What is your definition of sex?

Lucifer the Cat Lucifer the Cat
I've noticed that on Eden, a lot of people only refer to penis/vagina penetration as sex. To me, sex is lots of things. I think that masturbating, cyber, oral, etc. all count as sex. How do YOU define it?
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
Sex is only when a penis enters a vagina.
Geogeo , tortilla
2  (5%)
Sex is when a penis enters any oriface.
Sex is when any part of one partner's body enters any oriface of another partner.
Trysexual
1  (2%)
Sex is when any part enters any oriface (this includes maturbation).
Sex is any genital contact that people have with others.
caseyb , Rawr4483 , Girly Juice , sodapin , Khanner , Big Dog
6  (14%)
Sex is any gential contact that people have with themselves AND/OR with others.
Sex is one or more people acting on sexual feelings in some way or another (includes cyber and phone sex, but excludes things like writing erotica).
snarknemesis , comatose-kitty , Gunsmoke , Rey , mdnght , bayosgirl , Leather & Lace , zeebot , Jesse-in-TX , icyqueen , violets , Beck , Bignuf , PassionQT , unfulfilled , Femme Mystique , thisisadeletedaccount , Alyona , TigerLily9 , Rory , J. Nguyen , potstickers , Cat E. , mr115393 , LoooveMonkey , GirlOnGirl , Supervixen , Pandwhora , kkizzee05 , joelb42
30  (70%)
Other! (comment!)
solitudinarian , Incendiaire , sextoygeek , ViVix
4  (9%)
Total votes: 43
Poll is closed
08/19/2012
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snarknemesis snarknemesis
I think all types of sex are really important and do not need to include genitals touching, or penetration to be considered sex. Neither is one kind of sex more important than another kind or sex or more legitimate. I believe that in a partnership if the persons believe what they are doing is sex, then it's sex and should not be held on a scale to anyone outside's definition of sex.
08/19/2012
Geogeo Geogeo
I consider sex penetration of penis in vagina or anus
08/19/2012
comatose-kitty comatose-kitty
2 people engaging in sexual acts. Does not include kissing.
08/19/2012
solitudinarian solitudinarian
I consider oral and penetration to be sex. I don't consider phone sex, cybering or fingering to be sex. This is just for me personally. I agree with snarknemesis. Sex is whatever a person considers to be sex.
08/19/2012
SMichelle SMichelle
Sex, in my opinion, is vaginal intercourse, oral, or anal. Phone sex, cyber sex, masturbating, and fingering, aren't sex in my book -- but to each their own.
08/20/2012
Rey Rey
i like the second last definition 'two people acting on sexual feelings'

it doesn't have to be penetrative, and it doesn't have to be to orgasm.
08/20/2012
mdnght mdnght
Quote:
Originally posted by Lucifer the Cat
I've noticed that on Eden, a lot of people only refer to penis/vagina penetration as sex. To me, sex is lots of things. I think that masturbating, cyber, oral, etc. all count as sex. How do YOU define it?
Well, I would have to agree with the second to last option, but I'd define "real sex" as I see it as any physical activities motivated by sexual feelings. For instance, I've had cyber sex before, and I still think of myself as a virgin...
08/20/2012
zeebot zeebot
Sex is whatever you want it to be!
08/20/2012
Trysexual Trysexual
Kinda feel its penetration and includes oral sex to a lesser degree. Not masturbation.
08/20/2012
Beck Beck
I feel like if people want to call their cybering their sex life; that is their business. That might be the only way they can have sex. So, who am I to tell them they aren't? Sex is anything you consider it to be. Though, people who consider it to be only PIV or PIA; should realize they are leaving out lesbian couples. These ladies can only have oral sex and mutual masturbation with hands or toys. And we all know they have sex, so sex can't be PIV or PIA. It has to include oral.
08/20/2012
Lucifer the Cat Lucifer the Cat
Quote:
Originally posted by Beck
I feel like if people want to call their cybering their sex life; that is their business. That might be the only way they can have sex. So, who am I to tell them they aren't? Sex is anything you consider it to be. Though, people who consider it ... More
I'm gay, and I know lots of other gay women who have had very fulfilling sex lives with other women. If sex only includes penises, I guess my lesbian friends must all be virgins!
08/20/2012
Lucifer the Cat Lucifer the Cat
I guess it's only "real" sex when straight people do it, and for everyone else it's pretend.
