How do you feel about your partner masturbating without you?

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How do you feel about your partner masturbating without you?

Petite Valentine Petite Valentine
I don't mind at all when my husband wants to masturbate alone. As long as he doesn't cite 'exhaustion' when I want sex, he is free to have all the solo sex he pleases. I'm curious how other ladies feel about their partners masturbation habits whether they are hetero- or homo-sexual.
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
My partner has me, there's no reason for solo masturbation.
4
My partner can masturbate alone, but it upsets me.
1
My partner needs my permission to fly solo...
1
My partner can masturbate alone, as long as they tell me...
41
My partner can masturbate alone, I just don't want to know...
17
... and he or she should do it rarely.
... and he or she should only do it once in a while.
... and he or she can do it as often as they like.
77
... and he or she shouldn't do it unless checking with me first.
1
Total votes: 142 (90 voters)
Poll is closed
06/11/2011
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MaryExy MaryExy
I checked the tell me/don't want to know options both because I don't really care. I think masturbation alone can be very healthy, and I wouldn't get offended unless he had been refusing to do anything with me.
06/11/2011
Chilipepper Chilipepper
At this point, being in a VERY long distance relationship, it's a necessity; I don't mind that he does at all. Although Master wants me to ask his permission before I can.
06/11/2011
Jul!a Jul!a
Quote:
Originally posted by MaryExy
I checked the tell me/don't want to know options both because I don't really care. I think masturbation alone can be very healthy, and I wouldn't get offended unless he had been refusing to do anything with me.
This is pretty much exactly how I feel. As long as he's still up for sexy play with me, he can masturbate all he wants on his own. He can tell me, or not, I don't really care either way.
06/11/2011
Petite Valentine Petite Valentine
What a difference a sex positive atmosphere makes. I remember reading an article in a magazine a few years ago where most of the women they interviewed were having full meltdowns over their partners masturbating - even though their sex lives were otherwise "good."

Nuts! I wish I had left out the "ladies" part. I'm curious what the guys think... I wonder if I should make another poll?
06/11/2011
hspence hspence
i walked in on an ex a couple times and it embarassed ME lol. i don't lyke to think that they do it especially when they use other hott women as their "get there" objects. However, i am very hypocritical because i do every chance i get lol
06/11/2011
newfoundlust newfoundlust
Quote:
Originally posted by Petite Valentine
I don't mind at all when my husband wants to masturbate alone. As long as he doesn't cite 'exhaustion' when I want sex, he is free to have all the solo sex he pleases. I'm curious how other ladies feel about their partners ...
I love the thought of knowing my wife does so. I also loves when she tells me later. Great foreplay.
06/11/2011
Naughty Student Naughty Student
Quote:
Originally posted by Jul!a
This is pretty much exactly how I feel. As long as he's still up for sexy play with me, he can masturbate all he wants on his own. He can tell me, or not, I don't really care either way.
Same for me, whether he tells me or not, I don't really care. I do like knowing, it turns me on to know but also it lets me know whether he will have enough juice for me later
06/11/2011
Kdlips Kdlips
he can do it much as he likes
06/11/2011
The Curious Couple The Curious Couple
My fiancee and I masturbate together on the phone when we're apart, but I wouldn't mind if she did it alone. I'd like her to tell me though, only because it's a turn on for me.
06/11/2011
pixieluv pixieluv
It doesn't matter to me because I do it whether he knows or not. When we are apart though, I like to know just because we can set time on the internet or the phone to do it together but separate.
06/12/2011
zeebot zeebot
It's their body, they get to choose what to do with it. Doesn't bother me at all!
06/12/2011
big b big b
as long as we tell.it fine
06/12/2011
Coralbell Coralbell
I'm totally fine with him masturbating. Like Naughty Student said, it's actually kind of a turn on for me. I also do it more than he does, so it would be pretty hypocritical for me to have a problem with it.
06/12/2011
married with children married with children
it would only bother me if it was taking away from our time.
06/12/2011
deletedacct deletedacct
if it takes away from me getting some, then it can be pretty annoying.. i like to watch sometimes, it's kinda hot to see your partner pleasuring themselves.
06/12/2011
moonch1ld moonch1ld
I don't mind my girl doing it and like when she tells me so I can picture her doing it.
06/13/2011
toxie m toxie m
Masturbation is totally cool, my fella doesn't need to keep me informed about his times. I know he does it, he knows I do it, sometimes we do it together but oftentimes not. It's all good.
06/13/2011
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by Petite Valentine
I don't mind at all when my husband wants to masturbate alone. As long as he doesn't cite 'exhaustion' when I want sex, he is free to have all the solo sex he pleases. I'm curious how other ladies feel about their partners ...
If my partners want to masturbate then they are welcome to do it whenever they please without asking permission. If I feel the masturbation is excessive I will bring it up and ask if there is something wrong. Otherwise they are free to knock themselves out...and if they are really good I will buy them a toy to make the experience more fun!
06/13/2011
A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople)
He can masturbate as much as he can of course... But he's gotta tell me, because the thought of it turns me on!
06/13/2011
Bignuf Bignuf
As long as his equipment works when I need it...it's all good. I used to think "why would a guy need to masturbate if I am there for him?", but I know I am NOT always right there and so I actually bought him a few "toys" to use if he wants when I am not home and he is!!!
06/13/2011
VieuxCarre VieuxCarre
It really doesn't bother me when my partner masturbates. He doesn't have to come to me whenever he wants to. He's a guy and he needs to get off sometimes. At the end of the day we're the ones still together and still in a happy, fulfilling relationship.

