What is cheating?
Sexual is very black-and-white. Some emotional ones count in my head, but I'd take those on a case-by-case basis. Plus, as long as the feelings haven't been deliberately acted on, I think it's easier to say "Ok, we just need to figure out the problem and fix it." When a partner has actually gone out and had sex with someone else, that damages my trust a bit too much.
07/10/2011
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An emotional connection is involuntary, but if you act on it then it I consider it cheating. However any sexual contact is definitely cheating! I feel that with emotional connections, trying to deepen the bond in any way that removes you from your significant other counts as emotional cheating and you may want to re-evaluate your relationship.
Originally posted by
lzbncrckhead
i was wondering what you define as cheating
07/12/2011
i did not vote i simply think cheating is what two people establish it to be. some people have open marriages and sleep with many other people that is not cheating so simply saying any sexual contact would not work. as for emotional connections we all have these all the time thats hard to control so that should not be cheating either
07/13/2011
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I was going to say this! Agreed!
Originally posted by
Beck
i did not vote i simply think cheating is what two people establish it to be. some people have open marriages and sleep with many other people that is not cheating so simply saying any sexual contact would not work. as for emotional connections we
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i did not vote i simply think cheating is what two people establish it to be. some people have open marriages and sleep with many other people that is not cheating so simply saying any sexual contact would not work. as for emotional connections we all have these all the time thats hard to control so that should not be cheating either
07/13/2011
Anything that breaks the boundaries set at the beginning (or most recent talk of this sort) of the relationship.
I've had relationships where flirting by text was unacceptable, I've also had relationships where we could both sleep with anyone else we pleased as long as we told each other about it before having sex again.
I've had relationships where flirting by text was unacceptable, I've also had relationships where we could both sleep with anyone else we pleased as long as we told each other about it before having sex again.
07/16/2011
I wanted to choose both, but it wasn't multiple choice. In a lot of cases connecting with another person emotionally can be cheating (in my eyes) I think it just creates a relationship more than what just friends should have and that almost always results in some kind of problem. Once you start having feelings for another person I'd consider it very close to cheating if not cheating for sure. Thinking about another person excessively, unable to get them off your mind, being overly happy to be with/see them, that's never a good idea. My partner and I have a thing we go by. We simply don't put ourselves in ANY situation where anything could happen. It's too dangerous. I mean we love each other enough to steer clear of things that could go in the wrong direction and we've had it happen. I had a friend who ended up proposing to me when I had no clue he ever thought of me that way. After that happened and another occasion where a guy friend who I'd grown up with in church asked me to leave my partner for him, I cut off all contact with men that weren't close friends with us both. Sad, but those guys didn't respect me and weren't looking for friendship. If they had respect they'd have never tried going that route.
I think ANY thing sexual is cheating. Kissing, lusting after another person, flirting, etc. I don't mean a simple giggle when I say flirting. I think flirting with another person would mean I wanted them and that would be cheating to me. That's only how I see it with my own self and relationship. I get that not everyone has the boundaries that we do so that is only how I view things. A lot of people wouldn't even consider kissing or lusting after another person cheating. I do think every person should discuss and make it known what their boundaries are and what they won't put up with before getting serious with someone. It just makes things much easier. Like if I didn't think sleeping with other men was cheating, but my partner did and we didn't discuss it at the beginning we'd have serious problems. You should always make sure the person you're serious with has the same limits/boundaries. I just prefer staying away from any situation where things could go wrong. I don't let it happen. I can tell really quick if someone would cross the line with me and I make it clear to people that I won't allow it. As long as both parties are on the same page things go fairly smoothly in this area.
I think ANY thing sexual is cheating. Kissing, lusting after another person, flirting, etc. I don't mean a simple giggle when I say flirting. I think flirting with another person would mean I wanted them and that would be cheating to me. That's only how I see it with my own self and relationship. I get that not everyone has the boundaries that we do so that is only how I view things. A lot of people wouldn't even consider kissing or lusting after another person cheating. I do think every person should discuss and make it known what their boundaries are and what they won't put up with before getting serious with someone. It just makes things much easier. Like if I didn't think sleeping with other men was cheating, but my partner did and we didn't discuss it at the beginning we'd have serious problems. You should always make sure the person you're serious with has the same limits/boundaries. I just prefer staying away from any situation where things could go wrong. I don't let it happen. I can tell really quick if someone would cross the line with me and I make it clear to people that I won't allow it. As long as both parties are on the same page things go fairly smoothly in this area.
07/16/2011
There's more to cheating than sex. Kissing, lustful hugging, even holding hands counts! In fact, flirting counts just as much in my book. It's the intent behind it. In fact, I'd almost say that falling in love with someone else is a worse offense than a random fuck because the random sex might be temporary but falling in love with someone else isn't something you can just "stop".
12/29/2011
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