08/20/2012
caseyb caseyb
Quote:
Originally posted by Lucifer the Cat
I've noticed that on Eden, a lot of people only refer to penis/vagina penetration as sex. To me, sex is lots of things. I think that masturbating, cyber, oral, etc. all count as sex. How do YOU define it?
all of the above. minus single person masturbating, bc that is masturbating. lol
08/20/2012
amazon amazon
Sex is anything sexual that you enjoy
08/21/2012
Incendiaire Incendiaire
I think what constitutes sex can largely depend on your mental state at the time. You can have sex with someone that only involves oral sex or mutual masturbation, and it can still very definitely be sex, or you can get a handjob or a blowjob from someone and it can just be a handjob, or just be a blowjob.
08/21/2012
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Lucifer the Cat
I've noticed that on Eden, a lot of people only refer to penis/vagina penetration as sex. To me, sex is lots of things. I think that masturbating, cyber, oral, etc. all count as sex. How do YOU define it?
I never noticed this....especially. here on EF where all kinds of sex and relationships are discussed...many of which have nothing to do with a penis or vagina.
08/21/2012
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by SMichelle
Sex, in my opinion, is vaginal intercourse, oral, or anal. Phone sex, cyber sex, masturbating, and fingering, aren't sex in my book -- but to each their own.
So if your boyfriend, girlfriend, spouse...whatever, were having phone sex, or cyber sex with another person, without your knowledge or approval, it would be the same to you as if they were checking out a Youtube video? NO "sex" issue involved? Honestly wondering how you would compartmentalize that difference.
08/21/2012
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Incendiaire
I think what constitutes sex can largely depend on your mental state at the time. You can have sex with someone that only involves oral sex or mutual masturbation, and it can still very definitely be sex, or you can get a handjob or a blowjob from ... More
SO....again, your SO, without your knowledge or approval, gets a "blowjob and hand job" from someone at a work party, for instance. There were a few drinks...folks were loose, but you KNOW this was not a long term relationship or interest. In your mind, your partner has NOT had sex???? Or they have not cheated (sexually)???
08/21/2012
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by comatose-kitty
2 people engaging in sexual acts. Does not include kissing.
That is pretty much how I feel too. Even a kiss CAN be sexual. Sorry...if my hubby had another girls tongue down his throat, in a passionate embrace, that would be the same, in my brain, as his penis in her. Sorry...even a kiss can "cross the line".
08/21/2012
unfulfilled unfulfilled
Sex is anything you consider it to be regardless of how it is interpreted by others. Some may consider sexting to be just part of foreplay and then others may consider that sexual.
08/21/2012
Lucifer the Cat Lucifer the Cat
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
I never noticed this....especially. here on EF where all kinds of sex and relationships are discussed...many of which have nothing to do with a penis or vagina.
Well, that's why it bothers me so much. Eden is such an accepting place when it come to sexual preferences, kinks, fetishes, etc. but when it comes down to it, it seems like most people have a very heteronormative view of sex. Like I'll see people talk about foreplay like it's not sex at all, like "he fingered me before we had sex" and I'm like okay, what you consider foreplay is real sex to many queer couples. I feel like queer sex is often delegitimized on Eden. These are the thoughts that led me to create this poll and discussion.
08/21/2012
Femme Mystique Femme Mystique
Quote:
Originally posted by Geogeo
I consider sex penetration of penis in vagina or anus
So two men can have sex but two women cannot?
08/21/2012
thisisadeletedaccount thisisadeletedaccount
I have a pretty wide-ranging definition of sex, being genderqueer means there isn't really a socially standard image of how people of my gender have sex, so I just enjoy it all and consider a wide range of interactions to be relevant parts of my sex life and sexuality.
08/21/2012
sextoygeek sextoygeek
Quote:
Originally posted by Lucifer the Cat
I've noticed that on Eden, a lot of people only refer to penis/vagina penetration as sex. To me, sex is lots of things. I think that masturbating, cyber, oral, etc. all count as sex. How do YOU define it?
It really depends on the experience... sometimes it's sex, sometimes it's play, sometime's it's not really anything.
08/21/2012
Rory Rory
I'm guessing only 1 or 2 people here agree with Bill Clinton.
08/29/2012
Cat E. Cat E.
I vote for the one near the bottom, "Sex is one or more people acting on sexual feelings in some way or another (includes cyber and phone sex, but excludes things like writing erotica)."
10/05/2012
LoooveMonkey LoooveMonkey
Depends on what it means to you. The first time my boyfriend and I had webcam sex, I was hiding under a blanket, and we didn't talk that much. But that night we both felt all the excitement, emotion, and love we get from intercourse now.
10/06/2012
GirlOnGirl GirlOnGirl
As a queer person I gotta go with "Sex is one or more people acting on sexual feelings in some way or another"
10/06/2012
joelb42 joelb42
If you consider it to be sex then it is.
10/06/2012
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