We love anal sex! In fact we love it so much that we want to make sure YOU love it too. For that reason we no longer carry anal numbing products. If you are practicing safe buttsex, you'll have no need (or desire) to be numb. You will want to feel each and every pleasurable sensation.
But what if it you're a beginner and anal sex is not yet completely comfortable? If you experience pain, this is your body's way of telling you to slow down or stop. Done correctly, the receptive partner should feel stretching, fullness and lots of pleasure -- but little to no discomfort.
Here are some suggestions for having the most pleasurable anal sex experience without the need for numbing:
Start slowly. Use a very small dildo (like the Compact or the Small Silk) before you attempt penetration with something larger. This will give your body a chance to learn to relax the anal muscles gradually.
Use lots of a very good lube. Drugstore lubes are not the best choices for anal sex. Instead, use a thick, long-lasting product like Maximus or Sliquid. Reapply frequently if things get uncomfortable.
Keep in mind that the goal is pleasure for both partners. Guys, the gripping sensations of a happy, orgasmic ass are not to be missed. Use fingers, a small vibe like the Golden Nugget or a strap-on vibe like the Venus Butterfly to give clitoral pleasure during anal sex.
Stop if you feel pain. Anal sex is learned over a period of days or weeks, not one night. Move on to other fun activities and try buttsex again some other time.
Remember, go slowly, use lots of lube and stop if it hurts. Pain is a signal that your body is in trouble. Use pain as a reminder to add lube, go more slowly, or wait until another night.
Follow these suggestions and your body (and especially your ass) will be very happy.
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