The Young and The Sexless

Society conditions people to think one way or another in virtually every aspect of our lives. Whether it's what clothes we wear or the newest gadgets that people feel compelled to have, everything we do, have, and think about is conditioned. One of my biggest concerns is the way people all around the world view each other. We're conditioned to believe that for a man to be attractive he has to be tall, tan, and so fit to the point where they have the famous washboard abs. For a woman to be attractive she must be petite in every sense of the word; from her small waist and generally short height, to her lady parts and most things in between. I say most things because the only things men like big on a woman are her breasts and ass. But let’s be realistic here, people come in all shapes and sizes, colors and heights, so when do we stop looking for the fantasy and start looking for what’s great about the reality?

I have a few very close friends who have no sex lives. One is by personal choice but the other two are in their predicament because they are cast aside by society. As far as their personalities go, they are fun, eccentric at times, sweet, kind, generous, and the kind of men and women that you take home to mom and dad. The problem lies within their physical looks. Now personally I do find them to be moderately attractive. I myself am somewhat conditioned to societies ideals but I do look realistically. One of the guys is about 5' 9" with dirty blonde hair, blue eyes, and is average/fit. So what's the issue for him? He has a longer face, his nose is a little large, and the kid has big ears; but overall he's generally attractive. Women around the world do not see him that way. They see only what is labeled as unattractive. But what's there telling people he's not the next male model of the world? I'll tell you, it's the way we all have been conditioned. There is nothing wrong with this guy, I've known him for years and he's such a good guy that deserves a good girl but with the tabloids and TV showing us these 6', tan, muscular, seemingly perfect faces it's hard to see anything else. But people, we need to remember that beauty really is only skin deep.

How many of you have had a crush on a man, or woman that has turned out to be a cold hearted jackass who cares too much about their looks to care about anyone else? Show of hands? I myself have to raise my hand here. We've all fallen victim to the beautiful people of the world, and it hurts to know that because you're not as perfect as they are, that you'll either be friend zoned or cast aside. But you need not fret because their ugly hearts will catch up to them one day. Karma is real my friends and it'll bite them in the ass... hard. What you and I have is the luxury of realizing that beauty can be found in a person’s heart and not just their face. Sometimes the great personalities can make a person more beautiful and the ugly ones can make a beautiful person so ugly. The gorgeous bitch will never be able to see anything other than what's on the outside so she’ll wander from one meaningless relationship to the next until the day she turns old and grey and no one wants her anymore.

Now I understand I'm sounding bitter but sometimes the harsh words need to be said in order for people to realize that there is more to life than black and white; ugly and beautiful. There is too much grey to make one decision on what's beautiful and what's not. We as people need to change our ways and start giving everyone and equal opportunity in everything, including sex. "All is fair in love and war," right? So why not make it more fair? That way there will be less young and sexless and more young and restless, if you know what I mean.