Which one for beginners?

Cherry21 Cherry21 11/20/2011

We've done some pretty rough play, and I've been tied up before, but we rarely buy stuff for the purpose. which set would be good for beginners, who aren't willing to fully invest in it all yet?

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Cherry21 Cherry21
Tell us all your first encounter with BDSM, and how it was and how it went!
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Kitka Kitka
Before we really delved into bdsm/fetish we purchased one of those under the bed restraint systems and I ended up strapped down while he teased me. It was very hot but I wanted it to be more intense somehow, just didn't know what else to add to it until I found fetlife
11/20/2011
Drakoni Drakoni
Thanks for posting this. I'm new to this as well. So far, I've used a bandanna on him and played at being a top. Not really sure what I'm doing yet, but having some fun figuring it out.
11/20/2011
Beck Beck
Check out the Fantasy restraints system. This is a good one to start with. I like it and used it last night. It is decent priced and you can buy out assignment it
11/20/2011
NarcissisticLust NarcissisticLust
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Originally posted by Cherry21
Tell us all your first encounter with BDSM, and how it was and how it went!
We had no BDSM equipment at the time so, using scarves and belts, I was blindfolded and uncomfortably bound to the bed. He would tease me to turn me on, then leave me there. Sometimes staying in the room and ignoring me, other times leaving and not saying where he was going or when he would be back to check on me and torture me more. It was wonderful. Since then we've purchased bondage gear and BDSM play from time to time.
11/20/2011
Cherry21 Cherry21
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Originally posted by NarcissisticLust
We had no BDSM equipment at the time so, using scarves and belts, I was blindfolded and uncomfortably bound to the bed. He would tease me to turn me on, then leave me there. Sometimes staying in the room and ignoring me, other times leaving and not ... More
sounds fun!
11/22/2011
unfulfilled unfulfilled
We're still in the light bondage part just for fun in the bedroom and don't harm each other etc. Our first experience was with handcuffs, a blindfold, and paddle. The handcuffs had the release trigger so noone was "REALLY" restrained. It was just for fun. We didn't hit each other hard with the paddle, we just liked the idea of being under the other persons "control"
11/23/2011
Kayla&JJ ♥ Kayla&JJ ♥
I always had a thing for handcuffs. So I told my boyfriend about it, and on one of his trips to my house, he stopped at a sex store and bought a pair of fuzzy handcuffs. It was pretty wonderful. There was no sex involved at that point, but I think the next time we used the handcuffs, there was.
11/23/2011
Cherry21 Cherry21
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Originally posted by Drakoni
Thanks for posting this. I'm new to this as well. So far, I've used a bandanna on him and played at being a top. Not really sure what I'm doing yet, but having some fun figuring it out.
definitely sounds fun!
11/26/2011
Cherry21 Cherry21
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Originally posted by unfulfilled
We're still in the light bondage part just for fun in the bedroom and don't harm each other etc. Our first experience was with handcuffs, a blindfold, and paddle. The handcuffs had the release trigger so noone was "REALLY" ... More
kinda what we're into too nothing too serious, but definitely the more simple, sexy aspects of it all
11/26/2011
JewelsAndB JewelsAndB
Tough question, as I was introduced to BDSM some time before Juliann. Instead of going that far back, I will tell you about when I first introduced it to her. In the early years of our marriage, before kids, I always enjoyed playing the surprising romantic. So, for our first adventure in bondage, I planned things out. It started with my sending a single red rose in a box to Juliann at work. Inside the box was a note with a key card for a hotel room near by. The note read something to the effect of "Tonight will be a special adventure... go to ___ hotel, room ___ and you will find another note telling you what to do next."

When she arrived at the hotel and let herself into the room, she found a note on the bed telling her to disrobe and place her clothing into the top drawer of the dresser, where there was a box with another note and items to take a shower. After the shower, she was instructed by the note to another box that contained a cute patent leather corselette and yet another letter. This letter told her that she had a choice of how the evening would proceed. If she wanted to be in charge, she should open the letter/box marked A. If she wanted me to be in charge, she should open the letter/box marked B.

Well, when I arrived at the room, she had chosen B and had followed the directions in the letter perfectly! The box contained the Sportsheets set I had purchase locally, the Fantasy kit – bdsm kit. That night was filled with soft, sensual, and exciting adventures as I tied Juliann up in numerous different positions.

Now a days, the roles have changed and I am the one tied up with leather locking restraints. But when the mood suites us, and I get to tie her up, the original Sportsheets set comes out.
11/28/2011
GoneBabyGone GoneBabyGone
I can't really remember. Instead I will tell you about my first time with my partner. He made me sit naked on my knees on the bed and bound my hands to the top of the headboard. After that he flogged me severely, occasionally kissing or licking my stripes.

