The Invasion of the Body Snatchers

Feeling as though you are stuck in the wrong body is quite a mess. Emotionally you have no idea what is going on. On the outside you are confused as to what you see. Now throw sex into the mix and you have a bowl of emotions that you cannot control. I am that person, trapped in a body that should belong to someone else. Transsexualism, what does that mean to you? To me it means hell, prison, it means I am lost inside of myself. Screaming and no one can hear.

Sex is hard enough as it is, now try to have sex with someone that has an issue with their body. What would you do? Would you be okay with them not letting you touch their downstairs? After the surgeries would you be able to wait to have sex or would you go off and find someone else? Those are all questions that need to be answered if you are in a relationship or considering being in a relationship with a transsexual individual.

As an out and proud transmale I have been very blessed to find someone that was 100% supportive over my choice to transition. Sex for us has been one learning curve after another. For me it was actually learning how to accept someone touching and looking at me in an adoring way and wanting to touch me, and me not be upset or nervous about the whole situation. For her it was knowing what is and isn't okay to do or touch. The main thing about being with a transgender or transsexual person is communication. You will need to know the dos and don'ts of sex.

One thing my wife knew right off the bat was that I was not okay with anything being inserted inside of me. Most people would have been a little standoffish about this, however, for her it came as a relief for I was the first person that she was with who had the same plumbing as she did. Again, communication is the key to the whole sex thing. How would you feel if someone just decided to stick something inside of you if you were not okay with it? Being with anyone with gender identity disorder, you will need to be very open-minded when it comes to sex. Toys, different positions to make them feel comfortable, and respecting limits will not only help them live their desired gender, but also spice up the bedroom a lot.

The intent of my article is to give you a better understanding of the fact that there are so many different people out there. If you were to meet someone that does not classify as the gender they were born, think twice before turning them away. That can potentially be the best sex you will ever have. You may say, “Well how is that?” Unlike any other couple, my lady and I can go to the porn store and buy any size penis that she wants. That makes sex that much more fun.