I didn't use sex toys for years. I had been having sex for a LONG time (since I was 16) and having orgasms that long, either from manual stimulation or from oral sex, most of the time. I even used to e able to orgasm from using my hand while we had PIV!
Premature peri-menopause messed with my hormones so heavily that it became really difficult to come.
My Man got me a sex toy and it helped, then we bought more of them. I was still having some issues with orgasm, when I got on HRT, it helped a lot!
Now, for better or worse, I do have to use a toy to come. We play, have oral sex, sometimes some PIV, sometimes some anal play, then more oral play, then I grab my Wahl and he grabs a dildo or phallic vibe and plays with me along with the toy and then I usually can come.
It's seems like a lot of work, but that Wahl saved our sex life!
I used to just get off with my hand or his tongue. But, things change and you have to be able to adapt. Thank heavens for sex toys. They are our saving grace. Just so my man knows he is doing Nothing
wrong, and it's my hormones, it's OK.