I definitely have to say that I am startled at how many people hated this lubricant. I have tried so many different lubricants and after so many fails, and this is one of the few that stood up to the test for me and my husband - it passed with flying colors! I am a sensitive girl and I couldn't even feel the beads there. Definitely didn't feel like sand. The warming sensation is amazing, it's great for the skin and lacks harmful ingredients. I love it. New favorite oil-based lubricant!