I, on the other hand, as a different story. I have to ask permission to masturbate before I do so. It's not an insecurity thing so much as a control thing for him. He thrives on it, so I ask, though it's been rare lately with my hormones so out of whack. he also has no problem with me testing toys to review. He understands that that involves me masturbating 98% of the time, so yeah. He's cool with it .
06/13/2011
Liz2 Liz2
He can masturbate as much as he wants as long as he has something left for me. I masturbate frequently so why can't he?
He doesn't hide his solo play as he leaves his masturbation sleeve drying in the bathroom. Overall, his frequent masturbation is a plus as he lasts longer when we have sex.
06/13/2011
roe6989 roe6989
Actually fun fact for everyone. A male who masterbates regularly dramatically decreases his risk for prostate cancer. So, I encourage my man to masterbate or at least ejaculate often.
06/13/2011
kinky girlfriend kinky girlfriend
Quote:
Originally posted by Petite Valentine
I don't mind at all when my husband wants to masturbate alone. As long as he doesn't cite 'exhaustion' when I want sex, he is free to have all the solo sex he pleases. I'm curious how other ladies feel about their partners ...
Well we really don't have time together because of work schedules and other things get in the way so I expect he would. I don't mind..I can't imagine him going over a week without toucing himself...actually be worried if he didn't.
06/13/2011
PiratePrincess PiratePrincess
As long as it doesn't become an obsession, he can do it whenever he wants. I have no problem with it at all.
06/13/2011
Mikey Likesit Mikey Likesit
Who cares.
06/13/2011
ss143 ss143
he can do it all he wants as long as hes up for me to lol it turn me on knowing hes thinking of me and our times together when he does
06/13/2011
Fun Lover Fun Lover
As long as it doesn't take away from our sex time together any time is fine. Sometimes she will call me to watch. I think we all need our solo times, because the orgasms are just different.
06/13/2011
Trillian Trillian
I love it when she masturbates because I know that it works up her sexual desire. I like knowing she is pleased whether it is me or by herself. The few times she has done it in front of me has been a total turn on. Especially if she uses vibrators or dildos. Very hot.
06/13/2011
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Unique posters: 61