What is cheating?

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What is cheating?

lzbncrckhead lzbncrckhead
i was wondering what you define as cheating
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
any sexual contact with someone other than partner
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56  (62%)
emotional connections counts
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34  (38%)
Total votes: 90
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07/09/2011
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Acorn Acorn
I definitely think that sexual contact counts as cheating. I don't think that having an emotional connection is bad because we can't control how we feel. However, if you follow through with those feelings you are cheating in my book.
07/10/2011
married with children married with children
I think that types of emotional connections count also. It depends on how deep the connection is.
07/10/2011
MaryExy MaryExy
Sexual is very black-and-white. Some emotional ones count in my head, but I'd take those on a case-by-case basis. Plus, as long as the feelings haven't been deliberately acted on, I think it's easier to say "Ok, we just need to figure out the problem and fix it." When a partner has actually gone out and had sex with someone else, that damages my trust a bit too much.
07/10/2011
indiglo indiglo
Quote:
Originally posted by married with children
I think that types of emotional connections count also. It depends on how deep the connection is.
I agree with this. Depends on how deep the connection is and how the people involved feel about it.
07/12/2011
js250 js250
Quote:
Originally posted by lzbncrckhead
i was wondering what you define as cheating
An emotional connection is involuntary, but if you act on it then it I consider it cheating. However any sexual contact is definitely cheating! I feel that with emotional connections, trying to deepen the bond in any way that removes you from your significant other counts as emotional cheating and you may want to re-evaluate your relationship.
07/12/2011
Shellz31 Shellz31
Anything sexual with another person, unless it's done in a 3some with both giving consent.
07/13/2011
MJ1337 MJ1337
I think people will always feel something for other people in some emotional way, but acting on those feelings is another thing entirely.
07/13/2011
Beck Beck
i did not vote i simply think cheating is what two people establish it to be. some people have open marriages and sleep with many other people that is not cheating so simply saying any sexual contact would not work. as for emotional connections we all have these all the time thats hard to control so that should not be cheating either
07/13/2011
zeebot zeebot
Quote:
Originally posted by Beck
i did not vote i simply think cheating is what two people establish it to be. some people have open marriages and sleep with many other people that is not cheating so simply saying any sexual contact would not work. as for emotional connections we ...
I was going to say this! Agreed!
07/13/2011
Eva Schwaltz Eva Schwaltz
I don't think this question was about open relationships. That's a whole other ball of wax. I think cheating is any sexual contact behind the partner's back without consent.
07/13/2011
Papershotglass Papershotglass
It's pretty basic to me. If it's something you don't want your partner to find out (sex and or emotions with another person), then it's probably cheating or about to be.
Open relationships are obviously exempt from this.
07/13/2011
Sex'и'Violence Sex'и'Violence
I'd say that emotional connections count. But ultimately it depends on what you as a couple are comfortable with.
07/14/2011
Jaimes Jaimes
If I am spending more time thinking about someone else, and what makes them happy or how I want to spend time with them instead of my husband, I'm not being faithful. That is especially true if I don't want him to find out what I'm thinking about that person.
07/14/2011
kinksters kinksters
certainly a rule relative to the couple.
07/16/2011
playtimeohsofun playtimeohsofun
agree that is what the people in the relationship make it to be.
07/16/2011
link82 link82
ditto on not voting because I feel it all depends on the circumstances and the relationship.
07/16/2011
Antipova Antipova
Anything that breaks the boundaries set at the beginning (or most recent talk of this sort) of the relationship.

I've had relationships where flirting by text was unacceptable, I've also had relationships where we could both sleep with anyone else we pleased as long as we told each other about it before having sex again.
07/16/2011
K101 K101
I wanted to choose both, but it wasn't multiple choice. In a lot of cases connecting with another person emotionally can be cheating (in my eyes) I think it just creates a relationship more than what just friends should have and that almost always results in some kind of problem. Once you start having feelings for another person I'd consider it very close to cheating if not cheating for sure. Thinking about another person excessively, unable to get them off your mind, being overly happy to be with/see them, that's never a good idea. My partner and I have a thing we go by. We simply don't put ourselves in ANY situation where anything could happen. It's too dangerous. I mean we love each other enough to steer clear of things that could go in the wrong direction and we've had it happen. I had a friend who ended up proposing to me when I had no clue he ever thought of me that way. After that happened and another occasion where a guy friend who I'd grown up with in church asked me to leave my partner for him, I cut off all contact with men that weren't close friends with us both. Sad, but those guys didn't respect me and weren't looking for friendship. If they had respect they'd have never tried going that route.

I think ANY thing sexual is cheating. Kissing, lusting after another person, flirting, etc. I don't mean a simple giggle when I say flirting. I think flirting with another person would mean I wanted them and that would be cheating to me. That's only how I see it with my own self and relationship. I get that not everyone has the boundaries that we do so that is only how I view things. A lot of people wouldn't even consider kissing or lusting after another person cheating. I do think every person should discuss and make it known what their boundaries are and what they won't put up with before getting serious with someone. It just makes things much easier. Like if I didn't think sleeping with other men was cheating, but my partner did and we didn't discuss it at the beginning we'd have serious problems. You should always make sure the person you're serious with has the same limits/boundaries. I just prefer staying away from any situation where things could go wrong. I don't let it happen. I can tell really quick if someone would cross the line with me and I make it clear to people that I won't allow it. As long as both parties are on the same page things go fairly smoothly in this area.
07/16/2011
Miss Nessa Miss Nessa
sexual contact with someone other than partner
07/19/2011
HotCouple HotCouple
I think both sexual contact and emotional cheating exist
07/23/2011
Noira Celestia Noira Celestia
Neither of those definitions. I would go for any interaction that is a violation of a mutual agreement in a relationship. This is unique to each relationship.
07/23/2011
mcl272 mcl272
i think both! anything with anyone other than your partner could be considered "cheating"
07/23/2011
PiratePrincess PiratePrincess
I believe that both can count as cheating. It depends on what you establish with your partner.
07/23/2011
sarki sarki
Anything sexual
07/23/2011
Rain. Rain.
For me emotional connection counts BUT I think its up to each individual relationship to decide what is cheating and what is not.
07/23/2011
duff duff
Theres more to cheating than sexual contact
09/19/2011
null null
I think cheating is MAINLY emotional connection, I don't consider all cases of sex to be cheating and I don't consider them nearly as 'bad' as emotional cheating.
10/30/2011
LilLostLenore LilLostLenore
any sexual contact with someone other than partner that the partner does not know about and agree on.
12/29/2011
Nazaress Nazaress
There's more to cheating than sex. Kissing, lustful hugging, even holding hands counts! In fact, flirting counts just as much in my book. It's the intent behind it. In fact, I'd almost say that falling in love with someone else is a worse offense than a random fuck because the random sex might be temporary but falling in love with someone else isn't something you can just "stop".
12/29/2011
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