How easy is it for you to find porn you like?

YouAreMyFetish YouAreMyFetish
I've been thinking a lot lately about the porn industry and the different kinds of porn out there. I think it's a shame that we have to label porn "for" anyone (like porn for women or couples or whomever else) because even if a person fits under that label, it doesn't mean they will enjoy that type of porn. Furthermore, we all know that, while it is slowly changing, porn is and always has been a male dominated industry. Many women even agree that porn is made for men, even if they like it. That being said, how easy or hard is it to find what you like? Do you usually find it for free online or do you have to pay for it?

I ask because I have a very difficult time finding porn that I can fully enjoy. If I had to label my sexuality, I would call myself bi- or pansexual. I'm in a heterosexual relationship with a straight man. I'm a feminist and love queer theory. Maybe I'm just picky, but I don't want to see women with smeared make-up looking into the camera at me. I don't like the dirty talk I hear. I like bdsm, but the free stuff out there is questionable a lot of times, unfortunately. I like lesbian porn, but I always question how "real" the material is because we can probably all agree that lesbian porn is probably the most in demand, and the actresses who are in them aren't necessarily lesbians.

I can't watch porn without analyzing it and maybe that's my problem. But I do know, from the bit of feminist porn I've watched, I've felt extremely comfortable watching it. I don't question how into it the actors are or if they gave misinformed consent. This isn't to say that all non-feminist porn isn't like this, but feminist porn was created and labeled as such for a reason--to see different types of bodies, to see more women in control, and to provide a very safe environment for all types of people to perform in.

With all of that being said (and it was a bit of a ramble, so congrats if you made it this far), I'm just curious as to your thoughts on the matter.
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
I'm female and it's easy.
12  (17%)
I'm female and it's difficult.
33  (46%)
I'm male and it's easy.
12  (17%)
I'm male and it's difficult.
7  (10%)
I'm trans*/queer/identify differently and it's easy.
I'm trans*/queer/identify differently and it's difficult.
4  (6%)
I don't watch porn.
3  (4%)
Total votes: 71
Poll is closed
08/10/2012
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- Kira - - Kira -
I get most of my porn from Kink.com. It's a pay service, but I like what I get from them so I'm happy to pay for it. I was paying for porn I didn't really like before anyhow.

It's probably also easier for me because I like makeup and dirty talk. I also don't get too much into questioning the real sexuality of the females involved in girl on girl porn. Even liking that stuff, lots of generic porn comes out that sucks. Generally I'll try to find an actress I like and search out her stuff. At least then I'll have someone pretty to look at if everything else in the porn blows.
08/10/2012
deltalima deltalima
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Originally posted by YouAreMyFetish
I've been thinking a lot lately about the porn industry and the different kinds of porn out there. I think it's a shame that we have to label porn "for" anyone (like porn for women or couples or whomever else) because even if a ... More
It's hard because I like something romantic and most people laugh at that idea. At least give me a credible storyline...
08/10/2012
Sammi Sammi
I get most of mine from Kink.com - I don't mind paying for the sites that have what I want to see - and also I find I like particular directors/series on DVD, so I seek those out.

It took me some time to find what I liked, but I've been lucky to get to review a pretty wide variety of porn, so I got to know over time which directors/studios work for me and I want to stick with, and which really were lacking.
08/10/2012
Gdom Gdom
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Originally posted by - Kira -
I get most of my porn from Kink.com. It's a pay service, but I like what I get from them so I'm happy to pay for it. I was paying for porn I didn't really like before anyhow.

It's probably also easier for me because I like ... More
I'll put in another vote for Kink.com. In addition to doing good work, they're actively sex-positive and they treat their models well. The before- and after-scene interviews are also great for humanizing the models and making their personal interests, kinks, and boundaries explicit. Not everything they do is perfect, but they're about the best company I've found.
08/10/2012
spunkmonkey spunkmonkey
I do not really watch any porn.
08/10/2012
Geogeo Geogeo
I have very specific tastes so its difficult if I don't want to pay to subscribe
08/11/2012
Geogeo Geogeo
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Originally posted by Gdom
I'll put in another vote for Kink.com. In addition to doing good work, they're actively sex-positive and they treat their models well. The before- and after-scene interviews are also great for humanizing the models and making their personal ... More
I LOVE kink, however the opening model interviews ruin things for me.
08/11/2012
luvslukin luvslukin
Xhamster seems to have any and everything you could want. I use to watch several different sites, but Xhamster is where I go for my porn almost exclusively these days.
08/11/2012
js250 js250
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Originally posted by luvslukin
Xhamster seems to have any and everything you could want. I use to watch several different sites, but Xhamster is where I go for my porn almost exclusively these days.
Just what I was going to add!!

