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What's wrong with me?
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After years of feeling down and depressed, wondering what was wrong with me, I've finally come to terms with the fact that my body doesn't work quite the way I would like it to.


Contributor: PepperPot

Thanks for sharing this--I really appreciated your candor. I've never experienced a g-spot orgasm (that I'm aware of) either, despite have been multi-orgasmic my entire life (like, since I was a very young girl). There is no special spot that I've noticed on the front wall of my vagina, but there is an incredibly sensitive area on the back wall, fairly close to the vaginal opening. I joke with my husband that my g-spot is wired backwards... whatever, right? At the end of the day, I think I've decided not to worry about it too much and just appreciate what I do have. Still, I understand the fascination with the g-spot and feel it too... it's such an enticing idea, and heck, I don't mind a little exploration. That's the fun bit

Contributor: PropertyOfPotter

My feelings exactly! Thank you for sharing that with me!

Contributor: LadyDarknezz

Thank you for sharing your story. I actually used to have trouble climaxing myself. I didn't understand my own anatomy at all, and I may just have to write an article explaining that lol. My terrible ex boyfriend had sex only to get himself off and didn't give a crap what I felt; I was just his sex toy. I felt like I wasn't even a person. I haven't been with another man since him, either. I guess I have a lot to work out on my own. Being chronically ill isn't helping finding a mate any easier either, but I hope one day I can actually find someone special. I do understand more about sex and my body thanks to EF and Sexis though. I've recently began exploring my g-spot and I've found it; I had no idea that I could squirt, but I still find it hard to orgasm that way. I learned to just relax and take my time. Like Pepperpot said, the exploration is the fun bit lol

Contributor: Supervixen

Thanks for sharing, I really related to this. In my first relationship, sex literally hurt, each and every time. I thought there was something wrong with me, and since we were both each other's firsts and were totally inexperienced, we just assumed that it was some sort of defect in me. We hardly ever had sex as a result, and I felt awful about it, and would sometimes just grit my teeth and go through with it, because I wanted so badly to have a normal sex life with my boyfriend. It wasn't until after I broke up with him and ended up with other people that I figured out what sex is actually supposed to feel like--and I rarely can climax from penetrative sex, alone. I used to be frustrated about that, but then I remember all those years in my first relationship (six of them sexually active) when I thought sex was always going to hurt for me. Turns out that wasn't true; I was in a bad relationship with someone I was dependent upon, being with him since I was 15, and I didn't want to be with him for years, but didn't have the courage to break up until much later. I think my body responded to sex with him the way my emotions and mind were responding to him, subconsciously. Now that I'm past that, I feel like I still have a lot to explore, and instead of feeling angry and frustrated, I'm trying to look at it as an adventure. There have already been some pleasant surprises along the way, so I'll just keep going, you know? Looks like the same is true for you, and that's awesome.

Contributor: XxFallenAngelxX

Love the article.

Contributor: SneakersAndPearls

Thank you for sharing this. I'm one of those that can't (or hasn't yet) had an orgasm just from penetration. A few years ago, I realized I wasn't alone and started concentrating on what *does* feel good, not what I think *should* feel good.

Contributor: Fodra

Glad to hear things are getting better for you. I've had an issue where touching my vaginal area was uncomfortable at best, and insertion of anything painful. I've managed to get a finger in now, and it's a different sensation, but it just isn't that great. I'll keep trying, that's all I can do. Good luck on your G-spot quest, maybe that will prove to be the magic key that will make things much better.

Contributor: Neotigress

Thank you for such an candid article.

Contributor: PropertyOfPotter

Thanks so much for all of your comments!! I truly appreciate the positive words and support. I'm sorry to each of you who have similar problems and worse!!!

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Contributor: Hummingbird

Your article reached me so identically, as if you were reading my thoughts exactly. The quest goes on but at least now I believe its there and knowing others are on the same quest reassures me I'm not alone. Thank you for sharing this!



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