Has your sex life increased or decreased after baby?

Stnjbe1021 Stnjbe1021
I wanted to know if other people have had difficulties getting back into the "mood" after having a baby...
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Postpartum sex? what is that????
SexyTabby , Gunsmoke , Hot'n'Bothered , Desiree Tatro , sweet seduction , RomeroB , cdawn , Peaches2kinky , lick123 , Mlee , lover15456 , onehotmama , Bignuf , jc123 , AnyBariz , Wyo Daisy , Sex'и'Violence , Ava5 , N&M , momma22js , zwee75 , samopayn , bluidbomsh3ll , Amelia Jane , Gracie
25  (47%)
There was no change with postpartum sex
Nicky , Kindred , Jimbo Jones , fabjennie , Lady Venus , Kaltir , SapphirexIce , Istanbull , Rossie , Willis2011 , jewelsngems , slynch , Beck
13  (25%)
Sex has increased
pookalicious , Mz.GreenEyez , HannahPanda , Airen Wolf , leelee
5  (9%)
Other (explain)
Stnjbe1021 , Kimbertrees , PropertyOfPotter , Chevylady37 , Ke , kitsuneyouko5 , Brandi Rouxxx , tlaskowski , sexybutterfly , potstickers
10  (19%)
Total votes: 53
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Stnjbe1021 Stnjbe1021
My sex life decreased, more so do to lack of sleep and energy, and the fact that my daughter sleeps in the same room as us in her cradle. It seems weird to get down and dirty with a little one right there.
11/16/2010
SexyTabby SexyTabby
Right after having my first I don't think sex even entered my mind for several weeks. After the second being born only a year apart there was no time or energy left for sex. After my third things settled out and now I'm having the best sex ever.
11/16/2010
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
This goes back a long way - my kids are in college - but yes the sex was pretty slow for a while. They are just 15 months apart so the relative drought lasted about 3 years. It's not that we didn't have sex - it was just way less common than before or since.
11/17/2010
Nicky Nicky
I feel that the sex hasn't really changed since I had my baby. He's only two months old, and we still find time to enjoy ourselves.
11/18/2010
Kimbertrees Kimbertrees
My sex life decreased dramatically. I think it mostly has to do with my relationship completely and utterly falling apart after my daughter was born though, that and of course how painful sex was to me for some reason after that. I couldn't get myself in the mood again until my daughter was around 8 months old... Not that it would have mattered much seeing as he left when Erilyn was only two months old.
11/18/2010
Hot'n'Bothered Hot'n'Bothered
Decreased. It's hard when you have kids who refuse to sleep..
11/18/2010
PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
I'm currently pregnant with my third child, my husband's first. We have an incredible sex life, and I honestly don't see it changing once our baby is born! Before, because I was with someone I didn't care about very much, we didn't have much sex so it stayed the same after we had kids, but I truly think that it will be different this time around!
11/21/2010
fabjennie fabjennie
I still want it just as often. It just is a little harder to get it
11/28/2010
Stnjbe1021 Stnjbe1021
I want it...I crave it! I just can't manage around the 3 month old who wants to stay awake all night! lol
11/30/2010
sweet seduction sweet seduction
Our sex life decreased but it is starting to pick up now that she is getting older.
01/04/2011
Chevylady37 Chevylady37
i've had 3 kids my sex life after the first 2 decreased but this time it has increased I've been more open and ready to try new things etc.
01/09/2011
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
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Originally posted by sweet seduction
Our sex life decreased but it is starting to pick up now that she is getting older.
Yea - that's pretty normal.
01/10/2011
pookalicious pookalicious
After my first son, our sex life plummeted, but oddly enough, after our second son was born, we couldn't keep our hands off each other and that just increases the older the kids gets.
02/21/2011
Ke Ke
We're expecting baby #3. My oldest will be not quite 3 when the baby is born. I would say that the frequency of sex has decreased but the quality has increased. It's all about give and take. However much you put into it is how much you'll get out.
02/25/2011
Istanbull Istanbull
Quote:
Originally posted by Stnjbe1021
I wanted to know if other people have had difficulties getting back into the "mood" after having a baby...
You forgot to include "Less Sex" so I voted no change. The first year we only had sex 3 times. Now we're back to once a month.
02/28/2011
SapphirexIce SapphirexIce
I think my sexual plasures went down hill after my son, I think its because my muscles down there kinda suck right now time for kegel balls!!
02/28/2011
kitsuneyouko5 kitsuneyouko5
we've got two both under two years old, at first it does decrease. when you've got two little ones you don't sleep much. After about a month or two when you get into the swing of both kids schedules things pick up again. We find it kind of like being teenagers again, sneaking in alone time while the kids are sleeping is kind of like groping while the parents are out of the room. The trick is to set aside at least one night a week where after you put the kids to bed you spend some time just being together, even if you don't get freaky. Watch a movie, feed each other candy. Do some of the stuff you did when you were dating before kids.
03/01/2011
lick123 lick123
baby is 1 month old and have not tried yet. a little scared to do so. 10 yr anniversary is next week too.
03/07/2011
Brandi Rouxxx Brandi Rouxxx
It hasn't really increased, but it's sure gotten a hell of a lot better.
03/07/2011
SexyStuff SexyStuff
I've never had a baby, but I can't imagine it diminishing much more!
03/07/2011
Cream in the Cupcake Cream in the Cupcake
Does it hurt to have sex after a c-section?
03/07/2011
kitsuneyouko5 kitsuneyouko5
my step-mom has had 2 c-sections, she just says to avoid positions that stretch those muscles in the front for a while. So sticking with missionary or using soft positioning pillows to not put pressure on the incision.
04/15/2011
Mlee Mlee
I know what having sex is but i dont get to do it that much now that i have a two year old that comes in our bed every night to sleep with his mommy and daddy. And i a pregnant again so there goes sex all together. lol but i love my children.
04/22/2011
Willis2011 Willis2011
There has been no change
04/22/2011
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Stnjbe1021
I wanted to know if other people have had difficulties getting back into the "mood" after having a baby...
Fatigue, Stress, Responsibility...there were a thousand reasons why for a few years after we had our first child, sex slacked WAY, WAY off. With her in college now, we are back to our pre-baby sex lives, but it naturally takes while. Real life has a way of intruding on young romance. Oh..as an aside, I never, ever felt sexier or had better sex, then when I was pregnant!!! Oh those hormones.
06/05/2011
Sex'и'Violence Sex'и'Violence
drastically decreased.
07/21/2011
Ava5 Ava5
Quote:
Originally posted by Sex'и'Violence
drastically decreased.
ditto. it sucks
08/04/2011
N&M N&M
Down
08/10/2011
jewelsngems jewelsngems
Baby number 1....stitches....so that was a big ouch....but I did last 4 weeks without sex...
Baby number 2....hmmmmm maybe I lasted 2 days after having her...
Baby number 3....and number 4.... maybe I lasted a week....maybe? Lol.
Got my tubes tied....bahhh out the window, I lost my libido completely damn it all!
Fortunately, 3 years down the track and 'it's back!!!!!!' YAY!
10/14/2011
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