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Confessions of a Friend-ZonerYou know how it goes. Man meets woman, man befriends woman, man expects that friendship to blossom into something sexual, and when it doesn't, man complains that he's been friend-zoned. This scenario can play out between any two people, regardless of gender...but it seems that man versus woman is most common, and in each situation, it seems to be the same complaint: "I was so nice to her. She led me on." But how often do we really hear her side of the story?
Jun. 17, 2013
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The Monosexual’s Guide to Dating Someone Flexible
There are many of us who identify as queer, bisexual, pansexual, or other identities that are flexible in the sex and gender of our partners. This is often difficult to understand for people who are not flexible, whether they are gay or straight. This is a guide for monosexual (cliff notes version: someone who is either straight or gay) partners of sexually flexible people to be a better partner to those of us with these unique identities.
Jun. 15, 2013
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Thinking about Taboos
Taboos are powerful things. Anything that has power over our minds and imaginations can either imprison us or be used to make us happier. Maybe it's time to think about harnessing your taboos and using them to keep a long term relationship healthy and exciting.
Jun. 15, 2013
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Positive Versus Prohibitive: Why Sex Positive Spaces are Beginning to Experience Backlash
The notion of "Sex Positivity" is one that we are all familiar with: it encourages an accepting, celebratory attitude toward sex and sexuality. There are times, however, when sex positive spaces can turn sour for their participants. Some feel pressured, while others feel ignored, and with these mounting concerns going largely unaddressed, there is a real need to band together, combat this "elephant in the room" and keep our spaces and ideals safe and welcoming for all.
Jun. 14, 2013
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BDSM DIY: Creating Dungeon Furniture
In this third segment of my BDSM Do it Yourself column, I will discuss how I have made several pieces of dungeon furniture in the past and how you could, easily, learn to craft these transportable pieces yourself. The finished pieces can each be made for under twenty dollars and are mobile, so that you can bring and show off your furniture at play parties...or easily hide it under your bed if the in-laws come snooping.
Jun. 12, 2013
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Teens and Sex
We all know how hard it is raising teens. This stage is where communication is so very difficult, yet so essential. Sex is certainly going to be a struggle during their teenage years, but this is the time when you are needed the most.
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Confessions of a Friend-Zoner
You know how it goes. Man meets woman, man befriends woman, man expects that friendship to blossom into something sexual, and when it doesn't, man complains that he's been friend-zoned. This scenario can play out between any two people, regardless of gender...but it seems that man versus woman is most common, and in each situation, it seems to be the same complaint: "I was so nice to her. She led me on." But how often do we really hear her side of the story?
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The Monosexual’s Guide to Dating Someone Flexible
There are many of us who identify as queer, bisexual, pansexual, or other identities that are flexible in the sex and gender of our partners. This is often difficult to understand for people who are not flexible, whether they are gay or straight. This is a guide for monosexual (cliff notes version: someone who is either straight or gay) partners of sexually flexible people to be a better partner to those of us with these unique identities.
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Thinking about Taboos
Taboos are powerful things. Anything that has power over our minds and imaginations can either imprison us or be used to make us happier. Maybe it's time to think about harnessing your taboos and using them to keep a long term relationship healthy and exciting.
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Positive Versus Prohibitive: Why Sex Positive Spaces are Beginning to Experience Backlash
The notion of "Sex Positivity" is one that we are all familiar with: it encourages an accepting, celebratory attitude toward sex and sexuality. There are times, however, when sex positive spaces can turn sour for their participants. Some feel pressured, while others feel ignored, and with these mounting concerns going largely unaddressed, there is a real need to band together, combat this "elephant in the room" and keep our spaces and ideals safe and welcoming for all.
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BDSM DIY: Creating Dungeon Furniture
In this third segment of my BDSM Do it Yourself column, I will discuss how I have made several pieces of dungeon furniture in the past and how you could, easily, learn to craft these transportable pieces yourself. The finished pieces can each be made for under twenty dollars and are mobile, so that you can bring and show off your furniture at play parties...or easily hide it under your bed if the in-laws come snooping.
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How Phone Sex Can Improve Your LDR
Being of the internet generation, I’ve had my share of online, and long distance, relationships. When my husband was in Germany for a few weeks, Skype sex was a wonderful treat that we got to have every couple of days, and it kept us going until we were able to see each other again. Here is the secret that can help you the next time your significant other (SO) is out of town.
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BDSM Punishments
In my previous article, How to Submit, I mentioned that it is important to be able to take punishments as a submissive. After my article was posted, it received a comment which left me stunned. Then it hit me. I had never explained the various types of punishments, and it was assumed that all BDSM punishments were purely physical. This article will explain the various forms of punishments often used and why each one may be selected and put to use.
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Medicalizing Queer Identities
How does the medicalized discourse surrounding queer identities shape the way that queer people are represented? Is this better or worse for the individual experience? Medicalizing a cultural notion, such a sexual identity, a construct that exists in only certain socio-political arenas, works to harm individuals more than empower them. Rather than embrace sexuality and trans*gender expression, our society's language is framing queerness as similar to a disease.
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Anal Sex: How To Get Started
Okay, so let’s say you and your husband are into anal play, and you want to take it a step further. You are both comfortable with the idea of anal sex, but you feel like you need some pointers to help you get started.
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