Also, chaturbate, rude and yuvutu have amateur porn--I found it is usually real and put out there by people who love being checked out.
08/11/2012
lineswecast lineswecast
I like Dane Jones on youporn, but otherwise I do have some trouble finding stuff that I like. Amateur porn is usually where I look.
08/11/2012
Claire-Bear Claire-Bear
I rarely, rarely ever watch it. I like story and character development. So, almost nonexistent in porn.
08/11/2012
LunaLuthor LunaLuthor
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Originally posted by YouAreMyFetish
I've been thinking a lot lately about the porn industry and the different kinds of porn out there. I think it's a shame that we have to label porn "for" anyone (like porn for women or couples or whomever else) because even if a ... More
I think porn lacks variety
08/11/2012
Incendiaire Incendiaire
I'm really fussy. To start with I have to like both of the guys that are in it; if I'm not attracted to one of them then I don't want to see it. After that the problem often is that the guys have no chemistry. I want to see some passion, some tenderness, not half an hour of robotic ass-pounding and grunting "oh yeah!"
08/11/2012
YouAreMyFetish YouAreMyFetish
So maybe I'm just really picky and think too much, although a lot of my friends feel similarly. Thanks for all of the suggestions for sites. I'll have to check them out. I've been interested in Kink.com since a friend mentioned it and I had no idea they had model interviews. I'm really intrigued by that! Maybe I'll have to check it out...
08/11/2012
MrWishyWashy MrWishyWashy
I usually don't have a problem finding something to have with fun with.
08/11/2012
damnbul12 damnbul12
I'm male and it's easy.
08/12/2012
justme23 justme23
Female - Easy
08/12/2012
Modern^Spank^Anthem Modern^Spank^Anthem
i don't like most porn i like self made amateur stuff so somewhat easy but not really if i'm not into it
08/12/2012
Edeneve Edeneveef Edeneve Edeneveef
interesting that I found this poll as I'm currently doing a search for porn that's for women - I hate porn for men!
08/12/2012
Sangsara Sangsara
I like spankwire its really easy to use and it actually really has free porn- no bull!!! But I just got "the smart girls guide to porn" from another contributer so i'm looking forward to that
08/13/2012
Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by YouAreMyFetish
I've been thinking a lot lately about the porn industry and the different kinds of porn out there. I think it's a shame that we have to label porn "for" anyone (like porn for women or couples or whomever else) because even if a ... More
Porn is one "entertainment/service " industry, where there is almost no fan input or method for input. It is where the makers never seem to ask, or care about what us purchasers of their products would like.

It is ashamed, as, while they make a TON of money, I bet they could make even more, if they produced products that MORE of us would enjoy buying.

Example, PEGGING. We have not been able to find a single example of pegging porn for normal hetero couples that simply enjoy pegging without any domination/submission going on.

Or, for example, if there is a porn video with a guy and two girls, the two girls will ALWAYS be "playing with each other" sexually. How about the happily hetero couple that are simply willing to invite in another girl for the guy to enjoy....or a hetero couple inviting in another guy for the woman? You rarely would see the two guys getting sexual, so why always the woman???

In short, there is a LOT of porn (cussing, abuse) that simply does not appeal to me, and sadly, while we have a lot of porn and some I do enjoy, it is VERY hard to find one full porn movie I enjoy end to end.

It would be SO nice if the makers of these movies would listen to us buyers once in a while. Maybe even read something like these EF blogs for ideas????
08/13/2012
LadyDarknezz LadyDarknezz
I'm a female and I've always found it difficult to find any porn that appeals to me. It's so hard for me to find anything I like, that I pretty much just gave up on looking.
08/13/2012
Vaginas Vaginas
I have to go through a few videos at a time to find one I like. I find some are way too violent towards the woman or I don't find the people attractive or something. some are just long and drawn out and honestly get boring.
08/13/2012
panthercat23 panthercat23
I enjoy BDSM videos but the woman needs to be the submissive one and those tend to be harder to find.
08/14/2012
hawaiian chick hawaiian chick
The problem I have is the types of things I'm into are hard to find in porn period, so I don't watch it the often myself.
08/14/2012
sXeVegan90 sXeVegan90
I'm female and I've always found it difficult.
08/14/2012
pirata pirata
i like kinky porn but i will not pay for it and i absolutely hate the talking most of the time. normally there is someone awkwardly narrating to the person what they are doing and it just doesn't do it for me. So i have a hard time finding stuff i like
08/14/2012
calliope calliope
It can be hard for me but I'm a pretty pick person in general. so it's expected.
08/14/2012
Boyfriend Boyfriend
It is difficult for me to find porn I enjoy.
08/14/2012
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