Gender/Dominance

Contributor: MaryExy MaryExy
Female, I'm a bratty sub. Any fighting or top-like comments you get from me are me trying to get you to show who's boss
02/20/2012
Contributor: hyacinthgirl hyacinthgirl
Female dominant. I like doing some things that are traditionally viewed as more submissive, but they're not submissive acts for me (I like being spanked, choked, and having my hair pulled, but none of those have anything to do with submission).
02/20/2012
Contributor: lilnina86 lilnina86
Quote:
Originally posted by NurseKitty
I'm submissive and I think that has to do with the fact that at work I have to be in charge. I argue with doctors, have to be calm under pressure and take charge when things go bad and be the "rock" to people families that when In bed I ... more
I can relate, in my day to life life Im always making decisions for everyone so now and then I enjoy being the one told what to do! But other days I have that urge to take over my partner!
02/21/2012
Contributor: RemusHalifax RemusHalifax
I'm a switch, with a preference to be a sub
02/24/2012
Contributor: TheSinDoll TheSinDoll
I'm a female and a submissive. I do bottom from time to time though.
02/24/2012
Contributor: Greenleaf Greenleaf
I'm female and tentatively a switch. My partner is unaffiliated and male. My friends are a pretty even mix of sub/switch/domme women and unaffiliated or dom males.
02/24/2012
Contributor: corsetsaurus rex corsetsaurus rex
Female - it depends entirely on my mood (switch) but I'd say I default to dom slightly more often.
02/24/2012
Contributor: tern tern
Me and my partner (who is genderqueer) have a really strange kind of dynamic in that we do switch, but in the bedroom ze tends to be more dominant (technically - i often sort of direct things, or top from the bottom, so to speak), whereas in other aspects of our relationship I'm distinctly in charge.

We share everything, but when switches happen, it's complete. They also are prone to happen literally in the middle of having sex sometimes.

Oh, and I'm male. Forgot to mention that.

Overall, I'm the more dominant one in our relationship I think, but I get off on being the sub just as my partner enjoys domming me periodically. So we're fortunate in each other's preferences being so in tuned to the other, hehe.
03/01/2012
Contributor: eroticmutt eroticmutt
FtM trans here and I am a switch, me and my partner do things about equally
03/01/2012
Contributor: Hallmar82 Hallmar82
I said that I'm a switch but I'm rarely submissive since my wife prefers to be submissive.
03/02/2012
Contributor: Interesante Interesante
I identify as male. I lean more toward submissive but I have my dominant times, so I consider myself a switch.
03/06/2012
Contributor: legislacerator legislacerator
i'm a FAAB genderfluid switch. my preferred role depends a lot on my partner; i like to mostly explore my sub side with my boyfriend who is also a switch, and then my dominant side comes out more with my other partner who's a sub. it seems to go in slight cycles as to which side i prefer though. when i was first discovering my kinks i was much more dominant and briefly identified as a sadist; then i wanted more and more to experiment with the submissive side of things; now it depends on my mood, but most of my fantasies lately involve being being the sub.
03/07/2012
Contributor: Do emu Do emu
(Female)
Depends on the day. I'd say generally I'm sub, but I have dominant days and those are oh-so delightful.
03/07/2012
Contributor: llellsee llellsee
I'm female and dominant, my partner is male and very submissive.
03/15/2012
Contributor: xxjoel xxjoel
I was astounded when I went to a play party once, and ALL the men were dominants & ALL the women were submissives. I'm FTM and submissive.
03/17/2012
Contributor: mistressg mistressg
I am generally dominant, but I am a bit of a switch.
03/17/2012
Contributor: Lavender*Moon Lavender*Moon
In the bedroom I'm submissive. Outside of the bedroom I can be quite dominant at times.
03/18/2012
Contributor: tigertiger tigertiger
Quote:
Originally posted by FleurDevereux
I'm curious as to the trend in dominance/ submissiveness between men and women. This is referring to mostly in the bedroom, but please post unique situations and let us know.
female switch, prefer dom
03/19/2012
Contributor: Schattenstern Schattenstern
My girlfriend and I are happy either way. It depends on the day.
03/19/2012
Contributor: xGOLDx xGOLDx
At first I was strictly sub, but years later I'm a switch.
03/20/2012
Contributor: Positwist Positwist
I'm a woman, gay, and I'm a switch.
03/20/2012
Contributor: SexysaurousRex SexysaurousRex
Male- and i say i'm Dominant, but my partner is a switch so we take turns and its not bad. I still vote my preferred choice as top though.
03/20/2012
Contributor: SubmissiveFeminist SubmissiveFeminist
Female submissive. =)
03/20/2012
Contributor: hey steady hey steady
Quote:
Originally posted by FleurDevereux
I'm curious as to the trend in dominance/ submissiveness between men and women. This is referring to mostly in the bedroom, but please post unique situations and let us know.
We both switch between the two roles...depending on the games we are playing x
03/21/2012
Contributor: queergaze queergaze
Quote:
Originally posted by FleurDevereux
I'm curious as to the trend in dominance/ submissiveness between men and women. This is referring to mostly in the bedroom, but please post unique situations and let us know.
I'm genderqueer and a switch, plus my switchiness is more weighted towards top/bottom than dominant/submissive.
03/22/2012
Contributor: TheGreat TheGreat
My partner and I are still figuring it all out, usually she is submissive, but I still get nervous being the dominant one. I am trans FTM so classify me where you will!
03/22/2012
Contributor: Sinfully Sinfully
I am 100% submissive female.
04/01/2012
Contributor: TransMarc TransMarc
Male and a switch, but I've messed up and put dominant instead :/ (Not slept since yesterday same hour as now)
04/01/2012
Contributor: FruityCloud FruityCloud
I prefer to be submissive, but maybe 25% of the time I dominate my boyfriend.
04/01/2012
Contributor: plaidvulva plaidvulva
I'm a [MtF] switch. 9/10 times I'm the sub.
My [FtM] boyfriend is also a switch. 9/10 times he's the Master.
04/03/2012