The Myth about women wanting sex less than men. Is it true for you/your partner?

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The Myth about women wanting sex less than men. Is it true for you/your partner?

Pete's Princess Pete's Princess
Personally I get ticked off seeing all the stereotypes of women, especially married women, not wanting sex. Our culture tries to tell women it is wrong to want sex and that men should want sex all the time. So I want to know what your experience is. If you are not currently in a relationship, answer based on your last relationship.
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
15  (45%)
2  (6%)
4  (12%)
1  (3%)
3  (9%)
1  (3%)
4  (12%)
3  (9%)
Total votes: 33
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Aug 8, 5:45 pm
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SexScienceAndFood SexScienceAndFood
my issue isn't so much want, but I'm passive in that regard and don't initiate.
Aug 8, 9:17 pm
apodosis apodosis
I'm a woman who has sex with men. Not including my first partner, who wasn't into satisfaction ever being mutual (and therefore I wasn't particularly into having sex with him), I think I've wanted sex more often than any of my male partners. It's been stressful at times, I think mostly because of that stereotype. We both feel like they "ought" to want it more than I do. On some level I really struggle not to assume it must be something wrong with me that makes them not live up to the caricature of a sex-crazed man who would have sex constantly if only his gate-keeper female partner "let" him. I think in that way it's a pretty damaging stereotype for both men and women.

With my current partner, things are better and I worry less, because even though he might not want to have sex quite as often as I do, he really likes watching/making me orgasm as well. It's not as nice as sex, but it has both the physical satisfaction and the togetherness elements, and to some extent I still feel like I'm pleasing him.

I think a lot of my earlier sexual relationships especially would have been healthier if it weren't for the cultural image saying that women aren't supposed to want sex.
Aug 13, 6:43 pm
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Pete's Princess
Personally I get ticked off seeing all the stereotypes of women, especially married women, not wanting sex. Our culture tries to tell women it is wrong to want sex and that men should want sex all the time. So I want to know what your experience ...
I am a hetero female and in every relationship, I have wanted it as much as my male partners. In my marriage, to a wonderful man who "turns me on" in a thousand different ways (sexual, sensual, intellectual, emotional...etc), I have to say I often see him doing non-sexual things that make our marriage and family stronger every day, and this, to me, translates into an incredible "desire" for him. I thus am often the "instigator" in our lovemaking. I know he "craves" me, and desires me often, but I really think that I may want him, sexually, more often....if we were to bother counting! Either way, it's great.
Aug 14, 6:42 pm
BlackOrchid BlackOrchid
I want sex more often than my bf. He is a good man who works very hard, so I understand his needs for rest and relaxation. I use masturbation to fufill my sexual needs. I would fully expect him to do the same for me if I wasn't in the mood for any reason.
Aug 15, 8:24 am
Oriental husband and wife Oriental husband and wife
I'm a hetero man and mostly want it more than my wife. However in the past I have had several gfs that were fairly aggressive. All were also Asian so I would not say it's the culture. More like Libido.
Aug 15, 9:43 pm
Pete's Princess Pete's Princess
Well so far it looks like from this sampling the myth is very wrong.
Aug 19, 7:51 pm
SaucyxGirl SaucyxGirl
I am a pansexual female and so far I have seemed to have wanted sex as much if not more than my partners. I think that this is a myth, although it is possible to have a loss of sexual wanting after the birth of a child. The exhaustion of caring for a baby seems to sap the sex drive. My female friends and I all had that happen, but it did bounce back after a few months once things settled down and adjustments were made.
Aug 19, 11:01 pm
js250 js250
I was married for 17 years and wanted sex as much or more than my husband. After his death, it was a non-issue for awhile, but there is only so much of yourself you can repress--and my drive is still very high now, but with toys as an outlet.
Sep 14, 7:49 pm
Azula Azula
Quote:
Originally posted by Pete's Princess
Personally I get ticked off seeing all the stereotypes of women, especially married women, not wanting sex. Our culture tries to tell women it is wrong to want sex and that men should want sex all the time. So I want to know what your experience ...
I've only had sex with women for the past 3-4 years, but when I had sex with men, I usually had a much higher sex drive. The idea of women not liking sex is a fairly recent one. It used to be that men were considered too intellectual and busy thinking about property and war and all that to care much about sex. Women were perceived as sex obsessed, always wanting attention and babies from their husbands. There's a Greek myth that a male poet was transformed into a woman and told Zeus and Hera that sex as a woman was ten times better than sex as a man. Conditioning is strange!
Sep 15, 10:44 pm
toysforall toysforall
It's actually quite the opposite for us!
Sep 17, 8:09 pm
RonLee RonLee
As a bi guy I've found that my sex drive is higher than nearly all of the partners I've been with over the years, no matter the gender.
Sep 17, 9:12 pm
SailorJulyxo SailorJulyxo
Uh, for me it's a same-sex relationship, so I voted that - however I can say that sex is something I am pretty much ALWAYS ready for unless I feel terrible, and it's something on my mind often. I think the 'women want less sex' thing to be total BS.
Sep 18, 12:03 pm
lordviral lordviral
Even back when I thought I was a woman (I'm a trans guy), I still wanted it a hell of a lot more than any guy I was ever with.

I do also really hate those stereotypes, though. There's literally nothing that says/proves that women want sex less.
Sep 28, 2:15 pm
Aesenthia Aesenthia
My sex drive certainly isn't as strong as my boyfriend's. He literally has five orgasms a day and I orgasm like once a week. Maybe.
Oct 3, 10:04 am
RonLee RonLee
Quote:
Originally posted by lordviral
Even back when I thought I was a woman (I'm a trans guy), I still wanted it a hell of a lot more than any guy I was ever with.

I do also really hate those stereotypes, though. There's literally nothing that says/proves that women want sex less.
Bad luck of geography, I too want it a hell of a lot more than any partner I've ever been with, trans or cis, man or woman.
Oct 3, 2:12 pm
Inquisitor Inquisitor
In my current relationship, I feel as if this might be true. I am usually up for some type of sexual interaction way more often than my partner. The only things that kill the mood for me are stress, sickness, and excessively violent and/or degrading movies or TV shows (the partner watches a lot of movies).
Nov 12, 2:06 pm
CuriousJ CuriousJ
Even though my current partner is relatively "vanilla" compared to me, she does love to have sex as often as I do.
Nov 12, 2:18 pm
KittiezToyz KittiezToyz
Currently, I want it more than my partner. Next week, who knows. It's quite the rollercoaster ride.
Nov 26, 3:42 pm
SexyRex SexyRex
I want sex 100x more than my wife. She's not that interested, which is frustrating. I work out, groom, always give a 45 minute massage first to get her in the mood...will do anything however she wants.

Alas....it's a seldom thing.

But we've been together since we were 17 (23 years ago) and I love her with my heart and soul - so I do most of it by myself.
Nov 26, 4:31 pm
Total posts: 20
Unique posters: 18