Before I say anything I'd like to say I'm a really vocal person. Not just in bed, but about relationships in general. Usually I’ll talk to my partner extensively after we’ve had sex a few times. Mainly this is just a “what went right, what could improve” kind of thing. You don’t want to do it right after sex because the age old “was it good for you?” is basically a rhetorical question nowadays. If you want real opinions, ask your partner casually, only after making sure they know you won’t care what the answer is. If your partner knows you’d overreact to the correct answer, don’t bother asking.
What I’ve come to learn is that everything is important. First things first you want to make sure you’re watching your teeth, nothing can ruin a blowjob quicker than your teeth! This can be as simple as covering them with your lips. It’s one of those things that if you don’t do already, it will eventually become muscle memory. There are a few things that aren’t nearly as common including “rolling your R’s” on the underside of a penis, which is something most guys haven’t experienced. Something a lot more common is just to swallow when they finish (even if you’re not used to it or scared to, give it a try some time!) and then just go about the rest of your day as if it’s something totally normal.
Story time! I was in a long term relationship with this guy; we’ll call him Ted. Now Ted was really well endowed, if I had to guess I’d say probably at least 7 inches long. So, we’re getting hot and heavy and as I unbuckle his belt he stops me and says “I’ve never finished from oral” so without hesitation I looked him right in the eyes, smiled, and continue taking off his belt. For some reason, I still don’t know why, I was expecting him to have a small penis. This made it even more shocking once his pants were off. This was the first penis I couldn’t deep throat. A trick for anyone in that boat is to focus on the tip, and work your hands on the bottom, just so long as the shaft is experiencing some kind of stimulation, the difference is very significant. Deep throating is one of the things that even with experience, some women will never get the hang of, and a lot of people just aren’t built for it. As popular as the media makes it seem, most women can’t deep throat, and a lot of men haven’t even experienced it.
But above all, what I’ve learned is more important than anything else when it comes to oral sex, is enthusiasm. Nothing turns a guy on more than showing them this is something you want to do. Something as simple as a smile or giggle can do this. Knowing that their penis can make you happy even when they’re not doing anything with it always makes a man smile.
What I’ve come to learn is that everything is important. First things first you want to make sure you’re watching your teeth, nothing can ruin a blowjob quicker than your teeth! This can be as simple as covering them with your lips. It’s one of those things that if you don’t do already, it will eventually become muscle memory. There are a few things that aren’t nearly as common including “rolling your R’s” on the underside of a penis, which is something most guys haven’t experienced. Something a lot more common is just to swallow when they finish (even if you’re not used to it or scared to, give it a try some time!) and then just go about the rest of your day as if it’s something totally normal.
Story time! I was in a long term relationship with this guy; we’ll call him Ted. Now Ted was really well endowed, if I had to guess I’d say probably at least 7 inches long. So, we’re getting hot and heavy and as I unbuckle his belt he stops me and says “I’ve never finished from oral” so without hesitation I looked him right in the eyes, smiled, and continue taking off his belt. For some reason, I still don’t know why, I was expecting him to have a small penis. This made it even more shocking once his pants were off. This was the first penis I couldn’t deep throat. A trick for anyone in that boat is to focus on the tip, and work your hands on the bottom, just so long as the shaft is experiencing some kind of stimulation, the difference is very significant. Deep throating is one of the things that even with experience, some women will never get the hang of, and a lot of people just aren’t built for it. As popular as the media makes it seem, most women can’t deep throat, and a lot of men haven’t even experienced it.
But above all, what I’ve learned is more important than anything else when it comes to oral sex, is enthusiasm. Nothing turns a guy on more than showing them this is something you want to do. Something as simple as a smile or giggle can do this. Knowing that their penis can make you happy even when they’re not doing anything with it always makes a man smile.