What else is more complication-free than sex with yourself? That’s right: good ol’ masturbation. But not just your regular day-to-day playtime, I’m talking about really going all out. When is the last time you thought more about romancing yourself than just getting off? With the arrival of summer comes more free time, and that feeling of romance that only summer brings. Satisfy your cravings by having a summer romance by yourself!
STEP 1: Get clean.
On a hot day, there’s nothing more refreshing than a cool shower. Opening the window a crack lets in a slight breeze and the sounds of the world around you. Grab your favorite body wash and really give yourself a scrub. Gently rub the soap all over your body and just focus on feeling sexy. Not a joke! A lot of sex is mental, and you will feel good when you are feeling good about yourself. Focus on the positive things about your body. What parts of you make you feel attractive? What is your best feature? What makes you irresistible? Think about that while you scrub. Feel free to shave here if it makes you feel good. As soon as you’re squeaky clean, get out and dry yourself off. Then proceed to Step 2.
STEP 2: Moisturize.
There’s nothing sexier than soft, smooth skin. This is your opportunity to apply lotion all over your body. Cover every inch, and just enjoy rubbing it into your skin. Think about how sexy you are just like you did in the previous step. A little confidence goes a long way. The cool breeze and the sounds of nature should still be coming in through the window. Proceed to Step 3.
STEP 3: Get dressed.
Take a look through your closet, and pick out whatever makes you feel attractive. It could be your favorite pair of jeans and your Eden tee-shirt, it could be your most comfortable pair of underwear, maybe a sexy outfit? Perhaps you feel at your best when you are wearing nothing at all! As long as you are feeling good about yourself, you are good to go. Proceed to Step 4.
STEP 4: Set the mood.
Time to make things romantic! Engage as many of your senses as you can. Use this time to light some scented candles, grab a piece or two of your favorite chocolate and find your favorite CD. Choose something that turns you on. Is it dirty, romantic or both? Turn it up, and enjoy the atmosphere you have created. This place is just for you. Proceed to Step 5.
STEP 5: Get the tools.
Take a look at your collection, and pick a couple toys that make you feel good. Remember, you are not just trying to get off, you are trying to romance yourself. It could be your LELO Gigi, your Fleshlight, or your Fun Factory Bootie. Make sure everything is fully charged, or that you have the batteries you need. Find the appropriate lube, and proceed to Step 6.
STEP 6: Take it all off.
Find a mirror and stand in front of it. Admire yourself for a minute, and love what you see. Do a full turn, and bask in the glory of you. Slowly begin to peel off your clothing, if you are still wearing any. Maybe do a little dance to the music. Throw your clothes all over the place, like you just don’t care. Find a comfortable spot to sit or lie down and proceed to Step 7.
STEP 7: Tease yourself.
If you have got a vibrator, now is the time to use it. Turn it on low, and trace it all along your body. Think of your favorite fantasy, and just enjoy yourself. If you do not have a vibrator, your fingers will do just fine. Just enjoy the sensations. When you are ready, proceed to Step 8.
STEP 8: Do the dirty.
It all comes down to this. Touch yourself the way you loved to be touched. Only you know how. Use the toys that make you feel good. When you feel it building up, stop. Then build it back up again. Continue this until you just can’t take it anymore. Enjoy your amazing climax, and proceed to Step 9.
STEP 9: Relax.
Lay back and replay the last couple hours in your head. Recall how good you felt, and never forget to feel good about yourself like you did that day. Never forget that you are sexy, and you are irresistible, and you deserve to be romanced. Take a deep breath and proceed to Step 10.
STEP 10: Do it all again.
STEP 1: Get clean.
On a hot day, there’s nothing more refreshing than a cool shower. Opening the window a crack lets in a slight breeze and the sounds of the world around you. Grab your favorite body wash and really give yourself a scrub. Gently rub the soap all over your body and just focus on feeling sexy. Not a joke! A lot of sex is mental, and you will feel good when you are feeling good about yourself. Focus on the positive things about your body. What parts of you make you feel attractive? What is your best feature? What makes you irresistible? Think about that while you scrub. Feel free to shave here if it makes you feel good. As soon as you’re squeaky clean, get out and dry yourself off. Then proceed to Step 2.
STEP 2: Moisturize.
There’s nothing sexier than soft, smooth skin. This is your opportunity to apply lotion all over your body. Cover every inch, and just enjoy rubbing it into your skin. Think about how sexy you are just like you did in the previous step. A little confidence goes a long way. The cool breeze and the sounds of nature should still be coming in through the window. Proceed to Step 3.
STEP 3: Get dressed.
Take a look through your closet, and pick out whatever makes you feel attractive. It could be your favorite pair of jeans and your Eden tee-shirt, it could be your most comfortable pair of underwear, maybe a sexy outfit? Perhaps you feel at your best when you are wearing nothing at all! As long as you are feeling good about yourself, you are good to go. Proceed to Step 4.
STEP 4: Set the mood.
Time to make things romantic! Engage as many of your senses as you can. Use this time to light some scented candles, grab a piece or two of your favorite chocolate and find your favorite CD. Choose something that turns you on. Is it dirty, romantic or both? Turn it up, and enjoy the atmosphere you have created. This place is just for you. Proceed to Step 5.
STEP 5: Get the tools.
Take a look at your collection, and pick a couple toys that make you feel good. Remember, you are not just trying to get off, you are trying to romance yourself. It could be your LELO Gigi, your Fleshlight, or your Fun Factory Bootie. Make sure everything is fully charged, or that you have the batteries you need. Find the appropriate lube, and proceed to Step 6.
STEP 6: Take it all off.
Find a mirror and stand in front of it. Admire yourself for a minute, and love what you see. Do a full turn, and bask in the glory of you. Slowly begin to peel off your clothing, if you are still wearing any. Maybe do a little dance to the music. Throw your clothes all over the place, like you just don’t care. Find a comfortable spot to sit or lie down and proceed to Step 7.
STEP 7: Tease yourself.
If you have got a vibrator, now is the time to use it. Turn it on low, and trace it all along your body. Think of your favorite fantasy, and just enjoy yourself. If you do not have a vibrator, your fingers will do just fine. Just enjoy the sensations. When you are ready, proceed to Step 8.
STEP 8: Do the dirty.
It all comes down to this. Touch yourself the way you loved to be touched. Only you know how. Use the toys that make you feel good. When you feel it building up, stop. Then build it back up again. Continue this until you just can’t take it anymore. Enjoy your amazing climax, and proceed to Step 9.
STEP 9: Relax.
Lay back and replay the last couple hours in your head. Recall how good you felt, and never forget to feel good about yourself like you did that day. Never forget that you are sexy, and you are irresistible, and you deserve to be romanced. Take a deep breath and proceed to Step 10.
STEP 10: Do it all again.
oooooooh, LOVE this!
this is great- i have a paragraph in my body image article coming up that refers to this type of self care!
Thanks for reading, glad you both like the article!
def made me smile
I love it! mmm
Glad you all enjoyed reading this!