BDSM

basics

BDSM is a Game

Every action in the kinky play of BDSM is namely a PLAY. Each party plays a role, no more, no less. It's a life-like experience, but it's also a scene.

BDSM is Trust

Power exchange, a.k.a. submitting yourself or taking control of someone is very responsible. Only once the trust is mutual and complete, a perfect union is possible

Not so obvious bonuses of BDSM

Not so obvious bonuses of BDSM

  • Stress release

    it’s a whole lot of fun and relaxation, which allows to release all negative energy

  • Safety

    BDSM gives a possibility of reliving your boldest fantasies almost as in reality, with no physical or psychological harm


  • Renouncement/
    acceptance of responsibility

    people with a lot of responsibilities will often crave submission to someone and vice versa

  • Absolute trust

    the feeling of being controlled/controlling requires profound confidence in the partner

  • New experiences

    one of the most wonderful features of sex is that it can always amaze you, open new horizons

Rules
of BDSM scene

  • Make a
    "safe-word"

    if the safe word is spoken, the scene must stop. ALWAYS respect the safe-word

  • Stick to the character

    don’t ruin your fantasy by steeping out of the role or interrupting the scene

  • Be careful

    never experiment without having a consent

  • Be honest

    don’t hide anything, be open-minded and open-hearted

  • Communicate

    talk about your preferences and explore each other’s needs and desires

  • Be respectful

    it looks like the Sub is serving the Dom, but in reality they are serving each other

  • Be realistic

    respect your bodies’
    abilities; end the scene
    with wanting more, not
    wishing there had been less

  • Be patient

    if your partner needs time, don’t rush him/her

Roles of BDSM

  • Submissive empowers Dominant

    Submissive empowers Dominant

  • Dominant is responsible for Submissive

    Dominant is responsible for Submissive

Guide to BDSM play

Sensation play

Creating new experiences through manipulation of the five senses

Flogging

Spanking with special implements as a sign of playful punishment or reward.

Bondage

Restraints (Verbal or Physical) are placed on the body to restrict movement and senses

Conversation starters

What to say when trying to initiate a BDSM play for the first time?

  • It’s nothing extraordinary, everybody does that
  • It’s a possibility to try something new
  • We can have an amazing adventure
  • It’s just a play
  • I want to be punished, I’m a bad boy/girl
  • That would be a way to spice things up
  • I’d like you to be in charge now
  • I am curious, aren’t you?

Get the infographic

BDSM Basics
Embed the Infographic
1000x5724 PNG
  1. 1. Choose which size graphic you'd like
  2. 2. Click on the code in the corresponding box
  3. 3. Hit Ctrl-C to copy
  4. 4. Paste the code into your site's page
Download file