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I like Viginal its very rare for me to want anal, mostly because of the pain
Okay....that word PAIN means one thing to me. Someone doing something WRONG. Anal does not, and should not have PAIN anywhere involved. Honestly.
Sounds like you have been game to try, so heed the advice of this old lady who is a huge anal fan and has been at this for decades without ONCE having pain and having several lovers do it with me, including my darling loving hubby of over 30 years.
Lay on your SIDE, up side leg bent forward (like you are going to take an enema), Best to lay on your LEFT SIDE DOWN, actually.
Have him either STAND behind you, if you are laying this way on the EDGE OF A BED ( we love it this way) or lay behind you "spooning like". Use all the lube you can possibly imagine, then use extra, and then add a BUNCH more. Create a darned sloppy mess of the bed with lube (use a plastic sheet and towels to NOT damage the bed, or get a great item like the THROE from Liberator), then have him FIRST introduce his finger into you....making sure to play with your clit as well (nice to have at least one orgasm with a finger in your tush, to CONDITION your brain that anal play is HAPPY play), then have him introduce his penis...SLOWLY...like over a half hour at the fastest, slowly. FORGET the porn movie pumping and pile driving nonsense. SLOW, SLOW and SLOWER. YOU CONTROL motion and when YOU say stop, he stops. YOU say go, he goes...SLOWLY. Then add MORE lube. Once YOU feel he is in far enough, even if it is only one inch the first time, then have him be HAPPY you are the amazing woman you are and willing to try. There will be many times to go further, later.
Understand? COMFORTABLE, SLOW, EXTRA INSANE amount of lube,and SLOW!!!!!
Another position for a beginner, but you need to REALLY trust him to go slow, is just in the plain old MISSIONARY position, but with your legs WAY up, over his shoulders or feet on his chest. Works best with your butt on a pillow or else, again, with him standing on the floor at the edge of the bed and you laying on the bed, butt hanging just over the edge. A very natural position for penetration and NO pain.
BEST OF LUCK. ENJOY!!!!!