I love this dildo in theory. The world needs more dildos with handles! It's a lot more common to hold the dildo than to put it in a harness. That said, the execution of this toy leaves a lot to be desired. It's just too painful 99 percent of the time. That's its only real downfall, but it's a major one, unfortunately. Maybe someone should just invent a tool that attaches a handle onto pre-existing dildos.