Define This: Cuckolding

Cuckolding is a term that is loosely defined as when a woman (known as a cuckoldress) has sexual relations with other men with her partners knowledge. While this is indeed the backbone of the fetish, the word cuckolding has different meanings for each couple. Since I engage in cuckolding, I know my point of view on the matter; however, others may have a completely different stance on the topic.

Personally, I started cuckolding my boyfriend at his suggestion. I decided to give it a try, but, of course, I had to ask what had stuck his interest in the idea. We had been together for several years and he had never previously brought it up; we hardly even talked about my previous partners. His explanation was, “because I’m not worthy of you and you deserve more pleasure.” Since he had never failed to make me orgasm, I inquired further. My boyfriend continued to explain that his penis is average in length, and while I had never had a problem with it, he secretly desired to see how I would react to someone bigger.

Endowment, however, is not the only reason that couples cuckold. Another major explanation is that the male (known as the "cuck") performs poorly in the bedroom, or is incapable of performing at all. While a small penis may be correlated with not being able to please the woman, negative performance may be related to stamina, creativity, passion, or even medical conditions. Additionally, there are times where the cuck is indeed well-endowed and good in bed, but the couple still engages in the fetish. The reason is quite simple: some people just enjoy such an activity.

Now that I’ve covered why people get into cuckolding, you may still be wondering what the allure is. For most people, the answer is fantasy. The woman can openly explore her sexuality, either with or without her partner present; whether the cuck is in the room or not is a personal preference. When I explain this to people I am often asked, “How can you do that? Don’t you love your boyfriend?” Yes, he is the love of my life. However, I am not torturing him in any way; he is fully on board with this lifestyle choice.

In fact, he’s not just simply okay with it, he truly enjoys it! Sure, it can be embarrassing to watch your partner have sex with someone, especially when this man can potentially bring her more pleasure than you can, but that is part of what cucks tend to enjoy. Oftentimes, the cuckoldress will experience more powerful orgasms than she normally would with her partner, which is exciting for everyone involved.

Furthermore, some cucks find it even more exciting when the cuckoldress is dominant with them, while being submissive to others. My boyfriend was able to add some insight to this topic; His exact words were, “It’s such a turn on to see my girlfriend be desired and used by other men, while she is enjoying every moment of it. It’s even better knowing that she would not let me do such things to her; she’s my goddess, but she's someone else’s play toy.” His statement shows that he is submissive and worships me, and even though he enjoys putting me on a pedestal, he also likes to see me bring pleasure to others.

After I explain this to others, I am often asked how my boyfriend can rectify this in his mind. His explanation is this, “At the end of the day, I am the real winner since I get to take my prized beauty home, while these other men are left to fantasize. They have to hope that she will be with them again, while I know she is the one I will be waking up next to every day.” As I’m sure you can see, it takes a lot of confidence in a relationship to engage in cuckolding. Our love for each other is rock solid, so he does not have to worry about me having a change of heart. We are still romantic and physical with each other on a daily basis. As with most others, we see cuckolding as simply another way for us to explore our sexuality.

In the final analysis, loosely defined, cuckolding is when a woman has sexual relations with men other than her partner. The term is very open to interpretation, and it will vary from one couple to another. No matter how the fetish is carried out, the couple must feel secure in their relationship and know that sexuality can sometimes be separated from intimacy and commitment. It is important to realize that cuckolding relies on fantasy and, more often than not, does not decrease the intimacy of the couple. Honestly, some of the most loving, stable couples I know are into cuckolding!