We all have this one itch to scratch. Some people have an itch that is scratched by a little bit of tying down. Some people have an itch that’s scratched by spanking, crying, or balloon popping. Whatever it is that scratches your itch, you love it and want to have fun with it.
Enter your partner.
You two may have just recently started having sex. Maybe you’ve been having sex for a while. However, now you want to introduce them to your itch and scratch! Otherwise known as, your kink!
Oh, now you’re backing up. “What if they think I’m weird? What if it grosses them out?”
Well, the best piece of advice is to swallow your shyness and come out to your partner and tell them all about it. Or not. You could be more subtle. Maybe slowly bring them up to speed on it. Leave bits of rope dangling from the ceiling. Let them come in on you watching your favorite spanking porn. However you introduce them is honestly up to you. It’s possible they won’t accept it; it’s possible they’ll be repulsed by it and never want you to bring it up again. Or, as happens in three quarters of relationships, they’ll want to know more about it.
Me personally, I have a minor bondage kink. I like tying down my partner, or even being tied down. I wasn’t super excited to bring this up to my partner, as I knew she didn’t like roughness in general, and especially not in the bedroom. However, when I finally brought it up to her, she was curious, if not completely willing, under the stipulation that I be gentle with her. The accepting partner is not an unusual circumstance. They are typically surprised, and then driven by curiosity about the kink, and about how you got to the point of liking that particular kink.
Enter your partner.
You two may have just recently started having sex. Maybe you’ve been having sex for a while. However, now you want to introduce them to your itch and scratch! Otherwise known as, your kink!
Oh, now you’re backing up. “What if they think I’m weird? What if it grosses them out?”
Well, the best piece of advice is to swallow your shyness and come out to your partner and tell them all about it. Or not. You could be more subtle. Maybe slowly bring them up to speed on it. Leave bits of rope dangling from the ceiling. Let them come in on you watching your favorite spanking porn. However you introduce them is honestly up to you. It’s possible they won’t accept it; it’s possible they’ll be repulsed by it and never want you to bring it up again. Or, as happens in three quarters of relationships, they’ll want to know more about it.
Me personally, I have a minor bondage kink. I like tying down my partner, or even being tied down. I wasn’t super excited to bring this up to my partner, as I knew she didn’t like roughness in general, and especially not in the bedroom. However, when I finally brought it up to her, she was curious, if not completely willing, under the stipulation that I be gentle with her. The accepting partner is not an unusual circumstance. They are typically surprised, and then driven by curiosity about the kink, and about how you got to the point of liking that particular kink.
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