It was lovely. Afterwards he slowly untied me and gently laid me down. Then he held me and talked to me about my thoughts and how I was feeling about everything. We had only been together for a few months and he wanted to make sure I knew what I was getting into.
12/07/2011
itismedi itismedi
Goodness I can't remember, but I think it was him grapping my wrist with one hand hand holding my arms over my head while he....me. He told me not to move to just take whatever he gave me. Every time I said something or moved he flipped me and delivered a couple of hard smacks to my a#@. It has GREATLY evolved over the years.
09/03/2012
Sweet-n-sensual Sweet-n-sensual
Thanks for the insight!
03/22/2013
chicagobearsfan chicagobearsfan
We bought the beginner's bondage fantasy kit by sportsheets and we were very pleased. Although I could get out if I leaned over and actually undid the velcro, I couldn't just pull my way out of the cuffs. At only $20, its a easy investment to start with, and they're comfy and functional, so unless you get into very heavy bondage there is no reason to quit using them!
04/15/2013
chicagobearsfan chicagobearsfan
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Originally posted by chicagobearsfan
We bought the beginner's bondage fantasy kit by sportsheets and we were very pleased. Although I could get out if I leaned over and actually undid the velcro, I couldn't just pull my way out of the cuffs. At only $20, its a easy investment to ... More
Cuffs
04/15/2013
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Cherry21 Cherry21
I wanna know how many people went what way!
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A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) , SMichelle , Elnoa , potstickers , Jon S , sktb0007 , darthkitt3n , Ice1 , dv8 , -BillD , unfulfilled , Kayla&JJ ♥ , Mew , The Curious Couple , Howells , JewelsAndB , Lavender420 , Kaltir , klyte , comatose-kitty , J5ive , SilverMinxxx , damnbul12 , GONE! , Alyona , chicagobearsfan
26
- Kira - , Drakoni , Ninja Bunny , ily , GoneBabyGone , KiraCat
6
Total votes: 32 (32 voters)
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Drakoni Drakoni
Bandanna...and some bits extra fabric. Not very professional, but it worked for a whim.
11/20/2011
Kayla&JJ ♥ Kayla&JJ ♥
Bought some fuzzy pink handcuffs.
11/23/2011
GoneBabyGone GoneBabyGone
I used to be fond of extension cords for self flagellation. Yea, kind of rough but I've always been that way.

I also loved candle wax on the backs of my hands, the inside of my forearms and the tops of my legs.
12/07/2011
SilverMinxxx SilverMinxxx
I bought something.
03/13/2013
Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
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Originally posted by Cherry21
I wanna know how many people went what way!
Bought for purpose of experimenting first time
03/21/2013
Alyona Alyona
Bought for purpose of experimenting first time
03/29/2013
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Cherry21 Cherry21
So I would like to know what set would be best for beginners? We aren't looking to spend a whole lot to start with, and these are within our current price range for extra toys
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) , - Kira - , SMichelle , Elnoa , Ninja Bunny , potstickers , Jon S , sktb0007 , Nora , ily , darthkitt3n , -BillD , wetone123 , unfulfilled , Mew , dv8 , Howells , JewelsAndB , Lavender420 , Kaltir , wrmbreze , klyte , Kendrir , SilverMinxxx , mpfm , ksparkles16 , SecretKinksters , comatose-kitty , GONE! , Cindi025
30  (100%)
Total votes: 30
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- Kira - - Kira -
I would go with the Lover's Prisoner Kit because it seems to come with everything you would need. The Bondage Kit is okay, but it doesn't come with anything to take the cuffs and link them together or tie them to a bed, so you'd have to get something for that. The rope kit is nice, also, but doesn't seem like it allows for as much tight binding as actual rope goes since it's slide in.
11/20/2011
Nora Nora
Lover's Prisoner kit...the other 2 look a bit too intimidating!
11/21/2011
unfulfilled unfulfilled
I have all 3 on my wishlist, but if I was going for a first item I'd get hte lovers prisoner kit b/c it has just about everything you need.
11/23/2011
Lavender420 Lavender420
Lovers prisoner kit!
11/28/2011
SilverMinxxx SilverMinxxx
Lover's prisoner kit
09/03/2012
ksparkles16 ksparkles16
the prisoner's kit!
09/03/2012
Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
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Originally posted by Cherry21
So I would like to know what set would be best for beginners? We aren't looking to spend a whole lot to start with, and these are within our current price range for extra toys
Lover's prisoner kit
03/21/2013
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