Still unsure about anything near my butt...

XPS XPS
My girlfriend is always begging to stick her finger in my butt, but it just feels gay to me.. How is it? Is it really pleasurable?
05/17/2011
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Pixel Pixel
How does a female partner doing something to you make you gay? Please explain.
05/17/2011
kendra30752 kendra30752
I can totally understand your being uneasy about this. I'm a female, but still I cannot be comfortable with even the thought of booty stuff. My partner and I don't get into that. He would do it to me if I asked, but he says he has no desire to f my butt, he says he has too much fun having actual sex. But for a guy there's a P-SPOT is what they call it and it's supposed to feel oh, so good. I hear it's similar to a woman's g-spot, but if you are in any way unsure about it you can say no. If you want to, but are just a little unsure then I'm sure there are other men you can talk to to help ease those feelings, but there are some people like me and my BF who just will never be comfortable with that type of thing and there's nothing wrong with that at all.
05/17/2011
slynch slynch
My wife and I both love anal.

How is it gay if it's your girlfriend that wants to touch your ass?
05/17/2011
Liz2 Liz2
My b/f was initially reluctant for anything that was "realistic" to enter his butt. He began with his fingers while masturbating then tried plugs. Stimulation of his P spot so enhances his orgasm and he usually has a butt plug in place during PIV sex.
At present his butt is receptive to most any butt appropriate toy.
Suggest you begin by yourself and see how it goes...
05/17/2011
Ghost Ghost
Unless you get turned on by guys, then you might be gay or at least bi. But otherwise its your body anything that you enjoy have at it. Don't sweat it.
05/18/2011
Lilith's Girl Friday Lilith's Girl Friday
I think what you mean to say, instead of "gay", is "feminine". Being penetrated is a feminine act in our current socio-historical context. I'm given to understand that in a number of Latin cultures, being gay is contingent solely upon taking the receptive role in sex. (That is to say that, if you're a guy and you fuck guys, you're not gay. However, if you're a guy and you take cock ... different story.) So, yeah. But if it's your girlfriend? And, I mean, hey. If you end up liking stuff up your ass, no surprise there. Everyone's talking about the P-spot. They're right. Just as the G-spot is thought to be urethral stimulation, the P-spot is prostate stimulation. The easiest way to access that is up the bum.

The important thing to remember is that it's your body. The best way to start out is to experiment with it on your own. You have to feel comfortable with anal sex as an idea before you let anyone near your pucker. Start with a finger, if you're really curious, and move on from there. If you're using toys, make sure they have a flared base to keep them from being sucked in. But this is most important: when you start experimenting -- DO IT ALONE, not with a girlfriend.
07/21/2011
Raizer911 Raizer911
Just do what you're comfortable with. If it's something you want to experiment with that's fine. Also I don't think this could in anyway classify you as gay. It's your girlfriend right? Gay is a preference not something you catch from too much sexual experimentation.
05/09/2012
Allison.Wilder Allison.Wilder
If it makes you uncomfortable, don't do it. If you're not comfortable with it you'll never find it pleasurable. "Gay" or not.
05/20/2012
CaliGirl CaliGirl
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Originally posted by XPS
My girlfriend is always begging to stick her finger in my butt, but it just feels gay to me.. How is it? Is it really pleasurable?
Ass play is the best! Just loosen up and let her. It is far from "gay". I have a theory, what you don't do in the bedroom....someone else will. So I highly suggest making her happy.
06/21/2012
bh253 bh253
There is nothing 'gay' about doing that at all, especially if it's with a woman! I would worry less about what other people think and more about how you feel. If you're not comfortable, you won't be able to relax enough to actually do it! So think about it for a bit. If you can get accustomed to the idea, and you like the thought of having your P-spot stimulated, (which is supposed to feel really good, I hear) then just do it! If you don't like the idea, then don't. But don't for a second think it's 'gay' because it really isn't.
06/21/2012
Bethy Cassatt Bethy Cassatt
I feel the same way. I suppose it's not from fear of being gay, I don't care either way (and how you have sex doesn't make you gay, trust me), but I'm terrified someone will surprise me on a day I took a shit and... yeah... Never mind
06/22/2012
LunaLuthor LunaLuthor
Quote:
Originally posted by XPS
My girlfriend is always begging to stick her finger in my butt, but it just feels gay to me.. How is it? Is it really pleasurable?
i want to do this to my boyfriend too, it's not gay if a girl does it. besides the greeks liked it.
07/04/2012
epiphanyjayne epiphanyjayne
not gay! I've asked my hubby if he would ever like it and said to let me know when he changes his mind and wants to try it out. since he's just not comfortable with that area either.
07/05/2012
lemony lemony
How is that gay if a female is sticking her finger in your butt (being a male)? Kids these days...
07/05/2012
Gdom Gdom
First off, nope, anal play with female partner isn't gay. She's a woman and you're a man; that's about as not-gay as you can get. If that doesn't convince you--you just can't get over the idea that receiving anal is somehow a "gay" sex act--look at it this way: sure, lots of gay men love receiving anal. Does that make it gay? Well, plenty of lesbians enjoy receiving oral, but your girlfriend isn't a lesbian just because you go down on her. The point is, it's the people involved, their preferences, and their sexual identities--and not the specific act--that determines whether something is gay.

As for your other questions, you'll have to relax or you might feel uncomfortable (physically as well as psychologically; it is a new sensation after all and you have to get used to it). So, take it slow and make sure to use plenty of lube. As for the sensation, yes, it can be phenomenal and it's more than worth it. So take it slow, don't worry, and most importantly, enjoy it!
07/19/2012
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