose to not engage in that as well).
Today, due to the different classes of virginity, both girls and guys have chosen to employ a broader definition of the term. For example, one class of virgin would be encompass someone who will do everything but oral, hand jobs, foreplay, etc. and sometimes anal (not always). Another person might consider themselves a virgin, as long as they only anal sex. One of the common factors of today's virginity, is the one rule that if you don't break the hymen or have sex vaginally, you're okay.
However, another class of virgin has also emerged which actually goes back to the Roman days. There are people who believe that if they only have sex with a same sex partner they will remain a virgin, if vaginal entrance is not achieved. Of course this was something the Romans engaged in regularly, in the distant past, they believed that a man could not wait for marriage to engage in sex. They wished to protect the virtue of women, so men were encouraged to engage in sex with each other - in order to keep themselves from "taking advantage" by of the women in their society. So in a wish to remain chaste in some form or another, we have gone backwards to an old fashioned way of thinking.
All the different methods that the modern day virgin employs are fascinating, but the question remains; without refraining from sex entirely, can you truly consider yourself a virgin? I have my opinion, what is yours? I'm open to all suggestions, even though everyone knows that my opinion is the right one (just kidding). I'll leave it for the audience to decide what they believe to be right...
These days, everything is a euphemism or has a double meaning, and it seems like the world revolves around sex. Yet in a world obsessed with sex, there are those who take their own path, buck society, and have made the decision (for whatever personal reasons) to remain a virgin. However, even that becomes complicated in a world like ours. It used to be that if you decided not to have sex - whether you were waiting for love, marriage or just the right moment, it was simple - you just didn't have sex and, by that I mean no sex period. It used to be that a virgin was someone who did nothing except kiss (and some would choose to not engage in that as well).
Today, due to the different classes of virginity, both girls and guys have chosen to employ a broader definition of the term. For example, one class of virgin would be encompass someone who will do everything but oral, hand jobs, foreplay, etc. and sometimes anal (not always). Another person might consider themselves a virgin, as long as they only anal sex. One of the common factors of today's virginity, is the one rule that if you don't break the hymen or have sex vaginally, you're okay.
However, another class of virgin has also emerged which actually goes back to the Roman days. There are people who believe that if they only have sex with a same sex partner they will remain a virgin, if vaginal entrance is not achieved. Of course this was something the Romans engaged in regularly, in the distant past, they believed that a man could not wait for marriage to engage in sex. They wished to protect the virtue of women, so men were encouraged to engage in sex with each other - in order to keep themselves from "taking advantage" by of the women in their society. So in a wish to remain chaste in some form or another, we have gone backwards to an old fashioned way of thinking.
All the different methods that the modern day virgin employs are fascinating, but the question remains; without refraining from sex entirely, can you truly consider yourself a virgin? I have my opinion, what is yours? I'm open to all suggestions, even though everyone knows that my opinion is the right one (just kidding). I'll leave it for the audience to decide what they believe to be right...
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