Over at The S Spot (link), we've been talking about how we'd feel, knowing that an ex is using our image as masturbation fodder. OR how we'd feel after finding out that a partner's ex was doing the same.
How do you feel about your exes keeping you in their "Spank Bank"?
So I went with other because I am still friends with a lot of my past partners and we never really discussed it. I know I am lucky because I have not had a really bad relationship just ones that didn't work out. That being said if it was a relationship that ended terribly I probably would be totally creeped out.
08/18/2009
I think it's unreasonable to think you have any say about how someone else masturbates. And given that I feel it's an issue that's out of my hands (if I knowingly gave them or let them take photos...), why bother being anything but flattered? Life's too short to take offense to something so minor.
08/18/2009
I suppose I'd kind of like it if I knew people still got hot and bothered over the thought of me... seeing as I haven't been with someone other than my husband in oh, 7 years. At this point in time though, I'd highly doubt someone would jerk the gerkin over me or the times I had with them but if they did, wouldn't bother me a bit.. and seeing as I'm married and quite satisfied with my DH, I'm not about to encourage that type of behavior from anyone who isn't him... but if it happens and I never knew there was some pervy dude out there still stroking his shaft to moi, it's totally harmless for both them and I.
My husband ex's still masturbating over him? I wouldn't doubt it. He's pretty fucking good looking and he has a huge... wouldn't bother me a bit seeing as he's now all mine.
My husband ex's still masturbating over him? I wouldn't doubt it. He's pretty fucking good looking and he has a huge... wouldn't bother me a bit seeing as he's now all mine.
08/18/2009
I've often wondered what happened to some pictures that I took well over twenty years ago...
And I know one person thought of me long after we were apart- probably sexually.
But I'm still with the one person that matters, so it's pretty hard to really judge because I didn't separate on an emotional basis.
And I know one person thought of me long after we were apart- probably sexually.
But I'm still with the one person that matters, so it's pretty hard to really judge because I didn't separate on an emotional basis.
08/18/2009
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Yeah, I mentioned in the discussion on my site that we can't control what people think about when they wank. But that doesn't mean you can't have an opinion or thoughts about it. haha
Originally posted by
Red
I think it's unreasonable to think you have any say about how someone else masturbates. And given that I feel it's an issue that's out of my hands (if I knowingly gave them or let them take photos...), why bother being anything but
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I think it's unreasonable to think you have any say about how someone else masturbates. And given that I feel it's an issue that's out of my hands (if I knowingly gave them or let them take photos...), why bother being anything but flattered? Life's too short to take offense to something so minor.
08/19/2009
I think it depends on how the relationship went down. I have a couple exes that would make me flattered and I have some I'd rather just fell off a cliff. I don't want anything to with them so it's more of a "get a life, already" though.. not really creeped out. I'm possessive and jealous enough, however, that I wouldn't like it one bit if it was my husband and one of his exes
08/19/2009
I'm mixed, but mostly I think its flattering. There are some guys who I think are creepy about it though. Like a guy who decided since we werent together he could still attempt to use me to fulfill his mental sexual kinks because his girlfriend was poor at doing everything.
He was really creepy.. just how he talked and stuff. Then I have one friend whom I flirt with on cam and such. I wouldn't mind if he did that. He's not a bad person.
He was really creepy.. just how he talked and stuff. Then I have one friend whom I flirt with on cam and such. I wouldn't mind if he did that. He's not a bad person.
08/30/2009
Something to think about: IF someone is getting their jollies off with thoughts of you, they're prolly remembering your better than you actually look. Depending on how long it's been, changes in the meantime, unintentional tweeking, etc They're prolly remembering you as more attractive than you were at the time. There's also a really good chance that since they are thinking about you, you're the hottest person they've been with and want to remember how good their best sex was with you. They're prolly remembering the act more than the actress.
Now, if someone remembers you for a different reason (bad break up) you prolly look a lot worse to their mind's eye.
Now, if someone remembers you for a different reason (bad break up) you prolly look a lot worse to their mind's eye.
11/10/2009
There is only one ex I could think of who is probably still doing this and it's creepy on all kind of levels. He's been stalking me since we broke up like 12 years ago and it was a really fucked up relationship.
If I found out my husbands 'ex' was still masturbating to pictures of him I'd likely vary between being really, really smug about it and annoyed/angry/irritate d.
If I found out my husbands 'ex' was still masturbating to pictures of him I'd likely vary between being really, really smug about it and annoyed/angry/irritate d.
11/10/2009
Flattered and creeped out by it. If he's still thinking of me while self-loving 13 years after I broke his heart, he might need to be seeing a therapist about that.
I still think about exes every now and again. All of them were a huge part of my life at the time and are responsible for helping me shape the ideals I have, but I'm not at all sexually attracted to them and would never bring them into a session, solo or otherwise. I left them for a reason, everything else is shut off after that.
I still think about exes every now and again. All of them were a huge part of my life at the time and are responsible for helping me shape the ideals I have, but I'm not at all sexually attracted to them and would never bring them into a session, solo or otherwise. I left them for a reason, everything else is shut off after that.
02/07/2011
I spend a lot of time trying to convince myself that I'm the most unforgettable lover on the planet, so I'd be really offended if they didn't still think of me.
In seriousness though, it's been a while since anyone could rightly call me an ex. Methinks they'd do well to move on at this point.
In seriousness though, it's been a while since anyone could rightly call me an ex. Methinks they'd do well to move on at this point.
02/07/2011
